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A17419	The light of faith: and, way of holinesse Shewing what to belieue, and for what to striue together, earnestly contend, and suffer for in this contending age. And how to liue in all estates, conditions, and degrees of relation, according to this faith. In both, deliuering (as neere as might be, in the life of Scripture phrase:) only things necessary, as we meane to be saued, and auoiding vtterly things arbitrary, that distract, rather then direct a Christian. Collected out of holy Scripture by an vnworthy labourer in Gods vineyard, Richard Bifield pastor in Long-Ditton, in Surrey.	Byfield, Richard, 1598?-1664.	1630 (1630)	STC 4239; ESTC S107158	133,233	536

times the day of aduersity is prope●ly the time for which he was made Pro. 27. 10. 7 And thoug● it bee the chiefe error in friendship to goe farre from thy friend in a straight and in his pouerty and to be wanting to him when he pursueth thee with words as is noted by Solomon Pro. 19. 7. yet this one particular Solomon himselfe warnes thee of as a note of a man voyde of vnderstanding to strike and become surty in the presence of his friend Pro. 17 18. rash ●ur●iship in as much as it ouerthroweth thy estate house and posterity is exceedingly sinfull and may not be vndertaken no not for thy friend Hee that hateth such suretiship is sure 8 He that hath a friend must shew himselfe friendly there is a friend that sticketh closer then a brother Pro. 18. 24. Thus farre also of friendship there yet remaines a third case contrary hereunto that is Enmity or how wee should behaue our selues to our enemies § IX Of Enmity Rules about enmity ABout this necessary point first thou must be warned that thou entertaine nothing that may alienate thy heart from any man if thou be angry thou must bee angry and not sinne and if a rash anger should take hold of thee thou maiest not let the Sunne goe downe vpon thy wrath that were to giue place to the Deuill Ephes 4. There is an holy Hatred of Gods enemies but that must be a perfect hatred an hatred of the vice a louing of the man not hating the man as if hee were the vice nor louing of the vice as if it were the man Now be it that thou carry thy selfe thus faire and religiously yet thou maiest haue many an enemie In Case thou hast enemies that are enemies to thee whether they be enemies to God or no for that is not the question now in hand as being decided in the 26. Section of the second part these are sound and profitable directions 1 Presently looke into thine owne heart espie all thy waies to see if thou haue in any fault willingly committed broken thy peace with God for this is vsuall we cast off the thing that is good and then the enemie is let loose to pursue vs This is Gods dealing whether it be with a nation or with a man onely H●s 8. 3. 4. We fall from God and then man and creature fall from vs. If vpon search thou findest any such Achan troubler of thy peace pursue him to death let not thine eye spare set all in order that thy wayes may please the Lord for When a mans wayes please the Lord hee maketh euen his enemies to be at peace with him Pro. 16. 7. 2 Loue him blesse though he curse pray for him if he ●unger feed him if hee thirst giue him drinke for thou shalt heape coales of fire vpon his head and the Lord shall reward thee Pro. 25. 21. 22. thou maiest in a glorious manner be conqueror if thou hold the rule of the Apostle ouercome euill with goodnesse Rom. 12. 21. but it is somewhat dishonorable for a Christian to be ouercome of euill to fashion thy heart hereunto remember the loue of thy Lord Iesus who Died for thee when thou wast weake vngodly and wicked and an enemy yea nothing but enmity Rom. 5. 6. 8. 10. 3 Haue not Glosing lippes and a wicked heart this is like a pot sheard Couered with siluer drosse Seuen abominations will quickly be in thy heart and this is thy sentence from God whose hatred is couered by deceit his wickednesse shall be shewed before the whole congregation Pro. 26. 23. 25. 26. 4 If hee haue wronged thee and doe trespasse thee forgiue him till seuen times till seuenty times seuen times If the in●uries be such as ruine thy credit and state or indanger thy life seeke the benefit of the Magistrate not by way of reue●●e that is alwayes vnlawfull but by way of defense heartily embracing euer the termes of peace and readily performing when occasion is offered the Offices of lo●e in the midst of the neat of seeking redresse 5 Reioyce not at his fall let not thine heart secretly bee glad when hee stumbleth lest the Lord see it and it displease him and hee turne away his wrath from him Pro. 24. 18. Hitherto of the Relations of more priuate state the estates of mere priuacy do follow and there first the aged § X. Of the aged THe choise rules that respect Rules for the aged the aged whether men or women wee finde gathered to our hands by the Apostle Paul to Titus Chap. 2. vers 2. 3. 