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be_v the_o request_n sept._n 19_o 1657._o of_o thy_o friend_n in_o the_o lord_n edw._n reyner_n to_o the_o reader_n the_o worthy_a author_n of_o this_o ensue_a treatise_n be_v please_v not_o only_o to_o favour_v i_o with_o the_o perusal_n of_o it_o but_o also_o to_o put_v so_o much_o honour_n upon_o i_o as_o to_o crave_v my_o judgement_n concern_v it_o before_o he_o purpose_v to_o make_v it_o public_a doubtless_o such_o condescension_n of_o his_o spirit_n unto_o a_o friend_n every_o way_n inferior_a to_o himself_o do_v speak_v his_o great_a humility_n which_o add_v much_o lustre_n unto_o the_o rich_a ability_n with_o which_o the_o lord_n have_v crown_v he_o his_o former_a practical_a piece_n have_v find_v so_o good_a acceptance_n among_o gracious_a savoury_a spirit_a christian_n that_o the_o prefix_v of_o his_o name_n will_v be_v sufficient_a commendation_n of_o this_o book_n whosoever_o have_v heretofore_o drink_v of_o his_o rich_a spiritul_a wine_n will_v say_v there_o be_v no_o need_n to_o hang_v forth_o a_o ivy-bush_n to_o call_v in_o customer_n when_o his_o vessel_n be_v broach_v i_o do_v ingenious_o profess_v that_o i_o have_v receive_v edification_n by_o read_v over_o this_o discourse_n and_o thence_o i_o take_v encouragement_n to_o commend_v it_o to_o thy_o serious_a perusal_n long_o since_o when_o i_o read_v reverend_a mr._n greenham_n treatise_n of_o a_o contract_n before_o marriage_n and_o observe_v his_o serious_a instruct_n of_o the_o person_n contract_v in_o the_o article_n of_o faith_n and_o the_o ten_o commandment_n i_o then_o thus_o conclude_v in_o my_o own_o thought_n sure_o this_o man_n of_o god_n judge_v that_o this_o condition_n of_o life_n do_v need_n more_o than_o ordinary_a help_n that_o it_o may_v be_v christianly_o manage_v and_o questionless_a upon_o this_o account_n not_o exclude_v other_o minister_n most_o eminent_o godly_a have_v in_o their_o time_n persuade_v a_o matrimonial_a contract_n before_o the_o consummation_n of_o 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in_o their_o mutual_a subordination_n and_o towards_o other_o occasional_o i_o know_v that_o many_o of_o god_n worthy_n both_o in_o former_a and_o latter_a time_n have_v in_o their_o discourse_n concern_v domestical_a duty_n mention_v many_o thing_n here_o particularise_v yet_o as_o the_o concurrence_n of_o brethren_n add_v strength_n to_o their_o counsel_n so_o that_o which_o be_v additional_a may_v be_v find_v profitable_a in_o my_o apprehension_n there_o be_v a_o vein_n of_o scripture_n strength_n and_o evidence_n together_o with_o the_o savoriness_n and_o judiciousness_n of_o the_o author_n spirit_n run_v through_o the_o whole_a book_n from_o beginning_n to_o end_v in_o these_o regard_v i_o be_v move_v to_o request_v he_o to_o make_v it_o public_a hope_v that_o it_o will_v through_o god_n blessing_n be_v instrumental_a in_o promote_a the_o power_n of_o godliness_n among_o professor_n of_o religion_n that_o case_n of_o conscience_n which_o be_v add_v unto_o the_o practical_a 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she_o own_o but_o her_o husband_n or_o better_a than_o her_o husband_n or_o shall_v a_o man_n love_v other_o man_n wife_n or_o a_o woman_n love_v other_o woman_n husband_n better_a then_o their_o own_o peculiarity_n of_o interest_n be_v a_o ground_n of_o speciality_n of_o love_n 3._o union_n 3_o union_n ground_n of_o special_a love_n between_o they_o be_v union_n the_o conjunction_n husband_n and_o wise_n have_v one_o with_o another_o they_o two_o