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B07702 The true choice of a friend. Shewing the comfort of a faithfull friend. : A friend is neerer then a brother..; Reasons metamorphosis and restauration Goldwell, Charles. 1625 (1625) STC 11989; ESTC S92716 48,079 300

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then finde many friendes in my sufficiencie by the first I know who loue mee by the other who flatter me and therefore deeme worthy censuring that more subtile and politique then loyal and friendly condition branding it with the note of impiety as I find it familiar and customarie whereby men powre liquor into replenished vessels that the superfluitie may returne vnto themselues with aduantage and iudge all benefites lost where they cannot be requited 12 I will choose rather to be a begger with the Samaritan vnto Christ for the water of life to quench my thirst after flying shadowes and dying vanities then to haue the well of worldly prosperitie and sinfull pleasures lie open vnto mee which is but the stirring vp of an immoderate appetite after that which can neuer satisfie And to haue my cogitations and trauaile eased touching the procurement of things present then roule the stone of that yong man which thinking to get to heauen by keeping the Cōmandements lost his way by louing his riches 13 It is a sure rule that he which wil learn to speak ought first to learne to hold his peace for silence doeth not onely gather knowledge from the more wise and iudicious but it taketh notice of their dispositions with whom we are to cōuerse thereby helping vs to free our speech vnto them of distast It also allowes a space of premeditation whereby we may reason without errour or not at all I will vse speech rather too sparingly then too profusly for the multitude of wordes engendreth folly which paucitie conceales from a publique discouery the first casteth a iust reproch on the author the latter may mooue a suspicion of ignorance but it is without proofe 14 The Smaradges is most of value that is clearest from glassy pimples This smoothnesse is alwayes laudable in the heart in the tongue but sometimes As bolsterd apparrell argues a crookednesse and imperfection in the body So wordes beeing as it were the apparrell of the minde are more to bee suspected of lightnesse and vanity for their great swelling shew then when they are vttered in a modest euenesse anp plausible plainesse But as in a cleere vntroubled fountaine wee easily discerne without much prying what is in the bottome so in a calme honest and setled heart wee find truth and trustinesse apparantly obiected so that we may credit them without our too curious disquisition or their too verball profession 15 Contempteously to wrong an inferiour is oftentimes to incurre the danger of an equall reuenge or the misse of a pleasurable office for albeit the Eagle flieth with the helpe of her great feathered wings yet the lesser feathers keepe her warme Great men may liue maugre as wee say the vulgar yet many helps conducible to their estate and reputation are ministred by them the vntimely want whereof if not wisely preuented may inferre their preiudice not curable by to late repentance 16 The wise man contrary to the sott carrieth his mouth in his heart As a faithfull seruant in a message imparteth onely what he is aduised by his Master So shall his tongue vtter onely what it is mistrusted by the mature deliberation of the heart Seeing there is no wise man at all times I will endeauour to bee wise as often as I can when I feele my heart rising to my mouth I will qualifie that passion by enforcing silence to my selfe or else withdrawing from company when I finde my tongue subiect to my heart I will serue occasion and doe my best 17 A wise man in ciuil affaires should resemble the best Turquesse In religious duties the worst that which is most perfect appeareth of his owne vsual colour by day but by candlelight greeene So must hee vary with the state of his occasions security befits not trouble but circumspection and iealousie wrongeth familiaritie Dauid was amiable to his friends but marched valiantly against his enemies The basest is neuer seene but of one colour so ought his carriage to bee immutable alwayes the same constant in his pious denotion for true christian zeale neither admits Apostacy mutation nor wauering 18 To bee of great fame is as dangerous as to haue an ill report saith Tacitus Men of great puissance potencie and credit through affection of popularitie or being singular haue the commonest instigations to strange haughty enterprises and are most flexible thereunto neuer foreseeing the danger till they bee plunged in it Such is the spurre of ambition it neuer ceaseth to pricke forward to honour and eminency till by an vnsatiable pursuite thereof they bewray a desire rather of domination then of ruling well and to become great rather then worthy of greatnes which yeeldeth foorth the vnsauory fruites of pride and arrogance in austerity and oppression not of grauity and wisedome in an equall and commendable gouernment growes generally odious Therefore