of Judicature such persons as were not careful in Educating their Children Cicero laid this to the charge of Verres that he had debauched his Son by Intemperance Riot Wantonness it seems it was actionable among Heathens and it were well if it were punished among pretended Christians Wo be to that Town where the Springs are poisoned sad is the case of that Church and State where Academies and Inns of Court are corrupted yea corrupters Isa 1.4 Hos 5.7 where strange Children are begot and brought up no reformation can be expected till publick Schools be reformed It 's said of Protagoras he lived 60 years and spent 40 years in corrupting youth if not only Old Trees in an Orchard be rotten but young also what fruit can be expected It s fit they be digged up by this we may Divine what will become of a Church or Kingdom 10. The consequence is sad of Parents neglect of their Childrens due education a Child left to himself bringeth his Mother to shame Pro. 29.15 throw the Reines on the Childs Neck and whither will he not run A foolish Son is the heavinéss of his Mother Prov. 10.1 Pro. 19.15 Pro. 17.21 the calamity of his Father neither Father nor Mother have joy in a wicked Child and usually they may thank themselves for it the Switzers had a law that if a Child was condemned to dye the Parent should execute him because it 's neglect in Parents that is usually the rack of their Children it 's true a godly Man may have a bad Son but this is most ordinary Oh what shame will cover the Face and horrour fill the Conscience of a bad Father or a good Father conscious of guilt when he shall see his Child running hell-wards or roaring in those unquenchable Torments I advise you therefore to a timely care to prevent these dreadful consequences Quest What course should Parents take to restrain sin in Children principle them with Grace and bring them within the Covenant of God I answer this is a large and ordinary subject that I cannot now insist on practical Divines lay four great duties before Parents for the Education of their Children 1. Provision 2. Correction 3. Instruction 4. Prayer Supplication 1. Providing Food Rayment a Calling This though a great duty I pass as not pertinent to our case only I find this remarkable passage that the Athenians ordered in their laws that if Parents had not brought up their Children in a lawful calling they should not be bound to keep their Parents thus all were set to Trades 2. For correction I shall not inlarge on that only observe it to be done seasonably Prov. 19.18 Chasten thy Son while there is hope some put it off till he become too stubborn do it with self-reflection humiliation moderation prayer instructing them in their fault and the way to mend it I pass this also 3. Instruction this I chiefly aimed at if I had leasure an hint of 1. The Matter 2. The Manner of performing this duty 1. For Matter instruct your Children in the main fundamental principles of our Christian Religion as that there is a God concerning his nature properties persons of the God-head the creation of the World of Man the Immortality of the Soul the Nature of Sin the fall of Adam the sad fruits thereof the Remedy by Christ his Humiliation Offices Exaltation the Duty of Man the nature of a Church priviledges properties of Believers the Ordinances the state of all men after death Rewards and Punishments c. You are likewise to instruct them in the Covenant of Grace the nature use ends of it the difference betwixt this and the old Covenant of Works the Mediator of it the terms properties and conditions thereof the seals of it Baptism and the Lords Supper the priviledge and necessity of Souls being within it press them with Arguments to enter into it give directions about it 2. For the Manner of your instructing your Children you must do it 1. Isa 28.9 Timously as soon as they are capable but drawn from the breasts 2 Tim. 3.15 ab incunabulis that they may suck in knowledge with there mothers milk as Timothy 2. Frequently once is not enough but you must inculcate truths on them whet them as you go oft with the Knife upon the Whet-stone Deut. 6.7 so the word signifies 3. Experimentally not by rote hear-say work things on your hearts Eph. 4.21 learn and speak the truth as it is in Jesus speak feelingly from the Heart as one that believes thy self 4. Wisely Jud. 22.23 Col. 3.21 observe the tempers of your Children some must be drawn others driven provoke not tender-hearted to fretting discontent 5. Seasonably observe candida tempora proper melting seasons Eccl. 8.5 Psa 14.10 as a good humour affliction conviction speak to them words upon the Wheel or in some nick of time when they will be best taken 6. Lovingly winningly meekly not in passion but draw with cords of love Hos 11.3 oil them with kindness and they will go down glibly even bitter Pills rolled in Sugar will be well taken 7. Plainly familiarly not in high flown language but use similitudes speak as they are able to bear it Isa 28.10 11. come on gradually guttatim by drops here a little there a little into these narrow mouth'd vessels 8. Faithfully search the wound do not skin it over a fair hand makes a foul wound Luk. 19.22 a weak dose rather stirs than purgeth out bad humours rebuke sharply Tit. 1.14 9. Scripturally bring your authority along with you shew them chapter and verse Act. 18.24 28. Gods authority joined with yours may prevail much ◠Cor. 10. ◠5. these are Spiritual Weapons 10. Rom. 10.1 Prayingly pray solemnly before an instruction by Ejaculation in speaking it 's not your work but Gods to make it successful Be sensible that all is lost if God give it not the setting on and strike with the great hammer CHAP. X. Directions to Parents and encouragements in their pleading for their Children 4. THE last Exhortation to Parents on the behalf of their surviving Children is prayer and supplication this is a natural duty and catholick relief to the aking hearts of Godly Parents not only to obtain Children as Hanna but for Grace in Children when they go astray hence it was that holy Abraham to whom this Covenant was first made breaths out his longing Soul in a short Ejaculation for his wild Son Oh that Ishmael might live before thee Gen. 17.18 q. d. I thank God for Isaac but I am not satisfied with Isaac only I must beg Spiritual and Eternal Life for my extravagant Son Ishmael though he be not the Son of the Promise yet let him be a Son of Promise if Isaac must have the Earthly Canaan let not Ishmael be excluded out of the heavenly Thus must you plead with the Lord for Children To assist you herein I shall subjoyn
