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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	appear_v	good_a	great_a	807	5	2.3104	3	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A65957	The whole duty of a woman: or a guide to the female sex From the age of sixteen to sixty, &c. Being directions, how women of all qualities and conditions, ought to behave themselves in the various circumstances of this life, for their obtaining not only present, but future happiness. I. Directions how to obtain the divine and moral virtues of piety, meekness, modesty, chastity, humility, compassion, temperance and affability, with their advantages, and how to avoyd the opposite vices. II. The duty of virgins, directing them what they ought to do, and what to avoyd, for gaining all the accomplishments required in that state. With the whole art of love, &c. 3. The whole duty of a wife, 4. The whole duty of a widow, &c. Also choice receipts in physick and chirurgery. With the whole art of cookery, preserving, candying, beautifying, &c. Written by a lady.	Lady, fl. 1701.	1696 (1696)	Wing W2054B; ESTC R221014	59,390	159

take pains to Find out the least Mistake an Innocent Woman Committeth in Revenge of the supposed Injury she does in leading a Life which is a Reproach to them However even to the other Sex you must shun Illbred Affected shiness nor use an unsuitable Roughness to your own for these are unnecessary to your Vertue But you must take up a way of Living that may prevent all course Raileries or Unmannerly Freedoms carry Looks that may forbid without Rudeness and Oblige without Invitation But this is so very Nice that it must Engage you to have a perpetual watch upon your Eyes That no careless Glances give more Advantage that Words for those may be thrown out a● random and bear doubtful meanings but Men look on the Eyes as the Hearts Interpreters and gather more Assurance from them of Encouragement than from the Tongue their Language being more significant and observable to Men. Your Civility which must be always preserved must not by any means be carry'd to a Compliance which may Betray you into irrecoverable Mistakes for the doubtful word Compliance has lead more of our Sex into blame than all other things carrying them by degrees into a thing called a good kind Woman an Easie Idle Creature that bath neither Good nor Ill but by Chance not having Judgment or Choice but leaveth those to the Company she Converses withall to frame and determine for her Diversion is an easement and satisfaction in the Toiles of Live a Refreshment both of the Body and Mind But then it must be Moderate and Suitable not too Eager in the pursuit of Pleasure for that whilst you are young is Dangerous and to catch at it in Riper Years is grasping a Shadow for then being less Natural it grows Indecent and indeed though you suppose you have it you will find your mistake or at least cannot hold it Diversions are the most properly apply'd to Ease and Relieves as I have hinted those that are oppressed by being too much Imploy'd Those that are Idle have less need of them though above all others they are most given to them To Unbend our Thoughts when they are overstretched by too much Care is not more Natural than it is necessary But to turn your whole Life into one large Holiday not only palls the Pleasure but renders you Ridiculous The Mind as well as the Body is tired by being always in one posture too Serious Breaketh and too Diverting Loosneth it 't is only variety that giveth the Savoury Relish a frequent repetition grows first to Indifferency and after that becomes tedious but whilst they are well chosen and well timed they cannot be blameable yet to make your self cheap by tiring others with your Diversion in one of the meanest things that can be done To Play sometimes to Entertaim Company or to Divert your self is not to be Disallowed but to do it often to be call'd a Gamester is utterly to be avoided next to the things that are Criminal It Engages you to a habit of Idleness and ill Hours Introduce you into ill mix'd Company whilst you neglect your Civilities abroad and your Business at home draw you to Acquaintance that will not be for your Credit And indeed if you should see your own Faces upon an ill Game at a deep Stake you would certainly desist from any thing that could put your Looks under such a disadvantage To Dance or Play on any suitable Instrument of Musick is commendable but in the first place Remember the end of your Learning of it was That you might the better know to move Gracefully for it is only an advantage so far and when it goeth beyond it one may call it Excelling in Musick which is no great Commendation As for the latter it is to Delight the Sadness of the Mind and Tune over Melancholy Hours but be careful not to do these often because you do them well the easiest and safest Method is to do it in Private Company amongst particular Friends and then Carelesly like a Diversion and not with Study and solemnity as if it was a Business or your self over much Affected with it Bebaviour to Superiors c. As to these in the first place you must render what is seemly that is such Civility and Obliging Respectfulness as may win upon them not only to Esteem you but rank you among the number of their Friends and speak well of your deportment and demeanor as one of an Ingenious Education and good Parts Equals must be treated with all Civility and Freedom the occasion requires lest you be reflected on as Proud and Conceited A young Lady or Gentlewoman will find a great uneasiness in conversation if she appear solli●itous to ingross respect to her self You therefore ought to be content with a reasonable distribution and allow it to others that you may have it returned to you You must not be troublesomly Nice nor discover your self to be too Delicate as if ordinary things were too course for you This is an Vnmannerly and an Offensive Price and where it 〈◊〉 Practised deserves to be Mortified o● which indeed it seldom fails You are not to lean too much upon your Quality but seem rather mean in your ow● Opinion that others may exalt you you● Fame founding far more sweeter in th● Mouths of others than in your own Inferiours expect Courtesie and Obliging Condescensions towards them and in doing them all the good offices you can it will much endear them to you And indeed this many times keeps up a Reputation in spight of Blemishes A kin● Word or pleasing Look from a Superiour is strangely Charming and rivets their Affections to you Which consideration made the Wise Man Prefer a good Wor● Before a Gift It is a cheap way of gaining Love A Frown or a Reproach put you to more trouble than good Words o● an affable smiling Temper It was the saying of a good Emperor in this case Th● be would so entertain the Addreses of his Subjects as if he were a Subject he would wish the Prince should entertain him a Ru● very worthy to sway all persons especially those of Honour in their entercourse with others And when you meet with a cold neglectful treatment from any above you examine your own resentments and then reflect That if you give the like to those ●elow you they will doubtless have the same Sense and therefore resolve never to offer what you do so much dislike to bear and when you do thus such Inferiours will convert an Injury into a Benefit You will Civilize your self by the Rudeness of others and make that ill Nature your own Disci●line Some indeed make Quality an Idol and then their Reason must fall down and Worship it They would have the World think that no amends can be made for the want of a great Title or an ancient Coat of Arms. They imagine that with these advantages they stand upon the higher Ground which maketh them look down on Merit and Virtue