in rising such should bee cautelous and prouident making the meanes of their preferment rather merit then much forwardnesse and the ende of it rather well then good 19 An hypocrite and a flatterer are tryed like an Emraud which beeing rubbed on a Touchstone leaues the colour of copper 02 The teares of a distressed Soule are the sweetest and best spoken oratours for sinne they please Gods eye they pierce his eare and compel him to mercy though I cannot alwayes weepe when I pray yet when I onely weepe for my fins I pray effectually 21 Nimrod prooued his presumptuous audacitie and bootlesse cunning in deuising a Towre to rescue the people from being drowned if haply the waters should ouerflow as they had done formerly and so haled downe a greater iudgement on them then it was possible they should euer susteine thereby I will build the hope of my safety vpon Gods mercy not on the wisedome of the greatest Monarch If I fall vnder Gods hand he can and will assuredly raise me vpon my sorrow and submission If I leane to man for issue in my troubles I shall anger my God and gaine from thence no other assurance but of my certaine confusion 22 The accustomed folly of cholericke reuenge may take an end from that notable precedent Architas whose seruants were euer happy when he was angry because he would neuer at such times correct them Anger saith the wise King resteth in the bosome of fooles and therefore vndoubted wisedome it is to vanquish that vnruly passion It is the opinion of some that not to right themselues being wronged shewes them sottish and insensible of an iniury Rather had I be so reputed then of a fiery spirit and quarrellsome Gloriosius est iniuram tacendo fugere quam resparendo superare more glory it is to put off an iniury by holding ones peace then get the vpper hand by wrangling and contention 23 Since the Phisitiā knowes better what is good for the patient then himselfe doth I will not doubt of Gods mercy though I doe not alwayes receiue what I pray for for being he knowes my imbecilitie such as asketh
THE TRVE CHOICE of a FRIEND Shewing the Comfort of a faithfull Friend A Friend is neerer then a Brother LONDON Printed for Beniamin Fisher and are to be sold at the signe of the Talbot in Pater-noster-Row 1625. TO THE RIGHT HONOVRABLE Sr. Lionell Cranfield Knight Maister of his Maiesties Court of Wardes and Liueries and one of his Maiesties most Honourable Priuie Councell WHat I haue read of Sisimus experience resolues mee of your Honour that you are temperate vertuous liberall whereof my sight hearing feeling haue made me a sensible and iust witnesse Therefore though I were often discouraged whilest my vnpractised hand was trauelling in this Tract and thought as Dauid when he put off Sauls armour because he could not goe with it beeing not accustomed to haue retired with the losse of some paines especially seeing both opportunity place and requisite furniture were wanting to fauour my attempt yet these reasons not ceasing to allure me I followed them faintly as I could so far as any time would giue mee leaue For as there can be none more challenging then your Honour so great fauours freely deignd vnto me so would my negligence at lest to striue in some measure to requite them I considered sprinkle me with the fowlest blemish of ingratitude And finding your Honour so fit a personage in regard of the gratious temper of your mind to Patronize a Worke of this nature which handleth that ancient argument giuen at the first conquest of our first Parents in the Garden Pleasure and Ambition both so incident to their noblest wisest and mightiest ofspring after the flesh that Saint Paul in this respect noteth their condition to be most dangerous and consequently that they haue most neede of all others to be put in remembrance whereof I haue apertly and briefly displayed the vanity as being the maine and professed aduersaries of a conscionable care of religious duties I humbly craue your Honourable acceptance of it that it passing vnder the protection of such vertue others may bee animated like Adonijah flying for the safegaurd of his life to the hornes of the Altar to hasten from these extreames to the constant and safe Pillars of Temperance and a Christian reioycing which I haue like wise pitched vp vnto their view and these will be able as to defend them from infamy in this life so to present them blamelesse in the day of our common apperance I must acknowledge my selfe to haue written this Treatise in a boisterous Tempest that by looking downeward I might not see the threatning clouds ouer my head nor greatly feare their fall therein imitating Vlisses that stopped his eares with wax and would be tied to the maine mast of his ship that he might not heare the Sirens to his destruction so haue I put of with silence occasioned by this imployment the busie whisperings and sometimes the publike clamors of a distempered multitude that I might reteine patience in their highest displeasure which was kindled with no other fire but of mine earnest and double industry in seruing two allied Chappels in one day For which causes I