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duty_n	husband_n	let_v	wife_n	4,137	5	7.9298	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A93181	The accomplished ladies rich closet of rarities: or, The ingenious gentlewoman and servant-maids delightfull companion Containing many excellent things for the accomplishment of the female sex, after the exactest manner and method, viz. (1.) The art of distilling. (2.) Making artificial wines. (3.) Making syrups. ... (14.) The accomplished dairy-maids directions, &c. ... To which is added a second part, containing directions for the guidance of a young gentle-woman as to her behaviour & seemly deportment, &c.	J. S. (John Shirley), fl. 1680-1702.	1687 (1687)	Wing S3498A; ESTC R230430	96,141	246

Curse will fall on those that attempt it As for your Children bring them up in the fear of God and in duty and obedience to your selves that it may be well for them and their posterity for those are the indearing pledges of Connubial Love that more nearly cement the hearts of Man and Wife and are the summ of their Earthly felicity Observe that what your Husband commits to your Management let it be done cheerfully carefully and with prudence to the best advantage and that nothing be waste and spoiled to his detriment by your self o● Servants but so live that the springs o● Love if not of Prosperity may ever flo● to water your Hearts with joy and rende● Life comfortable and you thereby be th● better inabled to serve your Maker and su●port your selves in what condition soever CHAP. XII Instructions for a Gentlewoman Married how she ought to carry her self toward her Servants and in the ordering her Houshold Affairs c. AS a Gentlewomans care next to tha● of her Husband and Children ough● to be in the Well-government of her domestick Affairs that cannot consequently be done without a due regard in her proper Person the ill conveniency of too much confidence in second Management being too frequently apparent And this must be done besides what you set your helping-hand to by inspecting the Actions of your Servants and by behaving your self towards them as you ought that your good Example may be their Guide If you find by experience you have a Ser●ant faithfull and ingenious in her Station ●ve her encouragement by letting her know ●ou are not unsensible of her industry by which if she be of a sweet disposition you ●ill animate her to proceed with alacrity ●ough some there are that finding them●lves well accepted will grow proud and ●onceited and imagine they by their Service ●y such obligations on those they serve that ●ey cannot conveniently be without them ●nd in this case too much familiarity will be●et contempt though encouragement where is deserved even on this occasion ought ●ot altogether to be wanting but be pro●ortioned to a degree of advantage not by ●ny means dis-heartning a good Servant in ●he performance of her duty by often find●g fault or being continually over them ●ut rather bear with light faults if they be ●ot a means to create greater If it be your misfortune to have a bad Ser●ant whose negligence turns to your displea●ure or disadvantage and no gentle Admo●itions and convincing Arguments are of ●orce to reform her Fret not your self nor ●e heard unseemly to exclaim but rather let ●er upon fair warning and such as will stand with your conveniency take her lot in ano●her place not disparaging your self to retain ●rom her what is her due nor giving an ill character of her when she is gone by whic● she being rejected as an unfit Servant may through necessity be obliged to take evi● courses and thereby be brought to sham● and disgrace In this case and any other avoid Passion and be not Rixarius for either of these ill become a Gentlewoman your main busine● with your Servants being to see they do wha● is fitting and that they lavish not out no● waste that wherewith you intrust them fo● this being neglected the fault will be charge upon your self It is an unbecoming thing in Servants t● be affected with flaunting Fashions and gaudy Attire above their degree and indeed no sutable to their station and to restrain thi● a Mistriss ought to concern her self yet eve● allowing and encouraging them to go nea● which will redound to both their credits fo● a Maid that goes careless and slutternly i● her Attire cannot be cleanly in her Office of imployment nor must a Mistriss by an● means confine or restrain her Servants from serving God but rather dispence with busine● to give them opportunity nay Exhort the● to return Tribute of Praise and Thanksgivin● to their Maker for all the benefit they hav● received at his hands and see that goo● hours be kept upon all occasions Other things necessary to be observed an● ●hat your Cattel and Poultry are fed in due ●eason and that your Stables and all other ●ut-places be kept cleanly especially your ●rew-house and Bake-house and that nothing ●herein be wasted or squandered away by the ●esort of idle people that too frequently flat●er and wheedle your Servants to your disadvantage In the Kitchen it is requisite that you see no Necessaries are wanting nor the seasoning of Meats and other things in due time neglected lest by that defect you happen to be disgraced at your own Table And ●arther that the Cloth be laid in due season whereby there may be no excuse for those that spoil what is provided by over-doing The Chamber above all things must be kept neat and the Furniture regarded that 〈◊〉 be not injured by Dampness Dust or Moths considering as occasion requires to Air them ●oth by the Fire within and the Sun without and cleanse them from Dust by beating The Cellar and Pantry too must be regar●ed that in Frolicks and extravagant Mer●ments great spoil and waste be not made by ●ervants and their Visitants and weekly or monthly take an exact account of what is expended that so your Expences may be proportioned to your Estate or Income and in all things carry your self prudently as becomes the Character of a Gentlewoman and a good Housewife FINIS