4. those in the second verse respect aged men wherin euery Nulla aetas ad discendumsera est crubescat senectus q●ae se crudiri non p●titur Ambros ad Symmachum The men word is a rule The aged men must bee sober Graue temperate found in faith in charity in patience 1 Whereas it is too common a fault to old age to bee bibbing they are charged with sobriety for aged men conscious of their infirmity are ready to seeke strength in a more free vse of wine and strong drinke needfull therefore is this watch word and worthy to be set in the front 2 Grauity is suiteable to their age an habit gesture speech and well composed manners fauoring thereof which may winne them respect and keepe authority ouer the youth there should shine in old age a certaine Maiesticall dignity which should cause the youth to hide themselues and bring on them a kinde of bashfulnesse 3 Temperance not testinesse Temeritas 〈…〉 entis ●s aeta 〈…〉 prudentia s●neōtutis Cic. de senectute Dem●alike nor hastinesse and pettish preuishnesse not wantonnesse which seene by youth maketh them more impudent in Lasciuiousnesse and what more odious then an old man playing the wanton and expressing an incontinent hart when coldnesse hath eneruated his body nor rashnesse but all prudence 4 Soundnesse in faith in charitie and patience the boary head is a crowne if it bee found in the way of righteousnesse old age is a sicknesse and full of infirmities which cannot be cured How should they then seeke a sound heart and soule these three graces are the Summe of Vidua est vi●tus quā non ●ui●n ●ia firmal 〈◊〉 Christian perfection saith to God in Christ Charity to men and patience to sustaine both and to be as salt to preserue and relish both The aged women must bee in The wo 〈…〉 behauiour as becommeth holinesse not false accusers nor giuen to much wine teachers of good things and examples to young women vers 3. 4. 1 Their behauiour must bee as becommeth godlinesse this sexe 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 in the whole habit of the body and outward carriage expresseth a great deale of leuity and pride euen to the graue and scarse any thing saue religion and grace in the heart can perswade euen when it hath perswaded them to put it off well were it if it

what once we were Tit. 3. 2 3. That walketh not wisely to them that are without Col. 4. 5. That walketh scandalously or offensiuely 1 Cor. 10. 32. That neglecteth those things that in their eyes are winning and may adorne his profession Tit. 2. 10. 1 Pet. 3. 2. That neglecteth the study of those things that will preserue the honour of his person Phil 4. 8. Thus for our obedience in 3 Rules about thy hope which we abide with God as Christians Moreouer in asmuch as in our calling to be Christians our new birth entitleth vs to the inheritance of heauen when wee dye so that the Lord knoweth all such for no lesse then his sons and heires in Christ all the dayes of their life That the Christian may abide with God hee must bee rightly ordered about his hope And here 1 Thou must study the promises Psal 119. 49. 16. 9. 10. that concerne the glory of heauen and the resurrection of thy body at the last day for hope is of good things to come which God hath promised and faith beleeued Behold then the saluation promised and pray that the Lord would open the eyes of thy vnderstanding to see the hope of thy calling Eph. 1 18. so shall thy hope of glory cause exceeding ioyes and admired patience in greatest miseries when thou shalt vpon wise computation conclude that the sufferi●gs of this present time are not worthy to bee compared with the glory that shall be reuealed in vs Rom. 8 18. I le giue you but a few places for taste for the glory of the resurrection 1 Cor. 15 42 43. Phil. 3 21 for the glory of heauen Ioh. 15. 24. Psal 16 11. 1 Ioh. 3. 2. 2 Doe all diligence to the full assurance of hope vnto the end Heb. 6 11. in the labours of loue ministring to the Saints out of that loue wee beare to Christs name verse 10. and in setting before vs the faith patience and good works of those which now inherite the promise of heauen verse 12. The ground of a liuely and good hope is Christ in vs Col. 1 27. and wee may be assured our hope abuseth vs not if it presse vs to purifie our selues as Christ is pure 1 Ioh. 3 3. Desiring further conformity to his image with and through whom we are heires of glory and if it leaue vs more humble in our selues and more diligent in the vse of the meanes of grace 3 Forme in thee frequent meditations of heauen the loue of Christs appearing and the patient waiting for his comming To these the Lord direct all our hearts 2 Thes 3 4. In this manner abide with God all thy life mourning for thy failings and pressing on towards the marke for the price of the high calling of God in Christ Iesus §. XXIX The order of our liues in the seuerall changes of our fading condition NOw for the seuerall changes To abide with God of thy mortall condition the Apostles rule in generall is Therein abide with God as 1 In thy wealth 1 Remember that thou neither 1 In wealth ascribe to thy selfe the