knowing these labours of mine vnworthy of so graue and approued a iudgement submissly desire that the sinceritie of my intention may rectifie or at least excuse my faultes as your Honour shall meete with them The Lord speake peace vnto your soule and grant your Honour many prosperous dayes on earth that God may bee glorified in you you in his Christ Your Honours most humbly deuoted in all christian seruice Charles Goldwell REASONS Metamorphosis and Restauration MAN if relinquisht to himselfe were comparable to the veriest Brute for immanity saith Saint Augustine whom Chrysostome affirmeth to be the worst of all Euils Nulla homine immanior fera si sibi relinqueretur for as much as euery irrationall creature hath but one euill propriè of propertie belonging to it but Man abounds in al So that though he wash him with Niter and take him much Sope yet his iniquity is marked before God Ierem. 2.22 Now the first thing that transports the minde from setling on the most setled and sweetest happinesse is voluptuousnes His Reason in the Infancy approueth least the integritie of manners dissolute Pleasures best and this is warranted from the pretence of weaknesse which refuseth laudable and vertuous actions as too difficult such as most barren of content and sucketh on the breast of delights as onely sutable to the tendernesse thereof In the growth and maturitie when it is able to distinguish according to the worth and excellency of things should therefore make discretion of it selfe from that meere nature which is in Brutes not onely in the appetite but also in the choise and prosecuting of good then the obiects of Pleasure grow more specious and delectable in our eyes and we more diligent to execute her vnlawful motions for that we are then cunning to discharge our parts with her This proceeds not from the debilitie of Reason but partly from the force of allurements which are in Pleasure and partly from Natures refractarie headinesse which hauing gotten some aduantage of Reason will bee ruled no longer by it for so it appeares Nature is the Beast Reason the Bridle and Man holds the Reines Man sits fast vpon the Beast but heere loseth the reputation of manhood in that he cannot curbe and guide it as he should but suffers himselfe to be run away withall so preuenting the due efficacy and genuine operation of his Reason through vnskilfulnesse to vse it Behold then Pleasure Her pollicy amiably adorned with whatsoeuer may perswade the senses stands sweetly inuiting Her lips drop as an Hony combe and her mouth is more soft then oyle Prou. 15.12 Licentious Nature runs lasciuiously vnto her ignorant Man is carried violently with it and abused Reason as a dumbe Picture must neither see nor speake that best Minister of the soule is peremptorily put to silence This hath aduanced the head of Pleasure Her preferment There is not a vanitie in her shop but cries out to our shame In me turbaruunt luxuriosa proci A wanton troupe incenst with lust with hearts resolu'd vpon me thrust So she hauing fortified her selfe with friends of all sorts the Presidents haue chiefely giuen her preferment and now she sits as a Lady and saith I am and none else I shall not sit as a Widow nor see the losse of Children It was woe with Rahel Her prosperity with many naturall and godly Mothers in the bitter tempest of their teares which fell for their Children because they were not But Pleasure is an Harlot and speeds better not subiect to this losse not capable of this sorrow she is euer in youth and lust euer pregnant and euer bringing forth if she bury one she hath one borne if she lose an hundred for one she bewailes them not being sure of a motherly respect so long as but one liueth For her dition and command is as
imitator thereof Else am I like a prodigall Painter that pourtrayes euery well fauoured face he sees in the streete and giues them to as many other as hee meetes I will more aduance the worthy after death then before as honouring chiefely their vertues which are simply amiable and man for them 43 When I remember Ioseph in prison I consider the faithfull in oppresion But being fauoured by his keeper enlarged by the King and aduanced to be Ruler ouer all Egypt I see in that a mercifull calme ensuing euery tempest of their miserie I will esteeme Gods rodde as a mundifying plaister and hope for cure when I finde it applied yea I will desire to saile in such stormes that I may looke for mercy and obtaine it which else is not due to mee beeing a bastard and no sonne 44 Deuotion is the fuell meditation the fire praier the bellows Deuotion is cold till warmed by meditation and then burnes not till kindled by prayer 45 Drunkenesse is the blab of secrets the author of friuolous discourse the dissolution of amity the aduocate of adultery and pandore to the soule excluding vertue and letting in a crew of all beastly outrages I will dread it as a pestilence and shunne it as a Basilike for the loathsome and dangerous infection seeing it costs that in a short part of the shortest day which hath beene with much care many yeeres preserued a good name and so wrongs the