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A84659	Theion enōtikon, A discourse of holy love, by which the soul is united unto God Containing the various acts of love, the proper motives, and the exercise of it in order to duty and perfection. Written in Spanish by the learned Christopher de Fonseca, done into English with some variation and much addition, by Sr George Strode, Knight.; Tratado del amor de Dios. English	Fonseca, Cristóbal de, 1550?-1621.; Strode, George, Sir, 1583-1663.	1652 (1652)	Wing F1405B; Thomason E1382_1; ESTC R772	166,624	277

full of them in which blessing the woman hath not the least share for she is the quiver which keeps and yeelds the blessing of such arrowes as are children Yea S. Paul saith 1 Tim. 2.15 the woman shall be saved in child-bearing if she continue in faith charity holinesse and sobriety Yet because simply and absolutely all children are not blessings therefore to make them such Ps 128. the Psalmist saith they shall be as Olives now the oyle of Olives is not only good to smooth the countenance but to expell poison or poisonous cares from the heart and such shall the children be of the virtuous wife and the good husband and though these Olives must not hold the like place with the wife to be on the side of the house yet they shall be round about the table there ready to wait and serve both father and mother at their call or need in all faithfulnesse and obedience as they are taught by the Apostles S. Peter and S. Paul 1 Pet. 1.14 Tit. 1.6 And yet I cannot promise that this blessing of having children shall overtake all good husbands and wives no nor that all such as have children shall be blessed in them For the Psalmist restrains this blessing of good obedient and faithfull children only to such Parents as fear the Lord Loe thus saith the holy Ghost shall the man be blessed that feareth the Lord Ps 128.4 and I cannot but observe that King Davids were good till he became bad but when once he deflowred Bathsheba the wife and murdered Vriah the husband then his children committed uncleanness and rebelled against him The fear of the Lord in the parents begets and preserves the fear of the Lord in the children and this the parents ought to observe and do not only for their childrens good but that their children may be good and a blessing to their parents CHAP. XXXIX Of the mutuall love and duty between Parents and Children ONe especiall end of mariage is the propagation of children and therefore from mariage and the duties thereof we shall proceed to that between parents and children and herein considering whence children come to see the love and duty of parents to their children and the return of honour obedience and other duties of children to their parents The Hebrews say that God keeps the keyes of the womb and of the grave which agrees with that that he kills and he gives life or more neerly as to our purpose children are the gift and heritage of the Lord but by the agency and instrumency of the parents so that they are as slips or ciences taken from them and this makes the relation between them so neer that some have observed that when God said A man shall leave father and mother for his wife yet he saith not he shall forsake children for his wife for though the man and wife are as the Apostle phraseth it joyned or glewed together as made into one flesh yet except Eve no wife is out of or a part of the mans flesh But I speak not this to lessen the relative love between husband and wife so much as to heighten that which is between parents and children And this is so great even in all sensitive Creatures beasts and birds that not only the Lion Dog and Bear but the Doe the Ewe and Hen will oppose the strongest creature and interpose between them and their young hazarding their own lives to preserve that of their young ones And it hath not been less seen among men for so we read that Octavius Albanius keeping a castle beseiged when one cryed out your son without is in danger to be slain he suddenly sallied out for his rescue though with the loss of his own life an other hearing that his son was sentenced to death for a murder he appeared before Charles the great swearing it was he that slew the man and thereupon was put to death thereby to save his sons life and Agrippina mother of Nero being told that it would cost her life to have her son Emperour answered So he may be Emperour let me die and how much short is the affection of Jacob to his children Joseph and Benjamin or that of David to Absalom Gen. 42.38 when Jacob said If mischief shall befall Benjamin it will bring down my gray haires with sorrow to the grave and he hearing that his son Joseph was dead he rent his clothes put sackcloth on his loins and mourned for him many days and would not be comforted saying I will go down into the grave unto my son Gen. 37.35 and how much short of this was Davids expressions for the death of a rebellious son who though he sought his fathers crown and life yet the father thus passionately laments him 2 Sam. 1 33. O my son Absalom my son my son Absalom would God I had dyed for thee O Absalom my son my son It hath been a question whether the love of the father or the mother be the greater to the child and if we answer by the