good and advantage and because it must be done with condescendency of spirit and stouping seing our proud and lofty spirits do look upon every duty towards our neighbour as below them And he addeth in the fear of God which containeth 1. a motive to the duty this mutuall submission and stouping unto all those duties which we owe one to another being an evidence of a man's fearing God Gen. 42. 18. and 2. the right fountain from whence this submission should flow for then do we our duty towards others acceptably and as we ought when our so doing floweth from the fear and awe of God Col. 3. -22 and 3. the rule and measure of this submission there being none bound to submit himself to please his neighbour further than is consisting with that subjection and obedience which he oweth unto God Act. 5. 29. Doct. 1. We are not under pretence of going about the duties of Gods immediate worship to neglect those other duties of our particular callings and which we owe to man in our several stations God alloweth time for both we are to take time for both and conscientious regard of the one and of the other are most consistent for the Apostle enjoyneth both the former and latter sort of duties as it were with one breath which is clear from the grammatical construction of the words Giving thanks alwayes submitting your selvet one to another Yea secondly The consciencious discharging of those duties which we owe to our neighbour in our several stations in a way acceptable to God doth call for and argue a copious measure of the saving work of Gods Spirit in the heart no lesse than those other duties of Gods worship and service for this verse dependeth upon and is constructed with ver 18. Be filled with the Spirit submitting your selves 3. There are none living whom God alloweth to live only to themselves but all are bound to lay out themselves in their respective imployments for the good and behoof of others even superiors for the good of inferiors for this command is given to all without exception Submitting your selves one to another 4. As God hath tyed us not to live to our selves only but also to others whose good we are to aim at in our place and station So for a recompence and that there may be a kind of equality He hath tyed those others to live also unto us and one way or other to be forth-coming for our good and advantage for the command and obligation founded upon it is reciprocal Submitting your selves one to another 5. Where the fear of God is rooted in the heart it will make a man conscientiously carefull and tender of his duty towards man so that he will not only do his duty but also do it from a right principle and motive and so do as he will not overdo by displeasing God while he goeth about to please men for he holdeth forth the fear of God as the fountain motive and rule of that submission which is here enjoyned Submitting one to another in the fear of God Vers. 22. Wives submit your selves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. THe Apostle cometh now to presse those particular duties which are incumbent to every member of a compleet Family And being to begin with the duties of husbands and wives he doth in the first place exhort wives to their dutie to wit that part of it which is peculiar to them passing-by those other duties which are common to them with their husbands as love Tit. 2. 4. Col. 3. 19. communion of body and goods 1 Cor. 7. 4. dwelling together 1 Pet. 3. 7 bearing mutually with one anothers infirmities Gal. 6. 2. These duties then peculiar to the wives are here briefly summed up in this one word of submission properly and strictly so called and it supposeth somewhat in the wife to wit a reverend esteem of her husband as the root of this submission spoken of ver 33. to be evidenced in her respective speaking to him and of him 1 Pet. 3. 6. and it expresseth somewhat to wit the obedience of the wife to her husband in things lawfull flowing from reverence and submission of mind 1 Pet. 3. 5 6. It implyeth also somewhat as consequentiall to that state of subjection wherein the wife is placed even the exercise of several vertues as that she be a keeper at home Tit. 2. 5. an active promotter of her husband's and her own affairs especially within doors Prov. 31. 13 c. that she evidence shamefastnesse sobriety and submission in her moderate speech in her grave and affable deportment and in rendering her self teachable in those things wherein she shall be instructed by her husband 1 Tim. 2. 9 10 11 12. Now this submission of the wives is explained first from the party to whom they owe it to wit their own husbands even though they should come short of others in knowledge wisdom and every other thing which doth deserve it 1 Sam. 25. 