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A56605	A book for beginners, or, A help to young communicants that they may be fitted for the Holy communion, and receive it with profit. By S. Patrick, D.P.	Patrick, Simon, 1626-1707.	1680 (1680)	Wing P751; ESTC R218754	33,198	242

continual danger of falling into the fire or water or other mischief Make this your own case for your frequent falling into Sin notwithstanding your resolutions and ingagements is far more dreadfull and dangerous and no means ought to be refused for a cure of so great an evil CHAP. XI The Duties of Children THIS Book being intended for Beginners and such as may be supposed to have least knowledge of their Duty I shall conclude it with a few Advices to Children to poor Servants and to all sorts of Young people The Duty of Children is comprehended in two words to honour and to obey their Parents Therefore remember I. First It is your Duty to Honour your Parents which is the first of all the Commandments of the Second Table And consists 1. In an Esteem of them as your Superiours and greatest Benefactours because under God they were the Authours of your Being and took care of your Education when you could not look after your selves 2. In a reverent Behaviour towards them even when they do not perform their Duty but provoke you to wrath by their peevish crosness 3. In requiting their Love by supplying their necessities if they fall into a low condition and you be able to support them Reade I Tim. V. 4. XV. Matt. 5 6. 4. In bearing with their Infirmities either of body or mind especially in their old age or declining years II. Secondly Obey your Parents VI. Ephes 1. so as to be subject to them II. Luk. 51. That is 1. Be subject to their good Instructions and Admonitions to which you ought to listen diligently 2. To their Commands when they bid you doe any thing that is not contrary to the Divine Commandments 3. To their Corrections also for your faults to which you ought reverently to submit XII Hebr. 9. 4. And to their Directions also about the choice of your Calling if you have not a natural aversation to it 5. But especially in the buisiness of Marriage in which Parents have always had a right to dispose of their Children Not indeed to force them to marry one whom they cannot love but to oblige them to endeavour to love those whom they recommend to their choice And when you cannot bring your self to a compliance with their desires in that point you must with due reverence and respect dissent from them and humbly beseech them to press you no farther If they will not harken to your repeated requests you are not bound or rather you are bound not to follow their directions in such a case But on the other side do not marry any body else without their consent unless they be so unreasonable that they will let you marry none at all and you find a necessity of it to prevent your being led away contrary to your Vow in Baptism by fleshly Lusts In that case repair to the Magistrate or your Minister who are common Parents and let them deal with them and if they cannot prevail I have no more to say about your Obedience in this particular use your liberty prudently and with good advice of Friends and due respect to your Parents But as the Common-Prayer-Book exhorts you in the Office of Matrimony do not enterprise nor take in hand such a weighty thing as Marriage unadvisedly lightly or wantonly meerly to satisfy carnal lusts and appetites like brute Beasts that have no understanding but reverently discreetly advisedly and in the fear of God duly considering for what ends it was ordained and then you cannot doe amiss Be carefull in the performance of these Duties and God before whom such things are good and acceptable will give you his Blessing Reade III. Ecclesiasticus beginning unto v. 17. CHAP. XII The Duties of Servants THough Servants be not now mere Slaves and Bondmen as they were in the Apostles days yet they are in a state of subjection and are tied to such Obedience as we find enjoyned in the Apostolical Writings even for this reason because they are now in a far better condition Harken therefore to your Duty as it is plainly set forth in the Holy Scripture And remember I. First of all that you are bound to study to please your Masters and Mistresses by doing as they bid you in their buisiness wherein they imploy you II. Titus 9. A branch of which is as you will find in that place not to contradict them and stand disputing with them Much less ought you to I be saucy and irreverent in your Answers or in your Behaviour towards them 1 Tim. VI. 1. II. Remember also to be Faithfull in your trust and never to deceive them in the smallest matter but be sure to shew all good fidelity as the Apostle there teaches you II. Tit. 10. III. Part of which Fidelity is to be diligent in your buisiness and to dispatch it as soon as you can and to be solicitous also to doe your work well which S. Peter and S. Paul seem to mean when they bid you serve them with all fear 1 Pet. II. 18. and with fear and trembling VI. Ephes 5. IV. And both this Diligence and Solicitude and Trustiness must be performed not onely when they have their eye upon you but when their back is turned and they are absent from you VI. Ephes 6. III. Coloss 22. If you gad abroad or slacken your labour and care when they are not at home or do not see you you do not serve them as Christians that study to please God but as vile Slaves and Men-pleasers that mind nothing but to avoid their anger V. Be content also with your Allowance and submit to such Restraints as they lay upon you which seems to be included in the Apostolical Precept before mentioned II. Tit. 10. For more then this you ought to take their hard Words nay and Corrections patiently I cannot say but you may seek a remedy from your Governours and theirs if they abuse you but a Blow that does no hurt much more an angry Chiding should not seem any great matter to you But you had better bear it saying nothing or meekly praying them to spare you then increase their wrath by answering again angrily Howsoever all ill words are utterly unlawfull Reade 1 Pet. II. 18. VI. The Apostles also would have you to serve them with good will VI. Ephes 7. and whatsoever you doe to doe it heartily III. Coloss 23. One note of which is when you go about your buisiness chearfully and do not grumble at your work much less grumble at this that you are Servants and not as good as those whom you serve It is very uncomfortable to your Masters as well as your selves when you go about your work with a discontented spirit and a sour heart lowring and pouting as we speak which proceeds from hence that you forget you are serving the Lord when you are diligent in their buisiness and look upon your selves onely as Servants of Men. This the Apostles correct when they bid you be obedient to your Masters