power to get riches but acknowledge them to come from God nor forget God in thy abundance that therewith thou shouldest make prouision to fulfill the lusts of the flesh but that thou serue the Lord with more gladnesse and cheerefulnesse of heart for the abundance of things thou possessest nor yet trust in thy riches but in the liuing God who giueth richly all things to enioy and seeing the vanity and danger of riches and the vncertainty of thy life be humbled in thy selfe and carry low thoughts and diuorced affections in the midst of thy welfare It is vsuall with rich men to be swolne with pride to thinke themselues the happiest vnder Sunne to reckon they are in Gods fauour because they prosper in the world and to award all reproofes in the ministery and checkes of their consciences and thoughts of examination of their estate with God with the view of their large possessions and full bags but that prosperity is a curse which thus affecteth vs Let the brother of high degree reioyce in that hee is made low Deut. 8. 11. 12. 18. 28. 47. Hos 2. 8. Iam. 1. 10. Take h●ed of pride and carnall confidence 2 See that thy heart be not set on them thou maist not loue them for the loue of money is the roote of all euill but possesse the things of this world as if thou possessedst them not Psal 62. 10. 1 Cor. 7. 29. 30. Thou maiest both buy and possesse but not forget that thy abiding city is aboue nor set vp thy rest in these momentany things Psal 49. 11 So to doe were couetousnesse and doth proue vs vnder the power of folly as was that foole in the Gospell that said to his soule Soule thou hast goods laid vp for many a yeere eate drinke and bee merry Luk. 12. 19. 20. 3 Make you friends of the mammon of iniquity that when ye faile they may receiue you into euerlasting habitations Luk. 16. 9. How is this done Be rich in good workes ready to distribute willing to communicate this is to lay vp in store for our selues a good foundation against the time to come that wee may lay hold on eternall life 1 Tim. 6. 18 19. Againe buy the truth and sell it not Pro 23. 23. Aduantage thy spirituall estate hereby That dwelling is not well situated that wants the water-courses and riuers of diuine Scripture flowing by it this is the riuer that maketh glad the city of God Psal 1. 3. 46. 4. 2 In afflictions of any sort 1 Pray and cast out perplexed 2 ●● afflictions cares role them on God who careth for thee The name of the Lord called vpon is a strong tower the righteous flee to it and are safe Psal 50. 15 55 22. 1 Pet. 5. 7. Pro. 18. 10. And in There is a voice in euery worke of God whereby God speaketh to man thy prayer 1. desire to know the meaning of the rod and to heare Gods voice sp●aking in it Iob 34. 31. 32. Surely it is meet to bee said vnto God I haue borne chastifement I will not offend any more that which I see not ●each thou me if I haue done iniquity I will doe no more Mic. 6. 9. The Prophet teacheth that in euery affliction the Lords voyce cryeth to vs so that our wisedome is to see his name and to heare the rod and who hath appointed it 2. Aske wisedome how to behaue thy selfe vnder it Iam. 1. 5. 2 Beare it with patience and subm●ssion taking in good part the Lords chastisement Leu. 26. 41. 1 Pet. 5 6. Humble thy selfe vnder the mighty hand of God that hee may ex●lt thee in due time and that patience may haue her perfect worke in thee watch against ●re●ting at God or man Psal 37 1 7 8 39 9. ●ea●inesse vnder the chastising hand Pro. 3 11. the lifting vp of

Cause the Holy one of Israel to cease from before vs. §. VII Of Neighborhood THe most eminent relations The rules for neighbourhood wherein wee stand obliged one to another in societies haue beene bandled those of more priuate state follow and so first that of neighborhood Here I take the word neighbour strictly as wee doe ordinarily in our common talke and for our direction I haue selected some choice rules which being taken vp in practise may make our neighbourhood religious and righteous The rather should we attend to these rules because it is an imputation cast vpon religion and preaching that it spoiles all good neighbourhood yet in very deed it shall appeare that this onely formes vs hereunto and destroyes nothing but that bad good-fellowship of rude vnmortified men which is impious vnciu●ll and pernicious That thou maiest bee a good neighbour besides the rules of dutie to men before deliuered in the ninteenth to the 27. Section of the second part Some things must in speciall be auoyded some things must be done by thee For the things to bee auoyded they are these 1 Thou maiest not remoue the ancient Land-marke nor dare to enter into the field of the fatherlesse their Redeemer is mighty hee shall plead their cause with thee Prouerbs 23. 10. 11. 