Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	best_a	death_n	life_n	868	5	4.1334	3	true

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A97190	An essay on grief: with the causes and remedies of it	R. W.	1695 (1695)	Wing W91A; ESTC R232331	41,961	234

i_o confine_v my_o hope_n to_o the_o next_o life_n i_o shall_v be_v but_o little_a concern_v at_o what_o may_v happen_v to_o i_o in_o this_o shall_v i_o lose_v my_o friend_n and_o relation_n one_o of_o the_o great_a support_v and_o comfort_n of_o this_o life_n yet_o i_o shall_v be_v fortify_v against_o it_o i_o know_v i_o must_v lose_v they_o or_o they_o me._n what_o matter_n it_o who_o go_v first_o we_o shall_v at_o length_n meet_v again_o and_o participate_v together_o of_o those_o boundless_a pleasure_n which_o shall_v not_o end_v till_o eternity_n if_o self_n shall_v cease_v to_o be_v but_o beside_o we_o can_v say_v that_o they_o be_v hasty_o snatch_v from_o we_o who_o by_o the_o improvement_n of_o their_o mind_n in_o all_o the_o excellency_n of_o knowledge_n which_o they_o have_v also_o copy_v out_o in_o their_o practice_n have_v answer_v all_o the_o end_n and_o design_n of_o live_v and_o who_o if_o we_o consider_v they_o in_o relation_n to_o themselves_o have_v live_v here_o long_o enough_o though_o for_o our_o own_o sake_n and_o the_o good_a of_o other_o we_o can_v have_v wish_v they_o a_o much_o long_a stay_n more_o to_o serve_v our_o own_o than_o which_o will_v be_v more_o generous_a to_o consult_v their_o interest_n for_o since_o we_o must_v die_v at_o last_o what_o do_v it_o signify_v if_o we_o leave_v this_o world_n something_o soon_o than_o perhaps_o in_o the_o course_n of_o nature_n we_o may_v have_v do_v nay_o rather_o be_v it_o not_o much_o more_o preferable_a to_o be_v deliver_v out_o of_o this_o troublesome_a passage_n to_o obtain_v a_o immortal_a life_n how_o happy_a then_o will_v that_o state_n be_v wherein_o we_o can_v only_o be_v say_v proper_o to_o live_v for_o what_o we_o call_v life_n here_o say_v tully_n be_v only_a death_n nor_o do_v the_o mind_n true_o live_v till_o release_v from_o the_o clog_n and_o fetter_n of_o the_o body_n it_o enjoy_v eternity_n we_o ought_v not_o therefore_o to_o think_v death_n and_o evil_n but_o rather_o 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in_o myself_o to_o become_v nothing_o seem_v to_o i_o a_o convince_a argument_n and_o give_v i_o sufficient_a assurance_n that_o i_o shall_v never_o fall_v into_o it_o but_o i_o shall_v pass_v on_o from_o this_o digression_n to_o consider_v some_o other_o cause_n of_o grief_n which_o every_o age_n of_o man_n that_o can_v make_v use_n of_o its_o faculty_n of_o reason_n be_v particular_o concern_v in_o and_o which_o the_o more_o think_v part_n of_o mankind_n have_v always_o acknowledge_v as_o such_o and_o these_o be_v the_o loss_n of_o a_o man_n reputation_n or_o the_o loss_n of_o friend_n these_o of_o all_o other_o affliction_n except_o that_o of_o a_o wound_a conscience_n fall_v most_o heavy_a upon_o we_o and_o make_v the_o deep_a impression_n upon_o our_o mind_n every_o man_n have_v a_o natural_a love_n for_o himself_o and_o a_o desire_n to_o be_v speak_v well_o of_o by_o other_o a_o good_a name_n and_o a_o fair_a reputation_n not_o only_o make_v a_o man_n life_n pleasant_a in_o the_o 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