Sermon on the Mount recorded in the V. VI. and VII Chapters of Saint Matthew Reade these at least once a week VIII Then follow the Acts of the Apostles which abundantly declare their authority by whose Ministry we have received the Gospel and bid us attend to their Instructions which are left us in their Epistles as the words of men divinely inspired And in these content your selves with those parts of them which are most easy and plain and of general use and concernment and meddle not presently with those which are hard and obscure and which relate to some particular cases which now are not so well known as to make their sense apparent to every one For it is a very ill sign when you stand puzzling your selves about some dark passages in the Apostolical Writings when there are plain ones in abundance to exercise your thoughts I will direct you to some that will be fittest for your Meditation In the Epistle to the Romans reade often the XII and XIII Chapters with the XIII of the first to the Corinthians the IV. V. VI. to the Ephesians III. and IV. to the Colossians IV. and V. of the first to the Thessalonians and to omit others the I. II. X. XI XII XIII of the Epistle to the Hebrews the whole Epistles of Saint James and of Saint Peter And when you reade them let it be with a design to grow better rather then more knowing And then think you grow better when you are made more humble more sensible of God's love and your own undeservings more thankfull more meek and patient more submissive to God's Providence and to your Governours whether civil or spiritual private or publick IX When you are thus disposed by these and such like Christian Vertues you may venture to reade the harder parts of Scripture and not be in danger to wrest them as those doe who are settled upon no principles to your own destruction For then you will not be forward to frame a sense of those places out of your own head but confess your ignorance and look upon them as containing things not necessary to be known for all necessary things are plainly set down and perhaps some of those very things about which you trouble your selves are else-where delivered in clearer words As you may be satisfied if you take the next opportunity to consult with those whose lips are to preserve knowledge Which is the best way to be resolved in such cases X. As for other good Books besides the Scripture you may find some time to reade them And the less you have on other days spend the Lord's days and other Holy days the more seriously in this work When I would advise you to reade V. VI. and VII of Saint Matthew with some part of the Whole Duty of Man And when you have made some proficiency in knowledg reade Dr. Hammond's PRACTICAL CATECHISM where you will find that Sermon of Christ's upon the Mount expounded XI But whatsoever godly Book you reade whether the Holy Scriptures or any other be sure you indeavour to come away bettered by the reading of them For if you get no good by them that very thing will incline you at last to slight and neglect them as many do we see the hearing of good Sermons because they do not perceive that they or others are at all the better for them but after much hearing there is little doeing of God's will But this the Scripture it self foretold and hath exactly described such people as are ever learning but never able to come to the knowledge of the truth 2 Tim. III. 5 6 7. and intended hereby to breed in every one of us a due caution least we be of that unprofitable number Which you must prevent by being more serious attentive and diligent in reading holy Books for that end for which they were writ and hearing Sermons not for fashion sake but that you may be taught or remembred of your Duty and excited or directed to doe it with greater care and constancy XII And if you meet with the very same thing over and over again either in reading or hearing do not therefore nauseate it or grow weary of it or pass it by hastily and carelesly But rather look upon it as a very usefull Truth of which you have great need because it comes so often in your way and thankfully acknowledging that God is very kind to you in putting you so frequently in mind of that which is so necessary to your Salvation give the greater heed to it and ponder it with such seriousness as a thing of that moment deserves CHAP. XVI A necessary qualification to receive benefit by all this IF every one had so much Humility and such a hearty desire to be truly good wrought in their Souls betime they would reade and hear God's word to better purpose I. Therefore Parents should above all things instill this into their Children very early how necessary it is and how much it becomes them to be humble and that by no means they grow conceited of their own parts or understanding but be desirous to learn of every one with simplicity and meekness without any other design but to know their Duty II. This we may be sure would dispose them to receive benefit by the Holy Scriptures and by all other good instructions For it is the very qualification which Christ requires to make a person fit to be one of his Disciples that He first become like a little Child XVIII Matth. 3. There is no good to be done upon him in Christ's School unless he first learn to be humble subject to his Teachers simple hearted and without guile contented with a little heartily in love with those that take care of him And when he is thus freed from pride ambition desire of Riches or any thing else but onely of Knowledge as little Children naturally are till the seeds of those vices be stirred up in them by others he will be a fit soil to receive Christ's heavenly Doctrine III. And doubtless he had reason to say it who told this Nation long ago that it is for want of acquainting Childhood and Youth with such plain Rules as this which the Scripture it self delivers for our right understanding it that the Scripture either seems obscure and difficult to them or that they mistake it where it seems evident IV. For when they grow to mens estate or are engaged in worldly buisiness or come to honour before they be acquainted with the Holy Scripture and especially these plain directions which it gives us for our profiting by it one of these three things is the consequence of it The seeming difficulty of the Scripture either makes them to seek for other Rules which they apprehend more easy or 2. not to care for any Rule of Faith at all or else 3. to transform this which God hath given for the renewing his image in them into the nature of their corrupt affections V. Let this