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A10138	The schoole of honest and vertuous lyfe profitable and necessary for all estates and degrees, to be trayned in: but (cheefely) for the pettie schollers, the yonger sorte, of both kindes; bee they men or women. by T.P. Also, a laudable and learned discourse, of the worthynesse of honorable wedlocke, written in the behalfe of all (aswell) maydes as wydowes, (generally) for their singuler instruction, to choose them vertuous and honest husbandes: but (most specialy) sent writte[n] as a iewell vnto a worthy gentlewoman, in the time of her widowhood, to direct & guide her in the new election of her seconde husband. By her approoued freend and kinseman. I.R.	Pritchard, Thomas, fl. 1579.; Wied, Hermann von. Brefe and a playne declaratyon of the dewty of maried folkes.; Kingsmill, Andrew, 1538-1569. Viewe of mans estate. Selections.	1579 (1579)	STC 20397; ESTC S115267	56,077	90

good tokens and markes wherby to make your choice as by the fruite to iudge the Trée for so saith the Booke of Ecclesiasticus in the .xxvij. Chapter The worde declareth the harte the talke is the tryall of men Yet because these are rather probable coniectures then sure demonstracions for Fame oftentimes lyeth therefore when you haue caste the whole and the somme yet God is all in all this matter and the onely maker of good Mariages Bee free then from worldly businesse he cleare from carnall affections cast your hope vpon God depend vpon his prouidence commit the matter wholy to his handes resorte and flye to him with oft and earnest prayer for that when all other wayes bee tryed is the plainest to seeke the surest to trust and the readiest to finde for such as seeke good Wiues and good Husbandes You haue a good example in the .xxiiij. Chapter of Genesis how Abraham proceeded in the Mariage of his Sonne Isaac You haue there the praier that the seruaunt of Abraham made to whom the charge therof was committed how hée entringe his iourney desired God to prosper him and to shew mercy vnto his Maister Abraham and that God according to his faithfull prayer gaue him a token wherby hée chose the vertuous Virgin Rebecca For her Parentes when they perceaued that God wrought with man could not deny their good will vnto Isaac but answered This thing is proceeded of the Lorde we cannot therfore say vntō thee eyther euill or good You haue also there the exercise of Isaac how he was occupied in the meane time while Rebecca was taken out of his Ryb hée wente out to praye in the Féelde towardes the euening and Rebecca first found him so occupied This is all my good Cosin that I haue now to be sayd Giue your selfe ouer wholy vnto God to bee your guide Let your eyes be so earnestly bente vpon him as they were wont to be vpon your Mistreste whom you haue heretofore serued Then shall God no doubt giue you as a portion to the rightuous hée shall so ioyne you that man may not seperate you Christ shal bee present with you as at the Mariage of Cana hee shall conduct you with his holy spirit he shall turne your Water into Wine hee shall make the sower sweete and prosper all your affaires In the meane time while God worketh bee not you ydle but practise your selfe in Isaackes exercise and God shall sende you an Husbande of his kinde euen a faithfull Sonne of Abraham a chosen Childe of god Yea God shal sende his Aungell to lead that man vnto your house euen as hee brought Tobyas vnto Sara at the house of her Father Raguell And as my poore prayer may helpe I will become your faythfull Orator I will beseeke the Lorde God to guide you with his holy spirite to prouide you an Husband for your comfort and to graunt you long to liue and loue togeather to your desired hartes ease and vnspeakeable quiet And so I leaue to trouble you and betake you to God who I am sure will neuer forget you if you repose your whole confidence in him Yours to commaund during lyfe I. R. This faythfull pledge of true intente With trustie harte is truely mente FINIS THE GLASSE of godly Loue. Wherin all maried couples may learne their duties each toward others according to the holy Scriptures Verye necessary for all maryed men and women that feare the Lorde loue his lawes to haue it in their Bedchambers daily to looke in whereby they may know and do their duties each vnto others and leade a godly quiet and louing life togeathers to the glory of God and the good example of their Christian Bretheren Iames. 