not content at Bethel to worship God sincerely himself but he chargeth his Family to put away the strange Gods which were among them and to serve the true God according to the prescribed rule of his Word David though he were a King and so had the care of an whole Kingdom upon him yet thought his State-affairs no priviledge to exempt him from the Religious ordering and governing of his Family And therefore he professeth That he would walk within his house with a perfect heart that is sincerely discharge the duties belonging to the Governour of an house Yea under the Law we find that the Fathers amongst the Israelites were commanded to teach their Children the meaning of the Passover and of the Feast of unleavened bread And that we may not think this a legal precept abolished in the time of the Gospel the Apostle giveth a general charge to all Christian Parents to bring up their Children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Yea by the practice of the primitive Christians who lived in the dayes of the Apostles it doth appear that so soon as any Governour of a Family was converted and professed the Christian faith he still ingaged his Family to serve God It is said of Cornelius that he was a devout man and one that feared God with all his house And it is recorded of Lydia that she was baptized and her Houshold And it is said of the Iaylor that he believed in God with all his house Yea the houses of the faithfull in the primitive times were stiled Churches which implyeth that their private families were so piously ordered and religiously instructed that they seemed to be little Churches rather than ordinary houses having taken up Ioshuah's resolution As for me and my house we will serve the Lord. The point being thus proved by Scripture and Examples come we now to the Reasons for the farther confirmation thereof CHAP. II. The Reasons of the point R. 1. MAy be taken from the command of God who hath commanded as much saying Thou shalt teach my Laws diligently unto thy Children and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house c. And God hath manifested his approbation thereof by commending Abraham for commanding his Children and houshold to keep the wayes of the Lord. So that to whomsoever the Lord hath given this honour to make him a Father of Children a Master over Servants a Governour over an Houshold of them he requireth this duty to teach and instruct all under their charge R. 2. Every mans house is his private charge which he must oversee it is his flock which he must attend You will all acknowledge that every Ministers flock is his charge and that it is a most dreadfull thing for any to neglect them And have not you as great a charge of your family as the Minister hath of his flock Yea doubtless I dare boldly say that every Parent and Master of a Family is as deeply charged with the souls of their Children and Servants as the Minister is with the souls of his flock If therefore your Children and Servants live and dye in their sins through your negligence their blood will be required at your hands Yea let Parents and Masters of Families know and consider that those Children and Servants who by the neglect of their duty to them shall perish in their sins will curse them for ever hereafter amongst the fiends and damned in hell crying out woe and alas that ever we were born of such irreligious Parents and served such wicked and ungodly Masters that had no care of the Salvation of our souls but suffered us to run headlong into these everlasting flames Oh that all Parents and Masters of Families would seriously consider these things and in time labour to prevent them by a conscionable discharge of the duties belonging to their places and relations R. 3. Justice and equity requireth this at your hands to do your utmost endeavour to train up your Children and Servants in the fear of God and to instruct them in the wayes of Godliness that as they help you in many things so you should be a means to help them in this that as God of his goodness hath made them your Children and Servants so you in way of gratitude should strive to make them his Children and Servants And truly though you feed them well and cloath them well and provide well for them yea and teach them how to live another day to live as men yet if you teach them not withall the fear of God whereby they may live as Christians which will make them live for ever wherein do you differ from Heathenish Parents and Pagan Masters for even they will not be wanting in the former things which the Apostle implyeth where he saith He that provideth not for his Family is worse than an Infidel And if you go no further than to make outward provision for the bodies of your Children and Servants you are no better than Infidels and Heathens And therefore how doth it concern you who are Parents and Masters of Families to have a special care of the souls of your Children and Servants by a conscionable performance of holy and religious duties amongst them as Praying Reading Catechising and the like whereby you will not only go beyond all the Heathens in the World but likewise gain an hopefull evidence to your own souls of the truth of grace in you and of the sincerity of your profession that ye are Christians indeed R. 4. The curse of God hangs over those Families in which Religious duties are alltogether neglected yea it abideth in their houses as the Wise man expresseth The curse of the Lord is in the house of the wicked Howsoever they may seem to abound and flourish in all Worldly wealth and riches yet the curse of God is upon all that they enjoy For as the Lord speaketh by his Prophet Malachy He will curse their blessings that is whatsoever outward good things they did enjoy should be cursed to them Whereupon saith Eliphas in Iob I saw him taking root but I cursed his habitation that is I saw him seemingly setled in his outward prosperity but by the eye of faith I likewise saw a curse hanging over his house and family over his wealth and riches R. 5. Another Reason may be taken from the manifold benefits and commodities wich usually follow upon a conscionable performance of these duties 1. Religious duties consciensciously performed will bring down Gods blessing upon your selves and your relations upon your estate and all your undertakings As God blessed Obed-Edom and all his houshold for the Arks-sake So questionless will the Lord bless those Families wherein holy duties are faithfully performed For Godliness is profitable unto all things having the promise of this life that now is as well as of that which is to come Whereupon saith
