Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	affection_n	friendship_n	love_n	1,017	5	5.1675	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A15754	A display of dutie dect vvith sage sayings, pythie sentences, and proper similies: pleasant to reade, delightfull to heare, and profitable to practise, By. L. Wright.	Wright, Leonard, b. 1555 or 6.	1589 (1589)	STC 26025; ESTC S102227	30,145	48

to restraine vice and certaine working tooles in the other as one alwayes apt to labour She hath also a paire of wings in tokē that she fléeth vnto the heauens She treadeth death vnder foot to signifie that she is immortall And placed betwéene two extréeme vices as who should say she alwayes kéepes the golden meane It is a true saying better to liue in lowe degrée then high disdaine A quiet contented minde sayth the wiseman is more worth then great riches Euery ounce of state asketh a pound of gold and euery foote rising in authoritie increaseth an ell in necessity The ambitious is hated the base minded ouercrowed but the meane estate resting vnder the cloke of obedience within the reach of his owne happe is alwayes in most safetie and least danger He that liueth in health is well fedde hee that is preserued from colde well clothed and he that can liue out of debt is rich happie his sléepes are sound his conscience quiet and his life pleasant Where wilfull race of witlesse braynes Flanting in pride to passe degrée Bringing rich estate to great decay And lewd heads to great miserie Enuie followeth Vertue What good men want by nature they séeke to supply by art but the enuious wanting discretion supplyeth it with malise Let a man humble himself to the proud and he wil not hurt him kéepe no companie with drunkerds and they will not infect him aske nothing of a couetous man and he will not harme him but the more he shall be estéemed of the best sort for honest life ciuill behauiour vertuous qualities the more he shall be persecuted with a number of enuious eyes For ielosie to beautie aduersitie to prosperitie and enuie vnto vertue are so linked and ioyned together that the one followeth the other as the shadowe followeth the body And therefore that famous Philosopher Hermocrates exhorted his sonne to liue so he might be enuied for his vertues Of the malicious backbiter THe Basaliske killeth men a farre off by the sight of his eyes and the enuious backbiter by y e sting of his toong The serpent kéepeth his poyson only to the hurt of others but the spitefull backbiter both to the hurt of others and destruction of his owne soule The Camelion can transforme himselfe into all colours saue white and the malicious backbiter into all fashions saue honestie Disdayning his superiour because he is not equall to him his equall because he is equall to him and his inferiours least hee should be equall to him But commonly such euill surmising mindes backbiting mouthes and slanderous tongues are to none more noysom and dangerous then themselues to whom it often hapneth as it did to the viper which gréedily caught Paul by the hand intending to hurt him fell her selfe into the fire and perished The property of a faithfull and fained friend FRiendship is the agréement of mindes the chiefe of moral vertues called the iewell of humanity A true friend sayth the Philosopher is long sought for scarce to be found hard to be kept Well is him that findeth a faithful friend saith Iesus Syrach the weight of gold is not cōparable to the goodnesse of his faith He is alwayes willing and ready to comfort his friend in aduersitie to helpe him in necessitie to intreate and vse him courteously to beare his infirmities patiently and reproue his errors gently Whose rebukes are much like pepper which is hoat in the mouth but holesome at the hart and he that can not beare or take the rebukes of his friend in good part is aptly compared to a harpe string which being wrested in tune doth breake and snappe a sunder Piping and harping maketh a swéete sound sayth the wise man but the tongue of a friend goeth beyond them all Many there be sayth Salomon that are called good doers but where should one find a true faithfull man Gold is tryed by the touch stone A good Pilot in rage of tempest A valiant Captaine in time of warre and a true friend in necessitie A friend vnused is like a medicine vnministred a friend without friendship like a trée without fruite As good a foe that hurts not as a friend that helpes not A fained dissembling friend is much like a serpent bred in Egypt called a Crokedell Whom when she smyleth poysoneth and when