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A20038	The bachelers banquet: or A banquet for bachelers vvherein is prepared sundry daintie dishes to furnish their tables, curiously drest, and seriously serued in. Pleasantly discoursing the variable humours of vvomen, their quicknesse of wittes, and vnsearchable deceits.	Dekker, Thomas, ca. 1572-1632, attributed name.; La Sale, Antoine de, b. 1388?, attributed name.; Tofte, Robert, 1561-1620, attributed name.	1604 (1604)	STC 6477; ESTC S115691	61,544	79

she growes so queasie stomackt that she can brooke no common meates but longs for strange and rare things which whether they be to be had or no yet she must haue them there is no remedie She must haue Cherries though for a pound he pay ten shillings or gréene Pescods at foure Nobles a pecke yea he must take a horse and ride into the Countrey to get her greene Codlings when they are scarcely so big as a scotch button In this trouble and vexation of mind and body liues the silly man for fire or seuen moneths all which time his wife doth nothing but complaine and hee poore soule takes all the care rising earely going late to bed and to be short is faine to play both the husband and huswife But when the time drawes néere of her lying downe then must he trudge to get Gossips such as she will appoint or else all the fatte is in the fire Consider then what cost and trouble it will be to him to haue all things fine against the Christning day what store of Sugar Biskets Comphets and Carawapes Marmalet and marchpaue with all kind of swéete suckets and superstitious banqueting stuffe with a hundred other odde and needlesse trifles which at that time must fill the pockets of daintie dames Besides the charge of the midwife she must haue her nurse to attend and kéepe her who must make for her warme broaths and costly cawdels enough both for her selfe and her mistresse being of the minde to fare no worse then she If her mistresse be fedde with partridge plouer woodcocks quailes or any such like the nurse must be partner with her in all these dainties neither yet will that suffice but during the whole moneth she priuily pilfers away the suger the 〈◊〉 and ginger with all other spices that comes vnder her kéeping putting the poore man to such expence that in a whole reare he can scarcely recouer that one moneths charges Then euery day after her lying downe will sundry dames visit her which are her neighbours her kinswomen and other her speciall acquaintance whom the goodman must welcome with all cheerefulnesse and be sure there be some dainties in store to set before them where they about some three or foure houres or possible halfe a day will sit chatting with the Child-wife and by that time the cups of wine haue merily trold about and halfe a dozen times moystned their lips with the sweet iuyce of the purple grape They begin thus one with another to discourse Good Lord neighbour I maruaile how our gossip Frees doth I haue not seene the good soule this many a day Ah God helpe her quoth another for she hath her hands full of worke and her heart full of heauinesse While she drudges all the weeke at home her husband like an v●…thrift neuer leaues running abroad to the Tennis court and Dicing houses spending all that euer he hath in such leaud sort yea and if that were the worst it is well But heare you Gossip there is another matter spoyles all he cares no more for his wife then for a dog but kéepes queanes euen vnder her nose Iesu saith another who would thinke he were such a man he behaues himselfe so orderly and ciuilly to all mens sights Tush hold your peace Gossip saith the other it is commonly seene the still sowe ●…ates vp all the drasse he carries a smooth countenance but a corrupt conscience That I knowe F. well enough I will not say he loues mistresse G goe too Gossip 〈◊〉 d●…ke to you Yea and saith another there goes foule lies if G. himselfe loue not his maide N I can tell you their mouthes will not be stopt with a bushell of wheat that speake it Then the third fetching a great sigh saying by my truth such an other bold Bettresse haue I at home for neuer giue me credit Gossip if I tooke her not the other day in close conference with her maister but I thinke I beswaddeld my maide in such sort that she will haue small list to doe so againe Nay Gossip saith another had it bene to me that should not haue serued her turne but I would haue turned the queane out of doores to picke a Sallet for ●…ot ye what Gossip it is ill setting fire and flare together but I pray you tell me one thing when saw you our friend mistresse O? now in good see the she is a kind creature and a very gentle Peat I promise you I saw her not since you and I dranke a pinte of wine with her in the fish market O Gossip saith the other there is a great change since that time for they haue bene faine to pawne all that euer they haue and yet God knowes her husband lies still in prison O the passion