death and condemnation These men howsoever they would be esteemed good Masters and good Governours yet are they far from such in that they neglect the main duty belonging to good Governours which is to take care of the souls of those under their charge and willingly suffer all manner of wickedness and prophaness to rule and bear sway in their Families and that without any check or controul I dare boldly say it were much better for a man to put his Child into a Pâ—sthouse than into such a Family in that wickedness is more infectious than the Plague spreading infinitely polluting every one it comes near And whereas the Plague and Pestilence can but kill the body the contagion of sin is apt to destroy both body and soul. And therefore what is usually written upon the doors of such houses as are visited with the Plague Lord have mercy upon us may far better be written upon the doors of such houses where through the neglect of Family-duties sin and wickedness doth abound I know there are very many both Parents and Masters who having provided for the bodies of those under their charge think they have sufficiently discharged their duty towards them But I would demand of such if their care be only to provide for the bodies of their Children and Servants what do they more to them then to their beasts If they only cloath them and pay them their wages what do they more to them than the Turks and Infidels who know not God do to their Children and Servants If their care be only to provide for them an earthly inheritance without any care to make them Heirs of an Heavenly inheritance what do they more to them than Iews who are ignorant of Christ and his Gospel do for their Children Let such know that it is their duty to provide not only for for perishing Carcasses but also for the immortal souls of all theirs And it is a vain and foolish imagination for any to think they have done their duty when they have apparelled nourished and brought up their Children and Servants considering they have a far greater account to make before God for their souls of which if any should perish through their negligence and unfaithfullness how dreadfull will their account be oh what answer will they be able to make when the blood of their Children and Servants souls shall be required of them CHAP. IV. An Exhortation unto all Parents and Masters of Families to make Conscience of family-Family-duties Use 2. LEt the second Use be an Use of Exhortation to stir up all Christian Parents and Masters of Families to be carefull that their whole house do faithfully serve the Lord as well as themselves that they take up Ioshuah's resolution as for me and my house we will serve the Lord. As you would not be guilty of the blood of your Children and Servants souls and as you would not have them cry out against you in everlasting fire see that you bring them up in the fear and admonition of the Lord. Every Governour should be that in the body politick of his own house which the heart is in the natural body of man as it communicateth life and vital spirits to the rest of the members So must the Master of the houshold endeavour to impart the spiritual life of grace to all that are members of his body politick And his house by a constant conscionable performance of holy and religious duties there should be a little Church For the maintaining the Worship of God makes every house to become a sanctuary an house of God Hence divers pious Governours in the new Testament are said to have Churches in their houses as Philemoâ— Aquila and Priscilla and Nimphas whose houses were called Churches as in respect of the Saints in their houses so in respect of the worship of God among them Oh what an honour will this be to us when upon this account our habitations shall be called rather Churches than private houses Temples of God rather than the dwellings of men For the more profitable pressing of this Use I shall shew you what be the duties and services which are especially required of Parents and Masters of Families in reference to those under their charge CHAP. V. Of Family Prayer with quickning Motives thereunto I. PRayer which is one principal part of the service of God in all Families and therefore ought to be performed by the Governour thereof who as he is a King to govern his Family so a Priest to offer up a Morning and an Evening Sacrifice of Prayer and praise unto God in and with his Family This we find commended to us in the practice of the Patriarchs who when they removed to any place they builded an Altar where God was to be called upon by the whole Family Thus did Abraham Isaac and Iacob David though a King yet prayed with his Houshold as their Governour for it is recorded of him that having offered burnt-offerings and peace-offerings before the Lord he returned to bless his houshold that is say Expositors to bless God with his Family and to beg Gods blessing on them In the New Testament the Apostle writing to Masters of Families concerning their duties adjoyneth this continue in Prayer implying it to be one special duty incumbent on them to be constant in Family-prayer Of Cornelius it is said that he was one who feared God with all his house which gave much Almes to the people and prayed to God alway which implyeth that he prayed daily with his Family These examples are recorded by the Holy-Ghost as Copies for us to write after But for your more full conviction of that obligation that lyes upon you for the performance of this duty let the following arguments be duly weighed Arg. 1. The first Argument shall be drawn from that trust that is committed unto governours of Families Here observe 1. That Governours of Families are intrusted with the souls with the Religion of their Families not that they may prescribe unto them or impose upon them what way of Religion they please or that inferiours may be excused by the errours or neglects of the Superiours but it is committed to their care and they have received a charge from the Lord to look diligently to all that are under them that they duly worship God observe his ordinances and keep â—â—s statutes That there is such a care incumbent on them is evident under the Law the Master of the Family was by the appointment of God to look to the circumcising of all the Males of his house both those that were born in his house and those that were bought with his money In the fourth commandment the Master of the Family is charged not only to keep the Sabbath in his own person but to look to his family also Thou shalt do no work therein that 's not all nor thy Son nor thy Daughter nor thy Man-servant nor thy
