as my Husband my Wife my Father my Mother my Brother my Sister my Son my Daughter my Friend c. Whereas the truth is they are not ours but Gods he is the absolute owner of them he made them and hath freely lent them to us without any certain time or date or promise of continuance and what is lent freely we cannot deny but may be call'd for most justly at the pleasure of him that lent it May not God most justly say as the Owner of the Vineyard to the murmuring Labourer Mat. 20.15 Is it not lawful for me to do what I will with mine own Well then we hold our Friends non jure sed gratis not by a juridical right but upon favour and courtisie and if we enjoyed our Relations some time we should be thankful to God that hath lent them to us so long rather then murmur that he takes them so soon St. Jerome comforting Paula for the death of her Daughter Bresilla said Durum quidem sed tolerabile quia sustulit ille qui dederat It was a heavy loss but to be born patiently because he took that gave at first This comforted Job when amongst other things he had lost his Children Job 1.21 22. The Lord gave and the Lord hath taken away blessed be the Name of the Lord. Job considered that God had taken but what he gave at first and so doth thankfully resign up his losses to him Consid 3 Thirdly consider God hath a hand in death of Friends Psal 31.15 My times are in thy hand saith David times of plenty and times of poverty times of health and times of sickness living times and dying times are in the hand i. e. of the disposal of God He measures time of life in what proportion he pleaseth to some he gives a large piece to others a small remnant Job 7.1 Is there not an appointed time to man upon earth Here he puts it by way of question but Job 14.5 There he puts it out of question and takes it for granted That mans dayes are determined the number of his moneths are with thee O Lord thou hast appointed his bounds that he cannot pass So that when a Friend departs that 's the time that God hath appointed So it is said of David Acts 8.36 After he had served his own generation by the will of God fell asleep c. Will of God may be annexed to his falling asleep as well as serving his generation he dyed then by the will of God and was gathered to his Fathers and saw corruption Job saith Job 30.23 I know that thou wilt bring me unto death and to the house appointed for all living Naomi said when she was deprived of her Husband and two Sons in a strange Land The Almighty hath dealt very bitterly with me and the Lord hath testifyed against me and the Almighty hath afflicted me Ruth 1.5 20 21. compared So Moses speaking of the frailty and shortness of mans life saith Thou turnest man to destruction and sayest Return ye children of men Psal 90.3 Gods dixit is his fecit as in the first Creation he said Let there be light and there was light Gen. 1.3 So God here saith Return i. e. he makes them to return viz. to their Original The Body to the earth and the Spirit to him that gave it Eccles 12.7 So David tells us God takes away mens breath and then they dye and return to their dust Psal 104.29 God indeed is the orderer and ordainer of all conditions 1 Sam. 2.6 The Lord killeth and maketh alive he brings down to the grave and bringeth up So Isa 45.7 I form the light and create darkness I make peace and create evil I the Lord do all these things Our Saviour tells us not a Sparrow falls to the ground nor a hair from our heads without the overruling providence of God Mat. 10.29 30. Here is Argumentum a minore ad majus If not a Sparrow a bird of small price and account or an Hair which is no essential part but made for convenience and ornament if these fall not to the ground without the will of our heavenly Father surely a Friend cannot dye but God wills it Let us then at loss of Friends patiently submit to Gods will The Heathenish Idolaters were loth to cast Jonah overboard but when they had cast lots and found it to be Gods will it should be so they patiently submitted 1 Jonah 13.14 Let not Heathens outstrip Christians Let us say with Christ John 18.11 The Cup which my Father hath given me shall I not drink it See Jobs carriage Job 1.20 21 22. He fell down and worshipped not murmured he charged not God foolishly by railing as though he dealt unjustly with him but saith The Lord hath given and the Lord hath taken He saw the hand of God in whatever befel him and this was a strong pillar of supportment to his drooping spirit It is no striving against the stream or current of Gods powerful will Job 9.4 Isa 45.9 Let Gods authority over thee prevent impatience in thee God who doth what he will and will do what he pleaseth Psal 115.3 So Psal 135.6 He takes away and none can hinder him who will say unto him What dost thou Job 9.12 Say then when a Friend is dead Truly this is a grief yet I must bear it Jer. 10.19 And as Seneca saith Aequum est ut patientèr feras quicquid corrigere est nefas It is but fit to bear that patiently which we cannot remedy Consid 4 Fourthly consider God intends it for thy good Psal 119.68 Thou art good O Lord and doest good So vers 75. I know O Lord that thy judgments are right and that thou in faithfulness hast afflicted me So Psal 145.17 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Misericors The Lord is righteous in all his wayes and holy or according to Orig. merciful in all his works Plutarch in his Epistle consolatory to his Wife on the death of a Child amongst others hath this Argument We must always think well of what the Gods do Christians should consider that God in the saddest passages of his providence aims at their good Though indeed his ways be sometimes hidden yet they are alway just When clouds and darkness are round about him then righteousness and judgment are the habitation of his Throne Psal 97.2 Though his Providences sometimes seem to cross his Promises yet in the conclusion you shall see all things work together for good as Physick works for the good of the Patient Rom. 8.28 Every Rod like Jonathans 1 Sam. 14.27 hath Honey at the end of it All things even loss of Friends work together for good to those that love God We read how Sampson fetch'd Honey out of the carcase of the Lyon Judg. 14.8 9. So may we find or fetch good instructions from the Carcase of a deceased Friend God it may be took away such or such a Relation as the Widow of Sarepta said when