17. And 2. from the manner motive and rule of their submissive obedience while he saith as unto the Lord to wit Christ expresly spoken of ver 23. For 1. It must not be constrained and feigned but willing and sincere resembling so far at least that subjection which they owe to the Lord Christ for though the comparative particle as doth not hold forth an equality in all things yet it pointeth at a similitude and likenesse in some things 2. It must not flow from a natural principle only of law custome or desire of preventing domestick broyles but from conscience of duty to the Lord Christ and from respect to His ordinance who hath so appointed And thirdly it must be only in things lawfull and no wayes contrary to that submissive obedience which they owe to Him Doct. 1. As the right ordering of Families doth conduce much to the advancing of Religion and Policy combination in Families being the foundation of all other societies So the good and orderly conversation of husband and wife is of great concernment for advancing piety and godlinesse among all the other members of the Family for as the Apostle presseth much those duties which belong to Christians as they are members of Families so he doth begin with the duties of husband and wife Wives submit your selves 2. When we are to deal with persons of several estates and conditions and to inform and presse upon them their respective duties we are to begin with the inferiours rather than the superiours because their duty through the subjection which is in it is more difficile and being made conscience of is a strong motive unto the Superiour to go about his dutie in like manner for therefore the Apostle in pressing duties upon those three pairs which are in every compleat Family doth alwayes begin with the inferiour first as here Wives submit your selves 3. The great and main duty which a wife as a wife ought to learn and so learn as to practise it is to be
arguments the first whereof is in this verse and taken from the equity and righteousnesse which is in it even that children should do all the forementioned duties unto their parents to whom under God they owe their very being The Laws of all Nations even of the most barbarous do enjoyn it an◠all creatures who have life and sense are carried in some measure by a kind of instinct unto it Hence Learn 1. The great and main duty which a childe as a childe ought to learn and so to learn as to practise is to obey his parents even to receive their instructions and execute their lawful commands this being a duty which of any other proud and rebellious nature is most averse from and yet such as nature it self doth plead for its equity so that whatever children be otherwise for beauty for strength for quicknesse wisdom activity learning preferment or honour yet this being inlacking they fight against the very law and light of nature and so are a reproach to their parents Prov. 19. 26. and do accelerate the judgement of God upon themselves 1 Sam. 2. 25. for though the obedience here enjoyned doth draw with it all those other duties which children owe to their parents as was shown in the exposition yet it doth in the first place signifie a submissive hearkening unto and obeying of their lawfull commands as the word in the Original doth imply which he doth mainly presse upon children Children obey your parents 2. This duty of obedience to parents belongeth unto all children whatsoever so that neither age sexe place honour or condition do exempt them wholly from it 1 King 2. 19. for he speaketh indefinitly unto all children and of both sexes Children obey your parents 3. Children are bound to obey not only one but both their parents the mother as well as the father yea the holy Ghost doth expresly provide for the mother giving her the precedency Lev. 19. 3. because her sexe being weaker she is the more subject to be despised for he useth a word common to both father and mother while he saith Children obey your parents 4. It is not sufficient that children obey their parents either from a natural instinct or fear of their displeasure or hope of great things to be received from them and enjoyed by them but their obedience must flow from conscience of duty towards God who doth enjo 〈…〉 it and be regulated by and subordinated to that obedience which they owe to Him otherwise their obedience is only heathenish and naturall but not Christian for he commandeth Children obey your parents in the Lord. 5. The nature of man is since the fall become so perverse and backward that there is need of a spur of earnest exhortation inforced with strong and evident reason to stir us up even to those duties which are written in broadest letters upon every mans heart by nature for the Apostle seeth it necessary not only to exhort unto this duty of obedience to parents but also to enforce his exhortation by arguments For this is right saith he 6. The first and chief motive which ought to set us on work to any duty is not so much the advantage which may redound to us by the practice of it as the equity and righteousnesse which is in the thing it self as being commanded by God and well pleasing in His sight for he enforceth obedience to parents from the equity of it before he mention ver 3. the profit which should accresce unto