27. And how odious such Marriages are to God you may find declared by the Prophet Mal. 2.11 12. And yet how many such are in the World Families where scarce a form of Religion is to be found Strangers from prayers to God nor Morning nor Evening Prayer to be heard although God reneweth his Mercies every Morning Lamen 3.22 23. and continueth his goodness to the Night Though he declare his most gracious Prefence with us Exod. 13.21 as it were by a Pillar of a Cloud by Day and a Pillar of Fire by Night although God hath been a Defence to their Tabernacles and they have dwelt safely by his goodness yet how many are there who little or nothing take notice of these daily Mercies or observe Gods goodnesse to glorifie him How far unlike are these in this to blessed Daniel Daniel 6.10 or religious King David Psal Psal 55.17 55. who kept acquaintance with God three times a day At morning and evening and noon day will I pray and that instantly and he shall hear my voice c. And therefore they are strangers from God when they should stand in need of his help and want that good which they might enjoy by keeping acquaintance with God of which Eliphaz doth witness Job 22.21 That gracious practice of secret Prayer which our Saviour directs unto Mat. 6.6 Thou when thou prayest enter into thy Closet and shut to thy door and pray to thy Father in secret and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly How many spend so much time openly in vain that they have no leisure for secret Devotions to read and meditate of heavenly things which pertain to eternity or to poure out their Souls as Hannah did to God in Prayer 1 Sam. 1.15 Alas if sins of omission were the only irreligiousness or prophaneness in some Families it were lesse although for these men shall be called to an account at the Day of the last Judgment witness what our Blessed Lord and Saviour declareth Mat. 25.41 42. But their sins of Commission common breach of Gods Commandements witness little fear of God to be before their eyes What common swearing and taking of Gods name in vain forgetting that God threatens he will not hold such guitlesse that take his Name in vain Exod. 20.7 or did men remember that of the Lord by the Prophet Jer. 5.7 How shall I Pardon thee for this thy Children have forsaken me and sworn by them that are no Gods Men yea Children would not swear so commonly by those things which they themselves will confesse are no Gods How difficult a thing is it to hire a Servant from amongst the common sort of People Read Rom. 12.14 Psal 109.17 18. And Mat. 5.34 35 36 37. James 5.12 but they are Swearers or Cursers or both and so Gods Name is dishonoured Children learn of Parents to be irreligious and this too often amongst the Rich as well as Poor I say but little of that common sin too often in greater Families inticing men to Drunkenness by that specious pretence of pledging Healths of Friends pressing men in Drink Read Hab 2 2.15 16. A dreadful Woe to such contrary to that Law and Practice of that Moral Prince King Ahasuerus that none should compel to Drink Hester 2.8 But every one be free to drink what he pleased a shame to men that professe themselves Christians I know in divers great Families there is civility if not a religious respect to avoid these sins But when these abound and men or women rashly unite themselves in Marriage what hope of constant happy Love to continue between Husband and Wife during life I proceed to a second Gold-link of Love between Husband and Wife The second Gold-link of Love that in choice of a Wife or Husband as respect is to be had for likenesse and agreement in Religion so likewise to equality or likeness of qualities and conditions as near as possible For as St. Paul adviseth not to be unequally yoaked with Unbelievers so he presseth his Counsel with a good Argument What fellowship saith he hath righteousness with unrighteousness and what Communion hath Light with Darkness 2 Cor. 6.14 So even right reason will instruct us and daily experience witness that contrary Dispositions of nature or too great inequalities seldom live comfortably together as Fire and Water will not agree the one exsiccateth or quencheth the other But like rejoyceth and delighteth with the like Observe this Rule then for this is a second Direction or Gold-link of Love to preserve Love between Husband and Wife A third Direction A third Direction or Gold-link of Love or Gold-link of Love followeth And this is That some fit respect be had to the age of the Parties to be married for a young man of twenty to marry an old woman man of above three-score or for an old man of fourscore to marry a young woman under twenty is not agreeable because one chief end of Marriage is in danger to be frustrate Gen. 1.27 28. which is Posterity to be brought up in the fear and admonition of the Lord as