of him that he would by his Spirit help thine infirmities teaching thee to pour out thy soul unto him in Prayer For it is he alone that can teach thee and endue thee with this Heavenly gift 2. Be constant in thy secret devotions which will be a special means to embolden thee to pray with thy Family For when thou findest that thou canst express thy self in any competent measure in secret thou wilt then the better adventure to Pray in private with thy Family And know this for thy comfort that if thou sincerely endeavourest to do what thou canst God will enable thee to do what thou shouldst 3. Rather than the apprehension of thine own insufficiency to pray should occasion a constant omission of the duty I would advise thee to use the help of a form of Prayer for a while till by Gods blessing thou hast attained some ability therein and boldness thereunto 2. Obj. Some against this duty object their multitude of business and little spare time for Family-prayer A. 1. The more and greater thy businesses are the more and greater need thou hast of Family-prayer for the obtaining Gods blessings thereon without which all thy pains and endeavours may signifie little yea prove succesless Assure thy self that the time spent in Prayer both in thy closet and with thy Family will prove no let but rather a great furtherance to thy business 2. Dost thou put off praying with thy Family for the multitude of business Know that therein thou art penny-wise and pound-foolish hazarding the loss of thy precious and immortal soul for the gaining of a little Worldly pelf which will be soon taken from thee or thou from it Oh that such Woâ—â—dâ—ngs would seriously consider that expression of our Saviour What shall it profit a man if hâ— shall gain the whoâ—e World and lose his own soul 3. Dost thou put off Family-prayer for the multitude of Worldly buâ—inesseâ— thereby to encrease thy wealth Know that that wealth is cursed which is thus gotten that substance which is the price of a Prayer may for ought thou knowest be the price of blood Well beware thou neglect not this great duty upon any pretence whatsoever Neither let it be performed after a cold formal and perfunctory manner but be very serious and fervent therein stirring up thy self to an active lively performance thereof which the Apostle intimateth where he saith Be fervent in Spirit serving the Lord and that for two reasons 1. Such Prayers only are acceptable and pleasing unto God these are the Sacrifices wherewith he is well-pleased 2. Such only have the promise of being heard And thereupon saith the Apostle St. Iames The effectual fervent Prayer of a rightâ—ous man availeth much The word in the Greek translated effectual properly signifieth a prayer excited or stirred up and so implyeth both the efficacy and influency of the Holy-Ghost and the vehemency of an earnest spirit and affection which is the only prevailing Prayer CHAP. VII Of Reading the Holy Scriptures in Families with quickning Motives thereunto II. ANother duty incumbent upon Parents and Masters of Families is frequently to read the Holy Scriptures or to cause them to be read in and with their Families Though this be a distinct exercise from the former of Prayer yet do they mutually help one another and therefore are fit to be joyned together We read how the Priest under the Law was daily to light the Lamps and to burn incense as the Lamp signified the Word of God so the incense signified Prayer And as the Lamp was daily to be lighted and the incense daily to be burned so are we thereby taught daily to joyn the Word and Prayer together for as the Apostle speaketh By the Word and Prayer every thing is sanctified Yea this duty of reading the Word we find given in command unto housholders under the Law for saith the Lord Ye shall lay up my words meaning the words of the Law in your heart and in your soul. And ye shall teach them your Children speaking of them when thou sitest in thine house when thou lyest down and when thou risest up which implyeth a diligent reading of the Word in their houses Yea the old people of the Iews were so diligent in teaching their Children the Word of God that Iosephus saith Every one of our people being asked concerning the Laws rehearseth them more easily than his own name In the New Testament we have the Apostles command for this duty for saith he Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly The Word is sometimes taken for Christ himself and so it is true that we should labour that the word Christ should dwell in us But by the Word of Christ is here meant the written Word of God which is here called the Word of Christ both because he is the author of it and because he is the chief subject of it And whereas the Apostle saith Let the Word of Christ dwell in you it is a Metaphor taken from such as dwell under one and the same roof with us and noteth two things 1. That we must get it into our hearts and houses as well as into our Churches 2. That by our frequent reading of it and causing it to be read in our houses it should be as familiar with us as one that dwells with us under the same roof For the better pressing of this duty upon the Consciences of Parents and Masters of Families I shall hint only two Motives to quicken you up thereunto 1. The knowledge of the Scriptures will be an excellent means to keep up your authority in your Families over your Children and Servants For therein they cannot but hear and understand it is their duty to be obedient to you in all things Your own commands and threatnings may perhaps cause them to serve you with eye-service as menpleasersâ— but to hear the commands and threatnings of God in his Word may cause them to serve you in singleness of heart So that if nothing else yet policy methinks should prevail with you to cause the Word of God to be read frequently in your houses 2. Some by reading the Scriptures others by hearing it read in the Family have been converted from the state of nature to the state of grace For faith may be wrought in us by hearing the Word read as well as hearing it Preached St. Austine reports of an Aegyptian Monk who living in a Christian-family where the Word of God was frequently read was thereby converted to the Christian faith And indeed there is a greater vertue in the holy Scriptures than in any other book for the working of conversion in the hearts of natural Men and Women Oh what an encouragement should this be unto Parents and Masters of Families to cause the holy Scriptures to be frequently read in their houses for what know they whether some under their charge may not thereby be converted And that
