Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	affection_n	love_n	love_v	2,519	5	6.3625	4	true

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A59541	Several discourses and characters address'd to the ladies of the age wherein the vanities of the modish women are discovered / written at the request of a lady, by a person of honour.	Shannon, Francis Boyle, Viscount, 1623-1699.	1689 (1689)	Wing S2965A; ESTC R38898	101,219	214

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