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A41038	The life of the most learned, reverend and pious Dr. H. Hammond written by John Fell ...	Fell, John, 1625-1686.; Waring, Robert, 1614-1658.; Allestree, Richard, 1619-1681.; Langbaine, Gerard, 1609-1658.	1662 (1662)	Wing F618; ESTC R35672	58,303	255

that if this were believ'd it were impossible any one should attempt to express kindness by robbing him of his greatest pleasure The principal thing he contracted for in Friendship was a free use of mutual Admonition which he confin'd not to the groffer guilts which enemies and common fame were likely to observe and minde men of but extended it unto prudential failings indecencies and even suspicious and barely doubtful actions nay beyond that unto those vertuous ones which might have been improv'd and render'd better He was us'd to say it was a poor designe of Friendship to keep the person he admitted to his breast onely from being scandalous as if the Physician should endeavour onely to secure his patient from the Plague And what he thus articled for he punctually himself perform'd and exacted back again to be returned unto himself And if for any while he observ'd that no remembrance had been offer'd to him he grew afraid and almost jealous of the omission suspecting that the Courtier had supplanted the Friend and therefore earnestly inforc'd the obligation of being faithful in this point and when with much adoe somewhat of advertisement was pick'd up he receiv'd it alwaies as huge kindeness and though the whole ground of it happen'd to be mistake yet he still return'd most affectionate thanks His good will when plac'd on any was so fix'd and rooted that even supervening Vice to which he had the greatest detestation imaginable could not easily remove it the abhorrencie of their Guilts leaving not onely a charity but tenderness to their Persons and as he has profest his concernment rather encreas'd then lessened by this means compassion being in that instance added unto love There were but two things which he would say were apt to give check to his affections Pride and Falseness where he saw these predominant he thought he could never be a friend to any purpose because he could never hope to do any good yet even there he would intend his Prayers so much the more by how much the less he could doe besides But where he saw a malleable honest temper a Jacob's plain simplicity nothing could there discourage him and however inadvertency or passion or haply some worse ingredient might frustrate his designe he would attend the mollia tempora as he call'd them those gentle and more treatable opportunities which might at last be offer'd He so much abhorr'd artifice and cunning that he had prejudice to all concealments and pretensions He us'd to say he hated a Non-causa and he had a strange sagacity in discovering it When any with much circumlocution and contrivance had endeavour'd to shadow their main drift and purpose he would immediately look through all those mists and where 't was in any degree seasonable would make it appear he did so His charity of fraternal correption having onely this caution or restraint the hearer's interest of which he judg'd that when advice did not doe good 't was hardly separable from doing harm and on this ground sometimes he did desist But wheresoe're he gave an admonition he prefac'd it alwaies with such demonstrations of tenderness and good will as could not fail to convince of the affectionate kindness with which 't was sent though it could not of the convenience or necessity to embrace it And this he gave as a general rule and enforc'd by his Example never to reprove in anger or the least appearance of it If the passion were real that then was evidently a fault and the guilty person most unfit to be a judge if it were resemblance onely yet even that would be so like to guilt as probably to divert the offender from the consideration of his failance to fasten on his Monitor and make him think he was chid not because he was in fault but because the other was angry Indeed the person who would not be some way mov'd with his advices must be strangely insensate and ill-natur'd Though his Exhortations had as much evidence and weight as words could give them he had over and above a great advantage in his maner of speaking His little phrase Don't be simple had more power to charm a passion then long harangues from others and very many who lov'd not Piety in it self nor to be troubled with the news of it would be well pleas'd to be invited and advis'd by him and venerated the same matter in his language which they have derided in anothers He would say he delighted to be lov'd not reverenc'd thinking that where there was much of the latter there could not be enough of the former somewhat of restraint and distance attending on the one which was not well consistent with the perfect freedome requisite to the other But as he was thus no friend to ceremonious respect he was an open enemy to Flattery especially from a Friend from whom he started to meet the slightest appearance of that servile kindness Having upon occasion communicated a purpose against which there happen'd to lye some objections they being by a friend of his represented to him he immediately was convinced and assumed other Counsels But in process of discourse it happen'd something fell in that brought to minde a passage of a late Sermon of the Doctor 's which that person having been affected with innocently mentioned such apprehensions of it and so