your reading may be the more profitable observe these few directions 1. Before you read lift up your heart unto God in some short Prayer beseeching him who is the Father of light to enlighten the blind eyes of your understandings that you may understand what you read so to strengthen your memories that you may remember it and that he would give you Wisdom to apply faith to believe and grace to practise what you read Which Prayer is necessary before reading because as the Apostle speaketh Naturally we understand not the things of the Spirit of God neither can we know them because they are spiritually discerned And it is only the Spirit of God that revealeth them unto us which we have no hope to attain but by fervent Prayer 2. The Word must be read and heard with all holy reverence and attention as being the Word of the great God whereby he revealeth himself and his will cleerly unto us for the building us up in all grace and Godliness 3. In reading every one ought to take special notice of such passages as are either more weighty in themselves or proper to them for their particular cases use and occasion 4. In reading or hearing any portion of Scripture let every one apply it to himself as spoken to him By this means may every one be much edified by every part of the Word of God CHAP. VIII Of Family-Catechising with quickning Motives thereunto III. ANother duty incumbent upon Parents and Masters of Families in reference to those under their charge is to instruct them in the principles of Religion in a Catechistical way For to Catechise is to teach the first principles of Christian Religion whereby they who are young may be acquainted with God betimes This we find given in command unto Housholders under the Law for saith the Lord Thâ—se words which I command thee this day shall be in thine heart and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy Children and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house and when thou walkest by the way and when thou lyest down and when thou risest up Where by Children are not meant only natural Children but likewise servants it being usual with the Hebrews by Children to understand all under subjection We have a Prophesie that there shall be as it were a succession of Christs name from generation to generation His name shall endâ—re sor ever his name shall be continued as long as the Sun or as the phrase imports His name shall pass from Father to Son Every Father then must by Christian instruction declare the name of Christ to his Son that so the name of Christ may pass from Father to Son from generation to generation which prophesie concerns the time of the Gospel wherein Parents are commanded to bring up their Children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord or to nurture them up in instruction as the word in the Greek properly signifieth This duty is commended to us by the example of Godly Housholders in all ages I know saith God of Abraham that he will command his Children and his Houshold after him to keep the way of the Lord. We likewise find David often instructing his Son Solomon 1 Chron. 28.9 And that this was the practice of the Saints in the time of the Gospel appeareth from the expressions of the Apostle Ye have need that one teach you again which be the first principles of the Oracles of God And leaving the principles of the doctrine of Christ which imply a form of Catechism which was used by the Christians in those dayes And oh that all Christian Parents and governours of Families in our dayes would make conscience of instructing and teaching their Children and Servants in the principles of Religion out of some good Catechism Observing these two Caveats 1. That this duty be done frequently on some day or dayes every week 2. That it be done by little at once for to be too long or tedious therein is apt to dull the understanding and to cause wearisomeness in the learner For the better pressing this duty I shall add a few motives or arguments I. The first Argument or Motive may be taken from the benefits which will follow thereupon 1. Timely instruction will season their hearts that they are like to be better for it all the dayes of their lives and therefore saith the Wise man Traiâ— up or as the Word signifieth Catechise a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it But as a Vessel will retain long the savour of that liquor it was seasoned first withall So will men the instructions they have learned in their youth 2. It is an excellent means to keep them from the errours and heresies of the times For Children well Catechised and instructed in the principles of Religion are in great measure antidoted against the danger of seducing doctrines The Apostle saith There must be heresies which are of a spreading nature and therefore by our Saviour compared to Leaven What better preservative against the infection of false doctrines errours and heresies than to be well Catechised Observe who they be that are easiest seduced by false teachers who they are that have embraced their erroneous tenets and you shall find that they were such who were never well Catechised nor grounded in the principles of Religion As therefore you would not have your Children and Servants poysoned with the erroneous Doctrines of false teachers do your endeavours to get them well rooted and grounded in the knowledge of the truth 3. It is an excellent means to make them hear the publick Ministry of the Word with more profit For thereby they will be enabled to Examine the Doctrine which they hear by the analogie of faith It is foretold that in the latter dayes there shall be false teachers who shall privily bring in damnable heresies And therefore we are not to receive all for truth which is delivered in the Pulpit but as the Apostle exhorteth us to prove and try all things and to hold fast only that which is good which we shall never be able to do unless we be first well Catechised and instructed in the principles of Religion as also well acquainted with the Scriptures If therefore you who are Parents and Masters of Families would discharge your duty herein how would Errours vanish Religion flourish and how would knowledge and grace abound in your Children and Servants II. Another argument may be taken from the manifold damages which usually follow a neglect of Family Catechising 1. It is the ground of that ignorance and spiritual blindness which overfloweth this Nation For as darkness proceedeth from the want of light so ignorance must needs proceed from the want of teaching 2. It is the ground of that looseness and prophaneness that is in many Families For where Gods service hath no place there sin will
