Selected quad for the lemma: duty_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	husband_n	wife_n	woman_n	4,471	5	7.1539	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A87158	The weary traveller his eternal rest being a discourse of that blessed rest here, which leads to endless rest hereafter. By H. H. D. D. Rector of Snaylwell, and Canon of Ely.	Harrison, Henry, 1610 or 11-1690.	1681 (1681)	Wing H893A; ESTC R215784	80,142	276

love is nor can it be any better or more durable than its cause and they are fond of each other as long as phansie and health lasts But sickness child-bearing care time and any thing almost that destroys a flower may destroy that love which at the best is but earthly and sensual He that will find Rest and quiet in his Conjugal State here must begin it with God and goodness with wise and virtuous designs Then is Marriage honourable indeed when good and fair intentions conduct and manage it The preservation of a Family the production of Children the avoyding of fornication the refreshment of a wise and virtuous society all these are honourable ends Society was the first designed it is not good for Man to be alone Children the next increase and multiply The avoiding Fornication the last and that will be hardly avoide by Marriage unless you chuse such a Consort whom you can love in all conditions and outward changes The first makes Marriage delightful the second necessary to the publick the third to this or that particular Person The first makes the Mans heart glad the second is a friend to Families Cities and Kingdoms Churches and Heaven the third is an enemy to Hell and an Antidote to the chiefest inlet to damnation To have a lasting quiet and sure content in the Conjugal life it is prudent and useful that all offences of each other be warily avoided at the first beginnings especially of their conversation An infant blossom is quickly blasted and the love of lately Married Persons is busie and tender inquisitive and jealous and apt to take a fright or alarm at every unkind word or carriage But after the hearts of Man and Wife are endeared to each other by natural confidence and experience trifling accidents cannot disturb their united affections but will vanish at the sight and remembrance of weightier obligements and so after their having lived in peace and love and joy for a while on Earth they may meet and rejoyce together in Heaven to all eternity That the Married life may prove happy Let every one love his Wife as himself saith St. Paul The Husbands power over his Wife is Fatherly and Friendly not Magisterial She that is bound to leave Father and Mother and Brother for thee is miserably abused if she find it otherwise A Mans dominion over his Wife is like that of his Soul over his body for which it takes a wise care and useth it tenderly and it is often led by its tolerable inclinations and desires save when they are evil or dangerously tending to that which is so The Government is and ought to be divided since the Woman also hath Gods Image stampt upon her and may sometimes assist and supply her Husbands wisdom And as to the Family si tu Cajus ego Caja was publickly proclaimed upon the threshold of the Husband when his Bride first enter'd under his roof and although there is a just measure of obedience due from the Wife yet that 's scarcely at all expressed in the Husbands directions in holy Scripture but all his duty is signified by love by nourishing and cherishing by honouring her as the weaker Vessel by not being bitter to her by dwelling with her according to knowledge 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 be not bitter against her that 's the first and lowest signification of love A civil Person is never bitter against a stranger much less a friend that enters his roof and is secured there by the laws of Hospitality and he surely is strangely rude who useth her rudely that quits all her interest for him and is besides as much the same Person as another can be the same having the same Religion Children and Family and is fled for protection as to a Sanctuary not only to his house but to his bosom and heart Marcus Aurelius said well that a wise Man will often admonish his Wife reprove her seldom but never lay his hands upon her St. Chrisostom tells us that an Husband reviling or striking his Wife is as if a King should use his Viceroy so from whom most of that reverence and Majesty must needs depart which at first he put upon him and the Subjects will pay him the less duty by how much the rudelier the Prince hath treated him the loss redounds to the King himself and the Government will be thereby disordered and ruin'd He that loves not his Wife and Children feeds a Lyoness and breeds nothing but fears and sorrows to himself nor can blessing it self make him happy All the Commandements of God injoyning a Man to love his Wife are but so many invitations to him to be happy himself and make her and his Children so If mutual love be once secured there can be no great danger from any thing else because such love as makes the Man chast keeps the Woman also within the sober bounds of modest chastity Obedience is the Womans duty which though no where expresly enjoyned the Man to exact yet is often commanded the Woman to pay and the less it is exacted the better and more kindly is it when duly paid both in the sight of God and Man And this proclaims her humility and reverend esteem of his Wisdom and is an acknowledgment of the injunction imposed by God and though in sorrow she bring forth Children yet with love and joy she may bring them up The Womans obedience though largely extended by St. Paul 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Ephe. 5.24 In every thing yet 't is limited by 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 as 't is fit in the Lord Collos 3.18 The Womans duty obliges her to put on the Ornament of a meek and quiet Spirit which is in the sight of God of great price Sweetness of manners humble comportment fair interpretation of all things that are capable of it an industrious hand a silent tongue a faithful heart to his Person and Bed his Purse and Estate And that this may be done with chearfulness it is one excellent height of Christian Religion above not only the Heathens and Mahometans but the Mosaical allowances that it hath provided for Union between Man and Wife by forbidding strictly Poligamy or the having many Wifes and also hath forbidden divorce except in case of Adultery By forbidding Poligamy our Religion hath prevented all those Domestick emulations which would necessarily almost arise between a Leah and a Rachel though in Jacobs Family a Sarah and a Hagar though in Abrahams house The Mans love runs in a fuller stream because not divided into many rivolets and the Womans love and faithfulness is demanded more justly because it hath an equal proportionable answer without the provocation of any Corrival And then by forbidding divorce upon any pretence but that of Adultery it makes peace more necessary and contention more terrible seeing if they will not become a mutual comfort they must always endure that mutual torment from which they are allowed no refuge If all this be not