past on to talk of other matters The next day the Doctor having recollected that probably the approbation given to the passage of the Sermon might be an after-design to allay the plain-dealing which preceded it expostulated his surmise protesting that nothing in the world could more avert his love and deeply disoblige him then such unfaithfulness But being assur'd that there was no such art or contrivance meant he gladly found and readily yielded himself to have been mistaken In other cases he was no way inclinable to entertain doubts of his friends kindness but if any irregularity chanc'd to intervene and cause misapprehensions he gave them not leave to root and fasten by concealment but immediately produc'd his ground of jealousy and exacted the like measure back again if his own proceedings fell at any time under a doubtful or unkinde appearance This he thought a justice essential to Friendship without which it could not possibly subsist For we think not fit to condemn the most notorious Malefactor before he hath had licence to propose his plea and sure 't is more strangely barbarous to treat a Friend or rather Friendship it self with less regard To the performances of friendship he hated all mercenary returns whereof he was so jealous as hardly to leave place for gratitude Love he said was built upon the union and similitude of mindes and not the bribery of gifts and benefits So generous was he herein that he has oft profest he admitted retributions of good turns yet not so much on any score as that his Friend might have the pleasure of being kinde There was a person of quality a great and long

ten and eleven in the morning he had a solemn intercession in reference to the National Calamities to this after a little distance succeeded the Morning Office of the Church which he particularly desired to perform in his own person and would by no means accept the ease of having it read by any other In the afternoon he had another hour of private prayer which on Sundayes he enlarg'd and so religiously observed that if any necessary business or charity had diverted him at the usual time he repair'd his Soul at the cost of his Body and notwithstanding the injunctions of his Physicians which in other cases he was careful to obey spent the supper-time therein About five of the clock the solemn private Prayers for the Nation and the Evening Service of the Church return'd At bed-time his private Prayers closed the Day and after all even the Night was not without its Office the LI Psalm being his design'd midnight entertainment In his Prayers as his Attention was fixt and steddy so was it inflam'd with passionate fervors insomuch that very frequently his transport threw him prostrate on the Earth his tears also would interrupt his words the later happening not onely upon the pungent exigencies of present or impending Judgements but in the common Service of the Church which notwithstanding his concealments being taken notice of by a person of good sufficiency once a member of his House in Oxford that became of late years a Proselyte to the new extemporary way he among his other Topicks whereby he thought to disparage set Forms us'd in discourse to urge the heartless coldness of them and to adorn his triumph would make it his solemn wonder how a person of so good parts as D r Hammond was certainly master of could finde motive for his tears in the confession in the beginning of the Liturgy So much does Passion and mis-guided Zeal transport the most sensible that this man otherwise sagacious enough never consider'd how ill an instance he had made which shew'd 't was the coldness of the Votary and not the Prayer that was in fault whenever fervor was deficient at the publick Office of the Church The Charity and extent of his Prayers was as exuberant as the Zeal and fervour he thought it very unreasonable that our Intercessions should not be as universal as our Saviours Redemption was and would complain of that thrift and narrowness of minde to which we are so prone confining our Care either to our selves and relatives or at most to those little angles of the world that most immediately concern'd us and which on due account bear very low proportions to the whole There was no emergent distress however remote but it inlarg'd his Litany every years harvest and new birth of mischiefs which for several ones past constantly fell on the Orthodox and Loyal party in the Nation remov'd it self from the sanguinary Edicts of the Tyrant to be transcrib'd and expiated by his pathetical office of Devotion In which Calendar and Rubrick the thirtieth of January was sure to have a very solemn place and a peculiar Service prepar'd for it Nor did he onely take to heart general National concernments but even the more private Exigencies of the sick and weak had a staple interest in his Prayers Among all which none had so liberal a part as they that merited them least yet wanted them most his and what was usually the same thing the Churches and God's Enemies He never thought he had assur'd his forgiveness of injuries unless he returned good for them and though other opportunities of this best kinde of retaliation might fail him that of his intercessions never did Three persons there were who above all men by unworthy malice and impotent virulence had highly disobliged him but he in recompence of their guilt had a peculiar dayly Prayer purposely in their behalf and though in the openness of his Conversation with his most intimate acquaintance he confest thus much yet he