Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	ask_v	good_a	know_v	760	5	3.3457	3	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A97276	Youths behaviour, or, Decency in conversation amongst men. Composed in French by grave persons for the use and benefit of their youth. Now newly turned into English by Francis Hawkins.	Hawkins, Francis, 1628-1681.	1646 (1646)	Wing Y204; Thomason E1180_1; Thomason C.54.aa.1(1); ESTC R39198	18,243	59

bee thy equall carry thy selfe so that thou turne proportionably with him and make him not alwayes the first Likewise stop not too often at mid-way if there bee not great necessitie for that savoreth of superioritie is accounted troublesome Hee in the middest walking with equals or as it were equals ought to turne himselfe now to the right then to the left hand and if so bee that they be not equals let him turne for the most part towards him who deserveth best Finally they who are on the side ought alwayes to turne themselves towards him who is in de midst neither before him nor behinde him 8 ⋆ In thy walkings alone expresse no passion in thy gesture lest by that meanes thou shouldst turne thy breast into Cristall and let others reade thy minde at a distance 9 ⋆ Let thy conversation be without malice or envye for that is a signe of a tractable and commendable nature And in all causes of passion admit reason for thy governesse so shall thy Reputation be either altogether inviolable or at the least not stayned with common Tinctures 10 ⋆ Never expresse any thing unbeseeming nor act against the Rules morall before thy inferiours For in these things thy owne guilt will multiply Crimes by example and as it were confirme Ill by authority 11 ⋆ Be not imumodest in urging thy friend to discover his secrets lest an accidentall discovery of them worke a breach in your amitye CHAP. VI. Of Discourse 1 VTter not frivolous things amongst grave and learned men nor any very difficult question or subject amongst the ignorant nor things which are hard to bee beleeved Farce not thy language with Sentences especially amongst thy equals and much lesse amongst thy betters Speake not of mischances and dolefull things inopportunely and to the company In time of mirth or at the Table speake not of melancholick things of wounds of sculls of death and if others speake in that kind change the discourse if thou canst dexterously Tell not thy dreames if it bee not to thy intimatest friends when they might seeme to bee of great and notable presage to which notwithstanding thou shalt not give credit 2 A man well bred ought not to vaunt himselfe of his brave atchievements or rare qualities of wit of vertue or of the like much lesse speake of his noblenesse honour riches or his kindred if hee bee not more than constrained also he ought not to depresse himselfe too much without occasion 3 It is to no purpose to breake a jest there where one taketh no pleasure in mirth Laugh not aloud and to the disfiguring of thy countenance or without subject onely be custome Deride not the mis-fortune of any one although there seeme to bee some cause why 4 Speake not an injurious word bee it in jest or in earnest Nip not any by word Likewise one ought not to scoffe any body especially if they be greater than thy selfe although they give occasion 5 Be not froward but friendly and courteous and the first to salute others heare and answer and bee not pensive when it is a time to converse and discourse 6 By no meanes detract from any other nor speake of things which belong unto him also bee not too excessive in praysing 7 Go not thither where thou knowest not whether thou shalt bee welcome Give not thy advice except one aske it of thee bee it not that thou art the best there principally out of season and where there is no hope of profiting and being intreated to deliver what thou thinkest be briefe and come quickly to to the point 8 If two contend amongst themselves take not the part of either if thou be'st not compelled and take heed that thou bee not obstinate in thine opinion In things indifferent bee thou on the part of the most of the Company who deliver thereon their opinions 9 Reprehend not the imperfections of others for that is the part of Fathers Masters and Superiours thou mayest well shew notwithstanding that they distast thee Likewise may'st thou now and then sagely give some good counsell in time and place 10 Stay not to gaze on the markes or blemishes appearing on others although they be naturall principally if they bee in the face and aske not from whence they come and that which thou well mayest speake in secret to thy friend deliver not in the presence of orhers 11 Speake not in an unknown language or in what thou knowest not well be it not in case of necessitie to be better understood but use thine own naturall tongue as men of qualitie of the Town speake it not like the meane sort especially take thou heed to utter words which savour of immodestie although in secret or to move mirth Use not homely and clownish words when things sublime and serious are treated of 12 Speake not before thou thinkest what thou would'st deliver and in the vulgar language And make not a shew of nimble conceits and clinches Pronounce not imperfectly nor hastily bring forth thy words Likewise utter not thy words so slowly that thou trouble the hearers 13 When another speaketh take heed that through thee hee bee not neglected by his auditors and be attentive turning not thine eyes here and there nor busie thy selfe in ought else If any drawl forth his words help him not therein nor prompt him bee it not that hee intreat thee so to doe or that it were in private or that thou hadst great familiaritie with him Likewise interrupt him not nor answer him untill hee have brought his speech to a period 14 Being in the midst of a discourse aske not of what one treateth since that it is a draught of authoritie but thou mayst well intreat gently that hee proced if thou perceivest that for thee hee hold his peace On the contrary if any one come on a sudden whilst thou talkest especially if hee bee a person of qualitie it is seemely to make a little Epilogue and briefe collection of what thou deliveredst then afterwards go on with thy discourse 15 Thou ought'st not to make face or use any other action of undecency with thy mouth eyes or thy hands to expresse what thou wouldest deliver neither ought'st thou to hold thy hand behind thy back either clasped ar acrosse for that savoureth of ones preheminence but place thy hands before thee one over the other somewhat under thy brest or under thy girdle When thou talkest be circumspect how thou carriest thy body Shake not thy head nor move thy hands much and hold thy feet still 16 Whilst thou speakest put not on thy hat nor ought else before thy mouth Chew not paper nor other thing Shake not thy head Deale not blowes with thy elbowes Stand not tittertatter on one foot Put not one legg overthwart the other 17 Point not with thy finger at him of whom thou speakest Approach not too nigh his person lesse his face to whom thou talkest 18 If thou be'st in Company speake not in