thou hast magnified thy mercy which thou hast shewed unto me in saving my life Oh then let death of others put thee upon blessing and praising God for sparing thee and not only praise him with thy Lips but with thy Life too Love him obey him cleave to him for he is thy Life and the length of thy dayes Deut. 30.20 Use 6 6. Let death of Friends teach you not to trust in the arm of flesh God would not have us by any means to put our trust in man as these places shew Isa 2.22 Isa 30.23 Isa 36.6 Jer. 17.5 7. So Psal 118.8 9. Luther on that place It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man c. calls it Artem artium mirificam sacrificium omnium gratissimum suavissimum cultum omnium pulcherrimum To trust in God and not in man is the Art of Arts the wonderful and great Art a most excellent Sacrifice and commendable piece of Religion He that builds his hopes on so weak a foundation as the life of Man he is like that foolish Man in the Gospel that built his House on the Sand Mat. 7.26 Or like a foolish Merchant that ventures all his substance in a crazy Vessel The Psalmist tells you Men of low degree are a vanity and men of high degree are a lie he gives great ones the lie Psal 62.9 He means all Friends both of high and low degree are lying vanities and perform not what they seem to promise so that whoever trust in any Friends as it is said in another case Isa 28.15 They have made lies their refuge and under falshood they have hid themselves And these Friends that they trust in like Absaloms Mule 2 Sam. 18.9 many times give them the slip when they have most need of their support and assistance for if they fail them not through willful treachery as many times they do Psal 55.12 Mic. 7.5 6. Luke 21.16 yet they may through unavoidable mortality as Jonathan failed and disappointed David of whom he saith I am distressed for thee my Brother Jonathan 2 Sam. 1.26 27. Mr. Duguard's Sermon on Psal 89.48 p. 17 18. Caesar Borgia that wicked Son of a more wicked Father Pope Alexander the sixth grounded many designs on his relation to the Pope but the Pope suddenly dies and dashes all And Borgia when he heard of his death cryed out I never dreamed of such an accident now all my purposes and projects are stifled and come to nothing He that knows man well enough knows him better then to trust in him Wherefore as it is Psal 146.3 4. Put not your trust in Princes nor in the Son of man in whom there is no help his breath goeth forth he returneth to his earth in that very day his thoughts perish His thoughts and designs of doing thee good if he had any die with him and thine hopes and expections are buried in his Grave therefore as it follows vers 5. Happy is he that hath the God of Jacob for his help whose hope is in the Lord his God He casts Anchor amiss that casts it any where else save on the Rock of Ages Use 7 7. Let death of Friends teach you not to set your affections too much upon any Relation We see Friends stay but a short time with us who would be too fond of them We may love and rejoyce one in another Husband in Wife Wife in Husband Parents in Children Children in Parents c. But it must be moderately as though we rejoyced not seeing the time of enjoying is short and will quickly be expired 1 Cor. 7.29 30 31. The rivolet of our affections may run to other things but the full stream must run towards God Luke 14.26 If any man come to me saith Christ and hate not that is loveth not less then me Mat. 10.37 Father and Mother Wife and Children Brethren and Sisters yea and his own life also he cannot be my Disciple Say then with the Psalmist Psal 73.25 Whom have I in Heaven but thee And there is none upon Earth that I desire besides thee God is called the Living God Psal 42.2 Let therefore the life and vigour of your affections as love joy delight c. be for ever set upon him and not upon mortal Friends which like Noah's Dove however they bring an Olive Branch promising peace and comfort yet they are upon the Wing and presently fly from us Or like Thorns under a Pot though they give a little blaze shining and comfort for a while yet they presently drop into ashes When you too fondly set your affections on them and think to hold them fast they give you the slip as Juno did Ixion or as Joseph did his Mistress when she laid hold on his Coat Gen. 39.12 13. Let therefore these perishing comforts have perishing affections Use 8 8. Let death of Friends put a stop to covetousness and immoderate desires after the riches of this World The wise man saith Prov. 23.4 Labour not to be rich And the Prophet Jeremiah saith to Baruch Jer. 45.5 Seekest thou great things for thy self Seek them not And David saith Psal 62.10 If riches increase set not your heart upon them Riches indeed are a very uncertain tenure 1 Tim. 6.17 Orig. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Silver and Gold those refined parts of the Earth are but corruptible things 1 Pet. 1.18 Worldly possessions are nothing certain Prov. 23.5 If they leave not us which they may do for they are subject to many casualties Fire may burn them Thieves steal them c. yet we must ere long leave them Death gives a Bill of Ejectment It divorceth from Gold and Silver Houses and Lands c. It squeezeth those Spunges that have suckt themselves full and leaves them as dry and empty as they were at first Job 1.21 Eccles 5.15 16. Psal 49.10 17. comp Luke 12.20 1 Tim. 6.7 8. Death that surly Serjeant as you see daily will not be bribed to put off his Arrest In a word you may be sick and die and be turned to dust yea and be damned too for any thing your riches can help you Prov. 11.4 And therefore project not for time to come as if this life would never be done Use 9 9. Let death of Friends be a curbing-bit to restrain intemperance in eating and drinking and an eager prosecution of sinful pleasures Many in the last dayes of this Worlds continuance Jehu-like drive on furiously in sinful pleasures They are lovers of pleasures more then lovers of God 2 Tim. 3.4 but God would not have us to indulge our selves in rioting and drunkenness in chambering and wantonness he would not have us to make provision for the flesh to fulfil the lust thereof Rom. 13.13 14. And methinks the meditation of death of Friends should be a means to prevent intemperance As I have read of one who had continually amidst the multitude of his dainties a Deaths Head served up in a Charger to
