Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	earl_n	king_n	warwick_n	1,058	5	11.5865	5	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A62729	Euphuia, or The acts, and characters of a good nature. Written by Tho. Tanner G.J.E.	Tanner, Thomas, 1630-1682.	1665 (1665)	Wing T142; ESTC R220783	57,475	118

satisfy its own propension having agreeableness for its proper object One may desire but they cannot love for need One may honor but they cannot love for an opinion of worth One may revere and accommodate ones behaviour but one cannot love through the tyranny of duty or obligation It is so free that it cannot be constrained from without neither can the ultimate dictate as they say in the schools of the practical intellect it self command it It is not a concession or voluntary act meerly though most voluntary but anemanation Nay many excellent persons known acquainted may not be the object of any great kindness to a Good Nature for want of somewhat in them suitable to a Gentle Heart For what does it signify to be valiant learned wise it there be withal in the same person an aversation or indisposition to that that I delight in Or if he be a stranger This love is nursed with jocundity and playes where Nature or the use of fortune has prescrib'd it What though the objects be not so accomplished as others Yet they are our Brothers or our Cosins or our Comerades or our dayly Visitants Or they are most loving to us most joyous in our company most apt to please us and most concern'd to serve us in any kindness What though they may have their faults or miscarriages The love is to the person I love him as I love my self Can I hate my self for my failings or misfortunes that happen to me as their punishments Or can I but desire earnestly my own recovery and better doing There is a sort of friendship if I may so call it or benevolence rather grounded in a principle of vertue which when it failes the vertuous lover withdraws his affection misses of his object in the subject where it was before But this is more Divine and Philosophical then to be sought purely in a Good Nature which having once conceived an affection upon liking to a person cannot choose but prosecute him with a good will though he become vicious even to the gallows or to the utmost of disgraces Whence it was never counted an unseemly thing to take notice of condemned persons to salute them to cheer them up going to their executions But a base thing to be ashamed of their chains while they retain any sparks of those good qualities that we once respected in them or any Colour for their misfortunes 2. It is born to go out of it self and live among its friends to be pleased in their satisfaction and advanced in their emolument and afford its private gustoes if it have any to their content and pleasure But I 'le let this rest a little longer 3. It is not weak or apt to be discouraged Not of it self for its love is from pure Nature quea agit quando quantum potest it cannot mantle or corrupt like a standing water it is restless and never weary but in every act refresheth its own vigour and buddeth in new desires of fruition And which is more One friend cannot supply the defect of another for a Good Nature hath sympathy with them all that make up its body Politique of Civil life uno avulso non difficit alter But the pain and grief of loosing or of missing any part shewes by how quick a nerve it is united to the lover Nor by fortune which though possibly an occasion never was a cause of love And so who loved not for need will not leave for need or cease for fear of loss who never sought gain by his love or ever knew any other use of wealth but enjoyment or any enjoyment like the pleasure of serving of his friends to the utmost If he joy and grieve with them will he do 't for nothing Or stay for asking Or keep account of exchange of benefits or kindnesses to do or return only so much as he has before hand or as he owes on interest or in strict gratitude There is no account where all is common There is no incentive of love like adversity 'T was but pretense what ever flaggs or droopes while the Relative friend is in being or droopes not when he deceases Nor at last by any other impeachments or prohibitions for bars and walls cannot sever true friends and in this case if in any other Nitimur in vetitum we are the more invincible to attempt to succour when we are inhibited either raise the siege or loose the battel 4. It is hardly dissolved though possibly it may if he that was once familiar to us do utterly neglect or forget us or fall to shameful vices and so precide the continuance of our correspondency or if he proove unnatural or malitious seeking as industriously to disoblige as ever he did to oblige us Otherwise how should enmities arise Who never knew us do not hate us Nor is any disgust bitter where the sweetness of mutual favour were not more ancient We may instance in all manner of examples When Medea had left her Countrey for the love of Jason and found her self despised and forsaken she could do nothing else but meditate on revenge for as she argued with her Nurse A lofty mind cannot contain When scornful wrong it bears in vain Nullae sunt inimicitiae nisi amoris acerbae When one Octavius had layen with Pontia Posthumia at Rome and enflamed with enjoyment of her did in vain sollicit her unto marriage he slew her in revenge of that repulse When Caesar and Pompey who had served one another in the highest concerns of honour the pledge of alliance failing came to contention nothing but the ruin of one or other could determine it When Lewis II. King of France came to quarrel with his Protector the Duke of Burgony When Edward the IV. King of England with his Restorer the Earl of Warwick and Richard III with his supporter the Duke of Buckingham what means to compromise those differences but extremity We see the same in private friends who once falling out run to duels the sooner by how much the Amity between them was the greater Disdain on this part blazeth suddenly and incenseth Contempt inflameth despight addeth oyl and brimstone to the fewel of discontent So that nothing resteth but a pointed most acumined revenge because there seems to be no other reparation of dishonour Love and favour howsoever generous are couditional to be understood for they cannot consist if they be not mutual and reciprocal who faileth once in such a point he is not to fail again There cannot be a reconcilement unless you can make a man to be what he is not or not to have done what he has done which is impossible Pian piano fair and softly There is no such precipitancy incident to the case if a Good Nature that is no Coward might interecede in it Medea was not the best of women and the Poet rather brings her in speaking as a fury then a Saint He could not have put those words