consideration of examples we shall leave the question unresolved For as we found Jacob and David most tenderly loving so the like we shall see in Rachel Ge. 30.1 who sels her husband to Leah for mandrakes whereby she hoped to get children which she so much longed for that she cries out give me children else I dye and having lost them she weeps for them Jer. 31.15 Mat. 1.8 and would not be comforted because they were not But if we consider the mothers pain in breeding danger in bringing forth and her care and trouble in their first training up we may conceive that her love exceeds especially if we add hereunto that which the Prophet saith if a mother he saith not if a father but if a mother can forget the child of her womb which may seem to intimate that a father may sooner forget the son which he got then the mother which bore him in her womb which womb nature as the Anatomists observe hath filled with most tender affectionate baggs membranes veines and sinewes thereby to make her more loving to the child Gen. 29.32 and if to this we add what Leah speaks who having born a son unto Jacob her husband she saith now my husband will love me Then we may conclude that the mother for her own sake loves the child more tenderly or fondly but the father for the childs sake loves him more wisely and strongly or we may say that the man and the woman love their child as Alexander was said to love his two intimate friends Ephestion and Parmenio who loved the former as a fine delicate man and such women delight in but Parmenio he loved as a brave man for action and such a wise father is pleased with And from hence we may assoile an other question why both father and mother oft-times loves one child better then an other as Rebecca did Jacob the younger more

then Esau the elder I and Jacob affected his two youngest Joseph and Benjamin more then his first born Reuben and Simeon and King David placed the crown on the head of Salomon contrary to the Jews law and custome though he had six sons elder then Salomon and a great part of this act in King David we may ascribe to the affection policy and power of Batsheba the mother as that other the like act of Isaac in preferring Jacob to Esau may be attributed to Rebecca Now from this root of love in the parents shoot out the branches of their care in nursing breeding and providing for their children all which are so naturall and necessary that who neglects the performance of these duties deserves not the name of father and mother nor yet so much as to be called Syre or Damme for beasts and birds generally performe these cares for their young untill they are able to provide for themselves for did we ever know or read that an Ewe a Doe or a Sow put out her young to nurse or would suffer any other to give their young suck but themselves so long as themselves were able to do it and must we conceive that nature hath less power or works less in a woman which hath reason then in a beast or will ye have me think that reason and grace which add unto and strengthen the gifts of nature do both weaken nature in the woman and if not which indeed cannot be thought by any indued with grace or reason why then think we that nature hath given the mother breasts and fountains of milk if not to suckle her young or why think ye that a strange womans milk should be so naturally and properly good for the child as the mothers which brought it into the world and why rather consider you not that as children with the milk draw that humour which makes for the good or ill of their bodies so many by sucking cruell drunken unchast women have become such in quality and condition as their nurses were It may be instanced in Tiberius Commodus Emperors of Rome and divers others but not to be long on this subject remember that Sarah is said to have given her son suck from which act I shall draw no other inference but that of S. Peter 1 Pet 3.6 whose Daughters ye are as long as ye do well doing as she did who gave suck to her child But the mothers duty ends not in this but that she with the husband and each and both must labour with the soonest to administer the spirituall milk of the knowledge and fear of God thereby to nourish the childs soul to everlasting life and this duty lies more straightly and strongly upon the parent in as much as the soul the Temple of God is more excellent of greater esteem then the body which is but an house of clay The father and mother of Samson inquire of the Angell of the Lord saying Judge 13 12. How shall we order the child and bow shall we do unto him and that the child Samuel may be ordered aright his mother brings him very young to the house of the Lord and she lent saith the text or returned him to the Lord 〈◊〉 1 2●.8 to be his as long as he lived and what follows so good an entrance and beginning I Sam. 2.11 as in the very next chapter that the child according to his matriculation did ever after minister unto the Lord. And what the further duties of parents are in this kind S. Paul intim●●es in one place when he saith I Thes 2.11 I exhort and not only so but I charge you as a father doth his children that ye walk worthy of God who hath called you to his Kingdome and in another text he expresseth it more plainly as a precept to parents fathers