yearning in his bowels with bitter grief that he should be the cause of bringing this destruction upon his dearly beloved People So should we when our sins have been a cause to hasten the death of our dear Friend confess them unto God be deeply humbled for them and pray heartily for pardon thereof And then Thirdly and lastly Let us be careful to avoid these sins for the future This God expects Job 36.9 10. He shews them who are holden in the Cords of Affliction their work and their transgressions that they have exceeded he openeth also their ear to discipline and commandeth that they return from iniquity This the Church hath practised in times of great distress Lam. 3.40 Let us search and try our wayes and turn again unto the Lord. Oh! how should our hearts rise against such sins as rob us of our dear Friends If any mortal man had murdered our Father or Mother Son or Daughter Brother or Sister or any other near and dear Friend or Relation We would not endure that man but prosecute the Law on him to the uttermost and we would rejoyce to see justice done upon him Our hand would not spare our eye would not pitty him Oh then take an holy revenge upon your Lusts which have provoked God to take away such or such Relations let your hearts be transported with infinite indignation against them 2 Cor. 7.11 Say in the Language of Elihu Job 34.31 I have born chastisement I will not offend any more nor provoke God in this manner by my sins to take away my Friends Mortifie therefore your earthly members fornication uncleanness inordinate affection c. Coloss 3.5 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 kill or make dead Pursue these sins with a deadly implacable hatred not only odio aversationis but inimicitiae Oh! let not your sins survive any longer but as they have killed your Friend so let them be buried with him in his Grave Use 4 4. Imitate deceased Friends in what is good There is no Friend so universally bad but there is something of good in him worth imitation some good might be distil'd from him if we put under the fire of Charity Who so deeply buried * Refined Courtier p. 58. saith a learned man under the rubbish of his own ruines that something of goodness may not be discerned by a charitable Surveyor We find David commending Saul in that Panegyrick or Funeral Oration mentioned 2 Sam. 1. Do not like the silly Sheep leaping off a Bridge follow one another in irregular wayes to your destruction Nequaquà m facere nos improbos improbitas debeat aliena Salv. Salv. de Gub. Dei lib. 7 p. 241. What you find in any materially good follow it but chiefly imitate your godly Friends Phil. 3.17 But in as much as they have their failings as pure Gold hath its dross and the purest Wheat its Chaff follow them so far onely as they follow Christ 1 Cor. 11.1 Make then your godly Parents your Paterns as * Mr. Dugard in Epist deâ—icat to his Sermon on Ps 89 48 Constantines Sons are said to resemble him to the life 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Euseb Write after those good Copies which deceased Friends have set you Jerom having read the Life and Death of Hilarion who died Christianly as he lived Religiously Well said he Hilarion shall be the Champion whom I will follow Zeno Cilliaeus consulted with the Oracle how he might live well and he received this answer 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 If he was of the same colour with the dead This he interpreted to mean That he should get and read all the antient Books that he could hear of and then steep and die his mind in those sacred Notions A * Mr. Patrick in his Serm on Psal 90.12 Reverend Divine saith of this Sentence what St. Paul did of Epimenides's Sentence Tit. 1.13 This testimony is true If you would live well Look as like to the dead in the Lord as ever you can and labour to turn your Souls into their shape As living Examples are to be followed so the dead are not to be forgotten Heb. 6.12 Be not slothful but followers of them who through Faith and Patience inherit the Promises It is said of Abel Heb. 11.4 That being dead yet speaketh which as it may be understood of his blood calling for Vengeance Gen. 4.10 Heb. 12.24 So likewise of his example calling for our imitation Heb. 12.1 Well then was thy Friend a strict observer of the Sabbath a constant frequenter of the Ordinances a diligent reader of God's Word a faithful Instructer of his Children and Servants Was he a lover of good Ministers a reliever of good People a reprover of Vice an encourager of Vertue Was he much in praying laborious in his Calling Was he serviceable to his Neighbour faithful to his Friend a forgiver of his Enemies In a word Was he temperate meek patient peaceable humble honest heavenly-minded c If these and the like vertues were conspicuous in thy Friend Go thou and do likewise Luke 10.37 Though your Friend be dead and buried yet let his vertues live in your practice Use 5 5. Admire Gods goodness who as yet continues thee in the land of the Living Life is a mercy that we ought to bless God for Psal 66.8 9. O bless our God ye people and make the voice of his praise to be heard who holdeth our soul in life So Ps 103.1 2 3 4. The Psalmist there amongst other mercies blesseth God for healing his Diseases and redeeming his life from destruction Indeed God's delivering our Soul from Death is an effect of his bounty as ye may gather from Psal 116.7 8. It is of the Lords mercies that we are not consumed Lam. 3.22 For God to maintain that radical moisture that Oyl that feeds the Lamp and Light of thy Life is as * Mr. Goodwin on Rom. 2.4 5. one saith as great a miracle as the maintaining the Oil in the cruse of the poor famished Widow 1 Kings 17.16 When thou therefore hearest of the death of any Friend Neighbour or Relation consider with thy self it might have been thine own case thou art made of no better Mould then he was 'T is God only that preserveth the House of Clay from falling to the ground As thou accompaniest him to the Grave to pay the last office of Love consider thou mightest have been carried forth and others have accompanied thee Is it not a miracle of mercy that the Dart of Death should kill many round about thee and yet miss thee Conclude that the Hand of God guides it and it is his meer mercy that thou art yet spared When Lot as I told you before had his Wife turned into a Pillar of Salt and his Sons in Law swept away by a fearful showr of Fire and Brimstone he took it for a great favour that God had spared his life Gen. 19.19 Behold now thy Servant hath found grace in thy sight and
