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A61390 A discourse concerning old-age tending to the instruction, caution and comfort of aged persons / by Richard Steele ... Steele, Richard, 1629-1692. 1688 (1688) Wing S5386; ESTC R34600 148,176 338

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up Riches as some of them have ingenuously acknowledged They also know that their weakness and infirmities do expose them to contempt and therefore endeavour to obviate that by their Wealth and so make themselves considerable by their Estates These are the ●…rutches which when weakness overtakes them they lean upon and support their fainting spirits withal And they want not variety of Pretences whereby to justifie their course as that they are only providing for a rainy day for troubles and Casualties that may besall them that they ought to lay up for their Children and Posterity or else they were worse than Infidels yea that they are gathering only to bestow it at their death on some pious or charitable use And Satan is not wanting to nurse this humour in them by suggesting to them expectations of a long life a distrust in the Providence of God and continual fears of want which is nursed by the coldness of their temper and by their consciousness of their inability to get much by their labour And these meeting with that inveterate Self-love which is inherent in them and consequently an uncharitable frame of mind towards others hardens them in their tenacious temper so that as they grow weaker this lust grows stronger until Divine grace doth open their eyes or else the Earth at last stop their mouths This bitter root spoils their Devotions interrupts their prayers renders the word of God tastless becramps them to all God Works this disturbs their Rest the thoughts and cares about these things do visit them last at night and meet them first in the morning and disquiet them the day throughout for where the treasure is there will the heart be also Oh the cares the fears the vexations that possess a covetous heart but only that we can digest any thing that we delight in though it be never so bitter else no man could endure the life of a covetous miser But it is the Old-mans recreation the best of his time and the strength of his spirits are consumed either about the keeping of what he hath or about getting more for as he hath no vent for his abundance so he observes no limits for his desires As the bladder the more it is filled with wind it stretches the more so the more his riches increase the more his heart is set upon them so that he seeth more beauty in his Money than in the Sun in the firmament No thoughts no discourse no design pleaseth them except it end in gain but when there is an opportunity of doing good the heart is cold and the hand is lame Nay some of them will not afford conveniences scarcely necessaries to their families or to themselves but run in debt to their own backs and bellies to their children and servants and foolishly choose to live poor that they may dy rich Now this Vice in it self it is plain Idolatry and the root of all evil leading men into temptation and a snare into many foolish and hurtful lusts which at last drown men in destruction and perdition 1 Tim. 6. 9 10. For the worldly man gets and keeps his Estate with travel to his Body vexation to his Spirit scruple to his Conscience with danger to his Soul with envy of his neighbours with suits to his children and with a curse to his posterity Do but turn to Iob 20. 15. and read that chapter out But in no sort of men is Covetousness so unaccountable so very foolish as in Old people For what can be more absurd said a Heathen than to be so much concern'd for travelling Expences when we have so small a part of our way to travel Or as St. Augustine expresseth it to load our selves with the greatest Burdens when we are nearest the end of our Journey It is no doubt a plain infatuation and an instance of the power of the Prince of this World on mens minds and of the Corruption of our Nature to effect this that those who have seen the Vanity of all these things the uncertainty the unsatisfactoriness the vexatiousness of them should so dote upon them that they who not only know but even feel in themselves that they must shortly and may suddenly leave them all and perhaps have no thanks at all from them that enjoy them that yet these persons wise in other things should set their Hearts upon them and hunt after a World that is flying from them How much more comfortable were it to do all the good they can to feed the hungry cloath the naked to procure the Prayers of the distressed while they have opportunity to make Friends of the Mammon of unrighteousness to be esteemed of men to be loved and honoured of God! A good man sheweth favour and lendeth he will guide his affairs with discretion Surely he shall not be moved for ever the righteous shall be in everlasting remembrance Psal. 112. 