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A15035	Aurelia. The paragon of pleasure and princely delights contayning the seuen dayes solace (in Christmas holy-dayes) of Madona Aurelia, Queene of the Christmas pastimes, & sundry other well-courted gentlemen, and gentlewomen, in a noble gentlemans pallace. A worke most sweetely intercoursed (in ciuill and friendly disputations) with many amorous and pleasant discourses, to delight the reader: and plentifully garnished with morall notes, to make it profitable to the regarder. By G.W. Gent.; Heptameron of civill discourses	Whetstone, George, 1544?-1587?	1593 (1593)	STC 25338; ESTC S119821	126,076	172

euents of Promos Tiranny and to giue him example of vengeance I will seale my complaints with my déerest blood Continuing this determination Cassandra buried her imagined brothers head and with spéede iornyed vnto king Coruinus Court before whose presence when she arriued her mourning Attire but especially her modest countenāce moued him to beholde her with an especiall regarde Cassandra vpon the graunt of audience with her eyes ouercharged with teares A mischeefe wel preuented reported the already discoursed accidents with such an apparance of gréefe as the King and his Attendants were astonied to heare her and sure had she not béen happily preuented she had concluded her determination with chaste Lucretias destinie A noble fauour The King comforted her with many gratious wordes and promised to take such order that although he could not be reuiued her Brothers death should fully be reuenged and her crased honour repaired without blemish of her former reputation Cassandra vpon these comfortable words a little succoured her afflicted hart with patience attended the Iustice of the King who with a chosen companie made a Progresse to Iulio and entred the Towne with a semblance of great fanour towards Promos A necessary pollicy by that colour to learne what other corrupt Magistrates ruled in this Cittie for well he knew that Birdes of a feather would flie together and wicked men would ioyne in affection to boulster eche others euill After this gratious King had by héedfull intelligence vnderstoode the factions of the people vnlooked for of the Magistrates he caused a proclamation to be published in which was a clause that if any person could charge any Magistrate or Officer with any notable or hainous offence A royall grace Treason Murder Rape Sedition or with any such notorious Crime where they were the Iudges of the multitude he would himselfe be the Iudge of them and doe iustice vnto the meanest The clamors of the poore and the consciences of the rich like Hell Sorrowe and Shame the attendants of Cassandra Vpon this Proclamation it was a hell to heare the exclamations of the poore and the festered consciences of the rich appéered as loathsome as the Riuer of Stix Among many that complained and receiued iudgement of comfort Cassandras Processe was presented who lead betwéene sorrow and shame accused Promos to his face The euidence was so plaine as the horrour of a guiltie conscience reaued Promos of all motions of excuse so that holding vp his hand An vnusuall place for a Iudge amongst the worst degrée of théeues the little hope that was left moued him to confesse the crime and with repentance to sue for mercy O quoth the King such especiall mercy were tiranny to a common wealth A necessary regarde in a Prince No Promos no Hoc facias alteri quod tibi vis fieri You shall be measured with the grace you bestowed on Andrugio O God quoth he if men durst barke as dogges many a Iudge in the worlde would be bewrayed for a théefe It behoueth a Prince to know to whom he committeth Authoritie least the Swoord of Iustice appointed to chasten the lewde Princes beares the blame of euill Officers extortion wound the good and where good subiects are wronged euill Officers receiue the the benefit and their Soueraignes beareth the blame Well A iust iudgement wicked Promos to scourge thy impious offences I héere giue sentence that thou foorth with marry Cassandia to repaire her honour by thée violated and that the next day thou lose thy head to make satisfaction for her Brothers death This iust iudgement of the good king in the first point was foorth with executed The good prorect the lewde But sacred is the authoritie that the vertues of the good are a Shielde vnto the lewde So swéete Cassandra who simply by vertue ouercame the spight of Fortune The duetie of a wife truely shewen in this mariage was charged with a new assault of sorrow and preferring the dutie of a wife before the naturall zeale of a Sister where she before prosecuted the reuenge of her brothers death she now was an humble suter to the King for her Husbands life The gracious King sought to appease her with good words but he could not doo her this priuate fauour The common weale is to be regarded before priuate honour without iniurie vnto the publike weale for though quoth he your sute be iust and the bounden duety of a wife yet I in fulfilling the same should do vniustly and generally iniure my Subiects and therefore good Gentlewoman haue patience and no doubt vertue in the end will giue you power ouer all your affections There was no remedy Cassandra must departe cut of hope to obtaine her sute Siue bonum siue malum Fama est But as the experience is in dayly vse the dooings of Princes post through the world on Pegasus back And as their actions are good or badde so is their same With the like spéede