mind him of his mortality and keep him temperate in the use of Gods good Creatures Oh consider thou wretched Epicure that thy pamper'd body will shortly be a most noysome Corps Job 24.20 The Worm shall feed sweetly on it Consider the pleasures of sin are but for a season Heb. 11.25 Thou mayest hear that voice this present hour in the midst of Drinking Dancing Feasting Gaming Whoring c. which Pope Innocentius the 4th heard in his Court and was found dead the next day Veni miser ad judicium Come thou wretch to judgment Use 10 10. Let death of Friends give a check to pride and ambition * Dr. Stuarts Cathol Divin pag. 150. Some say The hand of a dead man stroaking the part cures the Tympany Methinks the spectacles of mortality presented so frequently before us should asswage the swelling of pride that is within us Who would be proud of popular applause which is indeed but a fancy for so Agrippa's pomp is called Acts 25.23 Orig. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 did he consider his own mortality Herod would not have erected the plumes of pride as he did when the people flattered him had he looked on himself as a mortal man and that he should be so soon eaten up of Worms the vilest of Creatures Acts 12.21 22 23. Who would be proud of beauty considering if Deaths Hand do but touch the best complection'd Persons like the * Contacto◠cinerescunt Apples of Sodom they drop speedily into dust and ashes Who would be proud of Gifts and Parts seeing the Wise Man dies as well as the Fool Psal 49.10 Who would be proud of stately and pleasant Houses considering shortly he must be housed in dark and dankish rooms under ground Job 17.13 Who would be proud of his Pedigree considering he must say ere long to corruption Thou art my Father and to the worm Thou art my Mother and my Sister Job 17.14 Who would be proud of Apparel which must shortly be laid aside Or who would be proud of Riches which must be left at death and we know not to whom Psal 39.6 Who would be ambitious of great swelling titles as your Worship your Honour your Grace your Excellency your Greatness your Highness c. considering that the Greatest die and their Titles with them and their Glory will not descend after them Psal 49.17 Ambition like a blazing Comet portends no good and in a while vanisheth and comes to nothing How unbefitting a thing is it for man to be daily aspiring who is daily expiring to soar so high who must lie so low even under the feet of those whom he desires to tread upon Ahasuerus that could reckon 127 Provinces under his command Esth 1.1 had but about seven foot Sepulchre at most being dead And Alexander that sweated within the compass of the world as too narrow for him Aestuat infoelix angusto limite mundi Juvenal Sat. 10. Yet being dead had but a little patch of ground to contain his Body and that was with much difficulty obtained There is indeed some odds betwixt men whilst living in respect of birth education wealth wit alliance honour beauty c. yet to pull down the top-sail of pride man should consider that the same God made us all Job 31.15 Mal. 2.10 and of the same matter and we all at last return alike to the same earth Gen. 3.19 Eccl. 12.7 There is no odds amongst dead men Respice sepulchra vide quis servus quis dominus quis dives quis pauper discerne si potes vinctum a Rege fortem a debili pulchrum a deformi * Aug. lib. de nat et grat Aust Take a view of the Graves of men and you shall find all there have a like hollow eyes flat noses ghastly looks noysom scents c. there Dives cannot be distinguished from Lazarus nor beautiful Rachel from blear-ey'd Leah At a game of Chess as a learned * Doctor observes we see Kings and Queens and Bishops †Dr. Stuart's Catholic Divinity pag. 151 152. and Knights upon the board and they have their several walks and contest one with another in points of state and honour but when the game is done all together with the pawns are shuffled in one bag In like manner in this life men appear in different garbes and take diverse courses some are Kings some are Officers some Bishops some Knights some of other ranks and orders But when this life like a game is done which is sometimes sooner sometimes later all are shuffled together with the many or vulgar sort of people and lie in darkness and obscurity All their pomp is brought down to the grave and the worms shall cover them Isa 14.11 To shut up this point A proud man is a vain supercilious bubble that swells for a while and danceth about with a splendid gaiety upon the surface of the waters but presently disappears and is seen no more Who would then boast himself with Theudas to be some body Act. 5.36 or with Simon-Magus look upon himself as 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Act. 8.9 some grand Magnifico whereas in his best state he is but altogether vanity Psal 39.5 Use 11 11. Let death of Friends be a Cordial to keep you from fainting under any affliction You see Friends die daily assure your self ere long your turn will come and by death you shall be delivered from all your sorrows A Christian may say with Jacob Gen. 47.9 Few and evil have the dayes of the years of my life been This is Jacobs Arithmetick he casting the account of his days tells you they were by substraction and diminution Few by addition and multiplication full of evil Indeed Psal 34.19 Many are the afflictions of the Righteous The Latin word Quies which signifies rest wanteth the plural number for there is little rest in this world A good man meets with contempt from the world temptations from the Devil assaults from the flesh sometimes with rebukes from God checks from Conscience with spiritual desertions with poverty sickness reproach c. like a Ship sayling on the Sea of this world no sooner is he freed from one waye but he is immediatly lifted up by another but when he dyes he is safely landed on the shoar in the haven of Heaven above a state of misery and mortality too Old Chaucer's Epitaph is a good one * Manch Al. Mond p. 61. Mors aerumnarum requies Death puts an end to all sorrow We may write upon the Grave-stone of a Spiritual Pilgrim Hic mortuus requiescit semel Qui vivus requievit nunquam Death is a Sleep and the Coffin a Couch In quo illé mollius dormit quisquis durius in hâc vità se gèsserit Ambros The Sepulcher is a place of rest for the Antients called it Requietorium or Dormitorium And the Prophet Isaiah calleth it a Bed Isa 57.2 They shall rest in their Beds Men being hard-work't all day sleep sweetly at night So
