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A75032	The whole duty of man epitomiz'd for the benefit of the poor. With select prayers suited to every partition. By Edm. Stacy, a minister of the Church of England.; Whole duty of man. Abridgments	Allestree, Richard, 1619-1681.; Stacy, Edmund, b. 1657 or 8.	1700 (1700)	Wing A1193A; ESTC R223863	44,918	146

third Qualification is that of Relation Duties in respect to Relation and of this there are divers sorts as First that of a Debtor to a Creditor and of an oblig'd Person to his Benefactor and in both these Particulars we are bound by the strictest ties of Justice and Gratitude Not to pay our just Gratitude to Benefactors the contrary too common Debts when we are able is a Vice almost unpardonable and 〈◊〉 be ungrateful to a Benefactor however common it may be in this unthankful Age is an Act the most sordidly base and disingenieus PARTITION XIV Of Duty to Magistrates Pastors Of the Duty of Parents to Children c. Of Childrens Duty to Parents I Come now to the Duty to Parents nearest kind of Relations and in the first Rank of those I place our Duty to Parents whether Civil Spiritual or Natural The Civil Parent is To the Supream Magistrate Honour he who by a just right possesses the Throne and to him we owe Honour and Reverence we are to look upon him as a Person upon whom God has stamp'd a great deal of his own Power and Authority and upon no Account to speak evil of him or revile him Next we owe him our Tribute which we are to pay him with the utmost both of Justice and Freedom Thirdly Tribute Prayers and Obedience We are to Pray for him that God would direct and assist him in all his Undertakings And Fourthly We owe him a solemn and strict Obedience which both the Laws of God and Nature have commanded us to observe wi●● the most awful and religious Submission The second sorts of Parents a●● the Spiritual viz. th● Ministers of God● Duties to our Pastors Word and such a● are entrusted with the Salvation of Souls to them we owe the highest Love and Kindness we are oblig'd to esteem and value them as our best and truest Friends we are likewise to contribute to their Maintenance Love Esteem Maintenance Obedience and Prayer and witha● to look upon them a● Gods Messengers and upon that Account t● behave our selves 〈◊〉 them with a great deal of distance and respect and to put up our earnest Prayers to God for them that he would grant them the assistance of his Spirit to enable them rightly to discharge their Holy Calling The third sort of Parent is the Natural Duties to our Natural Parent by which is meant the Fathers of our ●lesh Towards these ●e are to demean our Reverence Love c. ●●lves with Reverence and Humility and ●pon no Account to contemn or ●●spise them either in our outward ●ehaviour or in our Hearts we we them our most ardent Love and ●nderest Affection and ought to ●●hor every thing that can give them the least Cause of Grief or ●isquiet We owe likewise Obedience ●r Obedience to all ●e Commands of our Parents that ●●e not opposite to the Laws of ●od and cannot violate them ●●thout exposing our selves to the Punishments he has so often denounc'd in Scripture against disobedient Children Children are not to Marry without the Children not to Marry without the Consent of their Parents Consent of their Parents every Child is so much the Right and Possession of his Parent that he mu●● be guilty of Theft to dispose 〈◊〉 himself without his Consent We are likewise bound according to 〈◊〉 Abilities to supp●● their Wants and 〈◊〉 To provide for their Wants Duties to the worst of Parents administer to them 〈◊〉 any kind of Extremity and all this is 〈◊〉 be done even to th● worst of Parents But as there a●● many things due fro● Duties of Parents to Children the Child to the ●●rent so there are so●● from the Parent 〈◊〉 the Child The Parent is oblig● to nourish and sustain the Chi●● till he comes of Age to do it himself he is likewise to take Care for his Soul by bringing him early to the To bring them to Baptism to educate them Sacrament of Baptism and by having him timely instructed in the Principles of Religion and educated in the true Faith and Fear of God and as a Means to improve his Education too he is Means towards their Education to encourage and correct him and to use all wise and gentle Means in order to impress upon him a timely Sence of Vertue and good Morals Thirdly The Parent The Parent to watch over the Childs Soul is to watch over the Soul of his Child after he comes to years of Maturity and as often as he finds occasion to exhort encourage and reprove him he is likewise to take Care of his outward To provide for their Sustenance State by providing him with a suitable Condition of Life but above all he is to lay before him a good Example To give them good Example and to make his own Life a fit Pattern