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A12100	Lectures or readings vpon the 6. verse of the 22. chapter of the Prouerbs concerning the vertuous education of youth: a treatise very necessary for all parents in this corrupt and declining age of the world.	Shelford, Robert, 1562 or 3-1627.	1602 (1602)	STC 22401; ESTC S114782	69,487	141

these things haue I obserued from my youth Of this sweete dutie of fayre speech Salomon giueth this commendation Prouer. 16. Fayre wordes are as an hony combe sweetenes to the soule and health to the bones Here on the contrarie parents must haue a speciall care to keepe their children from al foule and vnseemely speech for this is contrarie to faire speech and forbidden Ephes. 4. Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouthes Now this corrupt speech are those foule tearmes which are so common in the mouthes of vnnurtured children as knaue drab whore theefe this is rotten and corrupt speech most vnseemely for the mouth of any Christian and this is that that destroyeth good manners as the Apostle saith 1. Cor. 13. Euill wordes corrupt good manners And here further I must put you in minde to keepe your youth from speaking contemptuously of those which are in authority yea though they he euill men for wee are to reuerence them not so much for themselues as for Gods ordinance and weaken once the maiestie and good estimation of gouernours and then all will goe awrie Iude maketh this vice a marke of a reprobate These sleepers also defile the flesh and despise gouernment and speake euill of them which are in authoritie and wee reade in the 2. Kings 2. that two and fortie children were deuoured of two beares for mocking Elisha Gods Prophet Againe on the other side children must not onely be compelled to leaue this filthie corrupt speech but also they must bee commaunded to vse fayre and gentle words the child must louingly intreate the seruant the seruant must againe gently answer the childe this is commanded Ephes. 4. Bee yee courteous one to another and tender harted We must therefore vse curteous and louing speech one to another for out of the aboundance of the heart the mouth speaketh if the heart bee tender the speech cannot be rough and hard If this discipline were practised amongst vs oh what sweete and comfortable houses should wee haue euen like vnto the amiable communion of Gods saintes it would doe any man good to liue in such a family which is like vnto Gods dwel there where skoulding brawling and cursed speech runneth to fro like y e yelling of the wicked spirits in that infernal dungeō 2. The second duty of good nurture about the gouernement of the tongue in fayre and comely speech is not only to speake well and honorably of others but also to speake modestly and humbly of our selues this poynt of good manners we learne of that wise matron Abigaile in 1. Sam. 25. where we reade that when she was sent for of Dauid to be his wife she first bowed her selfe to the seruants and then made this lowly answer to him that brought the message beholde let thine handmaide bee a seruant to wash the feete of the seruants of my Lord. 3. The third dutie of Christian manners in fayre speech is louingly to salute our friendes and acquaintance and generally all others whom we take to be brethren This salutation is to pray well to others wishing health and prosperity vnto thē exāple of this we haue in the Angel Gabriel who being sent of God in message to the virgin Marie he first saluted her in these words Hayle thou that art freely beloued the Lord is with thee blessed art thou amongst women And againe as we read afterward in the same chapter thus Marie y e mother of our Lord went and saluted her cousē Elizabeth who was then with child of Iohn Baptist where to the great cōmēdatiō of this kind dutiful salutatiō we read that y e babe sprang in her belly for ioy according to that which before we repeted out of the Prouerbs Faire wordes are as an hony combe sweetnes to the soule health to the bones Now our salutations are either common vpon euery meeting or extraordinarie vpon some new occasion Common as God giue you good morrow God speede you well extraordinarie as I pray God giue you much ioy of your aduancement And example of this wee haue 1. Kings 1. where it is sayd that the people came to blesse or salute King Dauid vpon the annoynting of Salomon his sonne king and in their salutation they sayd God make the name of Salomon more famous then thy name and exalt his throne aboue thy throne 4 The fourth dutie of faire speech is to acknowledge a benefit where we haue receiued it with giuing of thankes And this dutie is counselled of the wise man Eccles. 29. Forget not the friendship of thy suretie for hee hath layd his life for thee And example of this duetie we haue in Laban towards Iacob Gen. 30. To whom Laban answered If I haue now found fauour in thy sight tarry I haue perceiued that the Lord hath blessed me for thy sake So if men would acknowledge with thankfulnes vnto their good friends that they had receiued a blessing from God by their means this would encourage them to continue their bountie good will towards them as Iacob was now contented to dwell still with Laban but this rude vnthankfulnes rendeth vs from al good being abhorred of God and hated of man 5. The fift duetie of faire speech is to confesse an offence where it is committed with humble crauing of pardon And example of this we haue in that vertuous and faire spokē matron Abigaile as we may read 1. Sam. 25. where she taking vpon her the person of her loutish husband Nabal appeaseth the fierce wrath of Dauid and redeemeth the liues of all her familie with this one duetie of good manners And when Abigaile saw Dauid she hasted and lighted off her asse and fell before Dauid on her face and bowed her selfe to the ground and fell at his feete and said Oh my Lorde I haue committed the iniquitie and I pray thee let thine handmayd speake vnto thee Let not my Lord I praye thee regard this wicked man Nabal for as his name is so is hee Nabal is his name and folly is with him c. Then Dauid sayd to Abigaile Blessed bee the Lord God of Israel which sent thee this day to meete mee and blessed bee thy counsell and blessed bee thou which hast kept mee this day from comming to shead bloud and that mine hand hath not saued me c. Oh that men saw what great daungers they draw vpon them by the neglect of this duetie and might preuent and also what gratious blessings they might procure both to themselues and others by meanes of it as this vertuous Abigaile kept Dauid from sheading innocent bloud saued her owne life with the liues of all her familie and in the ende was receiued to be a Princes wife for the wise carrying of her selfe in this matter as wee may reade in the ende of the chapter Now the second thing which wee are to obserue in our speech 1. For