Job 21.11 prosperous wicked men are said to send forth their little ones like a flock and their Children dance So Psal 17.14 wicked men that have their portion in this life are said to be full of Children Thou hast not then in losing thy Children lost choice favours which God bestows on his chosen ones Thou mayest be in special favour with God notwithstanding he hath taken away thy Children 3. Consider Thy Children might have been a discomfort to thee They might have been as so many Coals 2 Sam. 14.7 not to warm but to sully thee in thine old age See Mr. Leigh's Observations on Octavius Augustus Octavius Augustus said of some of his children that they were not his Seed but vomica carcinomata some Ulcers and Imposthumes broken from him and he used to cry out O utinam aut caelibs mansissem aut prole carerem I would either I had remained unmarried or wanted children And Tiberius Caesar counted Priamus happy Quòd superstes omnium suorum extitisset That he outlived his Children Indeed the Psalmist compares Children to Arrows Psal 127.4 5. and saith Happy is the Man that hath his Quiver full of them It is worth observing how the Prophet compares them to Arrows An Arrow you know is not so naturally it is Art that makes it an Arrow So if you do not through education artificially polish and shave off the knots of these youthful sprouts I mean if you keep not down the exorbitances of them and streighten their crooked dispositions by careful correction instead of Arrows they 'l prove Thorns or Spears in your side to torment you and bring down your gray hairs with sorrow to the grave And it is observed that the miscarriage of one Child robs Parents of the comfort they should take in all the rest 4. And lastly Consider the answer of the Man of God to King Amaziah complaining for the hundred Talents 2 Chron. 25.9 The Lord is able to give thee much more than this He is 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 the abridgment of all creature-excellencies All creature-comforts are sum'd up in him and he can abundantly supply the want of Children Another cryes out I have lost a Child that was a Joseph to me the hope joy and honour of my gray hairs the staff of mine old age 7th Apology answered my outward means came in this way Or this Husband this Wife this Father or Mother that God hath deprived me of brought me in yearly a comfortable subsistance All which is now buried in my Friends Grave so that I now being very poor must leave my former habitation I must fare hardly and go cloathed in mean Apparel I shall be slighted and disrespected and that which yet troubles me most of all is I have a great charge of Children and so many Children so many mouthes calling for help and bemoaning their sad condition what course to take for maintenance I know not If God had spared him or her longer it had been better for me I am now utterly undone Miserum est fuisse This is many times the lamentable case of a Ministers Widow who in her Husbands life-time lived comfortably but now being deprived of him hath lost her Living and Livelihood together and it may be hath a great charge of Children left to the wide world She may say as Lam. 1.12 Is any sorrow like to my sorrow which is done unto me wherewith the Lord hath afflicted me in the day of his fierce anger Her condition indeed is so sad that I must beg and borrow of the courteous Reader the help of his imagination to piece out the shortness of my expression for we may better conceive than express her disconsolate condition Answ This indeed is a very sad Apology for 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 life without maintenance is miserable Hence the same word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 signifies in Scripture both life and outward maintenance Luke 8.43 21.4 Mark 12.44 That person must needs live miserably that wants a competency of outward maintenance Luthers * See Abel Red. in Life of Luther Widow felt the smart of it But yet poor soul it is better to hope the best than the worst Do not antedate thy sorrows I will for thy comfort take this Apology in pieces and answer the chief particulars distinctly briefly and withal very plainly without Rhetorical flourishes Non est conveniens luctibus ille color Are you very poor your outward maintenance being buried in your friends grave 1. Consider You have more then you had when you came into the world and more then you can carry out when you leave the world Job was the greatest and richest of all the men of the East Job 1.3 and when he had all taken from him he was content upon this very account that he came naked out of his Mothers womb and naked should return thither Job 1.21 And the Apostle useth a like argument to work in us contentment in the like case 1 Tim. 6.7 8. We brought nothing into this world and it is certain we can carry nothing out and having food and raiment let us be therewith content 2. Consider You have more of worldly comforts then many that have been your betters by far in Grace How poor was our Saviour Christ 2 Cor. 8.9 Though he was rich yet for our sakes he became poor His Mother was a poor Virgin the Manger was his Cradle and the cobwebs his Canopy he had no sums of money He had not tribute money Mat. 17.24 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 was about fifteen pence of our money as Dr. Hammond observes Now our Saviour Christ was fain to work a Miracle for it v. 27. he recieved collection or contribution whilst he lived Luk. 8.2 3. And being dead he was buried at others charges Luk. 23.53 Job a non such for Religion Job 1.8 lost a great estate suddenly and it become a proverb As poor as Job Peter the Apostle (* Although Papists talk so much of his keys had neither Silver nor Gold Acts 3.6 And St. Paul tells you of his great wants and sufferings 2 Cor. 6.4 10. and 2 Cor. 11.23 to 28. and yet withal you find he was content Phil. 4.11 3 Consider You have more by far then you deserve Gen. 32.10 I am not worthy of the least of all thy Mercies which thou hast shewed unto thy Servant This was Jacob's motto Art thou greater then our Father Jacob sayth the woman of Samaria unto Christ John 4.12 Though Christ was infinitely greater then that great Patriarch yet we fall much short of him And we are not worthy of the least of Gods mercies we deserve not the thousandth part of what we have Now methinks they that deserve nothing should be content with any thing and they that deserve not any thing should not be discontented though they have nothing 4 Consider It might have been far worse with you then it is Have you lost some of your goods Be
