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A79881	Aurea Legenda, or Apothegms, sentences, and sayings of many wise and learned men, useful for all sorts of persons Collected out of many authors by Sa. Clark, sometimes pastor in B.F.	Clarke, Samuel, 1599-1682.	1682 (1682)	Wing C4488A; ESTC R223906	51,711	152

to Honour Moderation preserves us in it Men come down by Domineering Haste undoeth that which a just delay ripeneth It was his excellent Motto Nolo Minor me timeat despiciatve Major My Inferiours shall not fear my Superiors shall not despise me Humility shuns Honour and is the way to it The purest Gold is most Ductile It 's commonly a good Blade that bends well The Reed that bends and is whole is better than the strong Oak that not bending breaks There is no such prevalent Workman as Sedulity and Diligence A man would wonder at the mighty things which have been done by degrees and gentle Augmentations Patience Diligence and Moderation are the common steps to Excellency It 's for Omnipotence to do mighty things in a Moment But by degrees to grow to greatness is the course he hath left for man We make our selves more injuries than are offered us and the apprehension of wrong doth more harm than the smartest part of the wrong it self It 's the Wise man's Glory and the States-mans Prudence to pass by offences A Fool struck Cato in the Bath and when he was sorry for it Cato had forgot it For saith Seneca Melius putavit non agnoscere quam ignoscere Light injuries are made none by not regarding which with a pursuing revenge grow both to height and burden and live to mischief us when they might die to secure us The upper Region is most composed The Wisest men rage the least knowing that Observation and Resentment do but provoke and encourage the Malice which neglect and silence deads and dissipates Discontent is the greatest Weakness of a generous Soul which is always so intent upon it's unhappiness that it forgets it's Remedies Faction can be as little spared in a Monarchy as an Eye or an Ear as through which the Prince hath a cleerer apprehension of his own and other's affairs than he can have when his Followers are all agreed But when Factions are carried too high and too Violent it 's a sign of Weakness in Princes and tends much to the Prejudice of their Authority and Business Queen Elizabeth had a happy time of it if it were but for this That her Favourers Divisions were her support For thereby she attained the knowledge of all things that happened So as no Suit or Design passed the Royal assent before she understood as much of Reason as Enemies or Friends could bring for or against it The Lord Willoughby in Queen Elizabeths days having taken a Spanish Genet designed for a Present to that King and being offered either a Thousand pound or a Hundred pound a year in exchange for it He nobly answered If it had been a Commander he would freely have released him but being only a Horse he saw no reason why he could not keep a good Horse as well as the King of Spain himself It 's a right noble Spirit not to be so stupid as not to resent nor so unworthy as to retain a sense of Injuries To have the Courage to observe an affront is to be even with an Adversary To have the Patience to forgive it is to be above him Sr. Henry Wotton as he was travelling to Rome asked his Host at Siena a Man well versed in men and Business what Rules he would give him for his Port Conduct and Carriage There is one short remembrance said he will carry you safe through the World nothing but this Keep your thoughts close and your Countenance loose Seneca said That the good things of Prosperity are to be wished and the good things of Adversity to be admired Prosperity said my Lord Bacon is the blessing of the Old Testament and Adversity of the New We are consecrated by Dangers to Services and we know not what we can do until we have seen all we can fear The common People saith one are like Rivers which seldom grow so impetuous as to transcend the bounds of Obedience but upon the Over-flowing of a general Oppression Good Husbandry may as well stand with great Honour as Breadth may may consist with Height Of Edward Earl of Darby it is recorded That when he was buried no Trades-man could demand the Payment of a Groat that he owed him Nor a Neighbour the restitution of a Penny he had wronged him Sr. William Fitz-Williams a brave Soldier used to say That he durst never adventure upon War with Men till he had made his Peace with God That a good Conscience breeds great Resolutions and the innocent Soul is impregnable Six things are recorded of him 1. That he never made the Aged the Young or the Weak the Objects of his Rage that could not be so of his Fears 2. That he never basely killed in cold Blood them that had nobly escaped his Sword in Hot. 3. That he never led the Soldiers without pay or quartered in the Country without Money 4. That tho he was second to none that acted in the