she wéepeth deuoureth Or the Hiena hauing the voyce of a man speaking like a friend and the minde of a Wolfe deuouring like a féend Or the Panther who with the swéetnesse of his breath and beautie of his coate allureth such beastes within his compasse as he intendeth to vncase and pray vpon their carcasse Or the flattering Syrens that swéetly sing the saylers wracke Or the Foulers pipe that pleasantly playeth the birdes death Or the Bee who carrieth honny in her mouth and a sting in her tayle Or the box trée whose leaues are alwayes gréene but the séedes poyson So his countenance is friendly and his wordes pleasant but his intent dangerous and his déedes vnholsome Mel in ore verba lactis fel in corde fraus in factis His fetch is to flatter to catch what he can His purpose obtayned a figge for thée than In chusing a friend is chiefly to be obserued that as olde wood is best to burne old horse to ride old bookes to reade and old wine to drinke so are old friends alwayes most trusty to vse And he that reiecteth his kindred chuseth friends of strangers is much like him who changeth his legge of flesh for a stilt of wood It is further to be noted that where the persons are diuerse in nature differing in manners variable in conditions or contrary in religion their friendship can not possible long continue Againe touching the naturall inclination of men hee that is light and toyesh in youth proueth often teastie and waspish in age A bold malipart boye a wilfull seditious man A grimme crabtrée countenance doth cōmonly shew a hard churlish disposition A smooth glosing toong a crafty d●●●embling hart And a quicke sharpe wit an vnconstant and wauering condition Neither faithfull to friend nor fearefull to foe But especially a proud furious or scornfull person is apt to take displeasure and thinke vnkindnesse vpon euery light occasion and if such a heart where friendship hath dwelt begin once to hate it is like a spung which sucketh vp as much matter of malice as before of fauour and affection And euen as the best wine maketh the sharpest veniger so the déepest loue turneth to the deadliest hate In prayse of friendship Of all the heauenly giftes on earth Which mortall men commend No treasure well may counteruaile A true and faithfull friend What swéeter solace can befall Then such a one to finde As in whose breast thou maiest repose The secrets of thy minde If flattering Fortune chance to frowne And driue thee to distresse True faithfull

friend will helpe at néed And make thy sorrowes lesse Oh precious Iem Oh iewell great Oh friendship pearle of price Thou surely doest each thing excell That man can well deuice The golden mines are soone decayde When Fortune turnes the wheele And force of armes are soone allayed If body sicknesse féele And cunning art soone ouerthrowne Experience teacheth plaine And all things else their course doth change When friendship doth remaine But since by proofe they haue beene taught A fained friend to know I will not trust such glosing tongues More then my open ●oe Where fairest face doth harbour foulest hart And sweetest tongue most treason doth impart Oh false deceat I'le trust to such no more But learne to kéepe a hatch before the doore A friendly aduertisement touching marriage THough wedlocke be a thing so doubtfull and daungerous to deale withall as to séeke roses amōgst thorns honny amongst hornets or Celes amongst adders Notwithstanding might my words craue pardon though more willing to wish well then able to perswade I would according to my simple skill shew my opinion touching the commoditie and discommoditie of mariage and the best meane to liue quiet in wedlock chaunsing vpō a shrew First considering the state of mariage in generall God himselfe hath ordayned it as holy nature hath established it as honest Reason doth counsell it as profitable And all nations haue allowed it as necessarie And therefore with the Apostle I commend it as honorable amongst all men Happy is that man sayth Iesus Syrach that hath a vertuous wife The number of his yeares shall be double A vertuous woman maketh her husband a ioyful man whether he be rich or poore he may alwayes haue a merry hart A woman that is silent of tongue shamfast in countinance sober in behauiour and honest in condition adorned with vertuous qualities correspondent is like a goodly pleasant s●ower dect with the colours of al other flowers in the field which shall be giuen for a good portion to such a one as seareth God But he that shall preferre the gifts of nature and fortune before grace and vertue Hauing