1. See that ye be not only hearers of the worde but also doers least that therby yee deceaue your selues Colossians 3. Aboue all thinges put on Loue which is the band of perfection To all Christian men and women that are maryed FOrasmuch as the Diuel is most ready to make strife where there ought to bee most loue and hath with heddy wilfulnesse concupiscence and ignorance soblinded the hartes of those which liue vnder the yoke of Matrimony that as I may iudge by their fruites there be very few that leade their lyues therein according to the lawes of Christe Therfore my deare welbeloued Christians which professe the Gospell to the intent that you should liue therin according to your profession and knowledge I haue here breefely and plaincly set forth what it is and how you ought to leade your lyues therin accordinge to the Rules of the holy Scriptures so that your pure and godly lyfe may bee a good example and also make such ashamed as would sclaunder the holy Gospell and professours of the same yea and that their wonted worde which is marke these new men by their lyuinge may sound to Gods glory to the honour of his most holy worde and praise of al them in Christ which do professe the same Farewell in the Lorde YOu shall first vnderstande that Wedlocke is an hie and blessed order ordained of God in Paradise which hath euer bin had in great honor and reuerence whern one man and one woman are coupled and knit togeather in one fleshe and body in the feare and loue of God by the frée louing hartie and good consent of them both to the intente that they two may dwel togeather as one flesh and bodye of one will and minde in all godlynesse most louingly to helpe and comfort one another to bring forth children and to instruct them in the lawes of god Also to auoyde Fornication and all vncleanenesse and so in all honesty vertue and godlynesse to spend their liues in the equall partakinge of all such thinges as God shall send them with thankes gyuinge And because that the Wife is in subiection to her Husband I will begin with her shortly declare what dutie and obedience shée oweth vnto him by the commaundementes of the Scriptures Ephe. 5. The duetie of the Wife to her Husband SAynct Pawle sayth Yee Wiues submit your selues to your owne Husbandes as to Lorde for the Husband is the Wiues head as Christ is the head of the Congregatiō Therfore as the Congregation is in subiection vnto Christe likewise let Wiues be in subiection to their Husbandes in al thinges So that the wife must bee obediente vnto her husband as vnto Christ himselfe whereout it foloweth that the saide obedience extendeth not vnto any wickednesse or euill but vnto that which is good honest and cumly In asmuch as God delighteth onely in goodnes forbiddeth the euill euery where it foloweth also that the disobedience that a wife showeth to hir Husband displeaseth God no lesse then when he is disobeyed himself For the wife ought to obey hir husband in all pointes as the Congregation to Christe which loueth Christ onely and aboue all thinges shee is glad and willinge to suffer for Christes sake shee doth all for the loue

of him Christe only is her romfort ioy and all togeathers vpon Christe is hir thought daye and night shée longeth onely after Christ for Christes sake if it may serue to his glory shée is hartely well contented to die yee shee giueth ouer her selfe wholly therto for Christes loue knowing assuredly that hir soule hir honour body lyfe and all that she hath is Christes owne Thus also must euery honest Wife submit hir self to please hir Husband with all hir power and giue hir selfe fréely and willingly to loue him and obey him and neuer to forsake him till the houre of death And farther sayth S. Peter Let the Wiues be in subiecton to their Husbandes that euen they which beleeue not the worde may without the worde be wonne by the conuersation of the Wiues while they beholde your pure conuersation coupled with feare whose apparrell shall not bee outward with brodred haire and hanging on of Golde either in putting on of gorgious apparrell but let the hid man of the harte bee vncorrupt with a meeke and quiet spirit which spirit is before God much set by for after this manner in the olde time did the holy Women which trusted in God tire themselues and were obedient to their Husbandes euen as sara obeyed Abraham and called him hir Lorde whose Daughters ye are as long as ye do well And Paule speaking vnto Tytus sayth hée Let the elder Women be in such apparrell as becommeth holinesle not beeing false accusers not giuen to much Wine but that they teache honest thinges to make the young Women sober minded to loue their Husbandes to loue their Children to be discrete chaste huswifely good obedient vnto their Husbandes that the worde of God be not euill spoken of VVhat a Wife ought to bee HEre may you learne that a Wife ought to be discret chaste huswifely shamefast good méeke pacient and sober not light in countenance nor garishe in apparrell