this he had said to God Job 10.2 Shew me wherefore thou contendest with me When God takes away Relations he testifieth against you as he did against Naomi who had lost her husband and two sons Ruth 1.5 21 compared that something in your lives hath been displeasing to him God oft-times visits the iniquity of the Fathers upon the Children Exod. 20.5 34.7 2 Sam. 12.14 1 King 15.29 30. Isa 14.21 Parents may by their sins provoke God to bring upon their children a temporal but not an eternal death for Ezek. 18.20 The soul that sinneth it shall die Indeed all persons as well Children as Parents ow a death to God if not by reason of actual yet of original corruption that is in them Psa 51.5 Rom. 5.12 Yet God many times takes away Children and other Relations not having an eye so much to their sins as to the sins of parents and others that provoke God to inflict a penal evil Well then pray to the Lord to discover to thee thy sin which provoked him so soon to take away thy Friend Psal 4.4 Commune with your own heart upon your bed and be still When others are a sleeping do you be a thinking what sins you were guilty of that might cause God to deprive you of such a Relation Search into God's Word and see for what sins God usually punisheth with loss of Friends Now God might take away thy Relation for such sins as these 1. Thy sin might be undervaluing thy Friend May be thou didst not prize him according to his worth and now God will teach thee the worth of him by the want of him You would not follow his good counsels reproofs example c. and therefore God might because you did not work by it put out this burning and shining Light It may be you dealt by him as the Philistines did by Sampson make sport with him and a laughing-stock of him and therefore God took him away Or 2dly Thy sin might be overvaluing thy Friend You might over-love him too much rejoyce in him or trust in him too much God breaks the Conduit-pipes when you forget the Fountain Gustavus the renowned King of Sweden said God would take him away because he was too much admired and his words were too true a prophecy Indeed hopeful Children godly Relations they are Jewels Mal. 3.17 but if you take them and make a golden calf of them and idolize them God may justly break them to pouder as Moses dealt with the golden Calf Exod. 32.3 4 20 compared So Hezekiah brake in pieces the brazen Serpent that Moses had made when he saw the people give divine worship unto it 2 King 18.4 When you make Idols of Friends and Relations bestowing that love joy and delight upon them which is due to God he may justly break them to pieces Jonah took more delight than he should have done in his refreshing Gourd and that hand that sent it sent a worm to destroy it Fond Parents like foolish Apes kill their young ones with imbraces Or 3dly Thy sin might be foolish indulgence Eli was too indulgent towards his Sons 1 Sam. 3.13 his Sons made themselves vile and he restrained them not or according to the Original frowned not upon them he was too gentle in his reproofs and corrections as you may see 1 Sam. 2.22 c. and God threatned that all the encrease of his house should die in the flower of their age and his two sons Hophni and Phineas should in one day die both of them ver 33 34. And accordingly it came to pass 1 Sam. 4.17 So David too fondly affected Absolom and he lived to see him come to an untimely death Or 4thly Thy sin might be undutifulness to thy own Parents Absalom even now mentioned had once three sons as you may read 2 Sam. 14.27 but he lived to see them all buried as you may gather from 2 Sam. 18.18 Absalom was an undutiful child seeking to take away the life of his Father and God takes away his childrens lives Or 5thly Thy sin might be Lasciviousness or Wantonness You read 2 Sam. 12.14 The Child gotten in Adultery dieth Solomon loved many strange women 1 King 11.1 and he left but one son behind him as we read of in Scripture Rehoboam by name v. 43. and he no wiser than he should be as you may reade 1 King 12. Or 6thly Thy sin might be Bloodshed or Murder God threatned Ahab's posterity for his murdering of Naboth 1 King 21.21 so God threatned David for his murdering Uriah 2 Sam. 12.9 10. that the Sword-should never depart from his house and he lived to see two of his Children slain incestuous Amnon 2 Sam. 13. and rebellious Absalom 2 Sam. 18. Or 7thly Thy sin might be Oppression See Job 27.13 14 15. God there threatens that the Sword or Famine or some such sudden and fearful Judgment shall sweep away the Oppressors Children So Amos 4.1 2. There is the posterity of Oppressors threatned God may most justly take away the lives of their Children who take away the livelihood of others Children It is seldom seen that a covetous griping Oppressor or Usurer leaves many Children behind him For these and some other sins mentioned before God may suddenly deprive us of dear and near Relations Now what saith Conscience doth it not fly in your face and tell you that you have been guilty of some one or more of these sins With Pharoah's Butler call to mind thy fault this day Gen. 41.9 And having thus found it out 2. Confess it to God be deeply humbled for it and pray heartily for pardon thereof Say as Josephs Brethren did Gen. 42.21 We are verily guilty concerning our Brother Let your uncircumcised hearts be humbled and accept of the punishment of your iniquity as the Expression is Levit. 26.41 Turn sorrowing for your Friend into sorrowing for your Sins that have deprived you of his sweet society We find 2 Sam. 24. David sin'd in numbering of the People and God punisheth him in lessening the number of them See what David doth vers 10. His heart smote him after he had numbred the People and he said unto the Lord I have sinned greatly in that I have done And now I beseech thee O Lord take away the iniquity of thy Servant for I have done very foolishly No sooner was David convinced of his sin by the testimony of his Conscience acted by the Spirit of God but presently makes his humble addresses to God confessing his sin and heartily bewailing his folly he prayes to God for pardon thereof vers 17. David seeing the People smitten by the destroying Angel he cries out Lo I have sinned and I have done wickedly but these Sheep what have they done David knew very well that the People were not without their faults justly deserving this and a greater judgment yet reflecting upon his sin as an occasion of this judgment he endeavours to acquit them taking the fault wholly upon himself and
