are still of the same temper cannot look on the ruines and desolations of the Church without the greatest sorrow and lamentation Secondly we are to have this fellow feeling with our brethren considered as single persons We are to account our selves concerned in every particular Christian so as to partake with him in all his occasions either of joy or sorrow Thus the Apostle exhorts Rom. 12. 14. Rejoyce with them that rejoyce weep with them that weep And again 1 Cor. 12. under the similitude of the natural body he urges this duty Whether one member suffer all the members suffer with it or one member be honoured all the members rejoyce with it All these several effects of love we owe to these spiritual brethren And this love is that which Christ has made the badge of his Disciples John 13. 35. By this shall all men know that ye are my Disciples if ye have love one to another so that if we mean not to cast off discipleship to Christ we must not forsake this love of the brethren 8. The third relation is that between Husband and Wife This is yet much neerer then either of the former as appears by that Text Ephes. 5. 31. A man shall leave Father and Mother and cleave to his Wife and they two shall be one flesh Several duties there are oweing from one of these persons to the other and first for the Wife she owes obedience This is commanded by the Apostle Col. 3. 18. Wives submit your selves to your own Husbands as it is fit in the Lord. They are to render obedience to their Husbands in the Lord that is in all lawful commands for otherwise 't is here as in the case of all other superiours God must be obeyed rather then man and the wife must not upon her husbands command do any thing which is forbidden by God But in all things which do not cross some command of Gods this precept is of force and will serve to condemn the peevish stubbornness of many wives who resist the lawful commands of their husbands only because they are impatient of this duty of subjection which God himself requires of them But it may be here asked what if the husband command something which though it be not unlawful is yet very inconvenient and imprudent must the wife submit to such a command To this I answer that it will be no disobedience in her but duty calmly and mildly to shew him the inconveniences thereof and to perswade him to retract that command but in case she cannot win him to it by fair intreaties she must neither try sharp language nor yet finally refuse to obey nothing but the unlawfulness of the command being sufficient warrant for that 9. Secondly The wife owes Fidelity to the husband and that of two sorts first that of the bed she must keep her self pure and chaste from all strange embraces and therefore must not so much as give an ear to any that would allure her but with the greatest abhorrence reject all motions of that sort and never give any man that has once made such a motion to her the least opportunity to make a second Secondly She owes him likewise Fidelity in the managing those worldly affaires he commits to her she must order them so as may be most to her husbands advantage and not by deceiving and cozening of him imploy his goods to such uses as he allowes not of 10. Thirdly She owes him Love and together with that all friendliness and kindness of conversation she is to endeavour to bring him as much assistance and comfort of life as is possible that so she may answer that special end of the womans creation the being a help to her husband Gen. 2. 13. and this in all conditions whether health or sickness wealth or poverty whatsoever estate God by his providence shall cast him into she must be as much of comfort and support to him as she can To this all sullenness and harshness all brawling and unquietness is directly contrary for that makes the wife the burden and plague of the man instead of a help and comfort And sure if it be a fault to behave ones self so to any person as hath already been shewed how great must it be to do so to him to whom the greatest kindness and affection is owing 11. Nor let such wives think that any faults or provocations of the husband can justifie their frowardness for they will not either in respect of religion or discretion Not in religion for where God has absolutely commanded a duty to be paid 't is not any unworthiness of the person can excuse from it nor in Discretion for the worse a husband is the more need there is for the wife to carry her self with that gentleness and sweetness that may be most likely to win him This is the advice S. Peter gave the wives of his time 1 Peter 3. 1. Likewise ye wives be in subiectâ—on to your own husbands that if any obey not the Word they may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives It seemes the good behaviour of the wives was thought a powerful means to win men from Heathenism to Christianity and sure it might now a dayes have some good effects if women would have but the patience to try it At the least 't would have this that it would keep some tolerable quiet in Families whereas on the other side the ill fruits of the wives unquietness are so notorious that there are few neighbourhoods but can give some instance of it How many men are there that to avoid the noise of a froward wise have fallen to company keeping and by that to drunkenness poverty and a multitude of mischiefs Let all wives therefore beware of administring that temptation But whenever there happens any thing which in kindness to her husband she is to admonish him of let it be with that sofeness and mildness that it may appear 't is love and not anger that makes her speak 12. There are also on the Husbands part several duties There is first Love which Saint Paul requires to be very tender compassionate towards the wife as appears by the simâ—litudes he useth in that matter Ephes. 5. The one that of the love a man bears to his natural body No man sayes he Verse 27. ever hated his own flesh but nourisheth it and cherisheth it The other love is that Christ bears to his Church which is far greater verse 26. both which he sets as paterns for this love of Husbands towards their Wives This utterly forbids all harshness and roughness to them Men are to use them as parts of themselves to love them as their own bodies and therefore to do nothing that may be hurtful and grievous to them no more then they would cut and gash their own flesh Let those husbands that tyrannize over their wives that scarce use them like humane creatures consider whether that
