Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	bear_v	great_a	think_v	757	5	3.7416	3	false

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A60255	Moral considerations touching the duty of contentedness under afflictions In a letter to the most affectionate and best of fathers Mr. James Simpson. By R.S.	Simpson, Richard, 1661 or 2-1684.	1685 (1685)	Wing S3819A; ESTC R219634	24,953	98

the_o more_o weak_a any_o thing_n be_v the_o more_o apt_a to_o complain_v again_o the_o more_o we_o struggle_v with_o our_o yoke_n the_o more_o it_o will_v hurt_v we_o that_o the_o only_a allay_n under_o great_a suffering_n be_v to_o bear_v they_o quiet_o and_o obey_v necessity_n to_o submit_v to_o what_o we_o can_v remedy_v but_o without_o enlarge_n upon_o these_o excellent_a piece_n of_o morality_n let_v we_o go_v on_o we_o have_v no_o great_a reason_n for_o excessive_a grief_n in_o the_o loss_n of_o worldly_a good_n if_o we_o consider_v that_o the_o loss_n of_o friend_n and_o relation_n come_v from_o the_o common_a condition_n of_o our_o nature_n and_o from_o the_o very_a notion_n of_o morality_n and_o can_v we_o think_v that_o the_o very_a nature_n of_o thing_n ought_v to_o be_v change_v to_o please_v our_o humour_n the_o loss_n of_o good_n riches_n wealth_n be_v for_o the_o most_o part_n by_o thunder_n or_o storm_n or_o tempest_n or_o fire_n the_o loss_n of_o health_n from_o the_o intemperature_n of_o air_n or_o meteor_n etc._n etc._n and_o can_v we_o rational_o expect_v that_o the_o great_a god_n of_o heaven_n shall_v alter_v the_o settle_a law_n of_o nature_n for_o the_o convenience_n or_o profit_n of_o such_o worm_n as_o we_o in_o a_o word_n the_o course_n of_o the_o world_n be_v such_o that_o cross_n and_o affliction_n must_v of_o necessity_n come_v and_o therefore_o why_o shall_v any_o man_n sink_v into_o despair_n or_o discontent_n because_o the_o world_n do_v go_v as_o it_o always_o do_v and_o follow_v its_o own_o natural_a state_n and_o condition_n many_o time_n when_o i_o have_v know_v my_o friend_n dead_a i_o can_v have_v bedew_v my_o face_n with_o tear_n and_o as_o passonate_o have_v weep_v over_o his_o sacred_a urn_n as_o i_o ever_o rejoice_v in_o the_o happiness_n of_o his_o company_n while_o live_v but_o i_o resolve_v to_o lay_v aside_o my_o trouble_n when_o i_o have_v consider_v that_o it_o be_v more_o kindness_n in_o i_o then_o prudence_n for_o 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common_a and_o universal_a be_v a_o afflict_a condition_n of_o life_n to_o poor_a mortal_n that_o it_o seem_v to_o be_v as_o natural_a as_o that_o propriety_n in_o fire_n to_o ascend_v nay_o our_o very_a entrance_n into_o the_o world_n seem_v to_o acquaint_v we_o with_o the_o entertainment_n we_o be_v like_a to_o have_v in_o it_o ever_o after_o our_o first_o minute_n be_v attend_v with_o bitterness_n and_o pain_n and_o it_o be_v certain_o ominous_a to_o the_o remainder_n of_o our_o life_n that_o we_o be_v bear_v cry_v if_o then_o no_o person_n howsoever_o good_a just_a wise_a and_o pious_a of_o what_o age_n sex_n degree_n quality_n and_o profession_n soever_o can_v ever_o yet_o boast_v a_o exemption_n from_o this_o universal_a state_n and_o condition_n of_o humane_a life_n we_o may_v as_o just_o grieve_v that_o god_n have_v give_v we_o life_n and_o make_v we_o man_n as_o that_o in_o this_o life_n we_o shall_v meet_v with_o trouble_n and_o affliction_n the_o common_a lot_n of_o 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business_n do_v not_o at_o first_o answer_v your_o expectation_n let_v no_o fume_n of_o melancholy_n possess_v you_o use_v other_o expedient_n and_o address_n but_o do_v not_o by_o any_o mean_n engage_v your_o affection_n too_o passionate_o in_o it_o nor_o promise_v yourself_o success_n so_o you_o will_v not_o be_v disturb_v if_o you_o miscarry_v which_o you_o must_v make_v account_n will_v often_o happen_v to_o you_o for_o all_o thing_n by_o nature_n in_o the_o universe_n be_v subject_a to_o a_o continual_a change_n and_o alteration_n and_o there_o be_v no_o constancy_n either_o in_o the_o favour_n of_o fortune_n or_o mind_n of_o man_n so_o that_o no_o wise_a man_n can_v either_o whole_o trust_v to_o the_o one_o or_o depend_v upon_o the_o other_o expect_v therefore_o often_o to_o be_v disappoint_v and_o then_o you_o will_v not_o be_v disquiet_v when_o the_o frustration_n come_v for_o what_o you_o do_v possible_o look_v for_o be_v come_v to_o pass_v and_o what_o shall_v amaze_v you_o 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disappointment_n which_o give_v man_n so_o much_o unhappy_a disturbance_n and_o uneasiness_n in_o their_o several_a condition_n or_o that_o it_o be_v the_o great_a cause_n of_o discontent_n 2._o that_o it_o be_v the_o absolute_a and_o necessary_a duty_n of_o every_o rational_a creature_n to_o rule_v govern_n and_o discipline_n these_o passion_n to_o use_v his_o utmost_a care_n and_o endeavour_n to_o bring_v they_o to_o a_o continue_a subjection_n to_o his_o reason_n and_o judgement_n and_o so_o introduce_v with_o ease_n into_o his_o soul_n a_o due_a comfortable_a and_o sanctify_a use_n of_o all_o condition_n in_o prosperity_n thankfulness_n and_o sobriety_n in_o adversity_n contentedness_n and_o humility_n in_o all_o moderation_n 1._o the_o inordinacy_n of_o passion_n be_v the_o great_a cause_n of_o discontent_n this_o i_o take_v to_o be_v so_o certain_o and_o universal_o true_a that_o it_o may_v pass_v for_o a_o axiom_n or_o one_o of_o those_o truth_n we_o call_v first_o principle_n 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and_o a_o noble_a faculty_n it_o