not depart out of thy mouth nor out of the mouth of thy sâ—ednor out of the mouth of thy Seeds Seed saith the Lord from henceforth and for ever This is a large and long-lasting charter God Spirits within his children and the owning of his name in their lips and this for ever What can godly Parents desire more Whether this Spirit import a Spirit of Prophecy or a Spirit of Sanctification surely it 's a rich kindness that it shall run in this straight line and channel to many generations that the name of God as well as your name may be kept up in your Family perpetually when you are dead and gone Oh happy Parents that have such Children Happy Children that had such Parents and blessed be God that embraceth both in the bosom of the Covenant That 's a Soul-supporting word in Hag. 2.5 According to the word that I covenanted with your Fathers yea with you when you came out of Egypt so my Spirit remaineth among you Fear ye not be not daunted there were as many and great obstructions in the way of mercy then as now yet grace overcame them and I have not taken away my Spirit from you notwithstanding your multiplied provocations this 2000. years but still it is among you and shall continue to many generations May not faith triumph in this promise 8. That great observations shall be made of and remarks upon the Children of godly Parents Isa 61.8 9. I will make an everlasting Covenant with them and their seed shall be among the gentiles i. e. Gentile Churches and their off-spring among the People all that see them shall acknowledg them that they are the seed which the Lord hath blessed Men shall speak to each other Do not you see the faithful child of such a believing Father Oh how many a precious day have we had with such an ones Father Mother or Grandfather this is the Pious Child of a Zealous father you see it 's not in vain to seek and serve God I remember the prayers and tears poured out for his Child and I see the blessed fruit thereof God is a prayer-hearing God of some Children we may say as Paul to Timothy 2 Tim. 1.5 When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee which dwelt first in thy Grand-mother Lois and thy Mother Eunice and I am persuaded that in thee also His Grandmothers name was Lois which signifies better his Mothers name Eunice signifying victor and Timothy is the fear of God If Parents chuse the better part God will give them victory over the World Sin and Satan yea they shall have power with God and obtain God-fearing Children which others will observe and admire the grace of God in 9. Childrens Children to many generations are remembered with Covenant-kindness So in the second Commandment Exod. 20.6 Shewing mercy unto thousands i. e. of generations of them that love me and keeep my Commandments Deut. 7.9 This is transcendent mercy punishment extending but to three or four of them ver 5. you 'll say mercy and justice are Gods two Arms is the one longer than the other Answer no they are equally infinite but he maketh his Church to feel more of his mercy then of his justice with the Lord there is mercy why so Because with him is plenteous Redemption Psal 130.7 It is a Covenant of Grace and Christ interposeth as Mediator of it Oh! the overflowings of Free-grace to many generations Psal 103.17 18. But the mercy of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting upon them that fear him and his righteousness unto Childrens Children Mark it it 's called righteousness to shew it is a discharge of his obligation by which he hath in some sort bound himself to Parents to do good to their Posterity Mic. 7.20 for it was mercy to Abraham to make a Covenant but it is truth and faithfulness to perform it to Jacob. and his rising seed many years after for 't is founded in his Eternal purpose and continues to Eternity and this is the reason of our hopes of the calling the Jews because they are beloved for their Fathers sake or rather because of God's Covenant with their Ancestors Rom. 11.27 28. Oh what incouragement is this to Parents that God will not utterly cast off their seed but will resume thoughts of love to them at last 10. That God will reduce the wandring Children of his People by seasonable and sanctified correction Psal 89.29 35. 2 Sam. 7.14 15. If his Children for sake my Law and walk not in my judgments i. e. if they forfeit the Priviledges promised by non-performance of the conditions then will I visit their transgression with a Rod and their iniquity with Stripes nevertheless my loving kindness will I not utterly take from him nor suffer my faithfulness to fail God hath adopted Affliction to be a branch of Covenant affection Psa l. 119.75 ' It s a promise I will visit not so much a threatning for in faithfulness he afflicts his Children he will not take so much pains with a slave as with a Son he will make his Children thank God for a whipping Lord saith a godly Parent bring home my Child though it be by weeping cross starve my prodigal son or feed him with husks that he may reflect on his Fathers plenteous Table oh break his Leg or Arm rather than damn his Soul cast him on a sick bed rather than cast him into Hell let his Purgatory be here and his Heaven hereafter now our gracious God answers his Childrens Prayers good Hezekiah's Prayers for his extravagant Son Manasseh were answered by Gods taking him among the Thorns binding him with Fetters carrying him to Babylon till he had humbled him to purpose and made him know that Jehovah was God 2 Chron. 