be to love them as their own bodies 13. A second duty of the Husband is Faithfulness to the bed This is by God as well required of the husband as the wife and though the world do seem to look on the breach of this duty with less abhorrence in the husband yet sure before that Just Judge the offence will appear no less on the mans side then the womans This is certain 't is in both a breach of the vow made to each other at their Marriage and so besides the uncleanness a down-right perjury and those differences in the case which seem to cast the scale are rather in respect of civil and worldly consideration then meerly of the sin 14. A third duty of the Husband is to maintain and provide for the Wife He is to let her partake with him in those outward good things wherewith God hath blest him and neither by niggardliness debar her of what is fit for her nor yet by unthriftiness so waste his goods that he shall become unable to support her This is certainly the duty of the husband who being as hath been said to account his wife as a part of his own body must have the very same care to sustain her that he hath for himself Yet this is not so to be understood as to excuse the wife from her part of labour and industry when that is requisite it being unreasonable the husband should toil to maintain the wife in idleness 15. Fourthly The husband is to instruct the wife in the things which concern her eternal welfare if she be ignorant of them Thus St. Paul bids the wives learn of their husbands at home 1 Cor. 14. 36. which supposes that the husband is to teach her Indeed it belongs to every Master of a Family to endeavour that all under his charge be taught all necessary things of this kinde and then sure more especially his wife who is so much nearer to him then all the rest This should make men careful to get knowledge themselves that so they may be able to perform this duty they owe to others 16. Lastly Husbands and Wives are mutually to pray each for other to beg all blessings from God both spiritual and temporal and to endeavour all they can to do all good to one another especially all good to each others Souls by stirring up to the performance of duty and disswading and drawing back from all sin and by being like true yoke-fellowes helpful and assistant to each other in the doing of all sorts of good both to their own Family and all others within their reach This is of all other the truest and most valuable love Nay indeed how can it be said they do love at all who can contentedly let each other run on in a course that will bring them to eternal misery And if the love of husbands and wives were thus grounded in Vertue and Religion 't would make their lives a kinde of Heaven on earth 't would prevent all those contentions and brawlings so common among them which are the great plagues of Families and a lesser Hell in passage to the greater and truly where it is not thus founded there is little comfort to be expected in marriage 17. It should therefore be the care of every one that means to enter upon that state to consider advisedly before hand and to choose such a person with whom they may have this spiritual friendship that is such a one as truly fears God There are many false ends of Marriage lookt upon in the world some marry for Wealth others for Beauty and generally they are only worldly respects that are at all considered but certainly he that would Marry as he ought should contrive to make his Marriage useful to those better ends of serving God and saving his own Soul at least he must be sure it be no hindrance to them and to that purpose the vertue of the person chosen is more conducing then all the wealth in the world though I deny not but that a competency of that may likewise be considered 18. But above all things let all take heed that they make not such marriages as may not only be ill in their effects but are actual sins at the time such are the marriages of those that were formerly promised to some other in which case 't is sure they rightly belong to those to whom they past the first promise and then for any other to marry them during the life of that person is to take the husband or wife of that other which is direct adultery as S. Paul tells us Rom. 7. 3. The like unlawfulness there is also in the marriage of those who are within those degrees of kindred forbidden by God the particulars whereof are set down in the 18. and 20. of Lev. and whoever marries any that is within any of those degrees of neerness either to himself or to his deceased wife which is as bad commits that great sin of Incest and so long as he continues to live with such his unlawful wife remains in that fearful guilt This wariness in the choice of the person to be married would prevent many sad effects which we daily see follow such rash or unlawful matches it were well therefore if people would look on marriage as our Church advises as a thing not to be undertaken lightly unadvisedly or wantonly to satisfie mens carnal lusts and appetites but reverently discreetly advisedly soberly and in the fear of God and in so doing no doubt a blessing would follow which otherwise there is little ground to expect I have now done with this Relation between Husband and Wife 19. The next is that between Friends and this Relation if it be rightly founded it is of great neerness and usefulness but there is none more generally mistaken in the world men usually call them their friends with whom they have an intimacy and frequency of conversation though that intimacy be indeed nothing but an agreement and combination in sin The Drunkard thinks him his friend that will keep him company the Deceitful person him that will aid him in his cheats the Proud man him that will flatter him And so generally in all vices they are look't on as friends that advance and further us in them But God knowes this is far from friendship such a friend as this the Devil himself is in the highest degree who is never backward in such offices The true friendship is that of a direct contrary making 't is a concurrence and agreement in vertue not in vice in short a true friend loves his friend so that he is very zealous of his good and certainly he that is really so will never be the instrument of bringing him to the greatest evil The general duty of a Friend then must be resolved to be the industrious pursuit of his friends real advantages in which there are several particulas contained 20. As first
c. of Fasting pag 109 PARTITION 6. Of Duties to our selves Of Sobriety Humility the great sin of Pride the Danger the Folly of this Sin Of Vain-Glory the Danger Folly Meâ—ns to prevent it Of Meekness the Means to obtain it c. pag. 136. PARTITION 7. Of Contentedness and the Contraries to it Murmuring Ambiâ—ion Covetousness Envy Helps to Contentedness Of Duties which concern our Bodies Of Chastity Helps to it Temperance Rules of Temperance in Eating c. pag. 158. PARTITION 8. Of Temperance in Drinking False Ends of Drinking viz. Good fellowship Putting away Cares Passing away time preventing reproach Bargaining c. pag. 177. PARTITION 9. Temperance in Sleep The Rule of it c. Of Recreation of Apparel and of the ends for which cloathing should be used pag. 197. PARTITION 10. Of DUTIES to our NEIGHBOURS Of Justice Negative and Positive Of the Sin of Murther Of the Hainousness of it the Punishments of it and the Strange Discoveries thereof of Maiming Wounds and stripes pag. 206 PARTITION 11. Of Justice about the Possessions of our Neighbour against Injuring him as concerning his Wife his Goods of Malice Covetousness Oppression Theft of Paying Debts c. pag. 226. PARTITION 12. Of Theft Stealing the Goods of our Neighbour Of Deceit in Trust in Traffick Of Restitution and the Necessity thereof c. pag. 238. PARTITION 13. Of False Reports False Witness Slanders Whisperings Of Despising and Scoffing for Infirmities Calamities Sins c. Of Positive Justice Speaking the Truth Of Lying Of Humility and Pride Of Envy Detraction Of Gratitude c. pag. 251. PARTITION 14. Of Duty to Parents Magistrates Pastors c. Of the Duty of Parents to Children c. Reverence Love Obedience especially in their Marriage Ministring to their wants of the Duty of Parents to their Children pag. 278. PARTITION 15. Of Duty to our Brethren and Relations Husband Wife Friends Masters Servants c. pag. 305. PARTITION 16. 