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A59653	A sermon at the funeral of Mr. Christopher Glascock, the late eminent school-master of Felsted in Essex preached there Jan. 22, 1689/90, by William Shelton ...	Shelton, William, d. 1699.	1690 (1690)	Wing S3100; ESTC R38233	17,524	37

universally greateful and well accepted than Mr. Glascock's of Felsted was A great Argument that he did not manage private Intrigues to the prejudice of any with whom he conversed He was no double-tongu'd Man to whisper Stories in one place and contradict them in another but where-ever he came he was so heartily welcome as it appeared that all Men had confidence in him and by long experience they found he did not deceive their confidence Such was his more general Conversation But 3dly as a friend I must do that right to the sacredness of Friendship as to propose him for an excellent Example of a trusly Friend There is so much artifice and pretence in the World that it is not easy to know whom to confide in Love 's almost lost the way of Friendship 's gone Herbert Tho' David had his Jonathan Christ his John But this was a Man to whom you might freely unbosome your Souls to whom you might safely commit a Secret of whose assistance you might promise your self in any case that was in his Power so far as it was not base or dishonourable And there every good Man must stop He that is Amicus usque ad aras may be allowed to go no further lest whilst he values the Friendship of this World he becomes the Enemy of God But he that wanted a Friend and knew how to make a good use of him might know where to find him as long as this our Common Friend lived This I have thought my self obliged to say because I say it upon good assurance from the very friendly respects he has been pleased long to bear to me which because I have so little deserved from him I make no doubt but that he has with the same sincerity approved himself to many others That which I have hitherto said I did not well know how to contract But 4. I must beg a little more of your patience to recommend him as Eminent in his Profession as a School-master In which before he came hither he was of so good Note that divers Persons of Quality sent their Children with him hither from Ipswich chusing rather that they should be at a greater distance from their Parents than not be under his Care Here he has lived about 40 Years And if we might make Guesses at things it is a great presumption that he was admirably well qualified for his Employment In that whereas in a much less tract of Time many other Men in several Professions either by their own Irregularities and Indiscretions or by the forwardness those among whom they have lived have out-lived their Credit yet this worthy and good Man during his 40 Years abode in one Place has not forfeited his Reputation but carries with him to the Grave a very fair Esteem and an honourable good Name So many Gentlemen and Persons of Honour and Quality as have been bred up under his Care and having lived to make some Figure in the World have been able to shew their Gratitude to him and so many others having committed the Education of their Sons to him it cannot be thought strange if he has had many and frequent Invitations to dispose a considerable part of his Time amongst his Worthy Friends And the times of the recess of his Scholars he did use so to distribute to the great content and satisfaction of those who could be happy in his Company And when due allowance is made for that it is well known how diligent he was and how he loved to move in his own sphere and discharge his Duty in his School where his great Learning was of so publick notice that it is needless for me to commend that which no Body ever called in question The prudence of his Conduct whereby according to the several Dispositions of his Scholars he knew how to apply himself to them so as most successfully to gain upon them was also particularly remarkable He loved his Scholars and was well beloved of them He seldom used the Rod but upon the provocation of some Immorality The very great number of good Scholars that owe their first Learning to his Care will be able to testify to the World that if others were not so it was more the fault of the Scholar than the Master There is scarce a more useful sort of Men in a Common-wealth than good School-masters They do in a sort pingere aeternitati The next Generation depends much upon their Diligence and Care And for this will the Memory of that Honourable Family that planted him here be blessed though he survived them all that they recommended so able and useful a Person to that Employment that had so great an influence upon the welfare of Mankind I would ask your Pardon that I say no more in this part of his Character where his Excellencies were so peculiar but that they were so visible and eminent that there is less need I should hazard your patience I hasten therefore And 5thly commend him to you for an able Divine A Man well skill'd in Controversies but he knew them better than he loved them and studied them more for his own Satisfaction than that he cared to trouble the World about them Though Preaching were not his constant Province yet as he had divers Occasions to show his Abilities in that kind so he did it with great satisfaction to others and with this mark of self-denial in himself that he did not affect Pedantry or a vain Ostentation of that Learning of which he was so great a Master For though he was a great Critic and Philologist and in discourse among his Friends that were capable of that sort of Learning he was very communicative of his Nations yet he knew when to lay it aside as well as when to use it And that which was more fit for his School or for the private Entertainment of his Learned Friends he was well content to keep out of the Pulpit Great was his Moderation in Matters of Controversy that were of less necessity And if in any thing he show'd something like Passion it was against those eager Men who laid more stress upon the Circumstances than the Substance of Religion He had indeed a Compassion for Dissenters and such as by some might be interpreted a favouring of their way But his Charity was more to their Persons than their Cause And by what he had observed in the times before the return of Monarchy and Episcopacy when they governed the Pulpits he was fully convinced of the great necessity of a stated Liturgy thereby to prevent the Impertinencies and Indiscretions to say no worse of them that were so frequent in their Service of God both in Prayer and Administration of the Sacraments But he had a kindness for the Men so as to testify it in the most proper way by endeavouring what in him lay to remove their Prejudices and to recover them to Communion with us And if he could have found the same Temper and Candor

