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A00554 Counsel to the husband: to the wife instruction A short and pithy treatise of seuerall and ioynt duties, belonging vnto man and wife, as counsels to the one, and instructions to the other; for their more perfect happinesse in this present life, and their eternall glorie in the life to come. Ste. B. 1608 (1608) STC 1069; ESTC S118841 33,892 104

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honour_n of_o headship_n to_o alter_v order_n and_o direct_v as_o in_o wisdom_n he_o see_v cause_n which_o glory_n must_v still_o shine_v in_o his_o face_n as_o he_o live_v in_o his_o family_n and_o not_o in_o she_o in_o his_o presence_n he_o must_v still_o be_v see_v to_o be_v the_o head_n and_o husband_n and_o she_o may_v not_o bear_v it_o which_o be_v most_o uncomely_a yea_o her_o very_a shame_n and_o dishonour_n if_o she_o weigh_v it_o right_o now_o contrary_a to_o all_o this_o one_o evil_a sickness_n i_o have_v observe_v in_o the_o experience_n of_o my_o day_n wife_n a_o evil_a observe_v among_o man_n and_o their_o wife_n to_o speak_v according_a to_o the_o phrase_n of_o solomon_n which_o i_o find_v not_o the_o offender_n therein_o careful_o to_o prevent_v though_o it_o be_v the_o confusion_n of_o marriage_n happiness_n namely_o where_o the_o husband_n and_o the_o wife_n be_v at_o odds_n which_o of_o they_o shall_v first_o begin_v to_o perform_v their_o duty_n that_o be_v wife_n 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