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The worth of the Soul The misery of loosing the Soul The danger the Soul is in The first Covenant That our Care will not be in vain The second Covenant Of the Light of NATURE The light of SCRIPTURES The Three great branches of MANS DUTY Duty to God Acknowledging him to be God FAITH Of his Affirmations Commands Threatnings Promises HOPE Presumption Despair Love its Motives Gods excellency His Kindness to us Fruit of Love Desire of pleasing Desire of Enjoying FEAR The folly of fearing Men more then God TRVST In all spiritual dangers In all Temporal Not seek to deliver our selves by any Sin In all wants spiritual Temporal wants The benefit of trusting on God HUMILITY Submission to Gods will in respects of obedience The great distance between God and us The unworthiness of our best work Submission in respect of Patience Thankfulness for Gods Corrections Fruitfulnes under them In all sorts of sufferings Submission to Gods Wisdome In his Commands In his Disposals HONOVR Several wayes of honouring God In his House His possessions The great sin of Sacriledge The punishment The times for his service Lords day The Feasts of the Church The Fasts Gods Word The holy Scriptures Catechizing Preaching The Sacraments Of Baptism The vow of Baptism The strict obligation of this vow of Baptism The Lords Supper Things to be done before receiving Examination Sins Several sorts Humiliation Contrition Confession Faith Resolutions of Obedience Of the means Present renouncing of sin Imbracing vertue Quickning of graces Charity Devotion Necessity of these graces The usefulness of a spiritual guide Not to be ashamed to discover our selves to one As necessary to the confident as to the doubtful At the time of receiving Meditation of thy unworthiness The sufferings of Christ. The aâ—onement wrought by them The thankfulness owing for them The great love of Christ in them The benefits of the New Covenant sealed in the Sacrament Upon receiving give thanks Pray After the acrament Private Prayer and â—hanksgivâ—â—g â—t preâ—ntly to fall wordly fairs To keep thy resolutions still in memory The danger of breaking them Making God thy enemy Thy own conscience Gods former pardons no incouragement to sin The obligation of this vow perpetual Yet often to be renewed Honour due to Gods Name Sins against it Blasphemy Swearing
Assertory Oathes Promissory Vnlawful Oaths God greatly dishonoured by Perjury The punishments of it Vain Oaths The sin of them They lead to Perjury No temptation to them Necessity of abstaining from them Means for it Sense of the guilt and danger Truth in speaking Forsaking the occasioâ— Reverence of God â—atchfulâ—â—ss Prayer What it is to honâ—r Gods Name WORSHIP Prayer its parts Confession Petitions For our Souls Bodies Deprecation Of Sin Of Punishment Intercession Thanksgiving Spiritual Mercies Temporal Publick prayer in the Church In the Family Private Prayer Frequency in Prayer The advantages of Prayer Honour Benefit Pleasantness Carnality one reason of its seeming otherwise Want of use another To ask nothing unlawful To ask in Faith In humility With attention Helps against wandring Consideration of Gods Majesty Our needs Prayer for Gods aid Watchfulness With Zeal With purity To right ends Bodily Worship REPENTANCE A turning from sin to God Times for this Duty Daily At set times In the time of affliction At death The danger of deferring it till then The disadvantages of a death bed repentance The custom of sin Bodily pains Danger of unsincerity Fasting Fasting a revenge upon ourselvs Such revenges acceptable with God Yet no satisfaction for sins Times of fasting Second Branch of our Duty to God Inward Idolatry Duty to our SELVES Humility The great sin of Pride The danger Drawing into other sins Frustrating of remedies Betraying to punishment The Folly In respect of the goods of Nature The goods â—â— Fortune The goods of grace Means of Humility Vain glory The sin The danger The Folly Helps against vain-glory MEEKNES Advantages fit Means of obtaining it CONSIDERATION Of our State The Rule by which to try our State The danger of Inconsideration Our Actions Before we do them After they are done â—requency of â—onsideraâ—â—â—n Danger of omitting it CONTENTEDNES â—ontrary to â—â—rmuring To Ambition To Covetousness Covetousness contrary to our duty to God To our Selves To our neighbours Contentedness contrary to envy Helps to conâ—edness DILIGENCE Watchfulness against sin Industry in improving gifts Of Nature Of Grace To improve good motions The danger of the contrary CHASTITY Uncleanness forbidden in the very lowest degrees The mischiefs of it To the Soul To the Body The Judgements of God a gainst it It shuts out from Heavâ— Helps to Chastity TEMPERANCE In Eating Ends of eating Preserving of life Of Health Rules of Temperance in Eating Means of it Temperance in Drinking False ends of drinking Good Fellowship Preserving of kindness Chearing the spirits Putting away cares Preventing reproach Pleasure of the drink Bargaining Degrees of this sin The great guilt of the strong drinkers The great mischiefs of this sin Exhortation to forsake it The difficulties of doing â—o considered Seeming â—â—â—essity of drink Want of imployment Perswasions and reproaches of men The means of resisting them Weigh the advantages with the hurt Reject the temptation at the very beginning The security of doing so The esficacy of these means if not hindred by love of the sin That love makes men loth to believe it dangerous Sleep The rule of Temperance therein The many Sins that follow the transgression of it Other mischiefs of sloth Temperance in Recreation Cautions to be observed in them Unlue End of Sports Temperance in Apparel Apparel designed for covering of shame Fencing from cold Distinction of persons Too much sparing a â—ault as well as excess DUTY to our NEIGHBOUR JUSTICE Negative To the Soul In the natural sence In the spiritual Drawing to in the greatest injury Direct means of it Indirect Men sadly to consider whom they have thus injured Heartily to bewail it Endeavour to repair it Negative justice to the body In respect of the life Several wayes of being guilty of murder The hainousness of the sin The great punishments attending it The strange discoveries of it We must watch diligently against all approaches of this sin Maiming a great injury That which every man dreads for himself Yet worse if the man be poor Necessity of making what satisfaction we can Wounds and stripes injuries also This cruelty to others the effect of pride His Possession His Wife The enticing a mans wife the greatest injustice To the woman To the man The most irreparable His goods Malicious injustice Covetous injustice Oppression Gods vengeance against it Theft Not paying what we borrow What we are bound for What we have promised Stealing the goods of our neighbour Deceit In Trust. In Traffick The sellers concealing the faults of his ware His over-rating it Fraud in the Buyer Many temptations to deceit in Traffick The commonness of injustice a reproach to Christianity It is not the way to enrich a man It ruines the Soul eternally The necessity of Restitution His credit False witnes Publick slanders Whispering Several steps