of my heart saith another is all their great and glorious shew come to nothing good Lord what a world is this Why Gossip saith another it was neuerlike to be otherwise for they loued euer to goe●…ne and fare daintily and by my faith Gossip this is not a world for those matters and thereupon I drinke to you T is is commonly their communication where they finde cheate according to their choyce But if it happen contrarie that they find not things in such plentie and good order 〈◊〉 they would wish then one or other of them will talke to this effect Trust me Gossip I maruell much and so doth also our other friends that your husband is not ashamed to make such small account of you and this your swéete child If he be such a ●…iggard at the first what will he be by that time he hath fiue or six it doth well appeare he beares but little loue to you whereas you vouchsaffng to match with him hath done him more credit then euer had any of his kinred Before God saith another I had rather sée my husbands eyes out then he should serue me so therefore if you be wise vse him not to it neither in this sort let him tread you vnder foole I tell you it is a foule shame for him and you may be well assured sith he begins thus that hereafter he will vse you in the same order if not worse In good sooth saith the third it séemes very straunge to me that a wise woman and one of such parentage as you are who as all men knowes is by blood farre his better can endure to be thus vsed by a base companion Blame vs not to speake good Gossip for I protest the wrong that he doth you doth likewise touch vs and all other good women that are in yourcase The Child wife hearing all this begins to wéepe saying Alas Gossip I know not what to doe or how to please him he is so diuerse and wayward a man and besides he thinkes all too much that is spent Gossip he is saith one a bande and a naughtie man and se it is well séene by your vsage 〈◊〉 my Gossips here present can tell that

lesson taught them well enough knowing by custome how to behaue themselues to wearie their maister well he comes home to his aforesaid friends calls presently for some of his seruants but one of the maides make answere of whom he demaunds whether all things be readie In good faith sit my mistresse is very sicke and here is no body else can doe any thing with that he being angry ●…des his friends into the hall or some other place according to his estate where he findes neither fire made nor cloath laide Iudge then in what a taking he is although it may be that his friends perceiued by the sending of his man that his commaundements were not of such force as an act of parliament The good man being ashamed calls and gapes first for one man then for an other and yet for all this there comes none except it be the scullion or some chare woman that both vse his house whom his wife hath left there of purpose because shée knew they could serue to doe nothing Being herewith not a little mooued vp he goes into his wiues chamber and thus speakes vnto her Gods precious woman why haue ye not done as I wild ye Why saith she you appoint so many things to be done that I know not what to doe Before God saith he and with that scratches his head you haue done me a greater displeasure then you thinke these are the dearest friends that I haue and now here is nothing to set before them Why quoth she what would you haue me to doe I wis if you cast your cards well you shall finde that we haue no néede to make banquets I would to God you were wiser but sith you will needes be so lustie euen goe through with it your selfe on Gods name for I le not meddle with it But what the diuellment ye saith he to send all the seruants abroad Why quoth she what did I know that you should néede them now yet did she kn●…w it will enough and had of purpose sent them forth on ●…eeuelesse arrands the more to anger and despight him who seeing that he can preuaile nothing giues ouer talking to her and gets him downe in a bitter chafe for it may be that his guestes be of such account and he so much beholding vnto them that he had rather haue spent a hundred crownes then it should so haue fallen out But she cares not a whit being well assured that howsoeuer she thwarts him he will hold his hands and in scolding she knowes her selfe to be the better To be short the poore man being vexed with shame and anger runnes vp and downe the house gets as many of his seruants together as he can If his prouision be but slender at ho●… he sendes presently abroad in the meane while he calles for a cleane towell the best table cloath and wrought napkins But the maide answeres him that he can haue none Then vp to his wife goes he againe and tels her that his friends doe intreate her to come downe and bare them companie shewing her what a shame it is and how discourteously they will take it if she come not And finally he vseth all the fairest speeches that he can to haue her come and to welcome