bring up your children in the nu●ture and fear of the Lord. and if you will have a more especiall and particular account of the severall lessons to be taught this child you may read them set down by the wise man in his Proverbs ●●ov 4. where that whole chapter contains the full instruction of a child in the ways of godliness and the fruit thereof the parents shall find in the same book where it is said Prov. 23. ●4 The father of the righteous shall have great joy and be shall rejoyce that hath a wise son And that Parents may receive this joy Prov. 22. ● the wise man counsels them Train up or catechise the child in his youth in the way he should go Prov. 23.13 14. and with hold not correction from the child for if thou beatest him with the rod he shall not die but thou shalt deliver his soul from hell Prov. 29. ●5 Whereas a child left to himself brings his mother to shame I have read of a son who on the Gallows called to speak with his father where he bit off his eare telling him that if he had done the part of a Father in training him up with due correction he had never come to that end And was not Eli to blame suffering his sons to behave themselves wickedly when all the correction he gave them was Why do ye so my sons And what was it leste if not more in Lot to drink immoderat●ly with his daughters whereby he came to uncover both their nakednesse and Jacob himself deserved to be reprehended for suffering his daughter Dinah to ramble among the strange young men whereby she caught that clap which caused so much bloud-shed the Apostle therefore saith what son is he whom the father chastneth not Heb. 12.7 8 9. yea and if the son be without chastisement then is he a bastard and no son but if chastned he gives his father reverence and the mother saith S. Paul 1 Tim. 5.10 that hath brought up her children in the faith is well reported of whereas the Prophet tells us that it became a proverb Ezek. 16.44 as is the daughter so is the mother which appeared true in David whose children after himself had committed folly and murder were found loose rebellious and murderers And yet to this admonition lest Parents grow too severe and rigid I must give this caution that Parents be not like Rehoboam to threaten or use scorpions that is whips having sharp thongs like points of thorns or stings of Serpents but ever that they remember the counsell of the Apostle Eph. 6.4 Fathers provoke not your children unto wrath lest that as himself speaks they may be discouraged Col. 3.21 correction with discretion and moderation is the chastisement required in a father to his child for that as S. Gal. 4 ● Paul speaks the heir as long as he is a childe differeth not from a servant And yet the duty of the Parent ends not here but extends it self to a further point that he provide for his child the Apostle is expresse herein when he saith

calling which is agreeable to the first foundation and building up of the world Where at first no sooner was the stage of the world reared but that our first father Adam was set to acting that is to speak plainly Adam was set to dress the garden and not only the children of Adam who were heires of the world spent their time in tilling and sowing the earth or in keeping and feeding sheep but the Patriarchs Abraham Isaac and Jacob though Lords of great possessions and masters of many servants and powerfull to fight with and conquer Kings yet these witness the holy writ lived not as our Gentlemen do but as the Apostle counsells and commands us they lived and exercised themselves in honest callings for they knew that as of idleness comes no goodness so he that lives idly to eate drink and play must be sure as the Apostle speaks that the judgement of God is according to truth Row 2.2.5 against them which commit such things and therefore that they do hereby treasure up unto themselves wrath against the day of wrath and the just judgement of God who will render to every man according to his deeds The Greeks as I am taught have a word which signifies to play the Stork whereby they understand that the love of parents to their children should beget in children a reddition and retribution of their duty to their Parents for it is storied of the Stork that as the old one hath been loving and tender to feed defend and cherish their young so the young will feed defend and carry the old when it is unable to help it self Now Christ himself Mat. 6.26 though in another case bids us behold the fowles of the aire and accordingly the Spirit of God by his pen-men grounds instructions to children in their duty to parents as S. Paul doth when he saith Children obey your Parents in the Lord Ephes 6.1 2. for this is right and again Honour thy father and mother which is the first commandement with promise and he adds a reason to his counsell on the childs behalf That it may be well with thee and that thou mayest live long and happy on the earth The Parents of Tobiah called their son implying what children should be to their parents the light of their eyes to guide and direct them Tob. 5.17.10.5 and the staff of their hand in going in and out to defend them and we have a story of a godly Christian Daughter to this purpose who in part rob'd her child that with the milk of her breasts she might