5 6. The Pleas which they produce for their Justification or Excuse are all insufficient Have you no other Recreation Surely there are more and better Diversions Natural Artificial and Spiritual than heaping up riches Instance but in the last of these Psal. 119. 14. 72. I have rejoyced in the way of thy Testimonies as much as in all Riches yea The Law of thy mouth is better unto me than thousands of Gold and Silver Again Do you think that these will defend you from Contempt True Piety and Charity is a far better way Psal. 112. 9. He hath despersed he hath given to the Poor his righteousness endureth for ever his Horn shall be exalted with Honour Think you that in your decays of Nature there be no better supports than your Riches Yes the favour of God the love of Christ the comforts of the Spirit the feast of a good Conscience and the joyful hopes of eternal Happiness are as much beyond them as the Sun i●… brighter than●… Glow-worm Will providing for Contingencies excuse you Alas your Riches will be no certain refuge for you Prov. 18. 10 11. The Name of the Lord is a strong Tower the Righteous runneth into it and is safe The Rich mans Wealth is his strong City and as an high wall but 't is only in his own conceit That bond Heb. 13. 5. sealed to us is worth all your Specialties and all your Estates He hath said I will never leave thee nor forsake thee Can you justifie your immoderate scraping by a just provision for your Children and Relations No no That 's but an excuse for they that have no Children are as sick of this Disease as others But if you have Children this course of yours is the way to undo them A moderate care for Posterity is a Duty wherein we may expect a Blessing but the Covetousness of the Parent doth but provide for the Luxury of the Child and so the Parents Soul is ruin'd in the getting and the Child 's in the spending of what is so gotten If your
instruction of my Children but the prudent Parent will conclude tho some of the best Education do miscarry and some with the worst do flourish yet I ought and will take the likeliest course to bring up my Children in the fear of God Even so in this case the Old-age and Death do seize upon divers pious and circumspect persons as soon or before they come upon others yet is it the Interest and Duty of all such as regard God or wish well to themselves to use the fittest means to preserve their strength and vigour until their time and work be done For it is certain that when the success answers not the means and that Distempers notwithstanding our Piety and Sobriety do overtake us then it is permitted and ordained by the Wisdom of God for the setting forth some way of His Glory and for the real Good of the party affected For an Holy and Good God never makes Exceptions to his General Rules but in Cases reserved for his greater honour and his Servants greater good For all the paths of the Lord tho never so cross and crooked are Mercy I say Mercy and Truth to those that keep his Covenant and his Testimonies Psal. 25. 10. And thus you have had some Account of the true Causes and the best Antidotes against Old-age which is the second Point to be handled CHAP. III. The Sins of Old-age SECT I. I Come in the Third place to treat of the Vices and Sins which are most incident to Old-age for the best Wine that is hath some Dregs And tho there be none of Old-folks Sins but they are found in some Young-folks breasts yet there are some particular vices which are more proper because more common to Aged pesons than to others Nevertheless as the work of Sanctification hath been deeper and the care in Education greater so far the less lyable shall the Aged persons be unto these Corruptions He that bears the Yoke in his youth will be happily fortified against them in his age I do not therefore charge every Old man or woman with the following Faults for many have better learned Christ and are as free from them as any other but for the most part Old people are propense to these Vices First Frowardness or peevishness whereby they are prone to be morose wayward and hard to be pleased easily angry often angry and sometimes angry without a cause Seldom are they pleased with others scarce with themselves no not with God himself yea they think as poor Ionah did that they do well to be angry Too apt they are to aggravate every fault to its utmost dimensions and so never want matter for unquietness Now this is both a Sinful and Miserable distemper It is displeasing to God and it is very uncomfortable both to themselves and to others It s true that Anger in it self is not evil our Blessed Saviour was once angry but it was at Sin and it was accompanied with Grief for the hardness of their Hearts Mark 3. 