toward this sin Despising and scoffing For infirmities For calamities For sins Destroying the credit a great injury And irrepairable Yet every guilty person must do all he can to repair the injury Justice in the thoughts Positive Justice Speaking Truth a due to all men Lying expresly forbidden in Scripture The great commonness and folly of this sin Courteous behaviour a due to all men Not payed by the proud man Meekness a due to all men Brauling very insufferable It leads to that great sin of cursing Particular dues A respect due to men of extraordinary gifts We are not to envy them Nor detract from them The folly of both those sins A respect due to men in regard of their ranks and qualities Dues to those that are in any sort of want To the poor God withdraws those abilities which are not thus imployed Duties inspect of relation Gratitude to Benefactors The contrary too common Duty to Parents Duties to the Supream Magistrate Honour Tribute Prayers for them Obedience Duties to our Pastors Love Esteem Maintenance Obedience Prayers for them Duties to our natural Parents Reverence Love Obedience Especially in their Marriage Ministring to their wants Duty to be paid even to the worst of Parents Duty of Parents to Children To nourish them Bring them to Baptism Educate them Means towards the education of children The parent to watch over their souls even when they are grown up To provide for their subsistence To give them good example To bless them To give no unreasonable commands Dues to Brethren Natural The necessity of Love among Brethren Spiritual brotherhood Our duty to hold communion with these brethren To bear with their infirmities To restore them after falls To sympathize with them The wife owes to the husband obedience Fideâ—ty Love The faults of the husband acquits not from these duties The Husband owes â—o the Wife love Faithfulness Maintenance Instruction Husbands and Wives mutually to pray for and â—ssist each â—ther in all good The vertue of the person the chief consideration in Marriage Unlawful Marriages Friendship Its duties Faithfulness Assistance Admonition Prayer Constancy Servants owe to their Masters obedience Fidelity Submission to rebuke Diligence Masters owe to their Servants Justice Admonition Good example Means of Instruction Moderation in Command Encouragement in well doing Charity In the Affections To mens Souls To their Bodies Goods and Credit Effects of this Charity It casts ouâ— Envy Pride ensoriousss Dissembling Self-seeking Revenge This charity io be extended even to enemies Motives thereunto Command of Christ. Example of God The disproportion between our ofâ—ences against God and mens against us Pleasantness of this Duty â—f we forâ—ive not â—od will â—ot forgive â—s Gratitude â—o God â—e first â—ng of â—ncour to supprest Charity in the Actions Towards the mind of our Neighbour His Soul Charity in respect of the Body Charity in respect of the Goods Towards the rich Towards the Poor Motives of Alms giving Manner of Alms-giving Cheerfully The fear of â—mpoverish â—ng our â—lves by it â—ain and â—pious Give seasonably Prudently Charity in respect of the Credit The acts of Charity in some respects acts of Justice also The great rule of Charity Peace making He that undertake it must be peaceable himself Of going to Law This charity of the actions must reach to enemies Self-love an hindrance to this Charity Prayer â— means to procure it Christian duties both possible and pleasant Even when they expose us to outward sufferings The danger of delaying our turning to God Sunday I. Sunday II. Sunday III. Sunday IV. Sunday V. Sunday VI. Sunday VII â—unday VIII â—unday IX â—unday X. Sunday XI Sunday XII Sunday XIII Sunday XIV Sunday XV. Sunday XVI Sunday XVII
to rejoyce in thine own portion Fourthly Consider how far thou art from deserving any good thing from God and then thou canst not but with Jacob Gen 32. 10. confess that thou art not worthy of the least of those mercies thou enjoyest and in stead of murmuring that they are no more wilt see reason to admire and praise the bounty of God that they are so many Fifthly be often thinking of the joyes laid up for thee in Heaven look upon that as thy home on this world only as an Inne where thou art fain to take up in thy passage and then as a Traveller expects not the same conveniences at an Inne that he hath at home so thou hast reason to be content with what ever entertainment thou findst here knowing thou art upon thy journey to a place of infinite happiness which will make an abundant amends for all the uneasiness and hardship thou canst suffer in the way Lastly Pray to God from whom all good things do come that he will to all his other blessings adde this of a contented minde without which thou canst have no taste or relish of any other 10. A fifth Duty is DILIGENCE This is made up of two parts watchfulness and industry and both these we owe to our Souls 11. First Watchfulness in observing all the dangers that threaten them Now since nothing can endanger our Souls but sin this watchfulness is principally to be imployed against that And as in a besieged City where there is any weak part there it is necessary to keep the strongest guard so it is here whereever thou findest thy inclinations such as are most likely to betray thee to sin there it concernes thee to be especially watchful Observe therefore carefully to what sins either thy natural temper thy company or thy course of life do particularly incline thee and watch thy self very narrowly in those Yet do not so lay out all thy care on those as to leave thy self open to any other for that may give Satan as much advantage on the other side but let thy watch be general against all sin though in a special manner against those which are like oftenest to assault thee 12. The second part of diligence is industry or labour and this also we owe to our Souls for without it they will as little prosper as that vineyard of the sluggard which Solomon describes Prov. 24. 30. For there is a husbandry of the Soul as well as of the estate and the end of the one as of the other is the increasing and improving of its riches Now the riches of the Soul are either Natural or Divine By the natural I mean its faculties of reason wit memory and the like by the Divine I mean the graces of God which are not the Souls natural portion but are given immediately by God and both these we are to take care to improve they being both talents intrusted to us for that purpose 13. The way of improving the natural is by imploying them so as may bring in most honour to God we must not let them lye idle by us through sloth neither must we overwhelm them with intemperance and bruitish pleasures which is the case of too many but we must employ them and set them on work But then we must be sure it be not in the Devils service like many who set their wit only to the profaning of God or cheating their neighbours and stuff their memories with such filthiness as should never once enter their thoughts our use of them must be such as may bring in most glory to God most benefit to our neighbours and may best fit us to make our accounts when God shall come to reckon with us for them 14. But the other part of the Soules riches is yet more precious that is grace and of this we must be especially careful to husband and improve it This is a duty expresly commanded us by the Apostle 2 Pet. 3. 