War such was his Valour yet he was the first that spake for Peace such his sweet Disposition 5. That he would never suffer a Clergy-Man should be abused A Church to be violated or the Dead to be un-buried 6. That he would never force an Enemy unto necessity always saying Let us disarm them of their best Weapons Despair Not fight an Enemy before he had Skirmished him Nor undertake a Design before he Consulted his God his Council his Friends his Map and his History Sr. Walter Mildmay coming to the Court after he had founded his Colledge Emanuel in Cambridg Queen Elizabeth said to him Sr. Walter I hear that you have erected a Puritan Foundation No Madam said he far be it from me to Countenance any thing contrary to your Established Laws But I have set an Acron which when it comes to be an Oak God alone knows what will be the Fruit of it The middle Region of the Air is coolest as most distant from the direct Beams that warm the Highest and the reflexed that heat the lowest The mean man that is as much below the Favour of the Court as above the Business of the Country is the most happy and Composed man This being the utmost of a knowing Man's wish in England That he were as much out of the reach of Contempt as to be above a Constable and as much out of the Compass of trouble as to be below a Justice There is a Glory in the obscurity of worthy Men who as the Sun which they equal as well in common Influence as Lustre are most looked on when Eclipsed Cloths for necessity warm Cloths for Health cleanly for Decency lasting for Strength was the Maxim and Practice of Judg Manwood insomuch as Queen Elizabeth called him her Good-man Judg. Tullies Offices a Book which Boys read and men understand was so esteemed by the Lord Burleigh that to his dying Day he always carried it about him either in his Bosom or in his Pocket as a complete Piece that like Aristotle's Rhetorick would make both

State Worthies p. 156. He that is Master of my Heart said a Wise man is Master of my Life If my Shirt said Metellus knew my mind I would burn it It 's pitty he ever learned to speak that know's not how to be silent I would first be so Wise said a great Man as to be mine own Counsellor and next so secret as to be mine own Counsel-Keeper How dar'st thou be so Plain said Heliogabalus to one of his Courtiers Because I dare Dye said he I can but Dye if I am Faithful and I must Dye tho I flatter It 's an excellent Rule Ask an inferior Man's advice in private that he may be free and a Superior's in Publick that he may be respectful A Country-man in Spain coming to an Image the first making whereof he could well remember and not finding from the same that respectful usage which he expected You need not quoth he be so Proud for we have known you ever since you were a Plumb-Tree Edward 3 d. King of England having sent to France to demand the Crown by his Maternal right the Council there sent him word that the Crown of France was not tyed to a Distaff To which he replied that then he would tye it to his Sword He was a wise Man that said Delay hath undone many for the other World Haste hath undone more for this Time well managed saves all in both It 's said of Grandees That they are the first that find their own Griefs and the last that find their faults Men of great Fortune are stangers to themselves and while they are in the puzzle of Business have no time to attend the Welfare either of Body or Soul and therefore they should with-draw from this World before they retire into another For Illi mors gravis incubat qui notus nimis omnibus ignotus moritur sibi Cato Major would say That wise Men learn more of Fools than Fools do of wise Men. King Charles the 1 st would say That it was Wisdom in Fools to jest with wise Men but madness for wise Men to jest with Fools And another added There is no man that talks but I may gain by him and none that holds his Tongue but I may lose by him If a Man wrong me once saith the Italian God forgive him If he wrong me the second time God forgive me And Cosmus Duke of Florence said You shall read that we are commanded to forgive our Enemies but you never read that we are commanded to forgive our Friends A fat Man in Rome riding always upon a very lean Horse being asked the Reason thereof answered That he fed himself but he trusted others to feed his Horse And a Judg of our own being asked what was the best way to thrive said Never do any thing by another tha● you can do by your self One of our Judges said that he durst not entertain a Gift which said he Conquers both the Foolish and the Wise which in Publick places it is a Vice to accept and not a Virtue to offer it being a Snare rather than a Favour Manners make a Man saith the Courtier Money makes a Man saith the Citizen Learning makes a Man saith the Schollar Conduct makes a Man saith the Soldier But sincerity in Religion makes a Man saith the Divine The Lord Chief Justice Mountague used to say Meum est jus