the Kings iustice and Promos execution was spread abroad and by the tung of a Clowne was blowen into Andrugios eares who till then liued like an Outlawe in the Desart woods But vpon these newes couertly in the habite of an Hermit Good motions proceede frō the soule and euill from the flesh by the diuine motion of the Soule who directs vs in things that be good and the Flesh in actions that be euill Andrugio goes to sée the Death of his Capitall enemy But on the other parte regarding the sorrow of his sister he wished him life as a fréend To conclude as well to giue terrour to the lewd as comfort to his good subiects the King personally came to sée the execution of Promos who garded with Officers and strēgthened with the comfortable perswasions of his Ghostly fathers Among whom Andrugio was méekely offered his life as a satisfaction for his offences A gratefull parte which were many more then the Law tooke knowledge of and yet to say the truth such was his Repentance as the multitude did both for giue and pittie him yea the King wondred that his life was gouerned with no more vertue considering the grace he shewed at his death Andrugio beholding this ruthfull Spectackle was so ouercome with loue towards his Sister as to giue her comfort he franckly consented a new to emperill his own life And followinge this Resolution in his Hermits wéede vpon his knées hee humblye desired the Kinge to speake The King graciously graunted him Audience Whereupon quoth he regarded Soueraigne if Lawe may possibly be satistied Promos true Repentance meriteth pardon Good Father quoth the King he cannot liue Murther asketh death and no other satisfaction and the law satistied vnlesse by miracle Andrugio be reuiued Then quoth the Hermite if Andrugio liue the law is satissied and Promos discharged I quoth the King if your praier can reuiue the one my mercie shall acquit the other I humbly thank

offend through ignorance which is excused without a pardon for ignorance is without intent of euil therefore to be suffered though not to be cherished a man may offend through necessitie which commendeth Iustice with the vertue to forgiue for necessitie is bound vnto no law and therefore deserueth not to be punished with the rigour of law To the third a man may offend through rashnes and make amends with repeutance which Iustice may pardon without preiudice to equity and herein faire Mistres I haue showen my trespas and the reparation of my trespasse To your third thrée questions Three iniuries may pas vnteuenged a man may hurt his friend against his will which is an iniurie yet ought not to be reuenged for reneng can but afflict the trespasser and the misfortune grieueth him before the husband a man may kisse the wife by mistaking which is an iniury not to be reuenged for the wife may wipe away the wrong with her hand and the husband by reuenge may make worke for the Chirurgion and to the last a man must be content to take good words of a beggerly debtor which is an iniury not to be reuenged for a man can haue of a Cat but her skin and of a begger but his scrip vnles he will sell the Apothecary the greace of the one and the dice maker the bones of the other The whole company gaue a verdict that Bergetto had expounded his Mistres doubts without blemish to Iustice and therefore were ernest suters for his remission Whome shée pardoned with this prouiso that hée should behaue himselfe honourably towards women hereafter For his libertie Bargetto reuerently kissed his Mistresses hand and thus all vnkindnesse pacified Quéene Aurelia mouing a little raisde the company from the Table who a pretty time after dinner had respyt to prepare their wits for the accustomed exercise The Clocke had no sooner sounded the disputation houre but Quéene Aurelia and her Ladies were ready in the drawing Chamber and vpon warning the chosen Gentlemen gaue their attendance who hauing taken their places the Eunuck knowing his charge vnto the Lute sung this Sonet TO thee I send thou fairest of the fayre The vowes and rites of an vnfained heart Who with my plaints doe pearce the subtill Ayre That Beautie thou maist heare and see my smart Who sues but that thy deputie on earth May take in gree my off'rings of good will And in account returne my Loue in worth With charge thy priests my bones to ashes burne And with the same thy aulters all to meale That I may make to serue eache louers turne The peace off'ring with Sacrifice of zeale This Sonet in Beauties behalfe put the whole companie in remembrance of Doctor Mossenigoes last nights lauish spéech of Beautie and the scandalous comparing of her to poyson or which is worse a more subtill infection and therefore to bée resolued of his wrong or her gyltines Quéene Aurelia appointed Monsier Bargétto to bée her Champion and to assist him for it was agréed that frée choice of Mariage should this day be disputed whose affection for the most procéedeth from the vertue of Beautie she lycensed euery one that fauoured her cause which done she willed the Doctor and his fauorers to spit their venym Maddame quoth the Doctor Olde men are bound by their grauitie to say no more then they will stand to it neither beséemeth the stayednes of my yeares nor agréeth with the grauitie of my profession in such an assembly to speake the thing I dare not auouch therefore since it cōmeth to this issue that I must hazard vpon a charge or shrinke away with shame though my enemies be many my cause is iust vpon which warrant I am feareles of my