18. Grow in grace And again in the first Chapter of that Epistle verse 5. Give all diligence to adde to your faith vertue and to vertue knowledge c. Now the especial means of improving grace is by imploying it that is by doing those things for the enabling of us whereunto it was given us This is a sure means not only in respect of that easiness which a custome of any thing brings in the doing of it but principally as it hath the promise of God who hath promised Matth. 25. 29. That to him that hath that is hath made use of what he hath shall be given and he shall have abundance He that diligently and faithfully employs the first beginnings of grace shall yet have more and he that in like manner husbands that more shall yet have a greater degree so that what Solomon saith of temporal riches is also true of spiritual The hand of the diligent maketh rich 15. Therefore whenever thou findest any good motion in thy heart remember that is a season for this spiritual husbandry If thou have but a check of conscience against any sin thou livest in drive that on till it come to a hatred and then that hatred till it come to resolution then from that resolution proceed to some endeavours against it Do this faithfully and sincerely and thou shalt certainly finde the grace of God assisting thee not only in every of these steps but also enabling thee to advance still higher till thou come to some victory over it Yet to this industry thou must not fail to adde thy prayers also there being a promise that God will give the holy Spirit to them that ask it Matth. 7. 11. And therefore they that ask it not have no reason to expect it But it must be asked with such an earnestness as is some way answerable to the value of the thing which being infinitely more precious then all the world both in respect of his own worth and its usefulness to us we must beg it with much more zeal and earnestness then all temporal blessings or else we shew our selves despisers of it 16. Having directed you to the means of improving grace I shall to quicken you to it mention the great danger of the contrary And that is not as in other things the losing only those further degrees which our industry might have helped us to but it is the losing even of what we already have For from him that hath not that is again hath not made use of what he hath shall be taken away even that which he hath Matth. 25. 29. God will withdraw the grace which he sees so neglected as we see in that Parable the Talent was taken from him that had onely hid it in a Napkin and had brought in no gaine to his Lord. And this is a most sad punishment the greatest that can befal any man before he comes to Hell indeed it is some kind of foretaste of it it is the delivering
are under it to enjoy any other good A man in pain having no taste of any the greatest delights If any man despise these as light injuries let him again ask himself how he would like it to have his own body slasht or bruised and put to pass under those painful means of cure which are many times necessary in such cases I presume there is no man would willingly undergo this from another and why then should thou offer it to him 22. The truth is this strange cruelty to others is the effect of a great pride and haughtiness of heart we look upon others with such contempt that we think it no matter how they are used we think they must bear blows from us when in the mean time we are so tender of our selves that we cannot hear the least word of disparagement but we are all on a flame The provocations to these injuries are commonly so slight that did not this inward pride dispose us to such an angriness of humour that we take fire at every thing it were impossible we should be moved by them Nay some are advanced to such a wantonness of cruelty that without any provocation at all in cool blood as they say they can thus wrong their poor brethren and make it part of their pastime and recreation to cause pain to others Thus some tyrannous humours take such a pleasure in tormenting those under their power that they are glad when they can but finde a pretence to punish them and then do it without all moderation and others will set men together by the ears only that they may have the sport of seeing the scuffle like the old Romans that made it one of their publick sports to see men kill one another and sure we have as little Christianity as they if we can take delight in such spectacles 23. This savageness and cruelty of minde is so unbecoming the nature of a man that he is not allowed to use it even to his beast how intollerable is it then towards those that are of the same nature and which is more are heirs of the same eternal hopes with us They that shall thus transgress against their neighbours in any of the foregoing particulars or what ever else is hurtful to the body are unjust persons want even this lowest sort of justice the negative to their neighbours in respect of their bodies 24. Neither can any man excuse himself by saying what he has done was onely in return of some injury offered him by the other for suppose it be so that he have indeed received some considerable wrong yet cannot he be his own revenger without injury to that man who is not by being thine enemy become thy vassal or slave to do with him what thou list thou hast never the more right of dominion over him because he hath done thee wrong and therefore if thou hadst no power over his body before 't is certain thou hast none now and therefore thou art not only uncharitable which yet were sin enough to damn thee but unjust in every act of violence thou doest to him Nay this injustice ascends higher even to God himself who hath reserved vengeance as his own peculiar right Vengeance is mine I will repay saith the Lord Rom. 12. 19. and then he that will act revenge for himself what does he but incroach upon this special right and prerogative of God snatch the sword as it were out of his hand as if he knew better how to weild it which is at once a robbery and contempt of the Divine Majesty PARTITION XI Of JUSTICE about the Possessions of our Neighbour against Injuring him as concerning his WIFE his GOODS Of Malice Covetousness Oppression Theft Of Paying of Debts c. § 1. THe third part of Negative Justice concerns the possessions of our Neighbours what I mean by Possessions I cannot better explain then by referring you to the Tenth Commandment the end of which is to bridle all covetous appetites and desires towards the possessions of our neighbour There we find reckoned up not only his house servants and cattel which may all pass under the one general name of his goods or riches but particularly his wife as a principal part of his possessions and therefore when we consider this duty of negative justice in respect of the possessions of our Neighbour we must apply it to both his wife as well as his goods 2. The especial and peculiar right that every man hath in his wife is so well known that it were vain to say any thing in proof of it the great impatience that every husband hath to have this right of his invaded shews that it is sufficiently understood in the world and therefore none that does this injury to another can be ignorant of the greatness of it The corrupting of a mans wife enticing her to a strange bed is by all acknowledged to be the worst sort of theft