nourish her father imprisoned and almost sterved by the merciless Tyrant Nor doth the Childs duty here end Eph. 6.1 but goes on to what S. Paul taught that children must obey their parents in the Lord that is in all just and lawfull things what ever they command so it be not repugnant to the word or law of the Lord which the same Apostle in an other Epistle commands saying Col. 3.20 Children obey your parents in all things that is as before in the Lord for this is well pleasing to the Lord for obeying them in all things in the Lord in so doing the children obey the Lord which commands this obedience And what the sin or punishment of disobedience is Prov. 30 17. the wise man in part hath told us when he saith The eye that mocketh at his father and despiseth to obey his mother the ravens those birds which of all others are least regarded as I told you by the old ones shall pick out and the Eagles shall devour them but the Apostle saying Obey and honour thy father and mother that thy days may be long and happy on earth implies no less then that he who doth not obey and honour them shall have but few or evill days while they live here besides the evill which shall follow after Our blessed Saviour hath pronounced the same plainly and fully saying God commanded Mat. 15.4 Honour thy father and mother and he that doth contrary let him die the death Prov 30.11 And yet such ungodly children have been found of whom the wiseman speaks there is a generation that curseth their father and such saith the Prophet are those who dishonour their parents Mie 7.6 and such was the accursed Cham Ge. 9.22 who proclaimed the nakedness of his father yea monsters of men have there been whom I am ashamed to name Nero who in an inhuman manner ripped up that womb of his mother where himself lay but I will tell you of the sons of S●nacherth 2 King 15.37 who fearing that their father would kill them in hope to prosper thereby as Abraham did in sacrificing his son slew their father Against which sin of paricide or killing parents the wise law-giver Solon provided no law because he thought no man could be so desperately wicked as to kill and destroy him that under God gave him life yet the Romans in detestation of this so unnaturall a sin decreed a death unheard of untill their times which was that such a parent-slayer should be closed up in a leathern sachell together with a viper art ape and a cock and so to be cast into the river to be gnawed upon to be drowned and to be sterved to death When God promised Abraham to be his exceeding great reward he replyed to Godand said Lord God wherein wilt thou reward me or what wilt thou give me seeing I am childless wherein he implyed all temporall goods and blessings were as nothing to him without an heire and then the word of the Lord came unto him saying thou shalt have an heire come forth of thine own bowells Hezekiah likewise when the Prophet told him he should dye wept that he should dye childless And barrenness or want of children is in holy writ often called a reproach yea and pronounced by God as a punishment but on the contrary a great blessing to have children Insomuch that David repining as it were at the prosperity of the wicked he reckons this as one of their greatest Psal 17 24. That they are full of children and that they leave their substance to their babes and in another psalme Ps 115.14 God will bless them that fear him and will increase them more and more them and their children and again Loe children are an heritage of the Lord Ps 127.3.5 and the fruit of the womb is his reward for they are as arrowes in the band of a mighty man and therefore happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them for they shall be able to speak with their enemies in the gate that is in the gate where the Judges sate where their children shall stand up to plead for their father and in the field they shall be as arrowes to defend him against his enemies It is storied that when Croesus was ready to be slain that his son who till that time was dumbe and never could

shall deliver me from this body of sin or sin say some in the body About the year 1533 arose in Germany one John Becold better known by the name of John of Leyden a tayler but a pestilent Anabaptist who bewitched the people by bis false visions dreams and prophesies to follow him He taught and caused the Ministers publikely and commonly to preach it that a man is not bound to one wife but that he may have as many as be desired and he swore by the holy Bible that this doctrin was revealed to him from heaven He and his disciples being asked how they could defend so foul and gross a tenet answered 1 That Christians must give up what they loved best which women held to be their bodies 2 That for Christs sake they are to undergoe any infamy 3 That Publicans and harlots shall enter into the kingdome of heaven 4. Which was the opinion and argument of the C●poc●atian hereticks that as all Christians should be as one spirit so they ought to be as one body each to other And this lying with others besides their wives to colour the sin they called spirituall mariages as though there could be any thing spirituall in this so foul corporall beastliness The ground of these most wicked doctrines in many of these