Selected quad for the lemma: father_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
father_n	husband_n	mother_n	sister_n	13,459	5	11.1008	5	false

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A27053	A treatise of self-denial. By Richard Baxter, pastor of the church at Kederminster	Baxter, Richard, 1615-1691.	1675 (1675)	Wing B1431; ESTC R218685	325,551	530

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