foes and resolute in mine opinion Bargetto likewise glad of this fauour protested before Quéene Aurelia and the whole company that in the faithfull execution of his charge the prodigall spoyle of his life should giue contempt to death The Doctor The dash of a Pen is more grieuous then the counterbuse of a lance that had giuen as many déepe wounds with his Pen as euer he had done with his lance shronke no more at these threats then an Oke at the Helue of an Axe but coldely willed him to vse his pleasure hée was ready to defend or to die in his opinion Whereupon Bargetto to strengthen himselfe the better made this remembrance of the yester dayes report It is quoth he already approoued Free choise in mariage defended if the married in forced mariages could as well finish with the Church as they can account with their consciences their ioy to be Maried was not so colde as their destre to bée deuorsed would bée whot therfore by this awke ward successe in forcement a frée choise in Mariage cannot choose but continue as I think as much loue betwéene the Maried as the other sowed debate Rashnes and constraint quoth the Doctor are both violents Reproofe c. Defence c. and euery violent is a vice then how can a vicious attempt haue a vertuous successe men doo euill quoth Bargetto that good may come of it and it is allowed And men doo good quoth the Doctor that euill may come of it and it is forbidden Reproofe c. for it is the intent both in good and euill that commendeth or condemneth and what good intent hath the foolish young man that by his rashnes in mariage robbeth his parents of their comfort and himselfe of his credit He satisfieth his fancy quoth Bargetto a special regarde in Mariage where there is a swéete accord betwéene the Maried the parents cannot but reioyce and the neighbours are bound to speake well and beautie in his wiues face wil féed his heart with a thousand delights so that he shall sustaine want with little griefe labour to get wealth with a great desire for where vnitie is small things growe to great Such may be the vnitie quoth the Doctor as smal griefes may growe to great sorrowes Reproofe c. when the winde is in the neck of a stooping Trée it falleth downe right and when the vnthriftines of the Husband agréeth with the euill huswiferie of the Wife Sorrow striueth to be in the maried mans bosome before the maried be in his wiues bead and what other expectation may there be either of the one or the other when he satisfieth his fancie before he considereth of the duties of Mariage and she in taking an husband that is ignorant in the affaires of husbandrie and in offices of Mariage It is the office of the maried to be aduised ere he loue Duties before Mariage and louing to be reposed in his choise It is the office of the maried to be prouide for an household before he take possessiō of his hearts delight and it is the office of the maried to examine the conditions of his mistresse before he enter into any couenant of mariage And how

maried as you haue with precious authorities set forth the excellencie of mariage and the diuine operations of her blessings with a ful performāce of your promise you shall binde vs all to be your Debters Madame quoth Philoxenus you set me to a very harde taske the Rose is Hostesse as well for the Butterflie as the Bée the Sunne shineth both vpon the good and bad yea Christ himselfe was aswell Master to a Théefe as to a true Disciple Euen so diuine Mariage cannot haue but some Deuilish Subiects whome Examples will not feare much lesse may Lawes kéepe in vnitie I graunt quoth Quéene Aurelia the euill are fearelesse of the Law vntill they bee scourged with the vengeance therof The Law is a scourge to the euil comfort to the good but the good embrace Lawes as their Directors in Vertue and defenders from danger for whose benefite I intreate you now with as large a power as I lately commaunded you that in this behalfe you will commit some counsailing Lawes to our attentiue memories Madame quoth Segnior Philoxenus to shew that your Vertues haue as great power to commaund me as your authoritie to enioyne me I will set downe my owne imaginations to preserue and multiply Loue peace wealth Ioye among the Maried leauing the same to be perfected by the hearers better iudgments Housholde Lawes to keepe the Maried in Loue Peace and Amitie Reported by Segnior Philoxenus THe satisfaction of fancie is the sowrce of ioy in Mariage But there be many meanes to damme vp the course of delight betwéene the Maried if the match be not made aswell by foresight as frée choice The Office of forsight is to preuent following mischāces Mariage consisteth as well in foresight as free choise and aduisedly to consider if present abilitie wil support an Housholde and according to their calling leaue a portion to their posteritie In this point the experience of the Parents is to be preferred before the rash imaginations of the sonne for the aged Married by proofe know that in time many accidents of mischance will hinder the indeuours of the best husbands The office of Foresight is like wise to considrr Equality in yeeres of the equalitie in yéeres least the one growing and the other declining in perfection after a while repent whē remedie comes too late the Rose full blowne séemeth faire for a time but withereth much sooner then the tender Bud. It is the office of foresight Equality in manners to consider of the equalitie of bringing vp least a diuersity in manners betwéene the maried make a