dicere potius quam jus dare It 's my Duty rather to interpret than to give Laws Of Stephen Gardiner B B. of Winchester it is recorded that he never did what he aimed at never aimed at what he intended never intended what he said and never said what he thought whereby he carried it so that others should do his Business when they opposed it and he should undermine their's when he seemed to promote it A man he was that was to be traced like the Fox and read like Hebrew backward If you would know what he did you must observe what he did not Stephen Gardiner B B. of Winchester in Queen Maries days concerning the Princess Elizabeth said That it was in vain to Lop the Branches so long as the Root remained And concerning those that fled for Religion beyond Sea he said That he would watch their Supplies so that they should Eat their Nails first and then fee'd upon their Fingers ends After the defeat of the Devonshire Rebels in King Henry 8 th's time one Sr. William Kingston who was Provest Marshal went to Bodmin in Cornwwall where one Bowyer the Major had been enforced to assist them To him Sr. William sent word that he would come and Dine with him for whose Entertainment the Major made great Provision A little before Dinner the Provest took the Major aside and told him that an Execution must that day be done in the Town and therefore he must set up two Gallows The Major did so After Dinner Sr. William thanks him for his Entertainment and then desires him to bring him to the Gallows where when they were come Sr. William asked him whether they were strong enough I I l'e warrant thee said the Major Then said Sr. William get you up upon them I hope said the Major you do not think as you speak Nay Sr saith he you must Dye for you have been a busie Rebel and so without more adoe hanged him A Miller also that had been very busie in that Rebellion fled and left another to take his Name upon him Sr. William calls for the Miller The Servant tells him that he was the Man Then saith he you must be hanged Oh Sr. saith he I am not the Miller but his Servant If you are not the Miller said Sr. William you are a lying Knave If you are the Miller you are a Traytor and how ever you must Dye And so he did Sr. Nicholas Bacon who was Lord Keeper in Queen Elizabeths Days the Queen coming one day to his House asked him why his House was so little He answered Madam my House is not too little for me but you have made me too big for my House He never affected nor attained to a great Estate Mediocra firma was his Principle and his Practice He used to say That he would never forgive that Man that loseth his Friend to be rid of his jest William Cecil Lord Burleigh never would sue nor ever was sued by Man Prudens qui patiens was his saying Queen Elizabeth coming once to visit him being sick of the Gout at Burleigh House in the Strand and she being much heightned with her Head attire then in fashion the Lord's servant who conducted her through the Door said May your Highness be pleased to stoop The Queen answered For your Masters sake I will stoop but not for the King of Spains Some of this wise Lord's Sayings were these The World is a Shop of Instruments whereof the Wise man is Master and a Kingdom but a Frame of Engines whereunto he is the Wheel Smoothness declineth Envy and Danger Humility advanceth

a sum of Money should not empty the King's Coffers neither should Riches be the pay of worth which are meerly the Wages of Labour He that gives it embaseth a Man He that takes it vilifies himself Who is so most rewarded is least Secretary Walsingham would say Stay a little and we shall have done the sooner Secretary Cecil would say It shall never be said of me that I will defer till to Morrow what I can do to day Sr. Richard Morison would say Give me this day and take the next your self He that knoweth to speak well knoweth also where he must hold his Peace said the Old Grecian Think an Hour before you speak and a Day before you Promise said one of our English Sages The two main Principles which Guide humane Nature said Judg Dodderidg are Conscience and Law By the former we are obliged in reference to another World by the latter in Relation to this When the Lord Chief Justice Fitz-James came upon the Bench he knew no more than Melchisedech or Levi Father nor Mother neither Friend nor Interest For when a Cousin of his urged for a kindness Come to my House said the Judg and I will deny you nothing Come to the King's Court and I must do you Justice Plato said That a Man's mind is the Chariot Reason the Coach-man Affections the Horses desire of Honour the Whips both exciting to go forward and awing to be exact Honour always keeping up curiously the Honoured Person in an heigth of Action that keeps an even Pace with admiration Evenness and Constancy being the Crown of Vertue The Lord Gray was the first that brought a Coach into England And Henry Fitz-Alan Earl of Arundel when he was Steward at