Selected quad for the lemma: duty_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	family_n	husband_n	wife_n	3,861	5	7.2804	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A62978	Mixt marriages vindicated: or A discourse of mixt marriages by way of dialogue between A. and B. Who are of the same profession in matters of religion: but of different apprehensions in the point of marriage. First, shewing, that for persons to be joyned together in marriage, who differ about institutions in matters of religion, is contrary to no law; and therefore lawful. Secondly, that in case such marriages were the breach of a law, yet there is no rule left for the church to excommunicate persons for so marrying. By Stephen Tory.	Tory, Stephen.	1680 (1680)	Wing T1943A; ESTC R34668	40,517	65

not hinder you in the performance of your Duty therein And I pray consider if you have any matter of Imploy but for one Year would you be willing to unite your self with or to such an one as should at all times be your hindrance and be putting you upon discouragements And if you would not entertain such a Companion which you could change in one year because they were an hinderance to you in a small concern why should you not be much more careful in the choice of a Yoke-fellow with whom you must remain for the tearm of one of your Lives and who will certainly be an hinderance to you in your Soul-concerns if they be persons of evil Lives and corrupt Manners My Friends Tho' I have endeavoured to make it appear that to marry a person with whom you differ about matters of instituted Religion is not sinful without other circumstances attending it Nor is it a matter the Church hath power to deal with you for yet Gods Eye is upon you and he seeth your Actions and knoweth your thoughts and what regard you had to Religion when you made your Choice of a Yoke-fellow And be sure God will visit you according to your desert in one kind or another and at such times as pleaseth him And further consider it was not for nothing that God warned Israel in that Case and foretold them the danger of marrying with persons inclined to evil Courses Man's heart is prone to evil and therefore he had need to take heed he be not ensnared by his own actions and that he condemn not himself in those things which he alloweth Let me therefore advise you to beware of such as these and come not nigh the door of their houses Prov. 5. vers 8. First Be sure to avoid the lewd and prophane marry not with such It cannot be done without violence to your own Reason great offence to your Brethren and scandal to Religion And if so then great dishonour to God also For such will be the effects of your Marriage that you can neither live with comfort nor credit Comfort you can have none because God is dishonoured every day in your Family and you cannot avoid it but the more you endeavour a Reformation the more sin is committed and the name of God blasphemed And as to your credit and reputation it 's much impared by being yoked with such a dishonourable person and more especially is a man dishonoured by a vain and lewd Wife And although it be the concern of a Woman to be careful and beware of this evil yet it 's more the concern of men to avoid this evil For a man is much more disshonoured when he hath a wicked Wife than a Woman by a wicked Husband though both more than I am able to express and Gods name dishonoured far beyond all expression Take heed therefore of the Lewd and Prophane Secondly Beware of the Contentious and Froward as being very unfit for Society and more especially so near an Alliance as is between a man and his wise Prov. 9.13 A foolish Woman is clamorous she is simple and knoweth nothing Chap. 21.9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the house to than with a brawling Woman in a wide house Chap. 25.24 Chap. 27.15 16. Chap. 3.32 The froward is an abomination to the Lord. The froward mouth is hated of the Lord Chap. 8.13 And for a further demonstration of this evil Society see Ecclus 25.13 Thirdly Beware of the Proud and Ambitious Many are the evils which attend those that are so yoked and they may well fear a Curse to attend upon it Prov. 13.10 Therefore beware more especially you my Brethren who have the liberty of Choice and may with care and diligence escape these snares Take heed of proud and ambitious Women it will be no small grief to meet with such an one who shall disdain your Birth Parentage and Relations your Education Trade and Imployment the provision you make for her and maintenance you allow her When she shall always be striving to live high in pomp and vain glory striving to excel her Neighbours and Acquaintance in her way of Living and in her Garb but never in Vertue and Humility This I say will be your grief and unspeakable trouble if you fear the Lord. Labour therefore to avoid such Fourthly Beware of the Extravagant and Wasteful For this is an evil will prove a great Snare unto you and breach of your Peace and is attended with Want He that loveth pleasure shall be a poor man and he that loveth wine and oyl shall not be rich Prov. 21.17 And you Brethren consider if you meet with such Wives as shall waste and consume the Fruits of your careful Labours it it will be no small grief to your Spirits and the greater because you know not how to reform it in a Wife A Servant you may correct or put away but with a Wife you must bear Therefore take heed of such and avoid them Fifthly Beware of the Careless and Sloathful This is also a great evil and will break your Peace and create strife and contention a thing a man cannot bear in a Wife whom he expects should improve her part in a diligent improving her self in her place for the good of her Husband and Family and if she be careless of her Duty herein how will he be able to bear it in her And likewise the Wife that hath an idle careless Husband What is her grief How many her cares And what discontent will arise from this is not easily told and more uneasie to be born He becometh poor that dealeth with a slack hand Prov. 10.4 Drowsiness will cloath a man with Raggs Prov. 23.1 An idle Soul shall suffer hunger Prov. 19.25 Beware therefore of such and avoid them And now my Friends you that have your Choice to make make it your business to yoke your selves with such as are sober and pious quiet and peaceable humble and lowly minded frugal careful and industrious for all these good qualifications are needful in one with whom you joyn in so close a Relation in the want of any of these you will want so much of your Comfort But above all mind Meekness and Humility Those are Graces will greatly tend to your Comfort and if you prosper in the world will teach you so to improve your self and your enjoyments as will make them truly comfortable to you And if Poverty be your portion yet will these Graces greatly enable you to bear your wants and afflictions It will be joy to your hearts when you can with joynt consent go to the Throne of Grace and return thanks to God for mercies received or to beg of God Blessings that are wanting And this may be done where there is difference in Opinion about Instituted Religion you all believing there is One God who is the Fountain of all our Mercies and hath Rewards and Punishments at his disposing And unto him it is