be_v in_o many_o respect_n as_o one_o person_n and_o so_o one_o together_o as_o they_o be_v not_o or_o shall_v not_o be_v with_o any_o one_o beside_o in_o all_o the_o world_n to_o wit_v one_o flesh_n gen._n 2.24_o as_o it_o be_v incarnate_v one_o to_o another_o adam_n acknowledge_v this_o when_o god_n have_v make_v the_o woman_n for_o he_o and_o bring_v or_o marry_v her_o to_z he_o he_o say_v this_o be_v now_o bone_n of_o my_o bone_n and_o flesh_n of_o my_o flesh_n to_o show_v his_o thankfulness_n to_o god_n and_o love_n to_o his_o wife_n 2.23_o gen._n 2.23_o as_o wonder_v at_o god_n goodness_n to_o he_o therein_o marriage_n be_v a_o moral_a conjunction_n of_o two_o person_n so_o as_o man_n and_o wife_n be_v in_o law_n one_o flesh_n by_o god_n ordinance_n it_o be_v the_o strict_a bond_n of_o any_o relation_n and_o therefore_o a_o fellowship_n of_o the_o dear_a amity_n near_o than_o that_o between_o parent_n and_o child_n though_o child_n have_v their_o flesh_n and_o bone_n from_o their_o parent_n yet_o they_o be_v not_o one_o flesh_n with_o their_o parent_n therefore_o shall_v a_o man_n leave_v his_o father_n and_o mother_n and_o shall_v cleave_v unto_o his_o wise_n this_o 2.24_o gen._n 2.24_o be_v the_o sanction_n of_o marriage_n all_o society_n must_v be_v leave_v that_o this_o between_o man_n and_o wife_n may_v be_v keep_v this_o be_v paul_n rule_n let_v not_o the_o wise_a depart_n from_o her_o husband_n 16._o 1_o cor._n 7.0.11_o â—â—â—ach_n 2_o 16._o and_o let_v not_o the_o husband_n put_v away_o his_o wife_n for_o god_n hate_v put_v away_o the_o wife_n must_v be_v a_o individual_a companion_n of_o life_n the_o say_n of_o the_o philosopher_n that_o perfect_a friendship_n be_v only_o between_o two_o be_v most_o true_a in_o this_o case_n between_o man_n and_o wife_n because_o they_o two_o be_v by_o marriage_n make_v one_o necessity_n 4_o necessity_n the_o 4_o ground_n of_o spiritual_a love_n between_o they_o be_v necessity_n of_o the_o one_o for_o the_o other_o even_o for_o their_o be_v as_o well_o as_o for_o their_o walk_n in_o both_o these_o respect_n we_o may_v understand_v that_o of_o the_o apostle_n 11.11_o 1_o cor._n 11.11_o neither_o be_v the_o man_n without_o the_o woman_n neither_o be_v the_o woman_n without_o the_o man_n in_o the_o lord_n the_o man_n be_v not_o without_o the_o woman_n nor_o can_v be_v because_o man_n now_o be_v conceive_v and_o bear_v of_o a_o woman_n the_o woman_n be_v not_o without_o the_o man_n 14.1_o job_n 14.1_o because_o she_o be_v now_o beget_v of_o man_n so_o that_o they_o be_v mutual_a cause_n the_o one_o of_o the_o other_o the_o woman_n have_v her_o generation_n from_o the_o man_n the_o man_n have_v his_o conception_n and_o birth_n from_o the_o woman_n they_o can_v be_v much_o less_o be_v well_o the_o one_o without_o the_o other_o the_o husband_n shall_v look_v at_o his_o wife_n as_o causa_fw-la sine_fw-la qua_fw-la non_fw-la a_o help_n he_o can_v well_o be_v without_o for_o god_n say_v it_o be_v not_o good_a that_o man_n shall_v be_v alone_o and_o the_o woman_n shall_v look_v at_o her_o husband_n under_o the_o same_o notion_n it_o be_v not_o good_a for_o the_o woman_n to_o be_v alone_o therefore_o the_o husband_n shall_v not_o insult_v over_o his_o wife_n because_o oâ—_n his_o superiority_n over_o she_o nor_o the_o wife_n be_v discourage_v because_o of_o her_o inferiority_n or_o subjection_n to_o he_o because_o they_o have_v need_v the_o one_o of_o the_o other_o as_o fellow_n to_o bear_v and_o draw_v in_o one_o yoke_n together_o now_o 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