infinitely beyond that of the goods 3. Indeed there is in this one a heap of the greatest injustices together some towards the woman and some towards the man Towards the Woman there are the greatest imaginable it is that injustice to her soul which was before mentioned as the highest of all others 't is the robbing her of her innocency and setting her in a course of the horridst wickedness no less then lust and perjury together from which it is probable she may never return and then it proves the damning of her eternally Next it is in respect of this world the robbing her of her credit making her abhorred and despised and her very name a reproach among all men and besides it is the depriving her of all that happiness of life which arises from the mutual kindness and affection that is between man and wife instead whereof this brings in a loathing and abhorring of each other from whence flow multitudes of mischiefs too many to rehearse in all which the man hath his share also 4. But besides those there are to him many and high injustices for it is first the robbing him of that which of all other things he accounts most precious the love and faithfulness of his wife and that also wherein he hath such an incommunicable right that himself cannot if he would make it over to any oother and therefore sure it canot without the utmost injustice be torn from him by any Nor is this all but it is farther the ingulfing him if ever he come to discern it in that most tormenting passion of jealousie which is of all others the most painful and which oft puts men upon the most desperate attempts it being as Solomon sayes Prov. 6. 34. The rage of a man It is yet farther the bringing upon him all that scorn and contempt which by the unjust measures of the world falls on them which are so abused and which is by many esteemed the most insufferable part of the wrong and though it be
portion of every mans increase to the use of the poor a tenth every third year which is all one with a thirtieth part every year Deut. 14. 28. 29. And this was to be paid not as a charity or liberality but as a debt they were unjust if they withheld it And surely we have no reason to think that Christian justice is sunk so much below the Jewish that either nothing at all or a less proportion is now required of us I wish our practise were but at all answerable to our obligation in this point and then surely we should not see so many Lazarus's lie unrelieved at our doors they having a better right to our superfluities then we our selves have and then what is it but arrant robbery to bestow that upon our vanities nay our sins which should be their portion 32. In all the foregoing cases he that hath ability is to look upon himself as Gods steward who hath put it into his hands to distribute to them that want and therefore not to do it is the same injustice and fraud that it would be in any steward to purse up that money for his private benefit which was intrusted to him for the maintainance of the family and he that shall do thus hath just reason to expect the doom of the unjust steward Luke 16. to be put out of the stewardship to have those abilities taken from him which he hath so unfaithfully imployed And as for all the rest so particularly for that of wealth 't is very commonly to be observed that it is withdrawn from those that thus defraud the poor of their parts the griping miser coming often by strange undiscernable wayes to poverty and no wonder he having no title to Gods blessing on his heap who does not consecrate a part to him in his poor members And therefore we see the Israelites before they could make that challenge of Gods promise to bless them Deut. 26. 15. Look down from thy holy habitation and bless thy people Israel c. they were first to pay the poor mans tithes ver 12. without which they could lay no claim to it This withholding more then is meet as Solomon sayes Prov. 11. 24. tends to poverty and therefore as thou wouldst play the good husband for thy self be careful to perform this justice according to thy ability to all that are in want 33. The third qualification is that of Relation and of that there may be divers sorts arising from divers grounds and duties answerable to each of them There is first a relation of a Debter to a Creditor and he that stands in that relation to any whether by vertue of bargain loan or promise 't is his duty to pay justly what he owes if he be able as on the otherside if he be not 't is the Creditors to deal charitably and Christianly with him and not to exact of him beyond his ability But I need not insist on this having already by shewing you the sin of withholding debts informed you of this duty 34. There is also a relation of an obliged person to his Benefactor that is one that hath done him good of what kind soever whether spiritual or corporal and the duty of that person is first thankfulness that is a ready and hearty acknowledgement of the courtesie received secondly prayer for Gods blessings and rewards upon him and thirdly an endeavour as opportunity and ability serves to make returns of kindness by doing good turns back again This duty of gratitude to Benefactors is so generally acknowledged by all even the most barbarous and savagest of men that he must have put off much of his humane nature that refuses to perform it The very Publicans and sinners as our Saviour sayes do good to those â—â—a do good to them 35. Yet how many of us fail even in this how frequent is it to see men not only neglect to repay curtesies but return injuries in stead of them it is too observable in many particulars but in none more then in the case of advice and admonition which is of all others the most precious part of kindness the reallest good turn that can be done from one man to another And therefore those that do this to us should be lookt on as our prime and Greatest Benefactors But alas how few are there that can finde gratitude shall I say nay patience for such a courtesie Go about to admonish a man of a fault or tell him of an Errour he presently looks on you as his enemy you are as S. Paul tells the Galatians Chap. 4. 16. become his enemy because you tell him the truth such a pride there is in mens hearts that they must not be told of any thing amiss though it be with no other intent but that they may amend it A strange madness this is the same that it would be in a sick man to fly in the face of him that comes to cure him on a fancy that he disparaged him in supposing him sick so that we may well say with the Wise man Prov. 12. 1. He that hateth reproof is bruitish There cannot be in the world a more unhappy temper for it fortifies a man in his sins raises such Mounts and Bulwarks about them that no man can come to assault them and if we may believe Solomon destruction will not fail to attend it Prov. 29. 1. He that being often reproved hardeneth his neck shall suddenly be destroyed and that without remedy But then again in respect of the admonisher 't is the greatest injustice I may say cruelty that can be he comes in tenderness and compassion to rescue thee from danger and to that purpose puts himself upon a very uneasie task for such the general impatience men have to admonition hath now made it and what a defeat what a grief is it to him to find that in stead of reforming the first fault thou art run into a second to wit that of causless displeasure against him This is one of the worst and yet I doubt the commonest sort of unthankfulness to Benefactors and so a great failing in that duty we owe to that sort of relation But perhaps these will be look't on as remote relations yet 't is sure they are such as challenge all that duty I have assigned to them I shall in the next place proceed to those relations which are by all acknowledged to be of the greatest neerness PARTITION XIV Of Duty to Parents Magistrates Pastors Of the Duty of Parents to Children c. § 1. THE first of those neerer sorts of relations is that of a Parent And here it will be necessary to consider the several sorts of Parents according to which the duty of them is to be measured Those are these three the Civil the Spiritual the Natural 2. The Civil Parent is he whom God hath establisht the Supream Magistrate who by a just right possesses the Throne in a Nation This