never nam'd the persons though probably that was the onely thing which he conceal'd it being his method to withhold nothing especially of confidence or privacy from one he own'd as Friend And having mentioned the name of Friend however incidentally we must not leave it without homage Friendship being the next sacred thing unto Religion in the apprehensions of our Excellent Doctor a Vertue of which he was a passionate lover and with which he ever seem'd to have contracted Friendship The union of Mindes thereby produced he judg'd the utmost point of humane Happiness the very best production that Nature has in store or grows from earth So that with compassion he reflected on their ignorance who were strangers to it saying that such must needs lead a pitiful insipid herb-John-like life Upon this ground he us'd with all industrious art to recommend and propagate Friendship unto others and where he saw several persons that he judg'd capable of being made acquainted to mutual advantage he would contrive that league and where himself had kindness unto any so allied he would still enjoyn them to be kinder to each other then to him besides he still labour'd to make all his friends endeared to each of them resolving it to be an Errour bottomed on the common narrowness of Soul which represented Amity like sensual love to admit no rivals confin'd unto two persons When he ever happen'd to see or be in company with such as had an intimate and hearty kindness for each other he would be much transported in the contemplation of it and where it was seasonable would openly acknowledge that his satisfaction In the list and number of his Friends there chanced to be three persons who having in their youth contracted a strict intimacy had undertaken the same profession and accordingly had the same common studies and designments and with these the opportunity through the late Troubles to live in view of each other whom for that reason he was us'd with an obliging envy to pronounce the most happy men the Nation had Accordingly he profest that for his particular he had no such way of enjoying any thing as by reflexion from the person whom he loved so that his friend's being happy was the readiest way to make him so Therefore when one eminently near to him in that relation was careless of health his most pressing argument was his complaint of unkindness to him And this way of measuring selicities was so natural to him that it would occur even in the most trivial instances when there has been any thing at the Table peculiarly wholesome in relation to his infirmities if his Friend who was in a like weak condition forbare to eat of it in civility to him he would with vehemence of grief resent it as his singular unhappiness after so many professions not to be believed that he had a thousand times rather that his friend should have that which was conducible to health then to have it himself and then assum'd

not onely as the greatest service unto God and to our neighbour but as the greatest security to our selves it being like the not expecting of a threatned War at home but carrying it abroad into the Enemies country And nothing in the Christian's Warfare he judg'd so dangerous as a truce and the cessation of hostility With all parly and holding intelligence with guilt in the most trivial things he pronounc'd as treason to our selves as well as unto God for while saith he we fight with Sin in the fiercest shock of opposition we shall be safe for no attempts can hurt us till we treat with the assailants Temptations of all sorts having that good quality of the Devil in them to fly when they are resisted Besides whereas young people are us'd to varnish o're their non-performance and forbearance of good actions by a pretence unto humility and bashful modesty saying they are asham'd for to doe this or that as being not able for to doe it well he assur'd them this was arrant pride and nothing else Upon these grounds his Motto of instruction to young persons was Principiis obsta and Hoc age to withstand the overtures of ill and be intent and serious in good to which he joyn'd a third advice to be furnish'd with a Friend Accordingly at a solemn leave-taking of one of his disciples he thus discours'd I have heard say of a man who upon his death-bed being to take his farewell of his Son and considering what course of life to recommend that might secure his innocence at last enjoyn'd him to spend his time in making of Verses and in dressing a Garden the old man thinking no temptation could creep into either of these Employments But I in stead of these expedients will recommend these other the doing all the good you can to every person and the having of a Friend whereby your life shall not onely be rendred innocent but withall extremely happy Now after all these Excellencies it would be reason to expect that the Doctor conscious of his Merit should have look'd if not on others with contempt yet on himself with some complacency and fair regard but it was farre otherwise there was no enemy of his however drunk with Passion that had so mean an Esteem either of him or of his Parts as he had both of the one and other As at his first appearing in publick he was clearly over-reach'd and cheated in the owning of his Books so when he found it duty to goe on in that his toilsome trade of writing he was wont seriously to profess himself astonish'd at their reception into the world especially as he withall was pleas'd to adde since others fail'd herein whose performances were infinitely