unshaken Loyalty A Fellowship not of unruly and distempered Love but of intire and indeared Affection the one being as different from the other a● heat from cold dryness from moisture a● the inflamed disorder of a Feaver to the temperate and natural heat of a healthfull Body Wherefore I pronounce those that Marry to their content and are united in the chas● Indearments of Reciprocal Love to be truly happy the Wife being the Joy of the Husband and the Husband the Consolation o● the Wife who takes care to protect her from Violence and Reproach on all occasions and is as tender of her Fame as his Life And beside these this happy State produces a happy Off-spring the Pledges of chast connubial Love not only as a present Blessing but a comfort and support in old Age. So that whatever by loose and lascivious persons whose Debauches have corrupted them beyond recovery may be said of Marriage it was and is held both by Christians and Heathens the consummation of Earthly felicity From which I shall proceed to the Relation of what is requisite to be observed by a Virtuous Wife towards her Husband c. CHAP. XI Instructions for a Young Gentlewoman when Married how to carry and behave her self towards her Husband c. as becomes a Virtuous Wife or Family-Directions in order to a Happy Life c. AS Marriage is an Honourable Estate so are there many weighty things to be observed by those that enter upon it though Love is the supreme matter yet it ought to be attended with Prudence Care and Diligence or else it will waste it self and totter in its Sphere and above all things repine not at your lot when it is fallen to your share but weigh your condition in the scale of Content and Discretion and it will be the better supported If your Husband be very young and given to Excursions incident to youthfull frailty let your riper experience bring him to a better understanding and your usage more easie than to attempt by extremities to wean him from what he affects but rather let your good Example modest Reprovements and the course of Time work upon his head-strong Nature and either through shame or a reform of Judgment he will be brought to be himself for doubtless Conjugal duty tempered with softness and affability is of force to conquer the Morosest temper If your Husband be much superiour to you in Years so that he is not as complyable able as Youth yet let his Years beget in you a greater Reverence and Respect and let his sage Instructions be your Rule and the square of your Actions keeping in all things his Counsel and not suffer so much as an unchast Thought to defile his Bed Locking up his Counsels in your Breast as a sacred Cabinet of Trust and bear with his infirmities being in his Age a Staff to support him and a Hand of help upon all lawfull occasions If your Husband is Exalted in the World by Riches or Honour let not your Mind be puffed up nor Pride come near your Heart but be affable humble courteous and charitable which will gain you a Name not to be purchased with Treasure and wink not at your Husband 's over-lavish profuseness nor at his over-penurious or covetous inclination but mildly admonish him of the ill conveniency and danger of either that so he may be perswaded to reserve a provident Care for his own and avoid Excess and on the other hand enjoy what is fitting and shun baseness Though after Marriage you find your self ●ot so happy in the things of this World as Riches and Honour c. as you expected but that on the contrary you are griped with the pinching hand of Poverty let the poor condition of your Husband add to your Virtue in furnishing you with Patience and Meekness for there is not that dangerous want some imagine where there wants no content and in this by any means cross the unadvised Proverb of Loves going out at ●●ne Door when Poverty comes in at the other And so consequently falling into a cold and Aguish distemper dies unlamented And let your Affection contemporize in all Affliction nor be shaken with the Winds of Adversity seeing no improsperous Affair ought to divide you from him to whom you have vowed your Faith and unto whom you have individually tied your self These things resolved and well expostulated your Christian constancy will make you fortunate in spite of opposition nor will the bitter encounter of unseasonable or undue Repentance struggle with your Mind or ever prevail against your Reason In this case the Example of some Women have been famous Sulpitia the Wife of Lentulus though she might have lived at ease sold all her Possessions sold all she had and followed her Husband into Banishment nor could any thing restrain the Noble Ipsicrates from accompanying her vanquished Husband in al● extremities Theogina Wife to Agathocles voluntarily partaking of her Husband's miseries and accompanying him when he was forsaken of al● others generously declared That she had no● only betaken her self to be his Companion in Prosperity but in all Fortunes which possibly might befall him Many more I might name but these may suffice to a Virtuous mind The more particular Duties of a Wife or rather Obligations of Love to him to whom sacred Tyes have bound her are chiefly these viz. To esteem him above all others not to entertain any mean or low thoughts o● him or his Actions but in all things to give him a due respect and in due observance of what is lawfull strive to increase his repute amongst Men rather than in the least to diminish it that in so doing you may own him the superiour Virtue and not by your indiscretion betray his weakness or rather your own for so have the wise and virtuous Women of all Ages done and those that do otherwise are highly to be censured of imprudence Be peaceable and pleasant towards your Husband not being angry when he is at any time so but pacifie him with winning and obliging words and if you should carelesly ●r otherwise raise him to a Passion be not ●ong e'er you apply your self to appease it by shewing a regret or kind relenting for what has occasioned it or by sound reason ●et him understand his error and prepare for him what is necessary in due order with all ●maginable neatness and advantage shew●ng above all things respect to his Friends and Relations whether abroad or at home which must of necessity create in him a grea●er portion of Love and Respect for your self Suffer by no means your Ears to be pene●rated with idle and detracting Stories of him ●n whom you ought to delight but banish and detest against such Makebates whom the power of Darkness sets on work to overthrow your Peace or to move you to a seperation which is not lawfull for those whom God hath joyned together let no Man put asunder Nor is it less expected that a