from being a provision there is such a curse goes along with an ill-gotten estate that he that leaves such a one to his child doth but cheat and deceive him makes him believe he has left him wealth but has withal put such a canker in the bowels of it that is sure to eat it out This is so common an observation that I need say nothing to confirm the truth of it would God it were as generally laid to heart as it seems to be generally taken notice of Then surely Parents would not account it a reasonable motive to unjust dealing that they may thereby provide for their children for this is not a way of providing for them nay 't is the way to spoil them of whatever they have lawfully gathered for them the least mite of unlawful gain being of the nature of leaven which sowres the whole lump bringing down curses upon all a man possesseth Let all Parents therefore satisfie themselves with such provisions for their children as God shall enable them honestly to make assuring themselves how little soever it be 't is a better portion then the greatest wealth unjustly gotten according to that of Solomon Prov. 16. 8. Better is a little with righteousness then great revenues without right 23. A fourth thing the Parent owes to the child is Good Example he is not only to set him rules of vertue and godliness but he must himself give him a pattern in his own practice we see the force of example is infinitly beyond that of precept especially where the person is one to whom we bear a reverence or with whom we have a continual conversation both which usually meet in a Parent It is therefore a most necessary care in all Parents to behave themselves so before their children that their example may be a means of winning them to vertue But alas this age affords little of this care nay so far 't is from it that there are none more frequently the instruments of corrupting children then their own Parents And indeed how can it be otherwise while men give themselves liberty to all wickedness 't is not to be hoped but that the children which observe it will imitate it the childe that sees his father drunk will sure think he may be so too as well as his father So he that hears him swear will do the like and so for all other vices and if any Parent that is thus wicked himself should happen to have so much more care of his childes Soul then his own as to forbid him the things which himself practises or correct him for the doing them 't is certain the child will account this a great injustice in his father to punish him for that which himself freely does and so he is never likely to be wrought upon by it This consideration lays a most strict tie upon all Parents to live Christianly for otherwise they do not only hazard their own Souls but those of their children also and as it were purchase an estate of inheritance in Hell 24. A fifth duty of Parents is blessing their children the way of doing that is double first by their prayer they are by daily and earnest prayers to commend them to Gods protection and blessing both for their spiritual and temporal estate and secondly by their piety they are to be such persons themselves as that a blessing may descend from them upon their posterity This is often promised in Scriptures to godly men that their seed shall be blessed Thus in the second commandment God promises to shew mercy to the thousand generation of them that love him and keep his commandments And it is very observable in the Jews that though they were a stiff-necked generation and had very grievously provoked God yet the godliness of their forefathers Abraham Isaac and Jacob did many times move God to save them from destruction on the other side we see that even good men have fared the worse for the inâ—quities of their fathers Thus when Josiah had destroyed idolatry restored Gods service and done good beyond all the Kings that were before him yet there was an old arrear of Manasseh his grand father which all this piety of his would not blot out but he resolves to cast Judah also out of his sight as you may read at large 2 Kings 23. If therefore Parents have any bowels any kindness towards their children any real desire of their prosperity let them take care by their own godly life to entail a blessing upon them 25. Sixthly Parents must take heed that they use their power over their children with equity and moderation not to oppress them with Unreasonable Commands only to exercise their own authority but in all things of weight to consider the real good of their children and to press them to nothing which may not consist with that This is a rule whereof Parents may often have use but in none greater then in the business of marrying their children wherein many that otherwise are good Parents have been to blame when out of an eagerness of bestowing them wealthily they force them to marry utterly against their own inclinations which is a great tyranny and that which frequently betrayes them to a multitude of mischiefs such as all the wealth in the world cannot repair There are two things which Parents ought especially to consider in the matching their children the first how they may live Christianly and to that purpose to chuse a vertuous and pious person to link them with the second is how they may live cheerfully and comfortably in this world and to that end though a competency of estate may be necessary to be regarded yet surely abundance is no way requisite and therefore that should not be too vehemently sought after that which much more tends to the happiness of that state is the mutual kindness and liking of the parties without which marriage is of all other the most uncomfortable condition and therefore no parent ought to thrust a child into it I have now done with the first sort of Relation that of a Parent PARTITION XV. Of Duty to our Brethren and Relations Husband wife Friends Masters Servants § 1. THe second sort of Relation is that of a Brother now brotherhood may be two fold either natural or spiritual the natural may in the largest extent contain under it all mankind all that partake of the same nature but I shall not consider it so in this place having already mentioned those gegeneral duties which belong to all as such I now speak of that natural brother-hood that is between those that are the children of the same immediate Parent and the duty of these is to have united hearts and affections This nature points out to them they partaking in a more especial manner of each others substance and therefore ought to have the greatest tenderness and kindness each to other thus we see Abraham make it an argument why there
