Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	best_a	great_a	time_n	1,185	5	3.2350	3	true

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A62600	A sermon preach'd before the Queen at White-Hall, March the 8th, 1688/9 by John Tillotson ...	Tillotson, John, 1630-1694.	1689 (1689)	Wing T1237; ESTC R4814	16,700	44

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