beyond any thing which he was able to doe From this opinion of his mediocrity at best and the resolution of not making any thing in Religion publick before it had undergone all Tests in point not onely of truth but prudence proceeded his constant practice of subjecting all his Writings to the censure and correction of his friends engaging them at that time to lay aside all their kindness or rather to evidence their love by being rigidly censorious There is scarce any Book he wrote that had not first travail'd on this errand of being severely dealt with to several parts of the Nation before it saw the light nay so scrupulous was the Doctor herein that he has frequently upon suggestion of something to be changed return'd his papers the second time unto his Censor to see if the alteration was exactly to his minde and generally was never so well pleas'd as when his Packets return'd with large accessions of objectings and advertisements And in this point he was so strangely adviseable that he would advert unto the judgement of the meanest person usually saying that there was no one that was honest to him by whom he could not profit withall that he was to exspect Readers of severall sorts and if one illiterate man was stumbled 't was likely others of his form would be so too whose interest when he writ to all was not to be pass'd over Besides those less-discerning Observators if they could doe nothing else he said could serve to draw teeth that is admonish if ought were said with passion or sharpness a thing the Doctor was infinitely jealous of in his Writings Many years since he having sent one of his Tracts unto an eminent person in this Church to whom he bore a very high and merited regard to be look'd over by him he sending it back without any amendment but with a profuse Complement of liking every thing the good Doctor was much affected with the disappointment onely comforted himself herein that he had reap'd this benefit to have learn'd never to send his Papers to that hand again which resolution to his dying day he kept Nor was this caution before the publishing of his Books sufficient but was continued after it the Doctor importuning still his friends to send him their Objections if in any point they were not satisfied which he with great indifference consider'd in his reviews and subsequent Editions however took more kindly the most impertinent exception then those advertisements of a different kinde which brought Encomiums and lavish praises which he heard with as great distaste as others do the most virulent Reproaches A farther proof of this low esteem the Doctor had of himself if such were possible would be meekness to those that slighted him and disparag'd his abilities this being the surest indication that our Humility is in earnest when we are content to hear ill language not onely from our selves but from our enemies which with how much indifference this inimitable person did 'tis neither easy fully to describe nor to perswade to just belief The short is as he was never angry with his pertinacious dissenters for not being of his minde in points of speculation no more was he in the least with his scornful Opposites for their being of it in their little value of his Person And though he had as well as other men seeds of incitation in his natural temper and more then others temptation to it in his dayly and almost intolerable injuryes yet such was the habitual mastery he had gain'd over himself that the strictest considerers of his actions have not in ten years perpetual conversation seen his Passion betray him to an indecent speech Nor was his sufferance of other kindes less exemplary then that he evidenc'd in the reception of Calumny and foul Reproach for though Pain were that to which he was us'd to say he was of all things most a Coward yet being under it he shew'd an eminent Constancy and perfect Resignation At the approach of Sickness his first consideration was what Failing had provok'd the present Chastisement and to that purpose made his earnest prayer to God and enjoyn'd his friends to doe the like to convince him of it nor onely so but tear and rend away though

had not courage to pursue his undertaking but voluntarily relinquished that infamous robbery and adhered to a less scandalous one in the Country And then the Officer who was commanded to take Doctor Sheldon and him into Custody upon their design'd removal Colonel Evelin then Governour of Wallingford-Castle though a man of as opposite principles to Church and Church-men as any of the adverse party wholly declin'd the employment solemnly protesting that if they came to him they should be entertained as Friends and not as Prisoners But these remorses prov'd but of little effect the Prebend of Christ-Church being suddenly supply'd by a second choice and Oxford it self being continued the place of their Confinement Where accordingly the good Doctor remained though he were demanded by His Majesty to attend Him in the Isle of Wight at the Treaty there which then was again re-inforced The pretence upon which both he and the Reverend Doctor Sheldon were refused was that they were Prisoners and probably the gaining that was the cause why they were so But notwithstanding the denial of a personal Attendance the Excellent Prince requir'd that assistance which might consist with absence and at this time sent for a Copy of that Sermon which almost a year before He had heard preach'd in that place The which Sermon his Majesty and thereby the publick receiv'd with