recited hereticks was and is that most wicked tenet now defended by the Antinomians 1 Tim. 1.9 and Adamiticall Ranters so called of our times viz. Be or beleeve in Christ and sin if you can for being and beleeving in Christ justifieth and to or against the Just there is no law I might tell you that such doctrines and such doings cannot be the fruits of faith or justification and therefore they neither rightly beleeving nor being truly justified are condemned by the sentence of Gods word Exo. 20.14 which saith thou shalt not commit adultery and no unclean person shall inherite the Kingdome of heaven Eph. 5.5 But recitare as S. Hierom speaks est consutare to rehearse these damnable doctrines is to condemn them in the judgement of all good Christians I leave them therefore and shall touch upon the duties of man and wife each to other and in this I shall follow the Apostles S. Paul and S. Peters method who both begin with the duties of wives as though these should provoke the husband to his or as though the wife could not so justly expect the husbands duty which is love unless she first performe hers which is subjection And I find the Apostles insisting urging and inculcating this lesson wives obey 1 Cor. 14 34. Eph. 5 24. Col. 3.18 1 Pet. 3.5 wives reverence wives sear wives submit and wives be subject to your husbands Yea it was Gods sentence from the beginning and given to all women even to the greatest and to the best Thy desire shall be subject to thy husband Gen. 3.16 and he shall rule over thee And where God commands there should be no dispute but simple obedience And yet God considering womans backwardness to this duty is content to subject his command to reason and therefore by his Apostle S. Paul he gives one reason for this subjection of the wife when he saith Adam was not deceived but the woman 1 Tim. 2.14 and therefore fit it is she should be subject to the guidance of her head the wiser a second reason may be collected from S. Paul 1 Cor. 11.9 v. 10. that the man was not made for the woman but the woman was made for the man and for this cause the woman ought to be covered which was a sign of subjection A third reason is given by the same Apostle Ephes 5. Ephes 5 21 22. where having given the precept Wives submit your selves to your own husbands as unto the Lord for saith he the husband it the head of the wise even as Christ is the head of the Church S. Paul commands wives not only to submit and be subject but he saith the wise must reverence the word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 there implyes a reverence proceeding from fear v. 33 yet no servile base fear but a loving or a fear to give him offence because she loves him as she is commanded Tit. 2.4 And this kind of reverence fear or subjection arising from and coupled with the mutuall love of the husband to the wife and the wife to the husband makes it such a subjection as S. Paul speakes of though in another case 2 Cor. 3.17 saith where that the Spirit of the Lord is I say where love in the Lord is there is Liberty And such as Christ speaks when he saith Mat. 11.30 my yoke I may say the wives yoke thus fastned is easie and the burden she beares by such her subjection is light for love makes all easie and light And yet that wives may not grumble or dispute against their subjection as too unjust servile or hard let them know that their subjection to their husbands is but as to the Lord Eph. 5.22 which 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 as to the Lord means not that the wife must be a subject to her husband as to the Lord God but it teacheth that she is to be subject to her husband according to the Lords command Gen. 3.16 or according to and so far as the husband shall command agreeable to and not repugnant to the word and will of the Lord. For if the husband usurpe a power or command contrary to the Lords word Act. 5.29 the wives answer and obedience is that of S. Peter We ought to obey God rather then men And a subjection to the husband if such as God commands or such as is suitable to the will of the Lord should be willingly entertained and imbraced by every good woman who desires to be a wife and yet to make this subjection more readily to be imbraced let the wives know that the words which the Apostles use when they call for this submission or subjection in wives signifies to be under their husbands will and power according to just and comely order and not simply to the husbands unlawfull or unlimited will which orderly subjection of the wife according to order is that Politicall or Oeconomicall disposure by which the wife according to Gods ordinance and appointment is to be inferior or under her husband so that he as the head is to rule and she as the body is to obey her husband And that wives erre not or come not short in the performance of this duty the Apostle hath been very carefull to set down the qualifications and necessary concomitants of this subjection when he bids the woman submit Eph. 5.22 which teacheth her it should be spontaneous and voluntary and not a forced subjection 2. That it must not be a carnall worldly but an holy submission for as to or as in the Lord. 3. It must not be a partiall lame subjection in some things which the wife likes and