children by it For this is right saith he Vers. 2. Honour thy father and mother which is the first commandment with promise THe Apostle passing-by all other reasons to prove the equity of the former injunction doth pitch upon one to wit the Law of God enjoyning this duty in the fifth Command The scope of which Command is to prescribe all those duties which inferiours owe to their superiours and by consequence which superiours owe to their inferiours where all superiours are expressed by the name of father and mother because the authority of parents is most natural and the yoke of it most easily comported with and therfore all other authority goeth under the name of that to render it lesse invidious to those who are to be subject unto it And the duty enjoyned to inferiors is their giving honour to superiors which implyeth as was shown ver 1. reverence obedience and gratitude Now this command is described from its precedency as being the first and most weighty command in all the second table and from the manner of propounding it not nakedly but with a speciall promise of a particular mercy subjoyned to this command in particular and expressed ver 3. which cannot be said of any other command for the promise annexed to the second is a generall promise of mercy made to such as keep all the commands Hence Learn 1. Whatever God hath commanded in His Word is most righteous equitable and just for he proveth that it is right for children to obey their parents because the Law of God enjoyneth honour thy father and mother 2. Though the Law of Ceremonies given by Moses doth not oblige Christians Christ the substance of those shadows being come Col. 2. 17. nor yet the judiciall Law which was given to the Jewish Commonwealth and to stand and fall with it Numb 36. 6 7. yet the moral Law or the Law of the ten Commandments as being never yet repealed by God doth stand in force and is binding unto Christians for Paul doth urge this duty of obedience unto parents upon children because the morall Law enjoyneth it Honour thy father and mother which is the first commandment with promise 3. So far is God from abolishing different ranks degrees and states among men that He taketh speciall care to have those and publick order in those inviolably preserved while He not only enjoyneth the respective duties of superiors and inferiors but also giveth them the first and chief place among all those other duties which man doth owe to man for saith he honour thy father and mother by whom as we shew are meaned all lawfull superiors and he addeth which is the first commandment to wit in the second table 4. Though God as absolute Lord might enjoyn us obedience to His commands without giving any promise of a reward yet so backward are we to our duty and so mercifull is God that to overcome our backward unwillingnesse He is pleased sweetly to allure us by His gracious promise of a free reward unto our obedience for here is a commandment with promise Vers. 3. That it may be well with thee and thou mayest live long on the earth HEre he sheweth what that promise is and thereby giveth a second argument to inforce the duty of obedience upon children unto parents taken from the profit and advantage which should redound unto them by it for the Lord doth here expresly promise prosperity and long life to all such as make conscience of this
of free-men and masters And that this argument may have the more force with them he appealeth to their own conscience and knowledge for the truth of it if it was not so as he had affirmed Doct. 1. Then and then only may a man reckon himself to do good or a good work acceptable to God when the thing he doth is warranted by Gods will revealed in His Word when he doth it in singlenesse of heart from an inward principle of love and good-will within in the heart and in obedience to Gods command or as service unto Him for the obedience required from servants was to be so qualified ver 5 6 7. and he doth here call it a doing good Whatsoever good thing a man doth 2. Even the basest drudgery of servants being so qualified is a doing of good and cometh within the compasse of good works which the Lord will take notice of as such for it is with an eye to the imployment of servants mainly that he here speaketh Whatsoever good thing a man doth the same shall be receive 3. As it is lawfull to eye the promised reward for our encouragement in the way of duty So it is the mind of God that every one should in the due and right order make particular application unto themselves of such promises as are in Scripture held forth unto all in general for he holdeth forth the promise of a reward which is made unto all who do good in general to be made use of by Christian servants for their encouragement in particular Whatsoever good a man doth the same shall be receive of the Lord. 4. Promises have no influence to excite unto duty except the truth of them be known and believed so that ignorance and misbelief of divine truths are a great cause of abounding