5. When we are angry at Sin we are angry without Sin. And it is also true that Old people by reason of their knowledge in matters do see more things amiss and blame-worthy more Sin and more evil in Sin than others do and having liberty by reason of their Age and Authority to speak their minds they are too prone to express that which others must digest with silence and withall their bodily distempers dispose them to more testiness than others whose continual health and ease makes their Conversation more smooth and quiet and lastly they discern themselves in some danger of being despis'd and therefore are tempted to preserve their Authority by frequent and keen reproofs and reflexions and so iniquum petunt ut justum ferant they require too much lest they should receive too little But tho these things may abate the faultiness of this Sin yet they are far from being sufficient to justifie the same Say that this froppishness is their Disease rather than their Sin yet the Disease is the effect of Sin and the cause of Sin and Sin it self The mind is distemper'd by it both your own and others the Body is disordered unjustifiable words are spoken the Soul unfitted for any serious devotion and the proper ends of reproof seldom attained for as the wrath of man never works the righteousness of God so it rarely cures the iniquities of men The plaister being too hot burns more than it heals and the frequency of finding fault tempts the faulty to heed it the less yea they are prone to harden themselves in evil by retorting your unquietness upon you as a Sin you live in without reformation Strive therefore against this infirmity pray earnestly unto God for a meek and quiet Spirit connive at smaller slips be not severe against involuntary faults expect not the same Wisdom or Circumspection in young people as you have in so long time attained bridle the first emotions of anger and weigh the nature and quality of a miscarriage before you let fly at it and do not kill a Flea upon the Forehead of your Child or Servant with a Beetle Learn of Plato an Heathen who being incensed at his Servant desir'd his Friend Xenocrates who then came in that he would correct him for now saith he my anger surmounts my reason Or rather go to School to your heavenly Master Christ Iesus who was meek and lowly who being reviled reviled not again and when he suffer'd threatned not Give place to any one rather than to the Devil Resolve if others cross you that yet you will not punish your self for frowardness hurts no body so much as ones self And mortifie Pride from whence for the most part these passions spring for we are apt to assume so much and value our selves so highly that we think every one should humour us and they that expect much will meet with many disappointments Say not that the cure is impossible for in all ages there have been Instances of victories in this case There was Patricius the father of St. Augustine and there was Mr. Calvin both of them naturally of hot and hasty spirits yet did so moderate their temper that an unbeseeming word was scarce ever heard to come from them yea divers of the Heathen were eminent herein and doubtless the Grace of God will not be wanting to you if you sincerely seek it which will of lions make you lambs SECT II. A Second Folly incident to Old-age is Loquacity or Talkativeness that is an exceeding proneness to speak much so that it hath pass'd into a Proverb Senex psittacus an old person is a Parrot Herein they are twice children whose faculty you know lies this way Speech is a most wonderful and excellent Faculty conferr'd only on humane nature and for their common good and it is great pity that it should be abused As our Reason begins to work so our Speech comes in
have so often seen these Properties of his exemplified to others and to your selves so many wonders of Providence done in your remembrance that ye your selves must be the greatest wonder in case you do not believe and trust him When your Soul is cast down you may do as David did remember God from the Land of Iordan and of the Hermonites from the Hill Mizar that is you may review the help and comfort which you have had in this and the other place of your Pilgrimage and so hope still in God that the Help of his Countenance will be the Health of yours Psal. 42. 5 6 11. Learn therefore this life of Faith and endeavour as you grow weaker in body to grow stronger in Faith. 1. For Temporal mercies You may be tempted to fear want in your Old-age here 's now occasion for Faith whereby you are firmly to believe either that you shall want nothing or else no good thing Psal. 34. 9 10. That the Lord will either supply your wants or inrich you by your wants It was a memorable saying of an Ancient pious Woman I have made many a meal upon the Promises when I have wanted bread And Christ hath said it that Man lives not by bread only but by every word that cometh out of the mouth of God Matth. 4. 