and what art thou now afraid to depart Go out my Soul And with that he laid himself down upon his Pillow and quietly slept in the Lord. That good man Oecolampadius when he lay a dying being asked by some of his friends whether the light did not offend him he clapt his hand on h s breast saying Hic sat lucis est Here is light enough meaning comfort So that solid Divine and eminent Christian Master Bolton said to some of his Friends that came to visit him at the point of death I am said he by the wonderful mercies of God as full of comfort as mine heart can hold and feel nothing in my Soul but Christ I could produce great store of such like Examples but let these suffice Object But are not some of God's dear Servants unwilling to die as was David Psal 102.24 and Hezekiah Isa 38.1 2 3 Do not some die with little or no comfort Answ As for David and Hezekiah they were publick Magistrates and desired to live longer that they might be serviceable in their Generation and bring glory to God They knew if they had died at such a time the wicked would have insulted and made Songs of Tryumph at their Funeral They feared Distractions both in Church and State which might follow upon their death And haply they were the more unwilling to die because in their apprehensions not sufficiently prepared for Death Possibly by falling unadvisedly into some sins they had blurred their evidences and wounded their Consciences It is therefore good counsel which * Dr. Boreman in Serm. on Phil. 3 20. p. 45. Carthusianus gives and that is so to provide for the coming of Death ut nihil in mente resideat quod Conscientiam mordeat cum quo mori timeat that no sin reside or remain in our breast which may wound and trouble the Conscience and with which we being guilty cannot die in peace and safety Sin like Jonah in the Ship raiseth a tempest in the Soul The reason why many find so little comfort at death is because they are too negligent in preparing themselves for it I end this with that of the Psalmist Psal 37.37 Mark the perfect man and behold the upright for the end of that man is peace 3. and last Consider 3. And lastly By this means you shall arise again with comfort That there will be a Resurrection of the Body is clear from Scripture Insomuch that our Saviour told the Sadduces which said there is no Resurrection Matth. 22.29 Ye do err not knowing the Scriptures When Jesus told Martha that her Brother should rise again Joh. 11.23 she replyed vers 24. I know that he shall rise again in the Resurrection at the last Day And the Apostle spends the largest Chapter in all his Epistles in proving this Point against some in the Church of Corinth who denied it 1 Cor. 15.12 Well then at Christs second coming to Judgment we must all rise again with our own bodies and give an account of our own Works as you may see 2 Cor. 5.10 Rom. 14.12 This will be a joyful day to such as have lived in expectation of it and preparation for it For when Christ their life appears they shall appear with him in glory Col. 3.4 They shall have a Crown of Righteousness conferred upon them 2 Tim. 4.7 8. They shall rise to everlasting life Dan. 12.2 John 5.29 They shall lift up their heads with joy They shall have confidence and not be ashamed before him at his coming 1 Joh. 2.28 For he who is their Saviour Surety Intercessor Head and Husband will be their Judge He will at that day gather them together and place them on his right hand and pronounce that blessed Sentence Mat. 25.34 Come ye blessed of my Father inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the World They shall be Assessores in judicio like Justices of the Peace upon the Bench with the Judge approving of that righteous Sentence which Christ shall pronounce upon the wicked both Men and Devils 1 Cor. 6.2 3. Know ye not that the Saints shall judge the World Know ye not that we shall judge Angels * Psalm 149.9 This and much more honour have all the Saints in that great day They enter upon such happiness as shall never end Dan. 12.3 They shall shine as the brightness of the Firmament and as the Stars for ever and ever see 1 Thes 4.14 c. After the Apostle had spoken of the Resurrection and second coming of Christ he tells us that Believers shall be for ever with the Lord vers 17. And then he adds Comfort one another with these words vers 18. This eternal happiness will make amends for all our pains and care in our Christian course Thus you see how comfortable their condition is that live in continual expection of Death and preparation for Death They live comfortably they die comfortably and they shall rise again with comfort Whereas on the other side if men be careless herein they have no true comfort whilst they live even in laughter their heart is sorrowful and the end of that mirth is heaviness Prov. 14.13 So it was with Belshazzar Dan. 5.4 5. God saith again and again by the Prophet Isaiah That there is no peace to the wicked Isa 48.22 57.21 And if they have no true peace and comfort whilst they live I am sure they have none when they come to die As Ahab said to Elijah so may a wicked man say upon the approach of Death 1 King 21.20 Hast thou found me O mine Enemy Death to him is the King of Terrors as Bildad in Job call'd it Job 18.14 Or as the Philosopher Arist Eth. ad Nic lib. 3. c. 9. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Nothing is so terrible to him as Death The Soul at such a time is usually full of horrors and heavy apprehensions Pangs of Death horrour of Conscience sense of Guilt and frights of Hell are sufficient to render him perfectly miserable If there be any wicked men that die with little sense of pain and less fear of Death as Psal 73.4 we must know that this is security and sensless stupidity no true peace And if they have no true peace and comfort neither in life nor at death they 'l have none after death nor at the general Resurrection for no sooner is the soul separated from the body but God passeth a particular judgment upon it Eccles 12.7 Heb. 9.27 and dooms it to misery Even as Sodom and Gomorrah are set forth for an Example suffering the vengeance of eternal fire Jude 7. And at the second coming of Christ to Judgment the body shall rise and be reunited to the soul and Christ will pronounce that dreadful Sentence upon all wicked persons Mat. 25.41 Depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the Devil and his angels And this Sentence being once pass'd shall never be alter'd Hence it is called