more respect to a cleane hand with a faire smiling countenance thē a cleane hart with good conditions shall after find that he feareth and misse that he most desireth Wanting neyther time to repent nor matter to complaine vpon Fauour sayth the wise man is deceitfull and beautie but a vaine thing Without vertue it is compared to a swéete poyson in a boxe of Iuorie or a faire shooe y t wrings the foote or the beast called an Armin whose skinne is desired and his carkasse dispised A short pleasure full of paine and miserie much like Tantalus apples which are no sooner touched but turne vnto ashes And in the ende sayth the Preacher she is more bitter than death I heard once a learned man shew a pretie note concerning mariage which though it were a Iewish inuension yet hath it a diuine vnderstanding Ish and Isha in the Hebrew tongue signifieth vir vira the man and the woman which being ioyned together maketh Chaa signifiing God as Iehouah From which word take away these two Hebrewe letters Chod Hee that makes it God And that remaines is Ash which signifieth paine and miserie Meaning that in such a marriage where vertue is absent there God is not present and where God is not present there paine and miserie is neuer absent A quiet man that matcheth himselfe to a shrewe taketh vpon him a verie harde aduenture hee shall f●nde compackt in a little flesh a great number of bones too hard to disgest Yea such saintes are some men matched withall that if all their demaundes should be graunted and all that they are agréeued withall redressed Sampsons strength Iobs patience and Salomons wisedome were all too little And therefore some do thinke wedlocke to be that same purgatorie which learned Diuines haue so long contended about or a sharpe penance to bring sinnefull men to heauen A merry fellow hearing a Preacher say in his sermon that whosoeuer would be saued must take vp and beare his crosse ran straight to his wife cast her vpon his back Diogines being asked what age was most fitte for mariage for young men quoth he it is too soone and for old men too late One Paurimio sonne to a Senator in Rome béeing desirous to marry his father willed him tarry till he were wiser Nay sir quoth he if I once growe wise I shall neuer marry Arminius a great Ruler in Carthage beeing importunately perswaded to marry no quoth hee I dare not for if I chance vpon one that is wise she will be wilfull if wealthy then wanton if poore then peeuish if beautifull then proud if deformed then lothsome and the least of these is able to kill a thousande men Where married couples agrée together is a great happinesse and a thing very acceptable in the sight of God But as in musicke are many discords before there can be framed a true dia●asan so in wedlocke are many iarres before there be established a perfect friendship In housholde matters are many occasions of variance in generall but where the parties want conformitie of manners and conditions most apt to fall at contention especiall For as the earth to the ayre and the water to the fire are in nature and propertie dissonant and contrarie So where the one is constant the other wauering The one prodigall the other a nigard Or the one young and the other olde They may well conioyne in law but neuer continue in loue Being prompt and ready vpon euerie light occasion to resolue into strife and dissention Agréeing like harpe and harrowe or rather two cats in a gutter And if the husband will liue in quiet then must he shew his wisedome eyther by dissembling the cause to turne it vnto sport or else goe his way and say nothing vsing his shrewde wife gently as a necessary instrument to exercise his pacience least she waxe worse For by other meanes he getteth no faithfulnesse of her This was the best remedie that Socrates could finde against his wife Zantippa The best helpe that Iob could haue against his wife in all his afflictions And the best counsell that Marcus Uarro could giue vnto married men Vitium vxoris si corrigi non possis ferendum esse let her say what shee will Better her tongue wagge then her heart breake It is sayde that an Asse a walnuttrée and a woman asketh much beating before they be good But I am verily resolued that a vertuous woman that is wise one word of her husband doth suffice But if she be such a one as neyther gentle admonition the feare of God the spéech of people nor the shame of her person can preuaile All the wise sayinges of Salomon with an hundred stripes to mends will not suffice to reforme or amend her A woman is aptly compared to a drinking glasse