4. So that a child of God shall never want a livelihood so long as there is a Promise in the Book of God. But then he had need of Faith and the stronger the faith the chearfuller life he lives For as by it he injoyes God in all things in case of plenty so by it he injoyes all things in God in case of want 2. For Spiritual blessings it concerns you to live by Faith to wit for Pardon Grace and Comfort You have bin long conversant with the Promises of God for these mercies and have had often Experiences of the Grace and Mercy of God unto you and so may conclude with the Psalmist The Lord hath bin mindful of us be will bless us Psal. 115. 12. He that forgave you ten thousand talents upon your first Repentance will readily forgive an hundred pence upon your second And he that gave you good Desires when you were not worth a good thought will surely give you your Desires of more grace when your hearts are now fully set upon it And he that spoke Peace to your Consciences when you were younger will restore unto you the joy of his Salvation as soon and as far as is good for you now you are older though at present you walk in darkness and see no light For an old servant he never utterly casts off Cast not you away therefore your confidence which hath great recompence of reward the dimmer the eye of your sense grows the clearer let the eye of your Faith become by which you may see as Moses did on mount Pisgah into the promised Land and may Comfort your hearts with the foretasts of Glory By this Faith it was that Isaac when he was blind through Age blessed Iacob and Esau concerning things to come By this Faith Iacob when he was dying for Age blessed both the Sons of Ioseph and worshipped leaning upon the top of his Staff Heb. 11. 20 21. In short nothing is more needful for the Old person whose limbs are weak eye-sight weak memory all weak than a strong and lively Faith. And this you must labour for by earnest and frequent Prayer for every one that asketh receiveth and he that seeketh sindeth Cry out therefore with the Apostles Luk. 17. 5. Lord increase our faith and when you find it waver then cry again with the man Mark 9. 24. Lord I believe help mine unbelief Wee 'l relieve a poor Old man when we pass by the younger and he that hath planted that Compassion in us hath much more in himself And then consider often of the Truth and Faithfulness of God whose Word is as sure as Deed. For all his promises are Yea and Amen in Christ. Which Promises you ought to store up and study instead of counting over your Coyn or surveying your Bonds review the rich and precious promises of God and clear your Interest in them and they will beget new blood and spirits in your Souls so that your youth will be renewed as the Eagles And as long as ye are able attend upon the Preaching of Gods Word for as Faith comes so it comes on by hearing The same Texts the same Truths the same Promises which you have often read and heard will still afford new strength to your Faith and Hope as long as you live SECT III. THE Third Grace proper for Old-age is Wisdom which we take here in the largest and yet truest sence not once regarding that meer worldly wisdom which is not only earthly and selfish but wicked and devilish that is only skill'd in getting an Estate by hook or crook and in keeping it without respect to God or our Neighbour No this cannot in any tolerable sence be called Wisdom It 's absolute folly to lose yea to venture a Soul for what may be utterly lost to morrow But I speak here of true Wisdom in its latitude teaching men to live safely and comfortably here and happily hereafter as it fixes upon a right End and chuses and uses the proper Means to attain it This Grace directs a man to make choice of God for his Happiness and then diligently to apply himself to know love serve and enjoy him This also guides him in all his imployments in this world to attempt nothing but what is possible honest and useful to chuse the fittest means for the attainment of his just ends to place his words and actions in their proper circumstances not alwayes to take the next but the safest way to his desires and in short to order his affairs with discretion And this is the crown of Old-age Every Aged person is or should be truely wise multitude of years should teach wisdom Iob 32. 7. The crown of youth is their strength but the glory of Old-age is their wisdom And wisdom is better than strength Eccl. 9. 16. VVisdom strengtheneth the wise more than ten mighty men in a city Eccl. 7. 19. By this the Aged are better inabled to discharge their duties to Husbands Wives Children Servants and Neighbours than ordinarily younger people are to dispose Spiritual and Secular duties in their right places to temper and guide that zeal and affection which without it is foolish and dangerous The Rashness of young Counsels is evident in the case of Rehoboam 1 King. 12. who following the heady and fierce advice of his Young Courtiers lost ten Tribes in one day which the sage Counsel of his Old Counsellours had certainly preserved And it is known how often the Common-wealths of Athens and Rome were indangered by the folly and rashness of young heads had they not bin ballasted by the Sober and wary Interposition of graver persons Younger people