in Cornelia's mouth when her husband Anthony was in the Arms of Cleopatra not superiour unto her in wit or beauty and sought to withdraw her subsistence from her and his own children with her Nor were Lewis or the Crook-back equal Princes Or the Earl and Duke of the better subjects But when Caesor had overthrown his enemy he pitied his misfortunes ingratiated his friends restored his statue When his head was brought to him he turned away from seing it When his ring was presented to him he received it with tears being possibly the seale of many officious tables that had past between them and shewed in all his actions that he did not seek to destroy Pompey but to save Caesar. In fine what inward monster hurried on Octavius A woman is the more beloved that repelleth her lover with disdain and the more sought and the more honoured if not by him who had before debauched her Of a villany extroardinary I need not undertake to give a reason But if we examine such contentions Good Nature may seem in the origine to have been depressed by passion and suppressed afterwards For at the first if a man thought modestly of himself and honourably of his friend he could not have been so soon transported nor so violently Have we not seen a gentle spirit submit his passions for a time and his reason too to his friend and accounted it no vileness And have we not presently seen the submitter to be the vanquisher and accounted more noble Either there was no cause of anger or not of so much as is conceived What if that which is taken for contempt as it often happens being misinterpreted was intended for an office of friendship and that it may be not indiscreetly neither if the reason had been apprehended What if it were but an escape Or a little start of passion But I grant it was an injury Goodness is a patient thing without the help of Phlegm and of it self will ventilate the heaving broiles within without a trifling fann or Ombrella to allay them It will make many good constructions ere it will admit a bad one Or if it find at last so good cannot be made as it wished it cannot bear malice through excess of its own goodness and respect to its friends but it presupposed some excesses or defects in him from the first beginning and resolved not to cast away a jewel for a flaw Besides it cannot stand upon punctilioes but rather bow the decorum for it suffers no otherwise from the injury of a friend then it would do by some great wrong that it had done it self by neglect or indiscretion And who that hath wrought his own dishonour or diminution by his folly will add the madness to it to stab himself And will he add to his boisterous passion the reputation of killing or of seeking the life of his friend Are not one and the same bowels common to them both To diminish the injury and magnify other kindnesses opposed to it this is friendly To condescend to remit de jure to take a part of the blame upon himself and to think of taking up this were a way to give a day to reason and resolution and a certain expedient to redeem any lapse of reputation But he hath done what he cannot undoe and I have suffered what I cannot wipe off but with his blood or the licking of his tongue Then you are both without my lists To deprive his friend of his favour is the greatest punishment here And one true friend is impatient of that displeasure from another and cannot live in quiet under it though he suffer unjustly He cannot but seek to be reconciled and if he can obtain it will hardly ever need a second These joynts well set grow firmer than before and the cicatrice more callous against offences then the brawne and muscles To conclude If our friend neglect us it is but a lapse and addresses renewed may revive it If he fall to vice he retaineth only our wishes and endeavours to serve him another way to reclaim him If he injure me I may be angry to reduce him If he be ingrateful or malitious I have no other way in nature but to punish him with aversation It is against Nature that I should seek his mischief in whom a part of my self is lodged in hope of a civil resurrection or entombed in his unworthiness and there to ly sacred and inviolable If I am necessitated to wrong him in my own defence so I may be to cut off one limb to save my whole body II. While they strive for the glory of the price in a cornish hurling they sometimes cover the ball in the midst of the press sometimes leave a single observator to go way with it to the Gaole so in this contention concerning the nobleness and use of friendship while on one hand they admit no end or fruit of friendship but it self no pleasure no profit no private or publick business to forge or nourish it on the other that all friendship is but an idle fancy a meer notion without some solid interest as the basis of it or only an abstracted consideration no more to be found in Nature then materia prima in things sensible They may leave the truth in the middle Which to find and bear from them let us first consider of the later I must confess it passeth among the fineness of the age as a paradox of courtship and as if untutored spirits were only kind and loving to be civil among men and more to some then others but indeed to have no friend or friendship as if it were but a meer fondness a feminine or a childish vagariness not to be admitted amongst the wise or valiant part of men to whom of all the rules delivered to us from antiquity there is none that soundeth so authentick as that of Chito Ita ama tanquam os urus ita odi tanquam amaturus So love as if you were about to hate so hate as if you were about to love For what account can be given of this chariness or these endearments betwixt two or a few persons but only to humour one anothers fancies or to bolster up one another in self-conceitedness and so take them off from action or design wherein he should be no friend that stands in our way though he were as a friend before There is a time in prudence to know and to forget to take acquaintance and to pass by without notice As our ends alter and as we advance we must leave those persons and things behind us that we cannot take along with us it being not sufficient only but more then ample if we have been just or courteous or beneficial to them for the time wherein we had to do with them All things slide and nothing bide is more true in this sence then then in the scepticks And is it not a madness to go about to stop a current or