Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	affection_n	love_n	love_v	2,519	5	6.3625	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A20497	A discourse against flatterie	Chandos, Grey Brydges, Baron, d. 1621.; Devonshire, William Cavendish, Earl of, 1590-1628, attributed name.; Cavendish, Gilbert, attributed name.; Hobbes, Thomas, 1588-1679, attributed name.	1611 (1611)	STC 6906; ESTC S116952	26,793	158

man himselfe but inuēt some good thing which he faines hee heard some body speaking of him abroade which he will say he was very glad to heare herein imitating the Rhetoricians who many times in their Orations vse the third person for the first another will inuent some ill which hee faines he heard spoken of you which when hee tels you you knowing it to be vntrue and denying it then hee takes liberty to praise you falling into your commendations shewing how farre you euer were from such and such vices as hee reports you were taxed withall others if a man bee giuen to any vices they will not commend them but approue them by discōmending the cōtrary vertues as calling temperance rusticity and such as liue within their estates misers and so forward towards the maintayning of any vice they thinke a man hath a mind to One that is well conceipted of himselfe and his owne iudgement thus they assaile They will make an errand to him for his coūsaile in some waighty affaires or busines of theirs as esteeming his wit and iudgement farre aboue their owne and his opinion being heard be it what it will he will fall into admiration of him preferring his counsaile opinion before any that hee hath heard But if a man suspect this in any one the way to finde him out is this to giue him some absurd counsaile he shall finde he comes prepared to commend it whatsoeuer it be Therefore all these flatterers let vs auoide and bee carefull in the choise of our friends lest in stead of an honest friend we find a false flatterer and that we be not deceiued let vs obserue the difference betwixt them both Friendship takes no pleasure to bee imployed in ill and dishonest actions but in any thing that may be for the profit and good of his friend none so willing as hee But the flatterer is quite contrary whose friendship is farre worse then open enmity for from them we may get or gaine somthing but from the flatterer nothing is to bee gotten but reproch mischiefe and dammage Therefore it is not good to keepe such friends as shall raise themselues by our fall hurt nor such as loue our meate and meanes in a higher degree then they loue our selues for none of these sort lōger then our purse perswades them will bee your friends But he that is a true friend hath his affection grounded vpon loue and vertue and no waues of contrary ill fortune will alter or stir him Where as the flatterer leaues vs in the lurch flies to our aduersaries and commonly is the chiefe cause of our ruine and destruction Againe a true friend imitates not all he seeth his friend doe nor commends any thing but that which is good wheras a flatterer contrariwise like a Camelion that can turne himselfe to all colours but white can frame himselfe to any thing but good A friend orders frames all his actions to the good of his friend but a flatterer bends all his actions to his own proper good A true friend modestly blames his friends vices in his presence and praises his vertues in his absence but a flatterer alwaies exaltes him in his presence rather for his vices then his vertues behinde his backe blames him and defames him makes his vaunts that hee only possesseth him gouernes him at his pleasure and makes him doe what he will The true friend serues for a healthfull medicine but the flatterer is as a sweet poison A true friend preserues a man in his estate and wealth but a flatterer precipitates him to ruine and destruction Flattery for the most parte respectes it owne particular benefit and thereby is knowne but friendshippe seeketh not the good of it selfe The Flatterer is diuers in his iudgements like waxe or a looking Glasse that receiues many formes he is a Camelion a Polypus faine to praise or dispraise alwayes commodating himselfe to the mind of him hee Flattereth A friend is firme and constant a Flatterer vexeth himselfe too violently in all that hee doth in the viewe and knowledge of him hee Flattereth euer praising and offering his seruice Non imitatur amicitiam sed praeterit he hath no moderation in his outward actions and contrariwise inwardly hee hath no affection which are conditions quite contrarie to a true friend A flatterer alwayes giues the victorie to him he Flatters alwayes applauding hauing no other end then to please whereas a true friende respectes not so much how he may please as how hee may profit A friend alwayes respectes procures and attempts that which is reason honestie and dutie The flatterer that which belongs to passion and pleasure and that which is already a malady in the minde of him that is flattered therfore he is a friend to licentiousnesse and an enemie to all plaine dealing and honesty Euery man by nature hath these two parts within him the one part is giuen to truth and honestie the other to vntruth and withall passionate the true friend euer assisteth the better part in giuing counsell and comfort the Flatterer applyeth himselfe to the other part which is voide of reason and full of passion still feeding and pleasing it by deuising some vicious and dishonest pleasures that they quite diuert it from the rule of reason and they are like some kind of meat which neither breedeth good blood nor engendreth spirits nor addes vigor nor strength to any man but all the good they doe is either to prouoke lust or breede some fogges rotten humours that are neither fast nor sound So if a man looke narrowly to a Flatterer he shall neuer find any good to com from him but find them to be sowers of dissensiō breeders of enuie exasperaters of men to lewdnes nursers of prodigalitie perswaders to diffidence and distrust in our friends to base and seruile timiditie alwayes making vs worse and apt to conceiue ill still soothing vs vp in our owne ill humors Art thou angrie with one punish him saith he hast thou a minde to any thing buy it and no more a doe Desirest thou this or that wench spare no cost for her saith hee winne her and weare her Suspectest thou any thing beleeue it confidently saith he And thus he behaues himselfe still soothing vs in those things that we haue but the least inclination vnto For the Office which a Flatterer seemeth to performe hath in it nothing true nothing iust nothing simple nothing liberall for it desires onely to be employed in shamefull and dishonest actions friendship only in honest ones a Flatterer seekes to pleasure vs in those thinges that are vniust And thus you see a man cannot both be a friend and a flatterer that is as much as if I should say a friend and no friend for one friend is to stand to another to assist him in doing not in misdoing in consulting and not in complotting conspiring In bearing witnesse with him of the trueth and not in circumuenting