sickness but Epaphroditus did not regard his life to supply the Philippians lack of service towards Paul Heming in Phil. 2.30 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 significat perperam consulere uti faciunt qui se in apertum vitae periculum conjiciunt Epaphroditus was willing to hazard health and life to supply St. Pauls wants And as Hemingius saith Hoc facere in loco pro Christo non est stultitiae aut imprudentiae sed verè coelestis sapientiae c. Thus to hazard life is not folly but true wisdom And as Musculus saith of Epaphroditus's sickness Muscul in Phil. 2.27 Id omnium erat optimum quòd in tà m pio verè Christiano opere incidit in hanc morbum beati sunt qui hoc mortis genere auferuntur ex hoc saeculo It was best of all that he fell sick in so good a work and happy are all they that die thus in the Work of the Lord Rev. 14.13 I end this point with that of our Saviour John 12.25 He that loveth his * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Chrysost Hom. 66. Luk. 14.26 more then is fitting more then Christ his Church or Truth shall lose it in another World but he that hateth his life in this World loving it less for that 's the hatred here meant Gen. 29.31 then the Truth and Church of Christ shall keep it unto life eternal So much for this time Epaphroditus's Recovery Third Sermon PHIL 2.27 but God had mercy on him Dearly Beloved I Handled in the morning a Doctrine implyed which was this That life and health are mercies And in handling that Point as a Divine though TheologoruÌ„ minimus I shewed you Viam rectam ad vitam longam the true way to health and long life according to the Scriptures I shall not trouble you with repetition of what I then delivered because I have much matter before me and I would willingly finish this Text at this time I come then to the last and chief Point these words import which is this That God doth sometimes graciously recover or mercifully restore his People though they be grievously visited with sickness That God that knockt off Peters Chains and released him from Prison brought forth this Epaphroditus who like a Prisoner was confined to a sick Bed with few Attendants about him That God that ruleth the raging of the Sea Job 38.11 and stilleth the Waves thereof when they arise as it is Psal 89.9 put a stop in his due time to the fury of his Distemper We read of Dr. Willet that 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 that in his Journey from London he was forced to take up his lodging at Hodsdon in Hertfordshire having by a fall from his Horse broken his right Leg there being sick he continued God's Prisoner about nine dayes together and died It pleased God as my * Abel Redivivâ—â— in life of Dr. Willet Author speaks who hath appointed to every man 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 his own proper and peculiar kind of death and without whose providence not a Leaf falls from the Tree so to dispose of this Godly mans death that as a Pilgrim here on earth he must die in an Inn He was carried thence by Coach to his Town of Barley where he was Preacher and there buried He fell sick not far from home yet recovered not to go alive thither But Epaphroditus who fell sick at Rome above six hundred miles from Philippi through God's mercy was restored to health and returned to his People who were not a little comforted at the sight of him Now that God doth sometimes deliver his when nigh unto death is clear 1. From Scripture Texts see 1 Sam. 2 6. so Deut. 32.39 so Job 5.18 19. Eliphaz speaking of God saith He maketh sore and bindeth up he woundeth and his hands make whole He shall deliver thee in six troubles yea in seven there shall no evil touch thee So saith David Psalm 34.19 Many are the afflictions of the Righteous but the Lord delivereth him out of them all So Psal 68.20 He that is our God is the God of Salvation 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Ad salutes Bythner according to the Original it is Salvations in the plural Number because he delivers several wayes and at several times and is the God of all manner of Salvation Temporal Spiritual and Eternal and then it follows * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Exitus i e Domini est educere a morte Bythner in locum Unto God the Lord belong the issues from death in most deadly dangers he oft-times sends in help 2. The Point is clear by Scripture-Examples God recovered Hezekiah who was deadly sick 1 King 20.1.5 So he did Job yea and David oft insomuch that he describes God by this Periphrasis Psal 9.13 Thou that liftest me up from the gates of death That is from the power of death E portis mortis i. e. è potestate mortis sumiter enim porta in Scripturis pro magistratu potestate quòd in portis solerent exerceri judicia Muscul Muscul in Psul 9.13 in loc So Psal 116.6 I was brought low and he helped me So God delivered Paul from deadly dangers as you may gather from 2 Cor. 1.8 9 10. Thus it was with Epaphroditus in my Text who being sick nigh unto death the Lord had mercy on him Significat quod attinebat naturae vires actum fuisse de vitâ illius ideóque quòd sanitatè restitutus erat singulari fuisse ope ac virtute Dei factum Muscul Muscul in Phil 2.27 Vbi humanum deficit ibi incipit divinum auxiliums Many thousands in this Nation who have been sick even unto death both in the apprehension of themselves and others have been raised up again by God as so many Acts and Monuments of his mercy I therefore cease any farther proof of this known Point and shall proceed to give you the reasons of it And here for your profit I will take the Proposition into two parts and accordingly to each give in the Reasons of the Point and then I shall put them together again and make application of the whole The first part is this God is the Deliverer of his People And the chief Reasons why he doth deliver them I conceive to be these three 1. Because he is related to them and they to him He is their Husband Head King Master Father c. and they are his peculiar People his Spouse Members Subjects Servants Children and what not that speak thâ—m a People near and dear unto him Surely then as Samuel said 1 Sam. 12.22 The Lord will not forsake his People for his great Names sake because it hath pleased the Lord to make you his People 2. Because of his Promises of deliverance which he hath made to them See Psal 41.3 Psal 50.15 Isa 41.10 1 Cor. 10.13 These are precious Promises 2 Pet. 1.4 which God hath given to his People and in