2 Thou must not thinke to lay house to house and land to land till thou hast depopulated the place where thou liuest that thou maiest bee placed alone in the midst of the land Nor bee carried with the vanity of stately buildings so that thy faire house should deuoure the timber of thy neighbours house that dwelleth by thee Woe woe to thee thou couetest an euill couetousnesse to thy house The stone shall cry out of the wall and the beame out of the timber shall answere it God shall smite thee with a curse in thine owne kinde for of a truth many houses shall be desolate yea great and faire without inhabitant yea tenne acres of vineyard shall yeeld but one bathe and the seed of an Homer shall yeeld an Epha Barrennesse and famine shall bee the scourge of such wickednesse Esa 5. 8. 9. 10. Heb. 2. 9. 10. 11. 3 Auoid the backbiting tongue Pro. 25. 23. The tale-bearer Pro. 26 10. The contentious man Pro. 26. 21. 4 When thou commest into his Vineyard or Orchard put not vp into thy vessell nor mooue a sickle to his standing corne thou ma●est put forth thy hand and e●te for thy necessity Deut. 23. 24 25. 5 Despise him not nor hate him because he is poore Pro. 14. 20. 21. 6 Enuy him not for a right worke an vsuall sicknesse vnder the Sunne Eccles 4 4 7 Smite not thy neighbour secretly lest it be a curse to thee Deceiue him not and thinke to put it off by saying Am I not in sport Deut. 27. 24. Prou. 26. 18. 19. 8 Meddle not with the strife that belongs not to thee so maiest thou take a dogge by the eares Pro. 26. 17. 9 Presse not too much vpon his kindenesse lest thou shouldest seeme burdensome withdraw thy foote from his house lest he be weary of thee Pro. 25. 17. 10 Take not to pledge the instruments or tooles of his calling and trade the meanes wherby he must get his liuing as the vpper and nether milstone If hee bee poore thou maiest not sleepe with his pledge all night but deliuer it to him before the sunne goe downe if it bee any thing that appertaines to food raiment or lodging Deut. 24. 6. 10. 11. 12 13. 11 Thou maiest not call him to the Alehouse or Taue●ne to bibbe and drinke or play the glutton thou must not put thy bottle to him and make him drunke Woe to thee if thou doe it this is cursed fellowship which thou callest good fellowship The Lord hath a cup for thee to drinke of the cup of his right hand drinke thou also and let thy fore-skinne be vncouered and shamefull spuing shall be on thy glory Heb. 2. 15. 16. For the things to be done they are these 1 Exhort and perswade and call them to the Assemblies and holy duties the prophecies foretell such things of Christian neighbours The inhabitants of one City shall goe to another saying Let vs goe speedily to pray before the Lord and to seeke the Lord of hosts I will goe also Zach. 8. 21 2 In your meetings let there be the serious consideration of the workes of Gods hands and the remembrance of the Lords mercies in stead of the Wine and Harpe and Tabret and Pipe Esa 5. 11. 12. Breake off euill discourse and preuent it and diuert it by imitating the example of Sampson who proposed a riddle to the Philistimes when they feasted together Iudg. 14. 12. 13. 3 Bring home his stray cattell and all lost things if thou finde them and with-hold not thy helpe if his beast be downe vnder his burden Deuteronomie 22. 1. 2. 3. 4 If there arise any matter of dislike debate thy cause with thy neighbour himselfe and reueale not thy secrets to another Pro. 25. 8. 9. 10. 5 Obserue the Apostles rule speake euery one truth to his neighbour Ephes 4. 25. These concerne neighbourhood the second relation of more priuate state is that of friendship §. VIII Of Friendship COncerning friendship the Rules for friendship Lord directs thee in two things The choise of thy friend The vsage of thy friend For the choise of thy friend How to choose thy friend he requireth 1 That hee bee a religious man What agreement can there be betweene righteousnesse and vnrighteouso●sse thou m●iest not leaue the path to blessednesse set downe in Psal 1. 1. to walke in the way of friendship 2 That amongst them thou choose not thy friend by his wealth Pro 19 4. 3 That thou make no friendship with an angry man that cannot rule his spirit Prouer. 22. 24 25. 4 That thou make him not thy friend that cannot conceale a secret 5 That if it be possible thou retaine thy fathers friend to bee thine Pro. 27. 6. When thou hast chosen thy How to vs● thy friend friend then let thy friendship be thus carryed 1 Learne to couer transgressions and iniuries or trespasses this is to seeke loue but the repetition of old matters separateth very friends Pro. 17. 9. 2 Giue hearty counsell this is as oyn●ment and perfume it sharpens a mans countenance Pro. 27. 9. 17. 19. and maketh them mutually the glasse where in they may see one anothers face 3 Preferre a rebuke from thy friend before a kisse from thine enemie Pro. 27. 5. 6. 4 Vse no flattery as most abhorring to the lawes of friendship affect not the praising of thy friend study it not seeme not to doe it of set purpose Pro. 27. 14. 5 Be true and intire to him as was Ionathan to Dauid the prime paire in Scripture Commended for thy imitation 6 V●e thy friend in the day of thy calamity rather then thy brother a friend loueth at all