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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	husband_n	servant_n	wife_n	4,873	5	6.7520	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A42669	Misery's virtues whet-stone reliquiæ Gethinianæ, or, Some remains of the most ingenious and excellent lady, the Lady Grace Gethin, lately deceased : being a collection of choice discourses, pleasant apothegmes, and witty sentences / written by her for the most part, by way of essay, and at spare hours ; published by her nearest relations to preserve her memory, and digested for method's sake under proper heads.; Misery's virtues whet-stone	Gethin, Grace, Lady, 1676-1697.	1699 (1699)	Wing G625; ESTC R7820	27,432	102

some transitory Gallantrys provided that one be chief Mistress and they ready when she pleases to sacrifice them all to her But this is very Unjust for they would have an Entire heart and are Jealous but of a kind Look to another though they take the liberty to share themselves to every Woman they like in the World But we often see those we confide in most deceive us most and therefore we ought not to put on an entire cosidence in any L d Bacon Nuptial Love maketh Man kind friendly Love perfecteth it but wanton Love corrupteth it It is a true Rule that love is ever rewarded either with its Reciprocal or with an inward and secret Contentment A man serves his Prince but gives himself to his Mistress and she her self to her Lover 'T is only Love alone that nnites Hearts tho' Friendship also boasts to have that power Two dear Friends may each have a Mistress that shall somewhat divide them at least render their Friendship less considerable but if Love unites two Persons that have tender Breasts and intelligent Minds I defie Friendship to divide ' em Of Gratitude 'T IS a Question if Benefits oftner produce Friendship than Friendship it self or great Deserts without Benefits I think Benefits seldom produce Friendship for they are as apt to wear out of the mind as Grief from which every moment steals a part so time weakens Gratitude as well as Affliction neither will Friendship without Desert produce a tender Friendship in Generous Minds We are not obliged to love Every one that loves us and on that account are ready to do us Good on all Occasions for this officious Love often proceeds from Vanity and if we are always ready to acknowledge and return their Civilties it 's enough For Friendship and Gratitude are two things we ought to have Gratitude for all from whom we receive any Benefit but 't is not in our power to love whom we please Desert alone disposes to a Friendship for increates Esteem Benefits ought to engage us to their Interests and beget a kind of Gratitude in our Minds the Effects whereof resemble Friendship such as have only Love to recommend them 't is enough to have a Compassion and Pity for them Ingratitude is the worst Vice and most opposite to Nature and Equity 't is hardly known among Brutes for Benefits and Kindness has mollified Lions Only Men are capable of Ingratitude This Vice is directly opposite to Justice it overthrows all laws of Society which to reasonable People ought to be a continual Armory of good Offices The Laws of Humanity bid us do good to whomsoever stands in need of it Is it not most just that we acknowledge from whom we receive a Benefit But there are such ill Tempers in the World that when they have been very much oblig'd they decline to own to whom they are obliged and at length cannot endure 'em and some are of that odd humour they will not make the least return to those that have done all things for them yet render considerable to such as never did them the least Courtesie they are of the Humour of those who had rather make Presents than pay Debts But the best is all the World explains against this Vice and there is no Ungrateful Person but decry's Ingtatitude Common Benefits are to be communicated to all but particular ones with Choice To be thankful for small Benefits shews we value Mens Minds not their Trash 'T is strange this Vice of Ingratitude void of all pleasure should be so General He that usurps the Good of another enriches himself by it A detracter hath the pleasure of being easily beleived A vindicative Person has the Content of being revenged of his Enemy but an ungrateful Man has the constant Displeasure of being stung with Shame and Remorse whenever he thinks what has been done for him but those who arrive at the highest pitch of Ingratitude never think of what has been done for them but if he doth not think at all there is still no Pleasure in not thinking of it 'T is a Question which is the worst Ingratitude that of a King or his People Master or Servant and among Friends that of Fathers or Children Husbands or Wives a Lover or his Mistress There are several Degrees of it and I think one may be positive there is no Equality under the Sun They may be divided into three Orders viz. in point of Duty Friendship and Love there are Laws which direct Kings to Govern and People to obey but none to teach Gratitude in Love the Morality of Love is no where to be found but in Sonnets Love being usually nothing but a piece of Gallantry diverting the World with pleasant Songs and Verses This is a slighter Ingratitude much than in Friendship The Ingratitude of Friends causes Hatred and divides Families that of bad Kings causes a thousand Injustices that of Subjects sedition Revolts and continual Wars that of Husbands and Wives criminal Loves and tragical Deeds therefore Ingratitude in Duty is most Dangerous An ungrateful Friend can never be a truly worthy Man but one that is Ungrateful in Duty may for Fortune justifies many things Ingratitude in Friendship is yet more detestable for Kings do not choose their Subjects Nor People their Kings often the same may be applied to Fathers and Children and even as to Husbands and Wives Interest makes more Marriages than Love or Choice So that if there be a defect in their Duty tho' they are to blame yet 't is the less because not loving at all they lessen the Obligation and fancying their Duty less no wonder if they easily dispense with part of what they owe and this is to be said for e'm That since they cannot love whom they please they cannot be oblig'd in spight of Inclination But our Friends we choose we are Voluntarily oblig'd to them We are not constrain'd to love 'em by any Laws or any disorder'd Passion but by consequence Nature Justice Reason Virtue and Honour Exact of us a correspondent Return of Good Offices and tho' we want the power we ought never to forget it but publish and own it with pleasure What confidence can there be put in a Man who is failing to his Friend The Ungrateful Man ruins his Reputation in the World and insensibly mischiefs Himself more than others 'T is possible he that 's ungrateful to his Prince may be Grateful to his Friend Mistress or Relation but an Ungrateful Friend is capable of any Ingratitude For if one receive a Benefit from an Enemy if he be so noble and Generous as to confer it one is oblig'd to acknowledge it as much as to a Friend and I know not if one is not oblig'd to Gratitude tho' one refuses the services they would do one Ingratitude is so common in the Minds of People that from the King to a Slave every one hath met with Ingratitude If a Prince be Just and Good the