the accession of several others delivered upon various Occasions Doctor Hammond having continued about ten weeks in his restraint in Oxford where he begun to actuate his designe of writing Annotations on the New Testament nor was it disproportionate that those Sacred Volumes a great part of which was wrote in bonds should be first commented upon by the very parallel suffering and that the Work it self should be so dedicated and the Expositor fitted for his task by being made like the Authors by the interposition of his Brother in Law Sir John Temple he had licence granted to be removed to a more acceptable confinement to Clapham in Bedfordshire the House in which his worthy Friend Sir Philip Warwick lived Where soon after his arrival that horrid mockery of Justice the rape and violence of all that 's Sacred made more abominable by pretending to Right and Piety the Trial of the King drew on and he being in no other capacity to interpose then by writing drew up an Address to the General and Council of Officers and transmitted it to them And when that unexampled VILLANY found this Excuse that it was such as could be pleaded for and men in cool blood would dare to own and justifie he affix'd his Reply to the suggestions of Ascham and Goodwin And now although he indulg'd to his just and almost-infinite Griefs which were transported to the utmost bounds of sober Passion the affectionate personal respect he bore unto that glorious Victime being added to the detestation due unto the guilt it self of which no man was more sensible then he who had strange antipathies to all sin he gave not up himself to an unactive dull amazement but with the redoubled use of Fasting Tears and solemn Prayer he resum'd his wonted Studies and besides his fitting the Annotations for the Press and his little Tract of the Reasonableness of Christian Religion he now composed his Latine one against Blondel in the behalf of Episcopacy As to the first of which his Annotations the manner of its birth and growth was thus Having written in Latine two large volumes in Quarto of the way of interpreting the New Testament with reference to the customs of the Jews and of the first Hereticks in the Christian Church and of the Heathens especially in the Grecian games and above all the importance of the Hellenistical Dialect into which he had made the exactest search by which means in a maner he happened to take in all the difficulties of that Sacred Book he began to consider that it might be more useful to the English Reader who was to be his immediate Care to write in our vulgar Language and set every Observation in its natural order according to the guidance of the Text. And having some years before collated several Greek Copies of the New Testament observ'd the variation of our English from the Original and made an entire Translation of the whole for his private use being thus prepar'd he cast his work into that form in which it now appears The reasons of it need not to be here inserted being set down by his own Pen in his Preface to his Annotations The Tractate against Blondel grew to its last form and constitution by not-unlike degrees having a very different occasion from the last performance The immediate antecedent cause is own'd and long agoe presented to the World in that writing the more remote Original is as follows The late most Learned Primate of Armagh having receiv'd from Dav. Blondel a Letter of Exception against his Edition of Ignatius he communicated it to Doctor Hammond desiring his sense of several passages therein contained relating to the Valentinian Heresie Episcopal and Chorepiscopal power and some emergent difficulties concerning them from the Canons of several ancient Eastern Councils To all this the Doctor wrote a peculiar answer promising a fuller account if it would be useful Upon the receipt whereof the Archbishop being highly satisfied return'd his thanks and lai'd hold of the Promise which being accordingly discharg'd became the provision and gave materials to a great part of the Dissertations The Primate's Letter ran in these words I have read with great delight and content your accurate Answer to the Objections made against the credit of Ignatius his Epistles for which I do most heartily thank you and am moved thereby farther to intreat you to publish to the World in Latine what you have already written in English against this Objector and that other who for your pains hath rudely requited you with the base appellation of Nebulo for the assertion of Episcopacy to the end it may no longer be credited abroad that these two have beaten down this Calling that the defense thereof is now deserted by all men as by Lud. Capellus is intimated in his Thesis of Church-government at Sedan lately published which I leave unto your serious Consideration and all your Godly labours to the blessing of our good God in whom I evermore rest Rygate in Surrey Jul. 21. 1649. Your very loving Friend and Brother Ja. Armachanus Now in this request the Archbishop was so concern'd that he re-inforc'd it by another Letter of Aug. 30. and congratulated the performance by a third of Jan. 14. Both which though very worthy to see the publick light are yet forborn as several of the like kinde from the Reverend Fathers the Bishops of this and our Sister Churches as also from the most eminent for Piety and Learning of our own and the neighbouring Nations which course is taken not onely in accordance to the desires and sentiments of the Excellent Doctor who hated every thing that