profanity and neglect of duty in all ranks for he layeth the weight of their encouragement to duty from this promise upon the knowledge and faith which they had of it knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doth the same shall be receive of the Lord. 5. The Lord in dispensing rewards looketh not to the externall beauty splendour or greatnesse of the work but to the honesty and sincerity of it how mean or inconsiderable soever it be otherwise for the promise of a reward is to the outwardly mean and base works of poor servants if so they be honest and sincere aswell as to the more splendid honourable and expensive works of their rich masters The same shall he receive of the Lord whether he be bond or free Vers. 9. And ye masters do the same things unto them forbearing threatning knowing that your master also is in heaven neither is their respect of persons with him HE doth here in the first place set down the duties of masters towards their servants 1. positively while he enjoyneth them to do the same things which is to be understood not of the duties themselves which are much different from the duties of servants See them briefly summed up upon Col. 4. ver 1. doct 1 2. but of those properties and conditions which are common to the duties of both so that the master is bound to discharge his duty towards his servant in singlenesse of heart as service to Christ in obedience to the will and command of God from his heart with love and good-will even as the servant is bound to minde those qualifications in his duty towards his master Next negatively while he forbiddeth threatning or rather commandeth to relax and moderate threatning as the word doth signifie and so the thing forbidden is excesse in threatning and boasts when they are alway menacing oftentimes for light occasions and sometimes for none And by proportion all fierce and inhumane way of dealing with servants by masters whether in words or deeds is here forbidden also In the second place he inforceth this duty by minding them of that which they did know at least ought to have known even that they also aswell as their servants had a master above them to call them to an accompt to wit God who to make the argument more pungent is described 1. from His magnificent and stately Palace where His glory shineth to wit the Heaven not as if He were only there and nowhere else Jer. 23. 24. but to set forth His absolute dominion 2 Chron. 20. 6. His omniscience Psal. 11. 4. His holinesse Isa. 57. 15. and His omnipotency Psal. 115. 3. so that their sin could not be hid from Him His holy Nature did hate it He had both right and power to punish it 2. From His impartiality and justice in judging so that He respecteth not persons nor faces outward shew and appearance as the word signifieth and therefore by persons is not meaned the substance or personal subsistence of men but their outward state and condition even that which is conspicuous in man and doth commonly make him more or lesse esteemed among men as country state of life riches poverty wisdom learning c. and consequently to respect persons is to wrest judgement from a sinfull respect to the outward state condition of parties and such other things which are wholly extrinsick to the cause in hand which vice the Lord is free of as being the righteous Judge of the world who cannot be byassed by fear love pitty or any other inordinate affection as man is and consequently the outward dignity power or wealth of masters would not make Him spare them if they made not conscience of their duty Hence Learn 1. Though masters are freed from subjection and giving obedience unto their servants yet not from doing duty unto them Neither is there any power among men so absolute no not that of Kings and supream Rulers Rom. 13. 3. -4. -6. but it implyeth an obligation through vertue of Gods Ordinance upon those who are invested with it to make conscience of several duties towards their inferiours and subjects for he saith And ye masters do the same things unto them 2. It concerneth masters in their place as much as servants in theirs not only to go about their duty but also to advert to the manner wherein they do it even that it be done in sincerity cordially chearfully taking God for their party more than men for he saith Ye masters do the same things unto them 3. It is not only lawfull but in some cases necessary for masters sometimes to threaten boast cast down their countenance upon negligent lazy disobedient and chiefly upon profane servants providing they do it moderatly and keep off excesse for the Apostle doth not simply forbid all manner of threatning but only prescribeth a moderation thereof Forbearing or moderating threatning 4. The Servants of Christ in the reproof of sin ought mainly to guard against such evils as those to whom they speak through custom perverse inclination or a deluded mind are most ready to fall into and so ought people set mainly against such sins in themselves and thereby defend the wall