King Edward the 6 th's Coronation was the first that rid in a Coach in England William Pawlet Marquess of Winchester was Servant to King Henry the 7 th and for Thirty years together Treasurer to King Henry the 8 th King Edward the 6 th Queen Mary and Queen Elizabeth Thus he served divers Soveraigns in very mutable Times being as he said of himself no Oak but an Osier He had the rare happiness of setting in his full Splendour having lived ninety seaven years and seen a Hundred and three that descended out of his Body Sr. Henry Sidney's Motto was I will never threaten For to threaten an Enemy is to instruct him A Superiour is to endanger my Person And an Inferiour is to disparage my Conduct The Character of a happy Life HOw happy is he born and taught That serveth not another's Will Whose Armour is his honest thought And simple Truth his utmost skill Whose Passions not his Masters are Whose Soul is still prepar'd for Death Vnty'd unto the World by care Of Publick Fame or private breath Who envies none whom Chance doth raise Nor Vice hath ever understood How deepest Wounds are given by Praise Nor Rules of State but Rules of Good Who hath his Life from Rumours freed Whose Conscience is his strong Retreat Whose State can neither Flatterers feed Nor ruin make Oppressors great Who God doth late and early pray More of his Grace than Gifts to lend And entertains the harmless Day With a Religious Book or Friend This Man is freed from servile bands Of hope to rise or fear to fall Lord of himself tho not of Lands And having nothing yet hath all Sr. Henry Wotton It was an excellent Saying of Sr. John Packinton in Queen Elizabeth's days that a sound Faith was the best Divinity A good Conscience the best Law And Temperance the best Physick Upon the fall of the Earl of Somerset DAzled still with heigth of place Whilst our Hopes our Wits beguile No Man marks the narrow space 'Twixt a Prison and a smile Then since Fortunes favours fade You that in her Arms do sleep Learn to swim and not to Wade For the Hearts of Kings are deep But if Greatness be so blind As to trust in Towers of Air Let it be with Goodness lin'd That at least the fall be fair Then tho darkned you shall say When Friends fail and Princes frown Virtue is the roughest way But proves at Night a Bed of Down Sr. Henry Wotton It 's one of Machiavel's rules That they which rise very high should descend timely and quit the Envy lest they lose the Honour of their greatness When Charles the 5 th presented Secretary Eraso to his Son Philip the 2 d. he said He gave him somewhat greater than his Estate and more Royal than his Empire I understand not saith mine Author speaking of James Hay Earl of Carlisle the reason of his Ante-Suppers the manner of which was to have the Table coverd at the first entrance of the Guests with Dishes as high as a tall Man could well reach filled with the choicest and dearest Viands Sea or Land could afford And all this once seen and having feasted the Eyes of the invited was removed and fresh was set on to the same heigth having only this advantage of the others that it was hot At one of these Meals an Attendant did Eat to his single share a whole Pye reckoned to the Earl at Twenty pound being composed of Amber-Greece Magisterial Pearl Musk c. And another went away with Forty pounds of Sweet-meats in his Cloak-bag When the most able Physicians and his own Weakness had passed a Judgment upon this Earl that he could not live many days he did not forbear his Entertainments but made divers brave Cloths as he said to Out-face naked and despicable Death adding withal That Nature wanted Wisdom Power or Love in making Man mortal and subject to Diseases Sr. Thomas Lake was a Man of such dixterity and dispatch that he would indite Write and Discourse at the same time more exactly than most Men could severally perform them for which he was then called the swift-sure Of Sr. Edward Cook it is recorded that he would never be perswaded privately to retract that which he had Publickly adjudged Professing That he was a Judg in a Court not in a Chamber He was wont to say No wise man would do that in Prosperity whereof he should repent in Adversity His Motto was Prudens qui patiens It 's a sure Principle of rising that great Persons esteem better of such as they have done great Courtesies to than those they have received great Civilities from looking upon this as their Disparagement the other as their Glory It 's an excellent Rule that no man should let what is unjustifiable or Dangerous to appear under his Hand thereby to give Envy a steady aim at his Place or Person Nor mingle interests with great Men made desperate by Debts or Court injuries whose falls have been ruinous to their wisest Followers Nor pry any farther into secrecy than rather to secure than shew himself Nor to impart that to a Friend that may impower him to be an Enemy It was the Saying of a great Man among us that a through-paced Papist