weale of the soule before consecrated to God that then it lies insensibly buried in the ouerwhelmed dunghill of the body 46 I haue read of a bragging Spaniard that sought to aduance his credit for that in one night hee had lost tenne thousand crowns at dice. In temporalls an honest frugall purchasing most auaileth the estate and credit in Gods Church the good vsage and augmentation of our stipend is most commended as most beneficiall to the soule onely in Satans dominion his vassals gaine grace by impiety and thrine by scattering for being a kingdome of disorder and confusion all things are caried there in a contrary course they are best with him that are worst with God 47 The Sables haue their haire thickest in the winter and cleaning fastest to the skinne and are therefore then chiefely hunted The faithfull in aduersitie are richest in good workes and most exemplary in their vertues and therefore are then much hunted by the Deuill to draw them to distrust and driue them to dispaire 48 Iacob in his iourney to Haran would haue bread to eat and clothes to put on so let God grant me to feede on Christ by faith and be clothed with his righteousnesse and I shall freely confesse rhe Lord is my God and faithfully hold out to my iourneys end 49 Religion is like the holding vp of Moses hand when Ioshua fought with Amaleck whereby if it be forcible caried with zeale we are sure to preuaile with God for the pardon of our sinnes and peace of our soules but if feeble and defectiue it giues our roaring aduersary the vpper hand of vs. Therefore I will not passe the time present in loosnes and vanity wherein I should make prouision for the future but I will be alwayes labouring to augment my stocke of christian knowledge for the strengthening of my religion thinking I can neuer bee to couetous of such a good because the happinesse thereby procured I am sure can neuer be to much 50 True zeale like the fire vpon the Altar must alwayes burne neuer goe out or as the stone Abestus being once hot it must neuer wax starke cold for if the flame bee throughly extinguished it becomes from a reall to a bare nominall and then were the case mine owne I know I should soon fall frō grace to a reprobate sence and so frō hope to desperation frō heauen to hell Finis To the generous my worthy Friend Master T. A. è Soc. Temp. Inter. If that you muse to see your Name so short My Muse doth render this iust reason for 't I grudge the paper should take any part Of what is written wholy in my heart KInde Sir you may thinke it fit I should haue dedicated this practise to some very enemy that hereby I might haue taught him to become my friend and Suitable to mine owne humor but knowing that a horse marred in the breaking will euer after retaine some iadish tricke and that an ill bred nature can neuer make a good Friend with all the after teaching I haue on the contrary committed my Friend vnto my Friend where it shall bee sure of friendly entertainement were it but my seruant I would not send it to Nabal for a churlish repulse much lesse to Hanun to bee shorne and torne and after scorned and laughed at if not my seruant how then my Friend which being right and such an one as I desire to haue I Kindly recommend it to your selfe which shall euer tell you in my absence that I loue you which I am sure Isocrates saith is the propertie of a true Friend and onely enough for me who being present with you receiue such supply of your curtesies by the minute that I haue not time enough to count them lesse to studie to requite them till I am parted from you The God of peace be with you and guide your steps to the glory of his sauing grace Your louing Cousin and faithfull Friend C. G. Lectori cuicunque beneuolo Excipe quod fas est Nebulonem tolle Nouatum Integer ounctis Author amicus erit Neutamen nisanus videar necposse vouere Omnes sic vellem me redamare pios Tui cupientis C. G. FRiendly Reader there bee a great many whom I desire to haue occasion to know by the name of friends which neuertheles I would not choose to carry in my bosome nor make them my familiars I haue resolued thee why I desire whatsoeuer thou art no exceptions may be taken but if thy conscience check thee amend knowing it is more laudable to be a Damon then a Damocles a firme friend then a fawning flatterer I haue taxed none in particular which to doe I euer counted enuious odious but made it knowne that there are some false selfe-louing temporizing of all sorts with whom I will in no sort if I can choose be sorted Farwell My Friend IT is a happinesse to haue Friends but a greater happinesse not to stand in need of them for they serue most in these dayes like a Gowne ouer a Ierkin to keepe him warme that is warme already or as bladders vnder the armes of a cunning swimmer to offer him helpe that can shift well enough without them 2 I would haue my friend in one respect like a Gloeworme to shine most in the darke but not in an other to make shew of that he hath not to performe 3 I would haue him in one respect like a fish that will come best to the bait in rainy weather but not in another then to be most