and will vent it self even in giving of thanks or in a sensible acknowledgement of favours received and in expressing our sense of them whether by word or work to the praise of the bestower Which duty is amplified 1. from the time when it ought to be discharged alwayes and at all times not as if we were to be alwayes and without intermission in the actuall exercise of this duty of formall and direct thanksgiving seing there are other necessary duties which sometimes must divert us from it but because our whole life ought to be according to the will of God and consequently a reall expression of our thankfulnesse to Him and because we are not to omit any occasion when it offereth of formal and direct thanksgiving to God expressed in words flowing from the inward sense and feeling of our hearts as they are said to do a thing alwayes who do it upon all due occasions See 2 Sam. 9. 13. Secondly from the matter for which we are to give thanks for all things whether spirituall or temporall prosperous or adverse for God maketh all things even those which are adverse work together for the good of such as love Him Rom. 8. 28. yea He punisheth lesse than our iniquities deserve Ezra 9. 13. and maketh saddest corrections to afford most necessary and profitable instructions Psal. 94. 12. and 119. 71. so that there is ground of thanksgiving even for those Thirdly from the party to whom this duty is to be discharged unto God and the Father See upon Col. 3. ver 17. doct 3. And fourthly from the party through whom Jesus Christ by the vertue of whose merit and satisfaction which are His name whereby He is known we are not only inabled to go about our duty Philip. 4. 13. but also all our spiritual performances whether of prayer or thanksgiving are acceptable and well-pleasing unto God Eph. 1. 6. Doct. 1. The more a man doth find his heart disposed to give thanks to God at all times and for all things even for those things wherein divine dispensation goeth crosse to his own affections he may the more certainly conclude that he hath the saving work of Gods Spirit in him in a copious measure and the more apt we are to mistake repine and murmure at Gods dealing and so to wast our spirits in heartlesse complaints there is the lesse evidence of a gracious work of Gods Spirit in us at least in any great measure for he maketh giving of thanks alwayes for all things an effect of being filled with the Spirit 2. So firm so calm and composed is that man's state and inward frame of heart who hath his soul replenished with a rich measure of the saving work of Gods Spirit that nothing can fall out so crosse unto him but he may see the hand of God working for good to him in it and consequently be kept in perfect peace and a joyful frame of heart expressing it self in giving of thanks to God notwithstanding of it yea and for it for he sheweth the man filled with the Spirit may attain to this fixed frame of heart even to be giving thanks alwayes for all things unto God 3. Spiritual exercises especially that of giving thanks are such that being rightly gone about frequency in them doth not beget satiety and loathing but rather a greater delight to continue in them so that the more we are acquainted with them the more we love them for otherwise this command of giving thanks alwayes should never receive obedience 4. So steadable and usefull is a cheery and thankful frame of heart unto a Christian that it bringeth meat out of the eater encouragement from matter of discouragement and taketh occasion to lift it self up in the praises of God even from these things which are matter of down-casting and heartlesse drouping unto others for a thankful heart will give thanks alwayes and for all things even for adverse and crosse dispensations 5. Though we are bound to give thanks unto men for favours received as unto instruments of Gods good providence towards us Col. 3. -15. yet religious thanksgiving is only due unto God as implying an eying of Him to whom we give thanks as the supream fountain and author of the favour received having sufficiency in Himself and receiving nothing from any other 1 Chron. 29. 14. and implying also a religious subjection of the whole man both in soul and body unto his benefactour in evidence of a thankfull heart 1 Cor. 6. 