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A40047 Essays suppos'd to be written by Monsieur Fouquet being reflections upon such maxims of Solomon as are most proper to guide us to the felicity of both the present and the future life / translated out of French. Fouquet, Nicolas, 1615-1680.; Gage, E. 1694 (1694) Wing F1650; ESTC R36469 80,413 228

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to Heaven or not but will grow from the tediousness and length of years and the delays that put off the happy day in which you are to see your Beloved You will not beg of the Angels to let you know whether you shall bear them company one day in the Heavenly Jerusalem and whether there be a place appointed for you there but to let you know when you shall come thither on what day at which hour O blessed Spirits when will this be Ye possess already him whom I seek and whom you love O Angels I love as well as you and cannot live without my God yet all this while I see him not Adjuro vos filiae Jerusalem I conjure you O Daughters of Jernsalem to take pity on my Love and tell me when I shall enter into the Glorious Palace of my Spouse into the very place of that admirable Tabernacle into the very Arms and Bosom of him who is the Object of my Sighs and Tears You will look upon Heaven as an Inheritance that belongs to you and will say with David Laetatus sum in his quae dicta sunt mihi I have heard a Divine Voice whisper to my Heart which has left these few words imprinted in it That we shall go into the House of God and that after a moment or two of Labour and Affliction we shall get out of this Valley of Tears and Region of Death to be transported to the Habitation of Life and Immortality where our Bliss and Enjoyment wil be no less eternal than He is whom we love Here you see what has been said and thoug●● by such persons as have been in your condition and by what means they have raised themselves above the power of Hell and above all the Fears and Disquiets that torment the Weak and Pusilanimous In a word if you be assured that you have a Good Will shut not that Peace out of your Heart which has been promised you from Heaven by these words Pax hominibus bonae voluntatis MAXIM XVII Mulierem fortem quis inveniet procul de ultimis finibus terrae pretium ejus Prov. xxxi PARAPHRASE It is not meant here that there is not a strong Woman in the World but that there is not the Man who is wise and happy enough to find her out so hard it is to distinguish her from other Women that disguise themselves and deceive the Eyes of such as are the clearest sighted If there be those notwithstanding that will attempt the search of her see here her Figure which I present them with as a help to know her They will judge by it in my opinion that if they were to go as far as the Indies to learn News of this Lady she would deserve the Pains and to have the Voyage undertaken for her alone rather than for that number of things fetched from thence infinitely less rare and precious REFLECTIONS It is not to be doubted but that amongst the Felicities of this Life one of the most desirable to Man is to have Plenty Order and Peace setled in his Family The Duty of effecting this Settlement belongs particularly to the Wife the Honour and the Obligation of the Husband dispose of him wholly to the service of the Common-wealth to whose Benefit he dedicates his Time and Pains and by his excellent Qualities comes to merit one of the principal Places in the government of it These two Employments have been assigned by Providence to the Master and Mistress of that Family of which Solomon speaks in the last of his Proverbs both the one and the other carry themselves after such a manner as make the Angels admire at the Grace which enlightens and enables them and Men are at a loss to reckon which of the Pair deserves the best Preference It is certainly an admirable Sight to behold this august Peer awing Nobilis in pertis vir ejus quando Sederit eam Senatoribus terrae the People into their Duty or to see him preside in an Assembly of Senators at a time when the Frame of the State is shaken and in disorder and yet such as consider the Carriage of the Wife at home in her Palace see those things which make a no less glorious appearance in their Eyes they are not to be distinguish'd one from another The Character which they receive from the general Voice says That their Examples regulate all the Actions of their fellow-Citizens and that they equally share by their Merit in all the Praises and Admiration of their Country See here the first Lines of their Figures which the Wise-man has drawn to present to future times and to confute the Complaints and Tears of such as lay to Heaven the ill Success of their Marriage This Woman who is all Obedience to her Husband reigns in her House at the same time he governs in the Senate she exercises there a Sovereign Rule but does it without noise or violence Her power in this place is mighty because it comes from Heaven she does not seek as other Ladies use to raise up her Authority by the magnificency of her Attire and yet she wears the richest Purple Byssius purpura Indumentum ejus and follows all the Rules of Decency and Custom in dressing her self though she has no need of any Help to make her be respected and honoured by her Domesticks God has bestowed such a Garment on her as we should all have worn had our first Father but proved wise Fortitudo decus indumentum ejus Solomon means that there issues an Ayr of Greatness and Majesty from the Eyes of this Princess which spreads it self over her like a Garment and gives a certain lustre to her Face her Words and Motions such as cannot be expressed further than that it ravishes all Hearts and that it makes them happy who serve her when her Commands give them the honour of obeying her and the occasion to shew by their promptness and transport of Joy the depth of their Respects This is it which keeps the whole House in order and puts every person at each hour of the day in the Place and Employment where he should be the respectful Fears that fix them to their Duty is not as in other Families a Fear of being catch'd in their Faults and punished all the Fear of this place is the Fear of being faulty She is not the Mistress only of her Domesticks but the Mother too amongst the chief Rules of her Government the first is to look that they be not failing in any part of their Duties the second to see that nothing be wanting to them which Reason and Justice can claim for their support and comfort Her constant Care is to avoid giving them any just cause of complaint yielding them still new occasisions of loving her and of believing they are loved her Goodness reaches to make them see that she both approves of their Service and considers their Persons This frank and obliging Goodness extends