and entertaine them for his credites sake Nay in faith quoth she I will not come they are too great states for my companie and no doubt they would scorne a poore woman as I am It may be shée will goe but in such sort and with such a countenance that it had bene better for him she had not come at all for his friends will somewhat perceiue by her lookes and gesture that howsoeuer they be welcome to the good man she had rather haue their roome then their company But if she refuse to come as it is the more likely then will he aske her for the best to well table-cloth and napkins Napkins quoth she as though those that be abroad alreadie be not good enough for greater and better men then they are when my brother or any of my kinsmen come which are I wis their equals in euery respect they can be content to be serued with them but were these your guestes neuer so great yet could I not now fulfill your request though my life should lie on it for since morning I haue lost my keyes of the great chest where all the linnen lies I pray you bid the maide looke for them for in good truth I know not what I haue done with them and no maruell for I haue so much to doe that I know not how to bestir my selfe well I wotte I haue spoyled my selfe with continuall care and trouble Now in good faith quoth he you haue drest me fairely but it is no matter Before God ●…le breake open the chest Now surely then quoth she you shall doe a great act I would faine see you doe it I would for my part you would breake all the chestes in the house The poore man hearing her in these termes knowes not well what to doe but takes that which he next lightes on and therefore shifts as well as he can he causeth his guestes to sit downe at the table and because the beere then a broach is on tilt and therefore not very good he bids one of the seruants broach a new barrell and fill some fresh drinke but then there is neither tap nor spigget to be found for his wife of purpose hath hidden them out of the way Towards the end of the dinner he cals for cheese and fruite but there is none in the house so that he is faine to send to the neighbours for the same or else be vtterly destitute meane while his boy being at the table with the guestes at last tels them how his mistresse faines her selfe sicke because she is not pleased with their maisters comming Well when bed time comes he can get no cleane sheetes nor pillowbeeres because forsooth the keyes are lost so that they must be content to lie in those that be foule and haue bene long laine in The next morning they get them gone betimes séeing by the good wiues countenance that they are nothing welcome By the way their Lackies tell them what the Gentlemans boy reported whereat they laught hartily yet finde themselues agréeued vowing neuer to be his guest any more The husband also getting him vp betimes in the morning goes presently to his wife and thus begins By Iesus wife I muse what you meane to vse me thus I know not how to liue with you Then she replies saying Now God for his mercy am I so trouble some God wot I am euery day poore soule troubled with kéeping your hogs your geese your chickens I must card I must spin continually kéepe the house looke to the seruants and neuer sit still but toyling vp and downe to shorten my daies and make me die before my time and yet I cannot haue one houres rest or quietnes with you

feare of discredit for thereby her name might haue bin brought in question therefore all things considered she doth vnwillingly God knowes let him supplie her husbands place garnishing his temple for pure good will with 〈◊〉 badge Thus hath she got a newe Gowne which her good man refused to giue her to bleare whose eyes and kéepe him from suspition she gets her mother in her Husbands sight to bring home the cloch and giue it her as though it were her cost and least also she should suspect any thing she makes her belieue she bought it with the money which she got by selling odde commodities which hér Husband knewe not of But it may be and oft happens so that the Mother is priuy to the whole matter and a furtherer thereof After this Gowne shee must haue another and two or thrée silken embrothered gyrdles and other such costly knacks which the Husband seeing will in the end suspect somwhat and begin to doubt of his wiues honestie or shall perhaps receiue some aduertisement hereof from some Friend or Kinsman for no such matter can be long kept close but in the end wil by some means or other be made knowne and discouered Then falls he into a f●…antick vaine of Iealousie watching his Wiues close packing and for the better finding of it out hée comes home on a sudden about midnight thinking then to discouer all and yet perhappes may misse his purpose Another time comming in at vnawares he seeth some thing that he likes not and then in a Furie falles on railing but be sure that she answers him home not yéelding an inch vnto him for besides the