be sure to have free place Where the light of knowledge is not set up by Catechising there the deeds of darkness will be sure to break forth Where there is no spâ—aking to God by Prayer nor speaking of God by Catechising you may be sure there will be speaking against God and all the wayes of holiness 4. It is the ground of that barrenness and unfruitfulness under the Means of grace that is to be found amongst many in these dayes For were Children and Servants better Catechised they would better understand the mysteries of the Gospel and much more profit by the Ministry of the Word than they do It is found by experience that the most intelligent and best practised hearers are such as have been well Catechised and instructed The seed which thou thus timely sowest will spring up to a plentifull harvest 4. Such Parents and Masters as neglect this duty do what in them lyeth to damn their Children and Servants as well as themselves For how can it be expected but that those Children and Servants who through want of the light of knowledge walk in darkness should unavoidably stumble into hell Oh that so many Parents and Masters should be so cruel and unnatural to their Children and Servants as to neglect this duty the blood of souls is upon you Obj. Against this so necessary a duty some are apt to object and say To what purpose should we Catechise our Children considering that through the tenderness of their years they are not capable of the Mysteries of Salvation A. 1. Though Children are not so capable of apprehending cleerly the mysteries of salvation as they will be afterwards yet none can deny them to understand so much as to be capable of the seeds of grace which daily experience confirmeth 2. It is found by sad experience that Children uncatechised as they grow in years so they grow in sin and wickedness whereby they become more backward and untoward to the learning of any thing that is good yea and opposite thereunto If you do not the Devil will Catechise them betimes and of him they will quickly learn O prevent as much as may be that enemies sowing his tares be before hand with him take the first season to cast in your good seed The first season is the fittest season Obj. Should we constantly observe these Religious exercises in our Families which you thus press upon us we should hinder our servants work and thereby hazard our estates and so shew our selves worse than Infidels A. 1. This is a meer delusion of Satan to keep you from the discharge of your duty For know assuredly that the time spent in religious exercises with your Family is so far from hindering your servants work that it will rather further it and bring such a blessing upon it that shall return upon your selves For profit and increase is the gift of God who will give it to such as fear him and observe his commandments Oh then say not of Family-duties as Iudas did of that oyntment which Mary poured on our Saviours feet why is this waste Think not that time waste and lost which is spent in the service of God and in the performance of the duties of your places and relations 2. A wilfull neglect of Family-duties is like to bring the curse of God upon your estates yea upon your selves and all that belong unto you Read what Moses saith in Deut. 28.15 16 17 18 19 20. 3. Who can produce the man that did really suffer in his estate by the loss of that time which he spent with and for God Surely as the whetting of the Sythe is no hinderance but rather a furtherance of the Workman So the exercises of Religion can be no hinderance to your Family-affairs but rather a great furtherance unless you think this an hinderance to stay to take Gods blessing along with you without which what are all your own and servants pains but vain and fruitless 4. Suppose you should suffer somewhat in your estate by the loss of that time which you spend upon Religion you will have no cause to repent thereof For whilest others with Martha are carefull and troubled about Worldly things thou with Mary hast chosen the better part Thou hast lost a little of thy Temporals to gain Spirituals and Eternals for thy self and thine How wise are those men who prefer Temporals before their Eternals and will advance their estates upon the ruines of their souls CHAP. IX Of Sabbath sanctification in Families IV. ANother duty incumbent upon Parents Masters and governours of Families is To look to the sanctification of the Lords-Day to see that the Christian Sabbath be sanctified as by themselves so by their whole Family even by all under their charge This is expressly enjoyned in the fourth Commandment which is directed not so much to Children and Servants as to Parents and Masters of Families who are there commanded not only in their own persons to keep holy the Sabbath day but to see that their Children and Servants do it also For thus the Commandment runs The seventh day is the Sabbath of the Lord thy God In it thou shalt not do any work Thou nor thy Son nor thy Daughter thy Man-servant nor thy Maid-servant Which Phrase as Zanchy well noteth implyeth that it is the duty of Parents and Masters of Families to see that their Children and Servants do not any way prophane the Sabbath-day but that they keep it as an holy rest The sanctification of the Sabbath consists 1. In a resting upon the day 2. In a consecrating that rest to the Worship and service of God Therefore it is the duty of all Parents and Masters of Families to take care that both themselves and all under their charge do keep it 1. As a day of rest 2. As an holy rest I. As a day of rest resting in special from all the works of their ordinary calling The very name Sabbath which in Hebrew signifieth rest and the express prohibition in the fourth Commandment of doing any work on that day do shew that it is a day of rest How blame-worthy then are some Masters who contrary to the express command of God do set their Servants about the ordinary work of their calling on the Lords day Let such know that what is got by their Servants work on that day is but the gain of wickedness which will prove their loss at last II. It is the duty of Masters to take care that their Families keep the Lords day as an holy rest by consecratng that time which they set apart from their Worldly business to the worship and service of God in the duties belonging to such an holy-day For the Sabbath was not simply ordained that we and our servants should rest from our bodily labour but that we should in a special manner worship God on that day So much is implyed both in the first and last words of the fourth Commandement In the