20. for the Apostle speaking of this religious thanksgiving will have it ascribed to God only Giving thanks unto God and the Father 6. That we may imploy Jesus Christ aright whether for furniture and through-bearing in duty or for acceptation of our performances by God it is most conducing and necessary that we so take Him up as He is made known by the Word in His Person Nature and Offices and accordingly close with Him by faith as ours whereby our faith being acted in Him with relation to our state and persons upon undoubted grounds we may find more easie work to act faith in Him for furniture to such a particular duty or for acceptation to it when it is performed for Paul seemeth to imply so much while teaching them to act faith in Christ for through-bearing and acceptation in this duty of thanksgiving he doth hold Him forth not only under His titles of Lord and Jesus and Christ which do imply His distinct Natures with the unity of His Person and His threefold Office to which He was anoynted See upon chap. 1. ver 17. doct 6. but also maketh mention of His Name which expresseth whatever other thing is revealed of Him and whereby especially He is made known and withall appropriateth Christ unto himself teaching them to do the like upon grounds of knowledge of what He is while he saith in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Vers. 21. Submitting your selves one to another in the fear of God THe Apostle having from chap. 4. ver 1. exhorted unto such duties as belong to all Christians in general of whatsoever rank or station doth now in the second part of this Chapter exhort to those duties which belong to Christians as they are members of families And first in this verse to make way from the former purpose to that which followeth he doth premit a general exhortation unto all whether superiors or inferiors to be mutually subject one to another where submission or subjection is taken not strictly for that which is the root of obedience in inferiors towards superiors as ver 22. but generally for that service of love which every one oweth to another for their mutuall good and advantage in their severall stations See upon Gal. 5. ver 13. And it is called submission to our neighbour because it is not sufficient that we simply do the commanded dutie unto him except our so doing flow from a principle of love to him and that we actually intend therein his
subject to her own husband so that what ever wives be otherwise for parts for birth for beauty for thrift for breeding if this be inlaking they want their chief ornament are dishonourable to God and a disgrace to their husbands for Paul doth hold it forth as their great lesson and the sum of all their duty Wives submit your selves unto your own husbands 4. There is no wife what ever be her birth parts or any other priviledge who is exempted from this ty of subjection to her own husband The law of nature God's ordinance and her own voluntary covenant do bind her to it for he speaketh indefinitely to all wives submit your selves 5. There is not any husband to whom this honour of submission from his own wife is not due no personall infirmity frowardnesse of nature no nor errour in the point of Religion doth deprive him of it 1 Cor. 7. 13. for he speaketh indefinitely also of husbands Wives submit your selves unto your own husbands 6. A wife can never discharge her duty in any measure of conscientious tendernesse towards her husband except she have an high esteem of the Lord Christ and be in the first place subject unto Him that so from love to Him she may subject her self to her husband not going without those bounds of submission which are consistent with her love to Christ for while he biddeth submit themselves unto their husbands as unto Christ he supposeth they had submitted to Christ already and speaketh to them as such Vers. 23. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the Church and he is the saviour of the body THe Apostle doth next enforce this duty of submissive obedience upon wives from the ordinance of God who hath made the husband to be an head to his wife which similitude of an head taken from a naturall or politick body implyeth first the husbands eminency by reason of his sex the woman being the weaker vessel 1 Pet. 3. 7 and made for the man to wit an helper to him Gen. 2. 18. and the man not for the wife 1 Cor. 11. 9. as the head is more eminent than the body 2. It implyeth the husbands power and authority of government over his wife as the head hath power over the body to rule and direct it in which respect the man is called the image of God in a sense peculiar to himself which agreeth not to the woman 1 Cor. 11. 7. And it implyeth thirdly that ordinarily men are at least should be endued with a greater measure of knowledge prudence and other parts which they are to employ for the behoof of their wives 1 Cor. 14 35. even as the head is the seat of wisdom knowledge nerves and senses sending down influence for sense and motion to all the members upon all which grounds women ought in reason to be subject to their husbands Which argument he doth illustrate and enforce from the similitude of Christs headship over the Church whereof see chap. 1. ver 22 so that wives ought to submit themselves because God will have some resemblance of Christs authority over the Church held forth in the husbands authority over the wife I say some resemblance only for the comparative particle as holdeth forth not an equality but a similitude and likenesse and in some things only betwixt Christs headship over the Church and the husbands over the wife even in those things which I presently shew are implyed in the husbands headship which are some shaddows only of that eminency power and fulnesse of grace and perfections which are in our head Christ. But besides those the Apostle doth here expresse one thing wherein this resemblance doth also hold to wit that Christ as head is the Saviour of the body thereby implying that as Christs dominion over the Church His body doth tend to and is exercised in procuring and bringing about the Churches good and salvation So the husbands authority and eminency are given him for the like end even to procure the good and safety of his wife in defending her from injuries 1 Sam. 30. 