aduantage of the fight which is waged by her owne trustie weapon her Tongue I meane shee knowing withall that she is of better birth hits him in the téeth therewith and threatens him to tell her Friends how hardly he doth vse her To be short the poore man shall neuer haue good day with her but either with thought of her incontinencie or if he speake to her he is borne 〈◊〉 with scolding lies and despised of his owne Seruants his state tunnes to ruine his wealth decayes his body dries vp and weares away with griefe Hee growes desperate and c●…elesse Thus is hee plunged in Lobs pound wearied in a world of discontents wherin notwithstanding he takes delight hauing no desire to chaunge his state but rather if he were out and knewe what would follow yet would he neuer rest till he had gotten in againe there to spend and end as now he must his life in griefe and miserie CHAP. VI. The Humor of a Woman that striues to maister her Husband THe next humor wherevnto a Woman is addicted is when the Husband hath got a faire young Wife who is proper and fine in whome hee takes great delight yet perhaps she is bent altogether to crosse and thwart the man being of a kinde and milde nature louing her entierly and maintaines her as well as he can notwithstanding her frowardnesse It may be also that she hath care of his credite and honestie and doth abhorre such leaudnesse as shee of whome we spake before did vse yet hath shee neuerthelesse an extreame desire of Soueraigntie which is knowne a common fault amongst Women and to be her Husbands commaunder and a busie medler in his matters be hee a Iudge a Nobleman or Gentleman she will take vpon her to giue sentence and answere Suters and whatsoeuer shee doeth he must stand to it This is I say a generall imperfection of Women be they neuer so honestly neuer so kindly vsed and haue neuer so much wealth and ease to striue for the Bréeches and be in odde contrarie humours of purpose to keepe her Husband in continuall thought and care how to please her He gets him vp betimes in the morning leauing her in Bed to take her ease while hee stirres about the house and dispatcheth his busines looks to the seruants that they loyter not ●…auseth Dinner to be made readie the Cloth to be laide and when all thinges are ready he sends one to desire her to come downe who brings backe answere that she is not disposed to Dine No saith he I will neither sit downe nor eate a bit till she be here So receiuing his second message by his Maid or perhaps by one of his children replyes thus Go tell him againe that I will not dine to day He hearing this is not yet satisfied but ●…ends likewise the third time and in the ende goes himselfe and thus begins How now what ayles you Wise that you will eate no meate hereto she answeres not a word The poore man maruels to see her in this melancholy dumpe although perhaps she hath plaid this pageant many times before and vseth a●… entreatie he may to knowe of her the cause thereof but in vaine for indéed there is no cause at all but onely a méere mockerie Sometimes she will persist so obstinately in this humor that for all the perswasions and kindnesse that he can vse she will not come Sometimes it may be she will and then he must leade her by the hand like a bride and set her chaire readie for her meane while it is so long before he can get ●…er downe that the meate is cold when it comes to the table Being set she will not eate one bit and he séeing that like a kinde Asse will ●…ast likewise whereat she smiles inwardly hauing brought him so to her bowe first in crossing him then in making him to fast from dinner wherein to say the truth she hath reason for what néedes a woman to seeke his fauour who doth alreadie loue her and shew her all the kindnes that he can Sometimes the good man ryding abroad about his businesse méetes with two or thrée of his friends with whom perhaps he hath some dealings and hath bene long acquainted with them It may be also that he inuites them home to his house as one friend will doe to another and sends his man before to his wife to make all things readie in the best sort that she can for their entertainment the poore seruingman gallops in such hast that both himselfe and his horse is all on a sweate when he comes home he doth his ar●…and to his mistresse telling her withall that the guests which his maister brings are men of good account Now by my faith saith she I will not meddle in it he thinkes belike that I haue nothing else to doe but drudge about to prepare banquets for his companions he should haue come himselfe with a vengeance and why did he not Forsooth saith the seruant I know not but thus he bad me tell you Go too saith she you are a knaue that meddles in more matters then you haue thanke for The poore fellow hearing this holds his peace she in a fume stings vp into her chamber and which is worse sends out her seruants some one way some another as for her maydes they haue their