with dyed or curled haire painted nor pasted but with a cumly grauitie and a sad behauiour of a constant minde true tongued and of few wordes with such obedience in all godlynesse to her Husbande and head as it beseemes a Christian to haue vnto Christ and to the intente that the Husband in like case may learne his duetie let him harken what Sainct Pawle sayth and take heede that hee turne not his authoritie to tyranny The dutie of the Husband to his Wyfe HVsbandes loue your Wiues sayth hée as Christ loued the Congregation and gaue him selfe to sanctifie it Now must you vnderstande that the Husbande is the Wiues head as Christe is the head of the congregation and Christ showeth to the congregation the same thinge that the head showeth to the bodye for like as the head seeth and heaveth for the whole body studieth and deuiseth for to preserue it in strength and life euen so doth Christe defend teach and preserue his congregation For hee is the eye hart wisedome and guide therof so ought Husbands then to loue their wines be their heads in like manner to show them like kindenesse and after the same fashion to guide them and rule them with discretion for their preseruacion not with force or wilfulnesse to intreat them And S. Pawle saith farther So ought men to loue their wiues as their owne bodies he that loueth his wife loueth himself For no man hath at any time hated his owne flesh but doth nourish and cherish it euen as the Lorde doth the Congregation Therfore ought euery man most fernently to loue his wife equally with himselfe in al pointes for this is the measure of mutuall loue Matrimoniall that either partie haue nothing so deare that they can not be contented to bestow one vpon another ye and if neede should be they should also not spare their owne liues one for another no more then christ did for his congregation And like as when we repent and beléeue in the promise of God in Christ though we were neuer so poore sinners are as ritch as Christ al merites ours so is a Woman though she were neuer so poore afore she was maried as ritch as hir husband for all the he hath is hirs ye his owne bodye and hath power ouer it as saith Sainct Pawle And if it so chaunce that you finde not your wife so perfect in al pointes as you would or as your selfe yet must you not dispise hir nor bee bitteer nor cruell vnto hir for hir faultes but gently and louingly seeke to amend and win hir For like as Christe thought no scorne of his church dispised hir not neither forsooke hir for hir vncleanenes and sinnes so should no christian man spurne at his wife nor set light by hir because that sometime she falleth offendeth or goeth not right but euen as Christ nourisheth and teacheth his church so ought euery honest husbande also louingly and gently to informe instruct his wife For in many things saith S. Peter God hath made the men stronger then the women not to rage vpon them to be tirantes vnto them but to helpe them beare their weakenesse Bee curteous therfore saith hée and win them to Christ and ouercome them with kindenesse that of loue they may obey the ordinance that God made beetwéene man and Wife Oh how ashamed be those men to loke vpon this texte which with violence in their furye will intreate their wiues no beast so beastly for in the most cruelst way is not mete as when the wife is sad and disquieted then with spiteful wordes and wanton fashions so prouoking hir to anger Where it is not the dutie of the husband but rather ashamed to his owne head likewise it is worship for a man to haue the feare of the Lorde before his eyes that he prouoke not the plague of vengeance Let vs therfore haue humilitie in our hartes For as a wise man loketh well to his owne goinges euen so pleasant are the wordes spoken in due season which moueth the woman in hir wrath vnto patience whereof Salamon sayth Faire wordes are an Hony Combe a refreshinge of the minde and a health of the bones For it is seldome seene that any beast is found in the cruelst rage that the Male doth euer hurte his Female and how vnnatural a thing is it for a man to hurt his owne flesh and body Who will violently reuenge himselfe yea on his foote if it chaunce to stumble but wil not rather if hee haue an yll bodye cherish it to make it better The strong saith S. Pawle ought to beare the frailenesse of the weake let one suffer with another beare ye one an others burden and so shall ye fulfill the lawes of Christ and aboue all thinge sayth S. Peter Haue feruent loue amongst you for loue couereth the multitude of faultes So that loue in all things and at all times ought to bee the whole doore and only instrument to worke and frame all things betwéene man and wife VVhat the Husband ought to