accurately indeed for so the word in the Greek seemeth to import in its proper notion viz. A going from the bottom to the top of the rule 3. Our exact walking consisteth in a carefull avoiding all occasions of evil and temptations thereunto Having by sad experience found such and such things to have been snares and occasions of sin unto us it is our duty and will be our wisdom carefully to shun and efchew the same Especially considering that by running into temptations we tempt the Lord and provoke him to give us over to our weakness and to the power of our corruptions that so by our falls we may for the time to come be more wise and wary Every man by nature is like dry wood which is apt to kindle so soon as fire is put to it There needs not any Devils to tempt us Dry stubble will take fire without any bellows to blow it Let the least occasion that is be offered unto us how easily doth it take every spark will catch upon our tinder hearts The first sin that proved so fatal to mankind came by temptation The Devil prevailed with Eve to go and see the forbidden fruit telling her that though she might not eat it yet she might lawfully look on it and that became the occasion of her fall For from sight and view she proceeded to touch and taste to the taking in of that which proved the bane both of her and hers By the like means how sadly doth the Devil prevail upon souls daily what windows doth he make our eyes and ears to let in temptation first and then iniquity what snares doth he make of our voluptuous tables our vain and loose companions our gorgeous apparel our vain and wanton fashions even forming our hearts into the image of those vanities and leading us out to all iniquity As our Saviour therefore taught us to pray that we enter not into temptation So it will be our wisdom to see to it that our practice be according to our prayers What a mockery is it this hour to pray against temptations and the next hour to be running into them Pray against temptations and watch against them Watch against all temptations but especially such as are most taking with thee and such as have a tendency to thy bosome and best beloved sins For from them is most danger to be feared they having most strength from our natures The Devil knowing full well which are our bosome and beloved sins and most predominant lusts unto them especially and with greatest success doth he apply his temptations 4. Our exact walking consisteth in abstaining from appearances of evil as well as from apparent and direct evills As there are some things apparently evil so there are other things in shew and appearance only evil He who walks circumspectly and exactly will as carefully shun the one as the other He will not adventure upon any thing that looks like sin or that hath the least affinity with it If the thing be doubtfull whether it may or may not be done he will do that which is most safe and leave the other undone Yea though he know a thing to be lawfull in it self yet if it may prove a stumbling block in the way of another and so be an occasion of sin unto him he will carefully avoid the same Upon this account St. Paul resolved to avoid the eating of flesh though he might lawfully do it yet when it was like to be a stumbling-block to his weak Brother in regard it had an appearance of evil in it he said If meat make my Brother to offend I will eat no flesh while the world standeth Upon this ground likewise the Apostles and Elders in the first general Council at Ierusalem imposed upon the Gentiles abstinence from meat offered to Idols from things strangled and from blood Not for that these meats were in themselves unclean and unlawfull but because they were apprehended to be so unto many of the Iews who were kept off from Christ because those meats in which they supposed to be such uncleanness were ordinarily eaten by the Christians Hereupon it concerns us in all our actions to be satisfied not only of the lawfullness but likewise of the expediency of them For many things in themselves may be lawfull which yet in some respect may not be expedient because they have some shew of evill in them or are lyable to some mis-construction or may be occasions of sin unto our selves or of scandal and offence unto our weak Brother or may strengthen and confirm wicked men in their ungodly courses and the like But herein this cauâ—ion is to be observed that all necessary duties commanded by God ought to be performed by us though our Brother be offended at them and though to the World they have some appearance of evil Christs Doctrines Works and Conversations were an offence to many in his dayes yet he went on therein and pronounced them blessed who were not offended in him We may not therefore shun profession of holiness and the practice of Godliness because unto Worldly men it appeareth but brain-sick peevishness and an irrational precisâ—ness But being commanded by God in his Word ought to be endeavoured after I may not wound mine own Consâ—ience to secure my Brothers 5. Our exact walking consisteth in a moderate use of lawfull things That overmuch liberty which some men have given to themselves in such things as are in their own nature lawfull hath proved great occasion of sin unto them Our Saviour seemeth to blame the men of the old World that when the Flood came upon them they were eating and drinking buying and selling planting and building Things no doubt in themselves lawfull to be done but by over using those lawfull things and setting their hearts upon them they laid aside all care of Heavenly things and increased their pride and covetousness neglecting the threatnings of a Flood and so drowned themselves in perdition The Apostle therefore tells us that they who marry must be as if they marryed not and they who buy as if they bought not and they who use this World as not abusing it There is a lawfull using the comforts of this life and an unlawfull an abusing of them We lawfully use them when we enjoy them with moderation and with subordination to spiritual grace and heavenly glory when we use all we have for God We abuse the comforts of this life when we use them too much even excessively in respect of the measure and inordinately in respect of the manner when letting out our hearts too much upon them the things which should lead us to God withdraw us from him To spend some time in honest recreations for the refreshing of our minds and strengthening our bodies is lawfull But to waste too much of our precious time in sports and pastimes making a vocation of our recreations or to give up our hearts unto our pleasure