deuision of desires for Spanielles and Curres hardly liue together without snarling And it is the office of foresight Consent in religion to sée that there be a consent in Religion betwéene the maried for if their loue be not grafted in their soules it is like their Mariage will be infirmed with the defects of the body The office of frée choise is the roote or foundation of Mariage Free choise in satisfaction of Fancie which consisteth onely in the satisfaction of fancy for where the fancie is not pleased all the perfections of the world cannot force loue and where the fancy delighteth many defects are perfected or tollerated among the maried When mariage is selemnized there are many things to be obserued on the parte both of the husband and the wife The Husband is to consider A mans house is a pettie common weale his house is a petty Commō wealth whereof himselfe is chéefe and his seruants Subiects therefore for the welfare both of himselfe and householde it is néedefull that he set downe such orders as God may be glorified himselfe profitably serued the good seruant wel rewarded The office of a Wife the euil chastened and the neighbour pleased And as it is the Husbands office to set downe these orders so it is the Wiues duetie to sée them executed The charge of the Husband The husbands care apportaineth to things abroad is to get abroad for the prouision of his householde and the Wife is bound to spare at home towards the maintenance of her Children The office of the Husband is to sée his ground tilled his Cattell cherished his fences sound his labourers work and their wages paide The dutie of the Wife is to sée her Garden wéeded The Wiues charge is huswifery within doore her Vines cut and in her Orchard her fruit trées pruned within doores her house well ordered her Maidens busied her Children instructed the fréend entertained and the Tables well furnished And in this Oeconomie many women haue so excelled as Socrates affirmeth that he learned of women more Morall Philosophie Morall Philosophie to be learned by women then naturall reason of Anaxagoras and Archelaus wherein Socrates testifieth no more then their worthy sexe deserueth for many women gouern their Families with such Prudence Temperance Pietie and other commendable vertues as may well instruct the wisest The Husband ought to beware Lasciuious talke to be shunned of the husband that in the presence of his wife he vseth no filthie lasciuious talke for besides the witnes of his owne indiscretion he maketh her a passage for many an vnhappie thought The Wife ought to be nice in occasion of suspition The wife ought to be nice in cause of suspition for her husband that sée'th open cause of mistrust cannot but feare that in secret he receiueth iniurie and ielowsie though she procéeds from excéeding loue yet is she the greatest enemie of the maried The Husband is bound to kéepe his wife in ciuill and comely apparell Comely apparell the Husband should giue his wife as well to make her séeme beautifull vnto himselfe as to preuent the reproche of the neighbour for this hath béen an ancient custo me among the Romaines and it is to be feared that if the Husband breake it to spare his Purse the Wife will repaire it though she gage her person The Wife that will please her Husband Cleane linnea commendable in a wife and make a great showe of a little though her Gowns he plaine in her linnen she must be curious and fine for otherwise were she attired all in Silke if her sléeues Partlet and other Linnen be coorse torne or sluttishly washed she shall neither be praised of strangers nor delight her Husband The Husband after householde iarres The Husband must beware of sullennes if the wife séeme to be sorie he ought not to be sullen for if she perceiue him of a froward nature it is like in other such squares she will be negligent to please him The Wife if she offend her Husband The wise must be amiable towards her husband by some ignorant trespasse she must please him with a louing countenance least if he finde her of a crooked condition he wil take delight to crosse her with continuall foule vsage The olde Husband A law for a yong womans old Husband is to

of her selfe and Children yea A most wicked pollicie and which is worse it is the pollitie of Father in lawes to dandle the infancie of their wiues Children in the lap of ignorance to this ende that being of lawfull age they may with lesse fetches boguile them of their liuing so that the vnfortunate child knowes not whether he may more bemone his losse of liuing or lacke of good bringing vp Senecas opinion that children were better to be dead borne then ignorant of good letters and in my iudgement of both the euils want of education is the greatest for learning and vertue purchaseth liuing and liuing corrupteth but coyneth not good conditions and as Seneca saith libertie without learning is a bondage to the minde and further the Child were better to be dead borne then barren of good Letters for that ignorance is a graue which burieth life Master Doctor quoth Quéene Aurelia me thinketh your words doo too much wrong to the wife though they cannot sufficiently blame the husband I graunt that father in lawes estéeme their owne profites before their wiues childrens preferments but yet I suppose Nature dooth direct the naturall Mother to eye their good bringing vp Things that are best esteemed who with much sorrowe brought them foo●th for as the Prouerbe géeth things that are dearely bought are of vs intirely