Selected quad for the lemma: duty_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	head_n	husband_n	wife_n	3,147	5	8.1309	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
B05977	The map of the little world, illuminated with religion being a practical treatise, directing man to a religious scope, and right measure, in all the periods of his life; with devotion suitable. To which is added an appendix, containing a gospel ministers legacie, in some sermons, upon 2 Pet. 1. 12, &c. / By Patrick Strachan minister of the gospel at St. Vigeans.	Strachan, Patrick, fl. 1693.	1693 (1693)	Wing S5775A; ESTC R184656	117,746	314

solid Foundation by Religion 2ly That thou enter into such a serious and lasting state of Life with the good Advice of GOD under him of those of Experience 3ly That thou propose the most pheasable means and good Ends for the Comfort and Contentment of thy Life 4ly That thou fall upon the most clear and approved Methods to attain these Ends. And Lastly When engaged in this Relation of conjugal Life that thou carry well therein and behave as a solid Christian in thy Family First Except the LORD build the house they labour in vain that bui●● it Psal 127. 1. See that thou marry i● the Lord and that thou set him befo●● thee that he may be at thy Right-hand●● and keep thy Heart still in His Hand● that thy choice may be dexterous an● fortunate learn to be a Christian an● Espouse Christ ere thou be a Husband o● a wife for Religion is the bond the Ble●●ing the beauty and the thrift of thy Relation and will have a greater influence upon the peace and prosperity 〈◊〉 thy family and the sweet converse 〈◊〉 the married twain Psal 128 2. And ma●● them live together as Heirs of the grace 〈◊〉 Life 1 Pet. 3. 7. 3ly Thou shouldest no● enter rashly unto this Covenant Consider what thou does Seek Counsel at Go● and good men especially of thy Parent●● Let not Pride hast passion and indiscretion engage thee to make such an adventure and if the Council of GOD and good men be wanting thou mayest be fond this night and faint to morrow and begin to repent when it is too late and canst propose no Remedy but that which is desperate 3ly Have a Right designe before thee Marry Rationally and with discretion consider the ends for which GOD has appointed Marriage And never think to accomplish them except thou shape out fit means to obtain them bewar of Being unequally yoked Let thy match be suitable if thou wouldest have it profita●le Consider how thou shalt live in that Relation that thou may live well in It. Bewar of the Snare of Poverty nor too greedily look after gain Keep the midle mean and that is to propose an honest and unchargeable way of living Say with Ag Give me neither Poverty nor Riches but what 's convenient for me Be not too confident in that thou art Perhaps young and strong to provide for thy self For thy youth may soon fade and thy strength decay a laudable seeking after a creditable way of living is rhy duty that thou have some talent and stock to use well which may by the Blessing of GOD be improved and thy Family provided 4ly That thou fall upon most clear and approved methods to attain these ends Besides what is already hinted thou art to engage in this setled state with consent of Parents if they be living for if thou oughtest to honour or obey thy Parents as GOD's Word directs Eph. 6. 1. Then thou 〈◊〉 not be but culpable If in this thou co●● contrary to their will And if the Sc●●ture gives it as a note of Prophane E●● that by his Marriage he was a grie●● heart to Isaac and Rebekah Whe●● Jacob followed his Fathers Cou●● thou shalt find it most agreeable to foll●● Jacobs Rod and if thy parents should 〈◊〉 too tyranical and self willed in this 〈◊〉 imped thee for their own ends or as 〈◊〉 Apostle to the Hebrews sayeth in the 〈◊〉 of Chastisement for their own pleasu●● yet shouldst thou be very submiss B●● they be unreasonably wilfull thou ha●● fuge in the Church which hath po●● to call Parents to an account of their t●●ciousness But this point is so fully h●●led by Divines and determined by 〈◊〉 Church that I shall not enlarge this trea●● upon it Only I would commend this ●●siness to be orderly done with all th●● necessarly previous to its consummat●● and with suitable solemnities in the 〈◊〉 of GODs Chnrch and not after some ●●sual Caruse nor done like a thing 〈◊〉 dares not hold up its face but doth 〈◊〉 and sneak in corners as the persons eng●●ing were ashamed that it shonld be kno●● 〈◊〉 the World whereas they must give an ●●count of it before GOD Angels and Men. And make that suspected to the peo●●e which they should approve themselves 〈◊〉 to their own Consciences and to the re●ular Church The Blessing whereof is not 〈◊〉 be despised by any private Man 5ly ●o carry Christianly in this Relation ●hat Man or Wife make conscience of ●●eir mutual duties and the main thing ●hat concerns the Husband is Religious and Conjugal Love to his Wife which the Apostle so fully presseth Eph. 5. Gives the Man an excellent Pattern of the free sin●ere full and constant Love of CHRIST to ●he Church And the great Specifick of ●he Wifes duty is Reverence and Obedi●nce to her Husband as the head For this Rational and Religious Love of the Husband Will last when the heats of passion shall expire and evanish And that Reverence and Obedience of the Wife to the Husband as it will Indear his Heart to her more and more so shall it make her to be taken among the number of the Godly Women especially Sarah 1 Peter 3 6. Who reverenced her hnsband and Called him LORD So that these things being observed they may be freer for a good Understand●● among themselves to govern their Fa●●ly with Discretion and their Affairs 〈◊〉 Frugality and Vertue 2ly As to y●● entrance into the Exercise of your P●●cular Calling be well advised that it q●●drate with thy General Calling as a Chri●●an Be as vertuous as thou may but 〈◊〉 not thy Bussiness hinder thee from worki●● out the Work of thy own Salva●ion ●●gin and end the Day with GOD a●● seek first the Kingdom of GOD a●● His Righteousness Mat. 6. 20. And ne●● say that thou hast not time For if th●● improve thy time with Frugality th●● will never want leasure to seek and se●● GOD It is to be feared thou wants Wi●● and there lyes the root of the evil Th●● would also take care to Employ thy se●● well in an approved Calling Beware 〈◊〉 the snares thereof keep a good Conscience let the Word of GOD and no●● Interest rule thy Conscience Be hone●● in thy Calling beware of fraud an●● sneaking wayes and work not in th●● Calling to be called a Cheat Take right●● Measure true Ballance and the same Weights otherwayes thy Tricks are an Abomination to the LORD Consult the most approved Proportions for thy gain ●nd if thou be engaged in the laborious Work of the Husband-Man let Grace ●uide thy Georgicks And consider that in 〈◊〉 beginning such a Calling payed Fruits ●o GOD Gen 4. 3. He makes the ground ●●st up to thee and brutish Animals ●eed thee Cloath thee and serve thee The LORD brings food out of the Earth Psal 104. 14. And makes the senseless Clod and Tur● produce Corn and Grain And all thy Labour without His Blessing will not profit thee Thou canst therefore