Sr. Paul intimateth Ephes 6.4 Although it is more fit for a very old man to marry a young woman in hope of Posterity then for a very old woman past child-bearing to marry a young man Equality and conveniency do best agree together for the preservation of Conjugal Love between Husband and Wife and this is a third Gold-Link in this Gold Chain of Direction to keep and bind Love fast between Husband and Wife during their Lives The fourth Direction A fourth Direction or Gold-link of love or Gold-Link of Love in a marriage Union there ought to be likenesse and agreement of affection a mutual love and likeing of each others persons and qualities and a knitting and uniting of Hearts together in a right ordered and well grounded Love before the joyning of Hands on the Wedding-Day For where there is an Antipathy or contrariety of Natures or dislike of Persons or Conditions there seldome is a continuance of sweet agreement and satisfaction one to and with another and so Marriage proveth a Bondage instead of a sweet freedom in a happy enjoyment of each other in the Lord as St. Paul desired to enjoy and have joy of Philemon in the Lord St. Paul his Epistle to Philemon verse 20. in whom what we enjoy is a blessing by Christ whereas if the Hearts be truly knit together and united in Love as the heart of Jonathan to David 1 Sam. 18.1 who loved him as his own Soul the Love will be wonderful as was Jonathans to David passing the love of Women 2 Sam. 1.26 Although the love of good women to their Husbands hath been wonderful as Records of ancient Histories do witnesse at full I mean not a light unconstant passionate Love taken upon sight of Beauty or Riches or some such uncertain foundation which is deceitful
Golden Rule Mat. 7.12 to do to each other as they would be done by And if any unkindness hath been not to rest quietly untill there be a Reconciliation Sleep not untill they can sleep in Love and loving Embracements of each other say in any neglect of Love or in any occasion of Breach would I have Christ my Lord and spirituall husband so unkind to me as I am to my wife and may the wife say would I have Christ so unkind to me to forsake my soul or withdraw his love from me as I have done from my husband and so may the husband say in respect of his wife This mutual care of kindnesse is a precious Gold link of Love to bind love fast during life A tenth Direction or Gold-link of love The tenth Direction or Gold link of Love Husbands and wives must take heed their love be rightly qualified First let Love be without Dissimulation This is that Rule of the Holy Ghost recorded by the Apostle St. Paul Rom. 10.9 Secondly Let love be without Bitterness so the same Apostle Coloss 3.19 Husbands love your Wives and be not bitter against them Nor ought wives to be such to their husbands Love and Bitterness connes agree well together Psal 64.3 this is contrary to love to shoot out Arrows even bitterness or bitter actions instead of pleasant and lovely Sinilitude This is to mingle Gall with Honey or soure sharp Vinegar with sweet Wine it will make all distasteful a husband must not be like unto a Crab Orange or Lemon fair on the outside to the shew and soure and bitter within pleasing with sugared words abroad Sweet-heart before Company and of a froward and perverse Disposition at home or in private nor must the wife be so to the husband Eph. 5.1 2. but both walk in true Love as Christ hath loved us The eleventh Direction The eleventh Direction or Gold link of Love or Gold link of Love to preserve mutual love between husband and wife is mutually fidelity and faithfulnesse each to other according to the marriage Covenant they ought to forsake all other and keep mutually onely to themselves so long as they both shall live Yea they ought to be very careful to avoid all occasions of jealousies of or against each other and to hate jealousie as a most dangerous enemy except there be evident and sure ground of each others disloyalty and sinful Breach of the marriage Covenant The Jews were a very jealous People jealous of their wives upon slight occasions and often put their wives away with a Bill of Divorce for slight occasions and causes which did not break the Bands of Matrimony against which our Saviour speaks Mat. 5.31 32. Mat. 19.3 4 5 c. The Jews were so jealous That upon small suspition they would forbid their wives to keep any Company in secret with any of whom they were jealous and if after the wife was thus forbid before two witnesses as the Jewish Doctors declare if she was proved to be in secret with such a Maymony in misn com 2. See Mr. Ainsworth in Numb 5. one The husband brought her before the Magistrate and she was to be put to the Tryal of seu honesti by the bitter water of Jealousy which if she were guilty would cause her Belly to swell and her Thigh to rot as you may