He is our Lord and as such he has in his holy Gospel given us incomparable Precepts for a good Life and to encourage our Obedience he has confirmed and explained these Precepts by his own most excellent Example If we follow him in the Temper of our Minds and in the Holiness of our Lives he will take us up to be with himself else if we expect the Reward without doing our Work if we presume upon the fulfilling the Promise when we will not obey the Command if we trust we shall be Happy in Heaven though we will not be Holy upon Earth we deceive our selves and ruin our selves by that deceit Nothing impure shall enter that Holy Place We shall never be fit to be admitted into the presence of an Holy Saviour to see the Face of an Holy God unless we our selves be also Holy The exccllency of an Holy Life makes it very reasonable but the hopes of Happiness makes it very necessary All workers of Iniquity shall be commanded to depart from God Without Holiness no Man shall see the Lord. If we be Heb. 12. 14. ashamed of Christ and his Commandments here he will be ashamed of us then and will send us to our proper place wherefore as we desire the End we must use the Means we must live soberly righteously and godly in this Tirus 2. 12. present World for that is the only way of being for ever with the Lord for the time to come 3. From hence appears the reasonableness of the exhortation in the next Verse Wherefore Vers 18. comfort one another with these words And of that before I would not have you ignorant Vers 13. concerning them which are asleep that ye sorrow not even as others which have no hope Our Holy and Religious Friends whom Death takes from us are not lost they are gone before us to a better Place and to better Company And by what we read in this 17th Verse we know where to find them if we follow them after such a manner as that we may overtake them They are taken from us and according as we needed or delighted in their Company our loss may be the greater in their absence But if they were our Friends it does not become us to grudg them their Happiness They are now with the Lord in the presence of God and of Jesus Christ whither we shall e're long be taken if we be followers of them who through Faith and Patience inherit the Promises I have been the less prolix in my Discourse upon these words that I might have some time to spare to pay those Respects which are so justly due to the memory of that Reverend and Worthy Man whose Funerals we now solemnize Upon which occasion I must take liberty to bewail the misfortune of this great and Worthy Auditory that this Lot is fallen upon me who in divers respects am less fit for this Service than many worthier Men of this Neighbourhood Not only because of my own Defects of which I desire always to be duly conscious nor together with that Consideration because of the straits of Time only which gave me less leisure to recover my self from an hurry of Thoughts but also because of the distance in which I have lived from him which gave me less opportunity of making those Remarks upon his daily Conversation which would have helped forward the Character that ought to be given of him But when I have promised my self that you who conversed with him oftner will supply the Defects that you find in this Account from your more frequent and daily Observations of what was eminent and praise-worthy in him I take leave to proceed when I have first said That I have known him not much less than 40 Years And besides divers Correspondencies by Letters I have had the happiness of frequent conversing with him and therefore may be thought in some measure fit to say something of him In which I may be excused from giving a large account of the former part of his Life before he was fixed in this Place or before I had any knowledg of him For though he was born in this County and Neighbourhood and educated in this School from whence he removed to Katherine-Hall in Cambridg and from thence to a private Town in this County Chipping-Ongar where he began his Employment of a School-master and where he gained such a reputation for his Abilities in that Employment that he was after a few Years continuance there sollicited to remove to Ipswich In which Town of note he was understood to be so perfect a Master in his Art that the then Lord of Warwick courted him hither Yet these things being so long ago that there are few alive that can give any perfect account of them and he being setled here in the Year 1649 or thereabouts I am sure before the middle of 1650 he has lived here long enough to make good the Truth of all I shall say concerning him Which I reduce to these Heads I consider him As a Man As a Neighbour As a Friend As a School-master As a Divine As a sincere honest Man and good Christian 1. As a Man I only remark the strength and vivacity of his old Age. God blessed him with an able Body fit for his able Mind He was not pondus inutile terrae He did not out-live his Serviceableness His Strength and Health continued with him so as he was not wanting to his Employment even almost to the last days of his Life Which I do not note as properly his Vertue for then it would be imputable as the Fault of those who decay sooner but his Felicity it was and the Felicity of those who were recommended to his Care that they did not waste a great deal of their precious Time under an old decayed Schoolmaster who was not able to fulfil the Ends for which they were sent to him But when he was of a great Age about 76 as he esteemed himself born for Service so he was able to pursue the Ends for which he came into the World as long as he continued in it 2. What a Neighbour he was you of this Place do very well know How useful and friendly how ready to make Peace and to do all good Offices that lay in his Power Of this I may be allowed to say the less because Envy it self cannot charge his Memory in this Matter He never was a self-designing Man He was of no sowr or morose Disposition Never inclined to make or increase Quarrels or Contentions Nor could he be content to cloyster up himself and to live so retired as to deny others the advantage of his Conversation but hearty and free and open-spirited and as willing to do Kindnesses as others are to receive them What an excellent Companion he was all the Country knows as well as this Town Nor do I know one Man this day in Essex of more general Acquaintance and whose Company was more