18. providing for her 1 Tim. 5. 8. directing her in things necessary c. 1 Cor. 14. 35. and therefore the wife upon this consideration also ought to subject her self seing the husbands power and authority over her are given for her good Besides those doctrines which the Text thus explained doth expresly hold forth we may gather these consequences from it 1. It is not sufficient that wives do subject themselves to their husbands from respect to their own peace ease credit or to any thing of that sort but their subjection ought to flow from the conscience of and respect to that state and dignity wherein God hath placed their husbands above them so that their personall infirmities do not prevail so much to make them despise them as the dignity of their state to beget respect reverence and obedience towards them for Paul enforceth such a subjection as floweth from this ground while he saith for the husband is the head of the wife 2. There is no society though never so strictly tied together with strongest bonds which can comfortably subsist and keep together for any space of time except there be different degrees of superiours and inferiours some to govern and others to obey in the Lord among them for the wise Lord did see it necessary so to ordain even in conjugall society of husband and wife who are so strictly tied that both are but one flesh See ver 31. and yet the husband is made the head of the wife 3. Christians ought to be of such an heavenly frame of spirit as to take occasion from things civil or naturall which do occur in their ordinary employments to ascend to heavenly contemplations of things spirituall which have some resemblance to these other things which are among their hands for the Apostle teacheth so much while he leadeth husband wife from the consideration of the union order and duties of married parties to contemplate that sweet union and order which is betwixt Christ and His Church both here and in the following verses Even as Christ is the head of the Church saith he 4. Husbands and consequently other Superiours have a speciall piece of the image of Christ put upon them in respect of their power and authority over their inferiours given them of God whereby both inferiours may be afraid to vilifie and contemn their authority lest they be therein found defacers of the image of God and they themselves also may be taught to resemble Christ whose image they bear in employing their state and dignity so as they walk answerably to it if they would have that submission and respect from inferiours which is due unto it for Paul maketh that eminency and authority which husbands have over their wives a shaddow and resemblance of Christs power over His Church even as Christ is the head of the Church 5. As the members
consideration of them and pointeth forth what the plain history doth teach concerning the duties of husband and wife Neverthelesse saith he Let every one of you in particular so love his wife 2. It is not unprofitable for people that Ministers do wind up their large exhortations in a short and pithy sum of what they have spoken at greater length whereby the memory of people may be somewhat helped and their affections also may be more forcibly wrought upon when the strength of a large discourse is contracted in two or three words and presented both to the understanding and affections of people at once for so doth Paul in the conclusion sum up what he had spoken at large from ver 22. of the duties both of husbands and wives in two succinct sentences Let every one of you so love his wife c. 3. Then do people receive and hear with profit these exhortations which are spoken unto all in generall when they make application of them to themselves as if they were delivered unto them in peculiar and by name for what the Apostle spoke indefinitly unto all ver 25. he doth here make particular application of it unto every one Neverthelesse let every one of you in particular so love his wife 4. As maried parties are ready to forget their mutuall duties yea and to sport at such doctrine which doth presse and enjoyn those duties so the Ministers of Christ would not only inculcate them the more frequently but also deliver their exhortation of that kind with greater weight and authority for the Apostle not only repeateth but in an authoritative commanding way bindeth this exhortation on them Let every one love his wife and the wife see that she reverence 5. As we would labour to infix in our