read in that Law for Trial of jealousy Numb 5.11.12 to the end And ver the thirtieth The Text saith That when the Man is free from Iniquity Mâ—ymoâ—y in Jotaâ— cap. 2. sect 8. the Woman guilty beareth her Iniquity Therefore amongst the Israelites it is said See Mr. Ainsworth in Num. 5.30 That no man which had himself been guilty that way could bring his wife to this Tryal The guilty man could not bring his wife to this Tryal of bitter Water Rom. 2.1 that is by this bitter water according to the Law of Jealousy afore But it is most certain That it is the duty both of the husband and wife to be careful by power from Christ to avoid all occasions of jealousy in both according to that Rule of God's word and Direction of the Holy Ghost by the Apostle St. Paul To abstain from all appearance of Evill 2 Thess 5.22 And that ancient Law of God Levit. 19.14 Thou shalt not put a stumbling block before the blind But thou shalt fear thy God I am the Lord. And pressed again by the blessed Apostle Rom. 14.13 Let us not judge one another any more but judge thus rather that no man put a stumbling block or an occasion to fall in his Brothers way I must avoid occasion of sin my self and I must not give occasion of sin to another nor of this sin of unjust jealousy to my husband or to my wife For many are the miseries may follow to husband or wife jealousie is the rage of a man therefore he will not spare in the day of Vengeance He will not regard any Ransome neither will he rest content though thou givest many Gifts witnesse King Solomon Pro. 6.34 35. And jealousie is cruel as the Grave the Coals thereof are Coals of fire which hath a most vehement flame witnesse the spirit of God Can. 8.6 This taking care to avoid all occasion of jealousy is a powerful means to preserve Conjugal Love between husband and wife But much more the Grace of fidelity and constant care of faithfulness each to other according to that sacred Bond of Marriage The husband ought to be careful to be faithful to his wife forsaking all other witnesse the spirit of God Prov. 5.18 19. Let thy Fountain be blessed and rejoyce with the Wife of thy youth Let her be as the Loving Hind and Pleasant Roe Let her Brests satisfie thee at all times and be thou ravished alwayes with her Love And the same Spirit of God speaketh the same again Prov. 6.23.24 25 c. The Commandement is a Lampe and the Law a Light and reproof of Instruction is the way of life to keep thee from the evil Woman which flattereth with her Tongue and from the flattery of the Tongue of the strange woman Lust not after her beauty in thy Heart neither let her take thee with her Eye-lids For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of Bread and the Adulteress will hant for the precious life Can a man take Fire in his Bosome and his Clothes not be burnt Can one go upon hot Coales and his feet not be burnt So he that goeth into his Neighbours wife whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent This sin of Adultery or Fornication breaketh the Command of the great God Who is a consuming Fire Heb. 12.29 The Law of that All-seeing every where present God Jer. 23 23 24. before whose Eye Prov. 5.21 Heb. 4.13 Mat. 12.36 Amos 4.13 all things are open and naked whatsoever we can speak do or think The command of this
O Lord Zach. 12.10 prepare our hearts to Prayer and so assist us with thy holy Spirit of Prayer and Supplication Rom. 8.26 27. that our Prayers may be acceptable Rev. 8.3 4. and we may receive a gracious Answer in and for the sweet Incense and Merits of the Lord Jesus Christ our blessed Lord and Saviour Amen O eternal Deut. 32.27 most gratious merciful everlasting everliving Exod. 34.6 7. Jer. 10.11 1 Tim. 1.17 Isaiah 46.9 10. Rom. 8.28 Rom. 11.33 34 35 36. and only wise God who orderest all things according to the Counsel of thy own most just and holy Will and disposest of all for thy own eternal Glory and the eternal good of thy Church and Children in Christ Jesus of whom may we seek for Protection and safety of Soul or Body or any other blessing but of thee our God and heavenly Father in our Saviour Christ from whom cometh every good and perfect Gift James 1.17 with whom is no variableness nor shadow of turning The last night we durst not lay down our eyes to sleep Psal 132.4 nor suffer the temples of our head to take any rest until we had begged thy gratious Providence for preservation of us and ours in particular and of thy whole Church in general And thou O blessed God who art the hearer of Prayer hast in thine abundant goodness heard our Prayer Psal 65.2 Psal 66.18 19 20. and brought us to the light of this day blessed be thy great and glorious Name thou mightest O Lord in thy Justice have consumed us by Fire to ashes Exod. 12.29 30. and made our Beds our Graves One or more of us might have been stricken with some