Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	brother_n	great_a	time_n	939	5	3.2017	3	true

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A47513	A new family-book, or, The true interest of families being directions to parents and children, and to those who are instead of parents : shewing them their several duties, and how they may be happy in one another : together with several prayers for families and children, and graces before and after meat : to which is annexed a discourse about the right way of improving our time / by James Kirkwood ... ; with a preface, by Dr. Horneck.	Kirkwood, James, 1650?-1709.; Horneck, Anthony, 1641-1697.	1693 (1693)	Wing K647; ESTC R15399	107,616	291

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2._o 24._o he_o say_v therefore_o shall_v a_o man_n leave_v his_o father_n and_o mother_n and_o cleave_v unto_o his_o wife_n and_o they_o shall_v be_v one_o flesh._n now_o by_o virtue_n of_o this_o near_a relation_n and_o close_a union_n they_o ought_v to_o have_v a_o tender_a regard_n for_o the_o interest_n and_o concern_v of_o one_o another_o and_o the_o dear_a any_o thing_n be_v to_o the_o one_o the_o great_a affection_n ought_v the_o other_o to_o have_v towards_o it_o as_o therefore_o it_o be_v past_o all_o doubt_n that_o child_n be_v the_o dear_a and_o most_o value_a and_o belove_v earthly_a thing_n that_o natural_a parent_n have_v upon_o this_o account_n it_o be_v very_o reasonable_a that_o step-parent_n shall_v express_v a_o great_a regard_n and_o affection_n for_o they_o 2._o this_o be_v the_o way_n to_o preserve_v and_o to_o increase_v that_o mutual_a love_n which_o ought_v to_o be_v betwixt_o man_n and_o wife_n if_o a_o step-parent_n be_v kind_a and_o love_a to_o the_o 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from_o a_o great_a many_o vain_a and_o unnecessary_a action_n as_o to_o their_o abstinence_n from_o food_n on_o such_o day_n there_o be_v no_o rule_n can_v be_v give_v to_o serve_v all_o person_n if_o they_o can_v fast_o one_o meal_n or_o two_o it_o be_v well_o if_o not_o than_o they_o may_v eat_v less_o at_o a_o time_n and_o of_o such_o thing_n as_o be_v less_o apt_a to_o be_v a_o hindrance_n to_o their_o devotion_n that_o be_v to_o be_v do_v that_o serve_v most_o to_o render_v they_o fit_v for_o prayer_n and_o meditation_n it_o will_v be_v convenient_a in_o order_n to_o their_o do_v this_o to_o good_a purpose_n to_o be_v direct_v to_o a_o method_n that_o so_o their_o thought_n may_v not_o wander_v and_o be_v unfixed_a for_o which_o end_n it_o will_v be_v of_o good_a use_n to_o have_v the_o direction_n of_o their_o minister_n if_o he_o be_v a_o discreet_a and_o good_a man_n or_o of_o some_o other_o prudent_a serious_a christian_a friend_n or_o you_o may_v recommend_v to_o they_o 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