memories a short sum of our most necessary duties so also of the most moving and taking argument to enforce the practice of these duties otherwise the naked knowledge of our duty will prove but ineffectuall to lead us captive to walk in it for Paul summeth up both the husbands duty and the strongest argument to enforce the duty taken from that near union between him and his wife Let every one of you so love his wife as himself 6. Then and only then is the duty of subjection and obedience of inferiours toward their superiours sincerely and heartily discharged and accepted of by God when it floweth from inward reverence and hearty esteem in the former toward the place and dignity conferred by God upon the latter for he here commandeth wives to give reverence to their husbands thereby pointing at the right fountain of that subjection which he had formerly pressed upon them ver 22 24. even fear flowing from love And the wife see that she reverence her husband CHAP. VI. IN the first part of this Chapter the Apostle insisteth further upon those duties which are incumbent to Christians as they are members of families And first he presseth upon children obedience to their parents 1. from the equity of it ver 1. which he cleareth from the fifth command ver 2. Secondly from the advantage which should redound to them by it ver 3. Next he presseth upon parents to hold off the two extremities of rigidity and indulgence towards their children ver 4. Thirdly he presseth upon servants obedience to their masters which is set forth by severall of its necessary qualifications and properties ver 5 6 7. and inforced from the great advantage which they should reap by it ver 8. Fourthly he presseth upon masters their duty which is to be accompanied with the like qualifications fear and trembling only being excepted ver 9. In the second part he presseth one duty which belongeth unto all Christians in generall even to prepare for a Christian warfare And 1. more generally that they would take unto them spirits by making use of the strength which they had without themselves in the Lord Christ ver 10. and of the saving graces of Gods Spirit inherent in themselves ver 11. which he enforceth from the nature of the warfare and terror of the adversary ver 12 13. Next he exhorteth them more particularly to put on and make use of six several pieces of the Christian armour 1. The grace of sincerity 2. The inherent righteousnesse of an holy conversation ver 14. 3. A resolute frame of heart to charge through all difficulties ver 15. 4. The grace of faith commended from its excellency and usefulnesse ver 16. 5. The well-grounded hope of salvation 6. Acquaintance with the Lords written Word ver 17. Thirdly he presseth the exercise of prayer as necessary for the obtaining and right use-making of all those ver 18. exhorting them to pray for utterance and boldnesse to himself in particular ver 19. because of his office and bonds ver 20. In the third part of the Chapter he concludeth the Epistle 1. by shewing he had sent Tychicus whom he highly commendeth to inform them of his own particular affairs ver 21. and to comfort them ver 22. Next by his usuall fare-well-wish for them in particular ver 23. and for all the lovers of Christ in generall ver 24. Vers. 1. CHildren obey your parents in the Lord for this is right THe Apostle doth now fall upon the duties of parents and children And first beginneth with children the word rendered children signifieth these who are begotten even though now come to perfect age See upon Col. 3. ver 20. doct 2. These he enjoyneth to obey their parents where by parents are meaned not only the immediate but also the mediate parents as grand-fathers c. Gen. 50. 23. yea and those also who are in the place of parents Luk. 2. 48 51. Now the obedience here enjoyned is as comprehensive as that honour enjoyned to be given unto parents by children in the fifth command which is cited ver 2. to enforce the obedience here spoken of and it implyeth first inward reverence or acknowledgement of that eminency in which God hath placed parents above their children joyned with fear Lev. 19. 3. and love 1 Tim. 5. 4 to be testified as by other outward signes so by reverent speaking of them and to them Prov. 30. 17. 2. Obedience more strictly taken so as that children receive the instruction of their parents Prov. 1. 8. execute their lawfull commands and directions even though they be burthensome and hazardous Gen. 37. 13. 1 Sam. 17. 20. and accept with patience their reproof and correction Prov. 15. 5. even though their parents be in some respects faulty therein Heb. 12. 9 10. And thirdly gratitude and thankfulnesse so as that they help parents when their necessity requireth 1 Tim. 5. 4. and bear with and cover their infirmities Gen. 9. 22 23. Prov. 23. 22. Now this duty of obedience in children is first explained from the manner motive and rule of it while he saith in the Lord. See this phrase explained upon chap. 5. ver 22. Secondly it is urged by two