for him from whence he may transcribe the true Rules of Vertue Honour Honesty and Godliness and then he is to Bless him and Pray To Bless them and to give them no unreasonable Commands for him and to recommend him often to God's Care and Protection And besides all this too he must be extreamly careful that all the Commands he laies upon him are just and reasonable and in all respects utterly distant from all sorts of harshness or severity PARTITION XV. Of Duties to our Brethren and Relations Husband Wife Friends Masters Servants THE second sort Duties to Brethren Natural Love of Relation is that of a Brother which we may take in a double Sence either Natural or Spiritual I begin with the First the Duties between Natural Brethren I mean such that are of the same immediate Parents And the Duty of these is to have united Hearts and Affections to love one another with great Tenderness and Sincerity and to do their utmost to promote their mutual Good and Happiness This is a Duty so necessary in all The necessity of Love among Brethren Points that without ●t no Family where there is any number of Brothers and Sisters can propose any tolerable Ease or Satisfaction The second sort are Spiritual Brethren Spiritual Brethren under which Notion are comprehended all those that are baptiz'd in the same Faith and Church with our selves and to all these our Compassion is to be the most melting and affectionate with these we are to profess and defend the Faith of Christ Crucify'd and to communicate with 'em in Our Duty to hold Communion with them To bear their Infirmities to restore them after falls and to sympathize with them all Holy Offices we are to bear with their Infirmities and in a friendly manner to admonish and reprove 'em and by fair and gentle Methods to endeavour to bring them to Repentance after they are fall'n We are to sympathize with them in all their Agonies and Distresses whether of Soul Mind or Body The third Relation is that between Husband The Wife owes to the Husband Obedience Fidelity and Love and Wife this is the nearest Relation of all and yet there are several respective Duties which

they owe to each other for the Wife in the first Place she owes her Husband Obedience which God has strictly commanded her to pay him in all things that are Just and Lawful she owes him Fidelity both to his Bed and his worldly Affairs she owes him likewise her Love and is bound to behave her self to him with the greatest friendliness and sweetness And this she is The faults of the Husband acquit her not from these Duties to do notwithstanding his faults which will by no means acquit her of any of these Duties There are likewise Duties from the Husband to the Wife Love several Duties owing from the Husband to the Wife the First Is Love by which he is enjoin'd to treat her with the utmost Tenderness and Compassion not to behave himself to her with any manner of harshness or severity but to use her in all respects as a part of himself Secondly He owes Fidelity to her Bed this Faithfulness to her Bed is as much the Husbands Duty as the Wife 's and the breach of it in either is an Act of Uncleanness and Perjury Thirdly He is bound to do his endeavour To maintain and instruct her to provide for her and to suffer her freely to partake of all his outward Blessings and amongst the rest of his Duties he is chiefly to take Care of the Salvation of her Soul and to instruct her as far as her need requires in the Principles of Honesty and Religion In brief Husbands and Wives are mutually Husbands Wives bound to pray for and assist each other bound to Pray for each other and to their utmost to propagate their Reciprocal Good and Happiness The true Ends of The true Ends of Marriage to be consulted and unlawful Marriages to be avoided Marriage are likewise to be consulted in which Case the Ornaments of the Mind are sooner to be chosen then either Wealth or Beauty or any other outward Appendage above all the rest unlawful Marriages are to be avoided 't is a Holy State and should never be enter'd into but according to the Direction of the Church Reverently Advisedly Soberly and in the Fear of God The next thing is Friendship which is Friendship with its Duties of that common good and concern that humane Life would be but a wretched thing Faithfulness Assistance Admonition Prayer Constancy without it the Duties of it are many but the most material are Faithfulness in our Trusts Assistance either with respect to our Souls or Bodies to our Souls especially in admonishing us of our faults which is the highest and most exalted Act of Friendship that can pass between Man and Man Prayer is the next Duty and after that Constancy and all these together render a Friend an inestimable Jewel The Last Relation is that between Masters and Servants and these too are mutually engag'd to each other The