to use those delights for themselves and not for God or to use them more for gain than for refreshment they are thereby turned into sin In like manner sometimes to feast with our friends and neighbours is lawfull but to be too frequent therein or intemperate feeding without fear as the Apostle Iude hath it never tasting the sweetness of God in the Creature nor having respect to that communion which should be amongst Saints is to abuse Gods good Creatures So to be diligent in the works of our calling is in it self both lawfull and commendable But when we shall be so diligent in our particular calling that we neglect the duties of our general calling as Christians I mean when we are so taken up with our Worldly businesses and imployments that we can find no time for serving God either secretly in our Chambers or privately with our families is to make our lawfull calling sinfull unto us Much more when we mingle fraud and deceit with our dealings and cannot be content with that gain that comes in by righteousness and honesty in all our wayes this is to turn our lawfull calling into a mysterie of iniquity The best of Gods Children are apt to use the lawfull things of this World unlawfully and to abuse them by their excess therein Did not our Saviour warn his Disciples that they should take heed of abusing as their meat and drink unto surfetting and drunkenness so their callings to worldliness and covetousness Take heed to your selves lest at any time your hearts be overcharged with surfetting and drunkenness and cares of this life Who would not have thought the Disciples of Christ far enough from these sins yet they must take heed to themselves therein If the green Tree may so easily take fire what will not the dry do Oh then how doth it concern us to set bounds to our selves in all lawfull things not to exceed either in our recreations or in our vocations or in our eating drinking and the like but to observe the golden mean the rather because the Devil in nothing more prevaileth with Gods people than in their immoderate and inordinate usage of things lawfull Knowing full well that the Godly will not easily be drawn to the committing of such things as carry wickedness in their foreheads he therefore layeth his snares for them in the use of things lawfull as their meat and drink their apparel and recreation their trading and traffick with the like Wherein his snares being not so visible he oftentimes prevaileth with them The Apostle declaring what a cruel crafty and malicious adversary the Devil is whom he setteth forth to be as a roaring Lyon that walketh about seeking to devour he thereupon adviseth us to be as sober in the use of things lawfull and indifferent so watchfull over our selves lest we be foyled therein For your better help herein take these few directions 1. In the free use of lawfull things be ever jealous of your selves lest you abuse them to intemperancy and excess This hath been the folly of many that presuming too much as on their Christian liberty so upon their own strength have adventured upon such temptations as have occasioned their fearfull falls 2. Labour to make a spiritual improvement of all those lawfull comforts which God hath affordâ—d to you for your delight And so whilest you refresh your bodies you will cherish your souls Thus in your eating and drinking often meditate of Gods bounty in providing so plentifully for you and not only take in meats but likewise give out gracious discourses and instructions For what can it be but egregious folly when you are feeding your bodies to neglect your souls In putting on your cloaths meditate on the robe of Christs righteousness which alone can make you amiable in the sight of God desiring with the Apostle to be found cloathed therewith at the great day 3. Consider that to use your lawfull comforts to the utmost extent is the next door to sin He who will go to the utmost extent of what he may lawfully do is in danger to go beyond it and to do also that which is unlawfull He who will walk upon the brink of a River may fall into the Water And he who will take the utmost liberty he may is very near falling into sin CHAP. XXII Of the danger of Covetousness as being the root of all evil ANother singular duty incumbent upon the Regenerate is To beware of Covetousness and over-loving the World as being the root of all evil I do not say that our hearts being changed and renewed we ought thereupon wholy to abandon the World and give over all Worldly businesses and imployments For grace and a worldly calling may very well stand together yea a man may be a sincere holy Christian and yet a great dealer in the World nay grace ingageth a man to be a good husband to improve the estate God hath bestowed on him But yet we ought not insatiably to desire and inordinately to hunt after riches as if they were the only things or the great things to be sought after this is Covetousness It is not the having of riches but the immoderate desiring and loving of them and overvaluing them which denominates a man Covetous A man may have much of this Worlds goods and yet be no Worldling And another may have little and yet be covetous This sin is especially in the heart Q. May not a Godly man desire riches seeing they are often in Scripture termed blessings which God hath promised as a reward of his Service A. There is a moderate desire of riches which is lawfull and an immoderate or inordinate desire which is unlawfull Then is our desire of riches moderate when we desire no more than is needfull and can be content to want that when God will have it so Q. What may be accounted needfull A. 1. That which is meet for the state and calling wherein God hath set us 2. That which is requisite for the charge committed to us As if a man have Wife and Children and Servants or Kindred lying upon his charge what is needfull and sufficient for them may be desired and sought after 3. That which is needfull for the future livelihood and maintenance of Wife and Children may lawfully be desired and sought after The Apostle layeth it down as a duty that Parents ought to lay up for their Children Besides this moderate desiring and seeking after riches there is an immoderate desiring and inordinate seeking after them As when a man is not content with that portion which God by his Providence doth afford unto him but insatiably thirsts after more And rather than fail of his desire will both neglect his God and his soul and also venture on the use of any unlawfull means as lying swearing false weights and measures with the like for accomplishing the same which is wickedness in any but especially in such as make a profession of Religion