terrible tormenting Sickness we might have been found dead in our Beds as many have been many other miseries might have befallen us But in thy great mercy thou hast spared us Lam. 3.22 23. and renewed thy mercies to us this Morning What shall we render to thy heavenly Majesty for thy Favours And now we dare not adventure into the World without intreating thy Protection and Blessing in and upon our just and lawful Endeavours We confess O Lord we are not worthy the least of all thy mercies Genesis 32.10 and thy loving-kindnesses which from time to time thou hast shewed to thy Servants We acknowledge we have not been sensible of that original corruption of our depraved Natures Eph. 2.1 2 3. and our proneness to Sin drawn from our first Parents corrupted by their lamentable Fall Genesis 3.6 7. Genesis 6.5 nor have we humbled our selves in sence of this our misery as we should have done we have not kept our Hearts with all diligence out of which are the issues of death Prov. 4.23 But our Hearts have followed our Eyes beholding Vanity Jer. 4.14 Psal 141.3 and vain thoughts have too long lodged within us We have not set a watch O Lord before our Lips and kept the doors of our Mouths but many idle unprofitable sinful words for which we must answer at the Day of Judgment have been uttered by us to thy dishonour Mat. 12.36 and evil example of others yea Eph. 4.4 29 30. too many times corrupt Communications to the grief of thy holy Spirit Psal 39.1 Psal 119.67 We have not taken heed to our Feet to walk in the right wayes of thee O Lord but gone aside from the Pathes of thy Commandements and so have been guilty of many actual transgressions both in thought word and deed breaking thy most righteous Lawes We have failed in the Duties of our several particular Relations as Husband to Wife and Wife to Husband Parents to Children and Children to Parents Masters or Dames to Servants and Servants to them not performing our Duties in the fear of God as we ought to have done We have not walked as becometh Christians towards others nor done as we would they should do to us according to that Golden Rule of our blessed Saviour Mat. 7.12 Phil. 1.27 So that by our good Conversation as becometh the Gospel of Christ others might have been stirred up to glorifie thee our heavenly Father Mat. 5.16 So that if thou shouldest enter into judgment with us O Lord Psal 143.2 how can we be justified by any our own righteousness in thy presence Phil. 3.9 10. O then behold us we humbly beseech thee in the face of thy Son Jesus Christ as washed clean by his Blood and accepted by his Merits Mat 3.17 He it is in whom thou art well pleased Acts 5.31 and him thou hast exalted to be a Prince and a Saviour to give Repentance to Israel and remission of Sins Psal 19.12 Oh give us true Repentance for all the Errours of our Lives past for Christ's sake and grant that being delivered out of the hands of all our Enemies Luke 1.74 75. we may serve thee without fear of them in righteousness and true holiness all the days of our lives Bless with us we pray thee all our Friends Psal 35.11 12 13 14. Mat. 5.11 and change the Hearts of our Enemies make them our Friends if it be thy will be gracious to our Children and Servants make our Children thy Children our Servants thy Servants Isa 41.8 and our Friends thy Friends Lev. 19.17 Let us reprove we pray thee and not give evil example Eph. 5.11 nor suffer our Children or Servants to be prophane Swearers or Cursers Lyars Drunkards or unjust Joh. 13.15 Psal 101.6 7. But grant that we may be good examples and that they may be faithful in the Land such as thy servant David would have make them religious like faithful Abraham's servant praying when they are sent about our occasions Lord send me good speed this day Genesis 24.12 that we and they may be blessed Bless with us thy universal Church scattered thorough out the whole World Be gracious we pray thee to the Nations of England Scotland and Ireland poure down thy blessings upon the Kings most excellent Majesty with his Royal Consort the Queen and all the Royal Family preserve Him and Them from all His 1 Tim. 2.1 2. Their and our Enemies Bless all the honourable Nobility the Reverend faithful Ministers of the Gospel in their several places with all the Magistrates Gentry and Commons of the Land and inable us thy humble servants rightly and justly to do our Duty to all our Superiours 1 Pet. 2.17 Inferiours and Equals and to this end increase we most humble intreat thy Majesty all necessary Graces in all our souls Give us we beseech thee a daily supply and increase of Divine Knowledge and heavenly Wisdome Lord increase our Faith Luk. 17.5 and give us such a Faith as purifieth the Heart Acts 15.9 and worketh by Loves Give us true Conversion from all our sins Gal. 5.6 2 Cor. 7.10 and Repentance to Salvation not to be