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duty_n so_o mute_a and_o dumb_a and_o ignorant_a in_o yield_v it_o to_o conclude_v therefore_o know_v thy_o own_o duty_n best_o mark_v most_o thy_o own_o transgressing_n of_o duty_n then_o shall_v thou_o be_v free_a from_o brawl_n with_o thy_o yoke-fellow_n if_o thou_o be_v take_v up_o with_o pain_n about_o thyself_o and_o there_o be_v no_o better_a mean_n of_o peace_n in_o family_n than_o that_o every_o one_o shall_v learn_v and_o ply_v his_o own_o work_n see_v and_o labour_n to_o mend_v his_o own_o fault_n have_v you_o then_o be_v both_o or_o either_o unchaste_a unloving_a unfaithful_a repent_v both_o and_o strain_v not_o courtesy_n who_o shall_v begin_v but_o let_v either_o set_v other_o a_o copy_n of_o goodness_n and_o if_o you_o will_v needs_o strive_v let_v it_o be_v which_o shall_v be_v the_o best_a which_o mend_v first_o have_v thou_o be_v a_o foolish_a passionate_a unjust_a husband_n full_a of_o bitter_a word_n perhaps_o also_o which_o be_v monstrous_a of_o blow_n in_o anger_n 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proverb_n and_o let_v every_o of_o you_o mend_v one_o i_o mean_v himself_o and_o contention_n will_v cease_v pray_v for_o each_o one_o self_n first_o then_o for_o each_o other_o where_o you_o have_v offend_v labour_v to_o see_v it_o confess_v bewail_v it_o and_o call_v for_o power_n to_o reform_v and_o be_v not_o skilful_a to_o cast_v the_o fault_n upon_o another_o but_o to_o cast_v it_o out_o of_o thyself_o so_o shall_v your_o love_n be_v sure_a your_o heart_n comfortable_a your_o example_n commendable_a your_o house_n peaceable_a yourselves_o joyful_a your_o life_n cheerful_a your_o death_n bless_v and_o your_o memory_n happy_a for_o ever_o 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d finis_fw-la ¶_o the_o duty_n of_o the_o marry_a people_n be_v either_o 1._o principal_a the_o breach_n of_o which_o annihilate_v the_o former_a covenant_n by_o they_o make_v which_o be_v 1._o the_o chaste_a keep_n of_o their_o body_n for_o each_o other_o to_o which_o be_v oppose_v adultery_n sect_n 3._o 2._o cohabitation_n or_o dwell_v together_o to_o which_o be_v oppose_v desertion_n sect_n 4._o 2._o less_o principal_a the_o breach_n whereof_o notwithstanding_o the_o comnant_n be_v firm_a and_o these_o be_v of_o two_o sort_n 1._o such_o as_o concern_v their_o ordinary_a society_n of_o life_n which_o be_v either_o 1._o mutual_a such_o as_o both_o must_v mutual_o perform_v which_o do_v respect_n either_o 1._o their_o person_n and_o these_o be_v 1._o love_n sect_n 7._o 2._o faithfulness_n &_o helpfulnes_n conjoin_v sect_n 11._o 2._o their_o family_n as_o concern_v their_o 1._o maintenance_n sect_n 13._o 2._o govern_v sect_n 14._o 2._o special_a pertain_v to_o either_o separately_z 1._o the_o husband_n who_o duty_n be_v 1._o to_o keep_v his_o authority_n sect_n 15._o 2._o to_o use_v his_o authority_n of_o which_o i_o show_v 1._o the_o end_n sect_n 16._o 2._o the_o manner_n with_o three_o virtue_n 1._o wisdom_n sect_n 18._o 2._o meekness_n sect_n 21._o 3._o justice_n sect_n 26._o 2._o the_o wife_n who_o duty_n be_v 1._o to_o confess_v her_o inferiority_n sect_n 27._o 2._o to_o carry_v herself_o as_o inferior_a 1._o in_o reverence_n sect_n 29._o 2._o obedience_n sect_n 34._o 2._o such_o as_o concern_v their_o society_n in_o the_o marriagebed_n that_o it_o be_v 1._o love_v sect_n 35._o 2._o sanctify_a sect_n 35._o 3._o seasonable_a sect_n 35._o
a_o bride-bush_a or_o a_o wedding_n sermon_n compendious_o describe_v the_o duty_n of_o marry_a person_n by_o perform_v whereof_o marriage_n shall_v be_v to_o they_o a_o great_a help_n which_o now_o find_v it_o a_o little_a hell_n marriage_n be_v honourable_a among_o all_o man_n but_o whoremonger_n and_o adulterer_n god_n will_v judge_v heb._n 13.4_o print_a at_o london_n by_o william_n jaggard_n for_o nicholas_n bourne_n and_o be_v to_o be_v sell_v at_o his_o shop_n at_o the_o entrance_n into_o the_o royal_a exchange_n 1617._o to_o the_o reader_n christian_n reader_n marriage_n have_v scarce_o more_o that_o use_v than_o that_o accuse_v it_o most_o man_n enter_v into_o this_o estate_n and_o be_v enter_v complain_v thereof_o they_o shall_v rather_o complain_v of_o themselves_o it_o be_v a_o unjust_a thing_n and_o a_o fruit_n of_o ignorant_a pride_n to_o cast_v the_o blame_n of_o our_o greevance_n upon_o god_n ordinance_n i_o have_v be_v happy_a say_v one_o have_v i_o not_o be_v marry_v 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18_o ver_fw-la 19_o also_o chap._n 20._o ver_fw-la 18._o of_o which_o place_n it_o be_v needful_a that_o marry_a people_n shall_v take_v notice_n to_o which_o i_o send_v they_o neither_o let_v woman_n think_v themselves_o disgrace_v because_o i_o have_v lay_v this_o matter_n open_a in_o plain_a but_o modest_a speech_n where_o god_n threaten_v death_n to_o the_o offender_n can_v the_o minister_n be_v faithful_a if_o he_o do_v not_o plain_o declare_v the_o offence_n this_o fault_n be_v by_o god_n condemn_v to_o the_o punishment_n of_o death_n levit._n 20.18_o bear_v then_o with_o necessary_a plainness_n and_o let_v no_o woman_n grieve_v that_o the_o cause_n of_o her_o fruitfulness_n be_v know_v when_o she_o rejoice_v to_o be_v find_v fruitful_a say_v not_o that_o i_o may_v let_v they_o read_v it_o what_o if_o they_o can_v what_o if_o they_o will_v not_o can_v the_o minister_n so_o discharge_v his_o office_n of_o give_v man_n warn_v that_o they_o sin_v not_o because_o they_o may_v read_v 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