If they see them poore or sicke they sorrow and sigh but though they see them sinne they sorrow not And in this they shew that they brought foorth the bodies of their children but not their soules 3. The third vice is committed of such poore parents which make no great choise with what masters dames they place their children so they haue meate and drinke enough and wages thereto competent and are neither backe beaten nor belly beaten as they say Alas such poore children while they serue for their bellies they may lose their soules because they want godly masters and dames to giue them holesome instruction to hold them in by good example and to gouerne them continually in the feare of the Lord. Wherefore here let all parents learne that it is their duetie to make choise of such masters and dames for their children as are godly and religious wise hearted such as are both able well disposed to traine vp youth in all good nurture Gods seruice and not onely this for the greatest care of al lieth vpon the parent but also they must so often as conueniently they may repaire vnto them and see how they profit and hold them vp by their good counsell be carefull to entreate those which haue the gouernmēt of them to be good vnto them in this chiefe point aboue the rest For as Salomon saith Life and death is in the power of the tongue So wee may well say life and death is in the education of our children If they be well brought vp it shal be life vnto them but if it be otherwise they are trained vp to euerlasting death 4. The fourth vice is the fault of many masters dames who make no further reckoning of their seruants then they doe of their brute beasts For so long as their worke and busines bee well done by them they care for no more and they will teach them no further then may serue for their owne turne and benefit that is to be a profitable seruant vnto them Such masters make their seruants drudges to the world and the diuell and the life of such youth dieth while it shooteth vp All these sinne and trespasse against this commandement of the heauenly father because they are contrarie to good nurture and godly instruction Now hauing shewed what parents and all other gouernours of youth are to shunne in the education of children and seruants wee must come to the second poynt which is to shew wherein this carefull and diligent instruction is to bee executed and this is contained in these words in the trade of his way I will not trouble you with the idiome of the originall the words are faithfully translated and significant enough Vnder these words are contained three diuers instructions in all which the Lord here commaundeth parents to bring vp their children The first is that which we commonly call an occupation or profession of life and this is either mechanicall which wee call handicraft or liberall which is the learning of Schooles and the end of this is either to get his liuing honestly and in Gods ordinance or else if he wanteth no maintenance to applie his profession and trade of life to the benefit of the Common-wealth No childe of what birth and stocke soeuer he be of ought to want this instruction and bringing vp If thou saiest my childe hath no neede of any trade yet the Common-wealth and Gods Church hath need of him and the very Heathen Philosophers will teach thee that no mā is borne for himselfe but his friends will require one part his kindred another and his coūtrie the third And if handicrafts like thee not thou hast the Liberall Sciences of which no man euer was yet ashamed but many haue made them their crowne of glorie Mithridates the great King of Pontus was trained vp in Phisicke and hath left vnto all posterities that worthie confection which is called of his own name Mithridate a treasure more worth then Princes Crownes Iustinian the Romane Emperour was that great Lawyer which by his owne industrie gaue perfection to the law of Nations Quintus Cincinnatus was called from the plow to beare that high office of the Dictatorship in Rome Saul was annointed King while he was seeking his fathers Asses and Dauid was taken from the sheepfold to feed with his wisedome and gouerne with his prudence that honourable people of the children of Israel And againe we reade that those two famous Prophets Elisha and Amos the one was called from the plow and the other from keeping of beasts Which examples do plainly teach vs that the great and reuerend God despiseth no honest trade of life bee it neuer so meane but crowneth it with his blessing to drawe all good minds to his holy ordinance But now adaies such is the pride of our hearts a thing to bee lamēted through all our land that our gentle mens children may not be brought vp in any trade oh it is too base beggerly for thē they must liue of their lands they must maintaine their gentrie a small learning will serue their turne but while this ordinance of God is neglected what miserie from hence ensueth who are the wasters of patrimonies who are the robbers and reuers in the Common-wealth who are the deflowrers of maidens who are the defilers of matrons who are y e corrupters of youth and to speake in one word who are the seedes men of all mischiefe in our countrie but these children of gentlemen who haue not beene taught and trained vp in the trade of their way while they were young For euen as a weede if it grow in a ranke soyle will waxe out of measure noysome so these children comming of honorable parents brought vp in ease and pampered with the delights of gentrie they waxe immeasurably vitious and who may keepe them vnder neither lawes nor Magistrates nor any other good meane Wherefore here the Lord that he might hold all youth vnder his obedience which otherwise would runne out into all maner of extremities he streightly commaundeth all parents whosoeuer 〈◊〉 bring vp their children in some honest 〈◊〉 and profession of life that so thereby they might bee kept from committing much euil and that when they be come to yeares of gouernment God might bee glorified by them and the Common-wealth in which they liue receiue the common mutuall duetie Now then you plainly see here what God requireth none must liue idly but all must bee taught to benefit Gods Church and the common-wealth and such a one is not worthy to liue in any wel ordered and good Common-wealth which cannot one way or other discharge the common duetie thereof The second thing which the Lord requireth at the hands of parents towards their children vnder the name of the trade of their way is that they should teach thē good manners and ciuill behauiour to rise vp to their betters to vncouer the head to make obeisance to be