Servant is bound to obey Servants owe to their Masters Obedience Fidelity Submission Diligence his Master's just Commands and to execute them with Freedom and Satisfaction he owes him likewise an universal Fidelity in all his Concerns and is oblig'd by all the Rules of Modesty and good Manners to bear his Rebukes and Reprehensions with Submission and to discharge his Trust in every Particular with Diligence and Application The Masters on the other side owe to Masters owe to their Servants Justice Admonition Means of Instruction Moderation in Command Encouragement their Servants Justice in providing them with convenient Food and paying them their Wages as also Admonitions and Reproofs with regard as well to their Sins and Offences against God as Faults against themselves They owe 'em likewise good Example that is they are to make their own Lives and Actions a fit President for them to walk by they are to allow them opportunities for Instruction and convenient time for the Publick Worship of God moreover they are to command them with Prudence and Moderation to encourage their well doing and to treat their Faithfulness Diligence and Piety with a great deal of Kindness and Bounty PARTITION XVI Other Branches of our Duty to our Neighbour Of Charity to Men's Souls Bodies Goods and Credit THE next Duty Charity in the Affection to our Neighbour is Charity this is a Duty which the Blessed JESUS himself has solemnly enjoyn'd in his Holy Gospel and may be considered two Ways either in our Affections or Actions and First The Charity of Affections is such an universal Kindness that inclines us to wish well to the Soul Body Goods and Credit of all Mankind To their Souls in the first Place and to To Men's Souls Bodies Goods and Credit them we cannot sure but wish well when we consider that Christ thought their Ransome worth the Price of his own Blood we owe next all the good we can to the Bodies of Men this is an high Article of our Charity and without it we can never come up to that golden Rule of loving our Neighbour as our selves His Goods and his Credit are likewise to be very dear and precious to us and we are bound to propagate his Interest and Reputation and to esteem them upon all Accounts equal to our own This kind of Charity naturally begets The Effects of this Charity in us a quiet and peaceable Mind and a Compassion and Tenderness towards others it creates in us a Joy for their Prosperity and excites us to Pray for 'em and to importune Almighty God in their It casts out Envy Pride Censoriousness Dissembling Self-love and Revenge behalf besides all these too it guards our Minds against all sort of Envy or Revenge keeps down our Pride and impresses deep upon us the Grace of Humility it destroys Censoriousness and curbs the rashness of our Judgment suppresses Dissimulation and banishes and subverts all feign'd and pretended Kindness it casts away all Self-love and mercenary Designs and intirely roots out of our Minds all manner of Ranchor and Malice Nay this Charity goes further according The Motives to it Christ's Commands and the example of God to the Doctrine and Example of our Blessed Lord it extends it self even to our Enemies and what can be a greater Motive to it then to find it so solemnly commanded and enforc'd by God's own President This is a Subject well becoming our This Charity to extend even to Enemies serious Consideration and should put us in mind methinks to ballance our Sins against God with the Offences of our Brethren against our selves and would we do that we should find the first so much outweigh the last that from a fair Comparison we must needs judge our selves very unworthy to expect God should Pardon us The Disproportion of our Offences against God compar'd with Men's against us for so many great

it Let all my Recreations be moderate and inoffensive and us'd with the strictest Caution with regard to Thee my Neighbour and my Self give me Grace and Prudence to avoid all Gaiety in my Apparel and to prefer the inward Ornaments of my Soul to all useless Trappins and all gaudy and insignificant Shews and Formalities For the Tenth INstruct me O Eternal Father of all Truth and Equity in the Duties I owe to my Neighbour grant I beseech Thee that I may direct my Life by the constant Rules of Justice both Negative and Positive Prevent me O Crucify'd Saviour from that crying Sin of Murder let the hainousness the Punishments and the strange Discoveries thou hast been pleas'd to make of it be always in my View to deter me from it even in the most minute Particulars For the Eleventh GIve me Grace O Blessed Redeemer that after thy Example I may observe a strict and Positive Justice to my Neighbour in all his Possessions Stamp deep upon my Mind I intreat Thee O my God a tender regard for him in his Wife and in all his worldly Goods Lord I beseech Thee