he You call to your Shadow to be wise and at the same time you play the Fool and forget that this Shadow is not to be ruled by your Words but your Example Do as I have said get Peace into your Family seek to lodge it there from the beginning by taking a due Authority upon you which is not to be done by entring into it with Heats and Fury so to show that your Temper will exempt no Body from its Severity this would be to declare that you would have your Shadow that is the People under your Obedience be as mad as your self and to make the turbulency of your Spirit shake the whole Frame of your House and turn every thing in it the wrong side upwards where a Mad-man governs there will not be any thing seen but Folly and Madness in that Family To take a true possession of your Authority says St. Gregory you must make it appear by your Words and by the Temper of your Mind which you set before the Eyes of your Domesticks that you love your own Duty and that you would have those that live under you like their Duty also after your Example and apply themselves to it not by chiding and noises but as their pleasures and content To succeed in this the whole Point lies according to the Opinion of that holy Doctor in making your self to be both feared and loved by your Family Make your self says he to be feared without bringing forth one word of heat and inconsiderate rashness make your self to be loved without using any unfitting Compliances and Familiarities and least of all such Fondnesses as will sooner gain you Contempt than win you Hearts In the presence of your Servants and Children there should not be too great a freedom of Words rather a Reserve but let the Ayre of your Face shew all the Sweetness and Humanity imaginable accompanied with a certain Gracefulness able to beget in those you govern a high opinion of your Virtue and a respectful and true love for your Person joyned to an earnest desire to please you Follow herein the Rules of Wisdom and not the Example of some Masters who indeed use not any words but yet by their angry Silence and curst suspicious Looks do accuse the first they meet with and distaste every one that comes near them causing this way more noise and disorder in a Family than others do by letting loose the Reins to the violence of their Choler The most beneficial matter that I can propose here to you is to place often before your Thoughts the Picture of that happy Family which the Prophet David has drawn ranked about a Table at the time of their Repast with a Decency that the Angels seem to invite one another to behold and admire This Family is composed posed of a Master who has no other design in his governing but to please God of a Mistress that has no other aim in this low World but to be pleasing to her Husband and to see her Children grow up in Grace and Wisdom of Children that have in a manner but one Heart Nature and Education having begot this conformity amongst them which does happily encrease with their Age. In this Piece is seen besides Peace Piety Prosperity and Abundance crowning this Family in this Life and God beholding it with expectation to receive it into another Life infinitely more happy which he has prepared for it Donum Pax est electis ejus Ecce sic benedicitur homo qui timet Dominum FINIS A TABLE OF THE TEXTS of SOLOMON On which the foregoing Reflections are grounded A Preliminary Maxi. FAciendi plures libros nullus est Finis finem loquendi pariter omnes audiamus Eccl. xii 12. Pag. 1 Maxim I. Optavi datus est mihi sensus Invocavi venit in me spiritus sapientiae Venerunt autem mihi Omnia bona cum illa Sap. 7. p. 9 Maxim II. Stultus illudet peccatum inter Justos morabitur gratia Prov. 14. p. 19 Maxim III. Donec Aspiret dies inclinentur Umbrae Vadam ad Montem Myrrhae ad Collem thuris Cant. iv p. 29 Maxim IV. Vadam ad Collem thuris Cant. iv p. 38 Maxim V. Generositatem illius Glorificat Contubernium habens Dei Sap. viii p. 43 Maxim VI. Fons vitae Eruditio Possidentis Prov. xvi p. 58 Maxim VII Dedit illi Sapientiam Sanctorum honest avit illum in laboribus Sap. x. p. 66 Maxim VIII Mundum tradidit disputationi eorum ut non inveniat homo opus quod operatus est Deus ab initio usque ad finem p. 76 Maxim IX Curam habe De bono Nomine hoc enim permanebit magis tibi quam Mille thesauri pretiosi magni Eccles xli p. 84 Maxim X. Coacervavi mihi argentum aurum substantias Regum ac Provinciarum omnia quae desideraverunt oculi mei non Negavi iis Vidi in Omnibus vanitatem Afflictionem animi Eccl. ii p. 93 Maxim XI Mendicitatem Divitias ne dederis mihi Prov. xxx p. 100 Maxim XII Magnificavi opera mea Aedificavi mihi domos Supergressus sum Opibus Omnes qui ante me fuerunt Eccl. ii p. 109 Maxim XIII Vidi Servos in equis Principes ambulantes Super terram quasi servos Eccles x. p. 116 Maxim XIV Unusquisque in arte sua sapiens est Eccl. xxxviii p. 122 Maxim XV. Multi Amici sint tibi Consiliarius sit tibi unus de Mille. Eccl. vi p. 129 Maxim XVI Facta sum Coram eo quasi pacem reperiens Cant. viii p. 137 Maxim XVII Mulierem fortem quis inveniet procul de ultimis finibus terrae pretium ejus Prov. xxxi p. 148 Maxim XVIII Salus animae melior est omni auro argento Corpus Validum quam Census immensus Eccles xxx p. 159 Maxim XIX Utere quasi homo frugi his quae tibi apponuntur Eccl. xxxi p. 165 Maxim XX. Si dormieris non timebis quiesces suavis erit somnus tuus Prov. iii. p. 169 Maxim XXI Non habet amaritudinem Conversatio illius nec taedium Convictus illius Sap. viii p. 181 Maxim XXII Proposui hunc adducere mecum ad convivendum Sciens quoniam mecum Communicabit de bonis Sap. viii p. 193 Maxim XXIII Erit allocutio Cogitationis meae taedii mei Sap. viii p. 199 Maxim XXIV Veni dilecte mi Egrediamur in agrum Commorremur in Villis Cant. vii p. 207 Maxim XXV Donum Pax est electis ejus Sap. iii. p. 213