beloued and nothing is more dearely purchased then what is attained with the hazard of life which venter the Mother maketh before she is assured of her Childe then this crueltie to wards her Children to satisfie the wil of her second husband will make indifferent men holde her an vnnaturall Mother whether her husband estéeme her a dutiful wife or no. Oh good Madam Reproose c. quoth the Doctor how can the hen succour her Chickens when she her selfe is at the mercy of the Kite how can the Conny preserue her Rabets when the Ferret is in possession of her Burrowe and how may the vnfortunate Mother Foster her shiftlesse Children either as she should or would whē her fancy or folly hath enthralled her to a second husband whose power is to direct and displeased to check This seueritie of Father in lawes hath bred much diuision in mariage but stil the quarrels are concluded with the detriment of the Children for the vnhappie wife is bound to one of these two euils either to agrée to the tyrannizing of her entrailes A hard extremitie or to yéeld to her owne continuall sorrow and quietnesse and where the case is so desperate it may be lamented but not wondred at that necessitie breake the boundes of nature To stay this mischiefe quoth Helena Dulce honorable is the custome of Spaine An honorable custome of Spaine where the vertuous dame holdeth the second mariage a retrograding of her reputation a wrong to her deceased husband for by this staiednesse shée is in possession of her libertie and hath the disposing of her liuing I holde this precise custome quoth Dondolo more profitable then necessarie for the penance were too hard yea vnpossible to bée indured that the lusty young Widdow should bée constrained to a Virgins chastitie for as Ouid deuineth I that sometimes of Nuptiall rites Haue taste the pleasant toyes Now cannot chuse but call to minde Dame Venus sugred ioyes But if the aged widdow could liue within this lawe it would bring honor to her yeares and happinesse to the end of her life What better husbands may shée haue then her owne Children whome she may both commaund and controule Meete husbands for aged widdowe whose dueties are to labour in her causes and to vnburden her heart of cares And when shée departeth this life where may shée better dispose her liuing then vpon her owne Children whome to relieue she is coniured by nature and to bring vp in good nurture bound in conscience But from the beginning so rife hath béen the dotage of widdowes that when their féeble legges faintely supporte their consumed bodies when at high noone their mistie eyes hardly discerneth the high way and when forst through lack of téeth they swallowe their meate their lippes notwithstanding take delight in kisses and their mindes thirst after wantonnesse Mens follies are as great as Womens simplicities in this ouersight in dotage quoth Quéene Aurelia but I think it necessarie that héere wée stay our iourney least wée enter into hell before we be a ware and therefore Segnior Fabritio I pray you let vs haue your sentence to ouerrule this question Madam quoth Fabritio the euill of this inequallitie in Mariage is both so auncient and so common in vse Experience is a iudgement it selfe as there néedeth no other iudgement then experience of our neighbours mischaunces but to succour the iniured Children A worthy law made by Laertius I would that one of Laertius lawes were common to the whole world which is where the Tenant sued his Lord Seruant his Master or the Childe his Parents that Iudges themselues should forth with looke into the Processe and determine the same for it is vehemently to be supposed that these sutes are forced vpon vehement iniuries otherwise the Seruant would feare to sue his Master who hath pówer moderately to chasten him the Tenant would quake to vnquiet his Lorde who hath many meanes to crosse him and without whose grace hée may neuer liue in peace Shame and duety in any sufferable matter would make the childe forbeare to molest his Parents for but where his cause is knowne Reporte like a two edged Knife would besides his iniurie wound him with blame and omission of dutie Therefore where the least of two dangerous euils foreeth the aboue said to sue it is much to be lamented that delay countenance of friends corruption with bribes and other supporters which the rich hath should torment the poore complainant more then his originall iniurie Your reason is but iust quoth Quéene Aurelia and the rest of the companie who wearie with the multitude of the recited mischances here broke off the disputation and went and reposed themselues in the great Chamber The speeche which passed the sixt night at Supper betweene Segnior Philoxenus and his Honourable Guestes ACcording to the order of Merchaunts who at the latter enoe of the yeare suruey their accountes to sée what fortune and mischaunce they haue receiued through the whole yeare past Segnior Philoxenus towards the latter ende of Supper smilinglie demaunded an account of the benefite of the chosen companies sixe dayes Disputation Sir quoth Soranso It is no striuing against the streame with a modest merrie countenance we are like to present you a Banckrupts reckoning who the longer he occupieth the worse he thriueth so wée these sixe dayes haue trauailed to finde out a way to the Paradise in mariage and euery day we haue béen further and further off of our determination one day we thought that the wealthy matches of Parents would haue spéeded our iourney but there