Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	best_a	great_a	love_n	864	5	4.9956	4	true

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A30327	Charitable reproof a sermon preached at the Church of St. Mary-le-Bow to the Societies for Reformation of Manners, the 25th of March, 1700 / by the Right Reverend Father in God, Gilbert Lord Bishop of Sarum.	Burnet, Gilbert, 1643-1715.; Societies for the Reformation of Manners.	1700 (1700)	Wing B5766; ESTC R3956	13,374	32

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to_o run_v out_o upon_o the_o advantage_n of_o have_v find_v a_o true_a and_o faithful_a friend_n and_o yet_o even_o those_o who_o be_v very_o copious_a upon_o so_o common_a a_o theme_n do_v not_o much_o care_n for_o the_o best_a office_n of_o friendship_n no_o man_n can_v perform_v this_o act_n of_o friendship_n without_o some_o force_n put_v upon_o himself_o unless_o there_o be_v a_o great_a mixture_n of_o roughness_n and_o superciliousness_n in_o his_o temper_n few_o love_n to_o touch_v a_o tender_a part_n or_o to_o grieve_v a_o person_n who_o be_v dear_a to_o they_o therefore_o the_o hard_a it_o be_v to_o reprove_v another_o it_o ought_v to_o be_v the_o more_o value_v and_o the_o better_o receive_v caress_n and_o congratulation_n pass_v easy_o among_o friend_n these_o be_v the_o common_a and_o natural_a vent_v of_o friendship_n reproof_n and_o admonition_n go_v against_o the_o grain_n therefore_o friend_n ought_v to_o encourage_v they_o let_v their_o friend_n know_v that_o they_o 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beautiful_a there_o be_v nothing_o more_o amiable_a in_o true_a friendship_n than_o so_o exact_a and_o just_a a_o freedom_n as_o make_v a_o man_n neither_o to_o overlook_v nor_o to_o neglect_v the_o fault_n of_o his_o friend_n on_o the_o other_o hand_n the_o kiss_v or_o caress_n of_o a_o enemy_n who_o cover_v his_o hatred_n with_o the_o show_v of_o friendship_n and_o with_o a_o dissemble_a behaviour_n who_o kiss_v on_o design_n to_o betray_v as_o judas_n do_v his_o master_n these_o be_v deceitful_a they_o be_v false_a in_o they_o they_o flatter_v person_n to_o their_o face_n for_o those_o very_a fault_n for_o which_o they_o will_v censure_v they_o severe_o in_o corner_n they_o be_v also_o deceitful_a while_o they_o see_v people_n commit_v fault_n which_o they_o hope_v will_v be_v their_o

ruin_n and_o yet_o lest_o they_o shall_v find_v that_o out_o and_o prevent_v their_o ruin_n by_o seasonable_a correction_n they_o study_v to_o humour_v they_o in_o they_o that_o they_o may_v become_v incorrigible_a and_o be_v infallible_o ruin_v by_o they_o but_o the_o word_n may_v be_v also_o render_v frequent_a and_o earnest_a or_o hard_a and_o press_a as_o well_o as_o deceitful_a the_o sense_n will_v then_o be_v the_o kiss_v or_o caress_n of_o a_o enemy_n will_v be_v redouble_v they_o will_v be_v officious_a in_o they_o both_o in_o season_n and_o out_o of_o season_n flatterer_n when_o they_o perceive_v that_o their_o base_a obsequiousness_n be_v acceptable_a they_o follow_v close_o upon_o that_o scent_n they_o be_v assiduous_a and_o abject_a in_o it_o and_o whereas_o friend_n be_v cautious_a and_o must_v wait_v fit_a opportunity_n to_o reprove_v flatterer_n find_v access_n at_o all_o time_n and_o be_v ever_o applaud_v every_o thing_n that_o be_v either_o say_v or_o do_v by_o he_o who_o they_o hope_v either_o to_o subdue_v or_o ruin_v by_o their_o mean_a compliance_n nor_o be_v it_o easy_a to_o shake_v off_o that_o servile_a crew_n their_o kiss_n be_v hard_a they_o strike_v against_o a_o weak_a part_n few_o man_n be_v wise_a enough_o to_o find_v they_o out_o or_o strong_a enough_o to_o resist_v they_o some_o be_v so_o course_n in_o their_o flattery_n that_o they_o must_v quick_o be_v nauseated_a but_o man_n of_o design_n who_o have_v the_o art_n to_o season_v their_o flattery_n to_o hit_v right_a in_o it_o and_o be_v dextrous_a in_o the_o method_n of_o offer_v it_o be_v often_o too_o hard_o for_o man_n who_o in_o all_o other_o respect_n may_v be_v very_o valuable_a but_o in_o this_o only_o do_v real_o lessen_v themselves_o by_o suffer_v other_o to_o magnify_v they_o too_o much_o thus_o i_o have_v open_v the_o various_a rendring_n of_o the_o word_n of_o my_o text_n all_o amount_v to_o the_o same_o sense_n in_o general_n that_o we_o do_v then_o express_v our_o friendship_n in_o the_o best_a manner_n when_o we_o do_v plain_o and_o open_o reprove_v our_o friend_n for_o their_o fault_n which_o will_v be_v much_o more_o useful_a to_o they_o than_o any_o fondness_n how_o deep_a or_o tender_a soever_o when_o it_o make_v we_o excessive_o indulgent_a to_o they_o such_o reproof_n may_v be_v as_o wound_n and_o give_v a_o very_a painful_a uneasiness_n but_o even_o that_o will_v be_v medicinal_a it_o will_v bring_v our_o fault_n into_o view_n and_o into_o our_o remembrance_n when_o we_o see_v that_o other_o observe_v we_o it_o will_v bring_v we_o into_o a_o habit_n of_o look_v more_o careful_o to_o ourselves_o and_o of_o observe_v all_o our_o word_n and_o action_n with_o due_a attention_n whereas_o on_o the_o other_o hand_n enemy_n who_o have_v no_o other_o regard_v but_o for_o their_o own_o end_n or_o perhaps_o for_o our_o ruin_n they_o will_v by_o frequent_a flattery_n well_o time_v and_o skilful_o infuse_v so_o corrupt_v our_o mind_n that_o as_o they_o will_v render_v we_o more_o uneasy_a to_o the_o rebuke_n of_o our_o true_a and_o faithful_a friend_n so_o they_o will_v feed_v our_o self-love_n to_o such_o a_o height_n that_o we_o shall_v be_v thereby_o expose_v to_o error_n that_o may_v end_v very_o fatal_o and_o make_v we_o perish_v unpitied_a as_o well_o as_o live_v inexcusable_a the_o word_n thus_o open_v do_v lead_v we_o to_o examine_v our_o obligation_n to_o this_o duty_n of_o reprove_v other_o that_o will_v be_v soon_o settle_v if_o we_o do_v consider_v the_o zeal_n that_o we_o owe_v to_o god_n and_o to_o his_o honour_n 9_o 69_o psal._n 9_o if_o the_o zeal_n of_o his_o house_n do_v as_o it_o be_v eat_v we_o up_o than_o the_o reproach_n of_o those_o who_o do_v as_o it_o be_v attack_v and_o defy_v he_o will_v fall_v on_o we_o we_o will_v feel_v a_o lively_a concern_v in_o we_o for_o the_o honour_n of_o religion_n and_o when_o we_o see_v it_o dishonour_v we_o will_v interpose_v if_o it_o be_v but_o to_o express_v a_o 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