ordinary communication WORSHIP Not worshipping God Omitting prayers publick or private and being glad of a pretence to do so Asking unlawful things or to unlawful ends Not purifying our hearts from sin before we pray Not praying with Faith and Humility Coldness and deadness in prayer Wandring thoughts in it Irreverent gestures of body in prayer REPENTANCE Neglecting the duty of Repentance Not calling our selves to dayly account for our sins Not assigning any set or solemn times for humiliation and confession or too seldome Not deeply considering our sins to beget contrition for them Not acting revenges on our selves by fasting and other acts of Mortification IDOLATRY Outward Idolatry in worshipping of creatures Inward Idolatry in placing our love and other affections more on creatures then the Creator To our SELVES HUMILITY BEing puft up with high conceits of our selves In respect of natural parts as beauty wit c. Of worldly riches and honours Of Grace Greedily seeking the praise of men Directing Christian Actions as prayer alms c. to that end Committing sins to avoid reproach from wicked men MEEKNES Disturbing our minds with Anger and peevishness CONSIDERATION Not carefully Examining what our estate towards God is Not trying our selves by the true rule i. e. our obedience to Gods commands Not weighing the lawfulness of our actions before we venture on them Not examining our past actions to repent of the ill to give God the glory of the good CONTENTEDNES Uncontentedness in our estates Greedy desires after honour and riches Seeking to gain them by sinful means Envying the condition of other men DILIGENCE WATCHFULNES Being negligent in observing and resisting temptations Not improving Gods gifts outward or inward to his honour Abusing our natural parts as wit memory strength c. to sin Neglecting or resisting the motions of Gods Spirit CHASTITY Uncleanness adultery fornication unnatural lusts c. Uncleanness of the eye and hand Filthy and obscene talking Impure sancies and desires Heightning of lust by pampering the body Not labouring to subdue it by fasting or other severities TEMPERANCE Eating too much Making pleasure not health the end of eating Being too curious or costly in meats Drunkenness Drinking more then is useful to our bodies though not to drunkenness Wasting the time or estate in good fellowship Abusing our strengâ—h of brain to the making others drunk Immoderate sleeping Idleness and negligence in our callings Using unlawful Recreations Being too vehement upon lawful ones Spending too much time at them Being drawn by them to anger or covetousness Being proud of apparel Striving to go beyond our rank Bestowing too much time care or cost about it Abstaining from such excesses not out of conscience but covetousness Pinching our bodies to fill our purses To our NEIGHBOUR NEGATIVE JUSTICE BEing Injurious to our Neighbour Delighting causlesly to grieve his mind Ensnaring his soul in sin by command counsel enticement or example Affrighting him from godliness by our scoffing at it Not seeking to bring those to repentance whom we have led into sin MURDER Murder open or secret Drawing men to intemperance or other vices which may bring diseases or death Stirring men up to quarrelling and fighting Maiming or hurting the body of our neighbour Fierceness and rage against him ADULTERY Coveting our Neighbours wife Actually defiling her MALICE Spoiling the goods of others upon spight and malice COVETOUSNES Coveting to gain them to our selves OPPRESSION Oppressing by violence and force or colour of Law THEFT Not paying what we borrow Not paying what we have voluntarily promised Keeping back the wages of the servant and hireling DECEIT Unfaithfulness in trusts whether to the living or dead Using arts of deceit in buying and selling Exacting upon the necessities of our neighbours FALSE WITNES Blasting the credit of our neighbour By false witness By railing By whispering Incouraging others in their slanders Being forward to believe ill reports of our neighbour Causeless suspitions Rash judging of him Despising him for his infirmities Inviting others to do so by scoffing and dâ—riding him Bearing any malice in the heart Secret wishing of death or any kinde of hurt to our neighbour Rejoycing when any evil befalls him Nelecting to make what satisfaction we can for any sort of injury done to our neighbour POSITIVE JUSTICE HUMILITY LYING Churlish and proud behaviour to others Froward and peevish conversation Bitter and reproachful language Cursing Not paying the respect due to the qualities or gifts of others Proudly overlooking them Seeking to lessen others esteem of them Not imploying our abilities whether of minde or estate in administring to those whose wants require it GRATITUDE Unthankfulness to our Benefactors Especially those that admonish us Not amending upon their reproof Being angry at them for it Not reverencing our Civil Parent the lawful Magistrate Judging and speaking evil of him Grudging his just tributes Sowing sedition among the people Refusing to obey his lawful commands Rising up against him or taking part with them that do Despising our Spiritual Fathers Not loving them for their works sake Not obeying those commands of God they deliver to us Seeking to withhold from them their just maintenance Forsaking our lawful Pastors to follow factious teachers PARENTS Stubbern and irreverent behaviour to our natural Parents Despising and publishing their infirmities Not loving them nor endeavouring to bring them joy and comfort Contemning their counsels Murmuring at their Government Coveting their estates though by their death Not ministring to them in their wants of all sorts Neglecting to pray for Gods blessing on these several sorts of Parents Want of natural affection to children Mothers refusing to Nurse them without a just impediment Not bringing them timely to Baptisme Not early instructing them in the ways of God Suffering them for want of timely correction to get customes of sin Setting them evil examples Discouraging them by harsh and cruel usage Not providing for their subsistance according to our ability Consuming their portions in our own riot Reserving all till our death and letting them want in the mean time Not seeking to entail a blessing on them by our Christian lives Not heartily praying for them Want of affection to our natural brethren Envyings and heart-burnings towards them DUTY to BRETHREN Not loving our spiritual brethren i. e our fellow Christians Having no fellow feeling of their sufferings Causelesly for saking their communion in holy duties Not taking deeply to heart the desolations of the Church MARRIAGE Marrying within the degrees for bidden Marrying for undue ends as covetousness lust c. Unkind froward and unquiet behaviour towards the husband or wife Unfaithfulness to the bed Not bearing with the infirmities of each other Not endeavouring to advance one anothers good spiritual or temporal The wife resisting the lawful command of her husband Her striving for rule and dominion over him Not praying for each other FRIENDSHIP Unfaithfulness to a Friend Betraying his secrets Denying him assistance in his needs Neglecting lovingly to admonish him