the Wise man The house of the wicked shall be overturned but the Tabernacle of the upright shall flourish And therefore the Psalmist pronounceth them blessed who thus fear the Lord saying Blessed is he that feareth the Lord and walketh in his wayes for thou shalt eat the labour of thine hand happy shalt thou be and it shall be well with thee How then can such expect a blessing from God either upon themselves or upon their relations or upon their pains and endeavours who do not set up God and his Worship in their houses seeing it is that whereby Gods blessing is entailed 2. Those Children and Servants who are religiously educated and principled are likeliest to prove comforts to their Parents and Masters What a comfort must it needs be to thee who art a Master of a Family to see thy houshold through the blessing of God on thy care and pains to be walking Heaven-ward Yea when thou comest to lye upon thy death-bed Oh what a comfort will it then be unto thee that thou hast good ground to believe that thy Children are Gods Children and the Servants of Jesus Christ thou maist then with stronger confidence commend them unto Gods Fatherly care and protection and with greater assurance expect Gods blessing upon them after thy death 3. There is no such means to make your Children loving and dutiful unto you and your servants faithfull in the discharge of their duty as to instruct them in the principles of Religion and to plant the fear of God in their hearts In which respect Solomon saith A godly Son maketh a glad Father viz. by his dutiful and respectfull carriage towards him And that servant who shall find true grace either first wrought or further increased in him by his Masters means will endeavour with the utmost of his power to do him what faithfull service he can in way of thankfulness So that if Parents and Masters of Families respect either that charge God hath laid upon them whereof they are to give an account to him at the great day or that good and benefit which themselves may reap thereby they will see good and just ground to be diligent and constant in the discharge of holy duties with their Family R. V. Another reason may be taken from the manifold mischiefs which usually follow and accompany the neglect of family duties 1. From hence come all Domestick brawls and contentions hence it is that the house is divided against it self Husband against Wife and Wife against Husband Master against Servant and Servant against Master Parent against Child and Child against Parent which would be prevented were the Lord better known and more duly worshipped amongst them For where God is served with perfect purity there is perfect peace But where God is not served there is no peace but jarrs and contentions strife and debate which giveth great advantage unto Satan the arch-enemy of mankind who like a roaring Lyon walketh about continually seeking whom he may devour 2. From hence it is that Magistrates are enforced to execute the penalties of the Laws upon so many namely because they are not Religiously educated but suffered to have their wills in their youth Which appeareth from the sad complaints of many malefactors at the place of Execution against their Parents and Masters for their careless omission of their duty towards them saying if they had had any care or conscience of our education if they had corrected and restrained us betimes from our wicked courses we had never come to this dogs-death and shamefull end 3. From hence it is that so many Families are so dissolute and prophane abounding with all manner of sin and wickedness as lying swearing Sabbath-breaking drinking whoring and the like as if there were a seminary of little Devils an houshold of fiends And truly when Families leave God in not doing the good they should God leaves Families to do the evil they should not So that sin hath there free place where Gods service hath no place And sins of commission do usually follow sins of omission it being ordinary with God to punish one sin with another to punish the neglect of duty with the committing of sin by leaving men so to themselves that they break forth into the committing of great and hainous sins A general complaint there is in these dayes of the undutifulness and disobedience of Children of the negligence and unfaithfulness of Servants yea and of the loose lewd lives of both in many Families whereof if we would search the true ground and cause we shall find it rather in the superiours than in the inferiours For howsoever inferiours cannot be excused yet questionless the fault is chiefly in superiours and Governours because they are careless and negligent in the discharge of their duty towards them not praying with them nor Catechising and instructing them as they should For where religious duties are shut out of any Family there usually the door is set wide open to looseness and profaneness 4. The neglect of Religious dutiâ—s in thy Family will make thee guilty of Murther even of Soul-murther which is the greatest of all For whereas the Souls as well as the bodies of thy Children and Servants are committed to thy care and charge if any of them should perish through thy default thou art deeply guilty of their eternal death and damnation and their blood will be required at thy hands As Iacob was accountable to Laban for the â—oss of every Lamb or Sheep at his hand was it required So is every Master of a Family accountable to God for every soul under his roof If any of them perish through his default God will require it at his hands God will require the blood of thy Child the blood of thy Servants at thy hands one day If therefore you will be free from the blood of your Children train them up in the fear and nurture of the Lord pray for them and with them Catechize them c. The Point being confirmed by Scripture and Reason come we now to the Uses thereof CHAP. III. The Vse of Reproof of those Masters who make no Conscience of Family-duties Use 1. SEeing it is a Duty incumbent upon Parents and Masters of Families to be carefull that not only themselves but also all under their charge even their whole Family do faithfully serve the Lord then they are greatly to be reproved who are neither carefull to serve God themselves neither take they any care of their Family but as there is no fear of God in their hearts so neither is there any fear of God in their Families Yea instead of Gods service there is all manner of wickedness and prophaneness so that their houses are as so many filthy cages of unclean birds so many styes of all manner of abominations Of whose houses we may say what Solomon said of the Harlots house 'T is the way to Hell that is the high and ready way unto eternal