defend me from the Sins of Oppression and Theft and give me Grace to acquit my Self justly in all my Dealings and to behave my self as becomes an honest Man in all manner of Bargains and Commerce For the Twelfth LET thy merciful Ears O Lord be open to my Prayers for the sake of thy own Eternal Equity errace utterly out of my Mind all unjust Notions and let no Temptations to any sort of Robbery at any time get the Dominion over me improve my Mind I beseech Thee with such a determinate hatred against all kind of Deceit that I may immediately resolve upon that great Duty of a Christian Restitution And this I beg of Thee with the highest Ardency for thy own sake O merciful Jesus For the Thirteenth O Eternal God of Truth guide me I beseech Thee by thy blessed Spirit that I may be exactly careful how I Believe or Report any thing to the Prejudice of my Neighbour keep me from the dangerous Sins of Perjury and Slandering from all base and malicious Whisperings and from all fly and injurious Insinuations O God of Righteousness let the tenderness and regard I owe to my Fellow Christian sink so deep into my Soul that I may neither Scoff at his Calamities or Infirmities nor deride his very Sins Give me O King of Justice such a Positive Vprightness and Integrity that I may abhor all sorts of Lying Envy and Detraction and that I may preserve an humble and intire Gratitude and Thankfulness towards my Friends and Benefactors but especially towards Thee O bountiful Jesus For the Fourteenth O God of all Order and Power who in thy Wisdom hast appointed several Ranks and Degrees of Men among us give me an awful Sence of that profound Obedience and Respect I owe to all the Magistrates Pastors and Governours in their respective Stations teach me O my God! as a Child that Love and Reverence I owe to my Parents and as a Parent that Care and Duty I owe to my Children that in both Capacities I may discharge my Trust after the Direction of thy most Holy Precepts O King of Righteousness For the Fifteenth TEach me O merciful God and Saviour that I may acquit my self to all my Brethren whether Spiritual or Temporal and to all my Relations as becomes a Member of the Christian Profession in the several Capacities of a Husband Friend Master and Servant teach me O merciful God to behave my self as becomes a Member of thy most Holy Religion O blessed Jesus For the Sixteenth INstruct me I beseech Thee O Almighty Lord in all the Branches of my Duty to my Neighbour After thy own Example O unchangeable Goodness Direct my Charity towards him with respect to his Soul his Body his Goods and his Credit give me such a Spirit of Positive Justice that I may value him upon all Accounts equal to my self and be always ready to do the very best I can to propagate his Interest in both Worlds I beg this of Thee with the utmost Ardency of my Soul O Jesus merciful Jesus For the Seventeenth O Merciful God who hast mark'd out my Compassion to my Fellow Creature as the Standard by which thou intendest to measure Thine to me Give me I beseech Thee an intire and universal Charity Open my Bowels that I may be ready to help and further him in all his Extremities Grant O my God for the sake of thy own Love that I may be always prepar'd to vindicate my Neighbours good Name upon all occasions that I may judge the best and speak well of him and conceal or excuse his Infirmities that I may be impatient to hear slow to believe and unwilling to propagate evil Reports lodge him in my Heart in the very next Place to my Self that I may constantly Study his Peace and value it equal to my own keep me from all Litigious Suits and Controversies let an even and regular Charity run through my whole Life and Actions and extend it self even to my very Enemies I beg this and every thing else thou in thy Wisdom knows useful for me for Jesus Christ his Sake Amen Amen FINIS Books Printed for John Lawrence at the Angel in the Poultrey CAtholicism without Popery An Essay to render the Church of England a Means and a Pattern of Union to the Christian World ●ctavo The Mourners Companion Or Funeral Discourses on several Texts ●n Two Parts By Mr. John Shower Octavo The Dying Mans Assistant Or Short Instructions for those who are concerned in the preparing of Sick Persons for Death Being no ●ess worthy the Consideration of all good Christians in time of Health ●hewing the importance of an Early Preparation for their latter End with regard as well to their Temporal as Eternal State By a Divine of the Church of England Twelves The London Dispensatory reduced to the Practise of the London Physicians wherein are contained the Medicines that are now in use and such as are not in the Latine Copy added with their Vertues and Use By John Pechy of the Colledge of Physicians in London Twelves Price 1 s. 6 d. 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