33.11 12 13. doubtless the natural as well as the spiritual Father of the Prodigal will welcome home the Child tho' broken on the Wheel 11. The Covenant ingageth for a blessing on Parents instruction and correction of their erring Children this is of great use 1. For instruction Prov. 22.6 Train up a Child in the way he should go There 's the Parents Duty do thy duty to set him right in the beginning of his way so some read it and when he is old he will not depart from it i. e. not easily ordinarily q. d. if thou that art the Father wilt do thy duty faithfully I will undertake to do my part set thou their faces in the right road and I will keep them in it ordinarily I will bless thy instructions admonitions counsels examples see Gen. 18.19 God saith of Abraham I know him that he will command his Children and his houshold after him you 'll say what is he better for that they 'll chuse whether they 'll obey or no nay saith God but I will undertake for them And they shall keep the way of the Lord to do Justice and Judgment His labour shall not be in
vain I live saith God to make his words take impression on his surviving Children when he is dead For correction you have a notable promise in Prov. 23.13 14. With-hold not correction from the Child for if thou beatest him with the rod he shall not dye I will take care of him thou shalt beat him with the Rod and shall deliver his Soul from Hell O blessed whipping surely such a scourge as fetcheth blood is easier than hell-torments but my benediction shall be upon that correction that 's a cruel Parent that will rather see his Child a flaming Faggot in the scorching fire than try to whip folly out of him that 's cruel pity better he should cry here then roar hereafter yea and curse thee for ever that wouldst not speak a word or give him a tap to prevent these intolerable torments Oh the good that seasonable correction may do if thou prevail not to make thy Child good yet thou wilt have comfort in the discharge of thy duty there 's good hopes of both by the blessing of God Prov. 29.17 Correct thy Son and he shall give thee rest yea he shall give delight unto thy Soul yet take this caution that these promises must not be understood absolutely necessarily and universally producing this effect but ordinarily so it is and this is sufficient motive to Parents to do their duty and incouragement therein 12. The last incouragement to Parents from the Covenant of God for their surviving Children is that God will take care of their outward concerns in the World Prov. 20.7 the just man walketh in his integrity his Children are blessed after him if their Father hath not heaped up riches by cunning and covetous devices and so leaves them but little in the World yet he hath left them in the hands of a good Father who will take care of them when their earthly Parents are gone for this blessed Covenant is not confined to the persons of the Godly but entailed on their Posterity Psal 112.1 2. Blessed is the man that feareth the Lord that delighteth greatly in his commandments his seed shall be mighty upon earth the generation of the upright shall be blessed answerable to this I call to mind a passage told me by a Reverend Minister in London who knew a poor and pious Preacher in Wiltshire who had many Children and little to maintain them one askt him how he thought they could shift when he was gone he answered I am not at all afraid of that I am more afraid of them when they shall ride up and down London streets in their Coaches which came to pass for some of them came to be Aldermen of that Famous City our frequent experience confirms this truth what care God takes of his upright-hearted Servants Seed when they are laid in the dust let us take holy David's Experiment Psal 37.25 I have been young and now am old yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken nor his seed begging bread If there have been some few exceptions these yet do not destroy the truth of a general proposition howbeit temporal promises were more express and positive to the Jews of old than to christians in Gospel-times which consists more in spirituals But this will remain a truth that Children of Godly Parents are usually provided for comfortably even in things that concern this life if it tends to Gods glory and their good and if God see it good in his Infinite Wisdom which limitations must always be annexed to temporal promises but if they be poor defamed sick in prisons banished yet all these work together for their good Rom. 8.28 CHAP. VI. An Answer to an Objection against the premises THE third general head in the Doctrinal part is an answer to a main objection which is this Object You have produced many promises as branches of the Gospel-covenant that the children of godly Parents shall have converting Grace that God the Father Son and Holy Ghost shall be theirs are heirs of Gospel Priviledges shall be sanctified be useful instruments in the Church shall own their profession with an holy conversation if they wander God will reduce them bless Parents instructions corrections take care of their outward concerns c. Now do we not see by daily observation the clean contrary to all these how many worthy Ministers have had worthless sons how many worthless Children are there of gracious Parents nay do we not see some Children of Godly Parents miscarry more than others of their carnal civil neighbours more proud scorners of Godliness companions of Drunkards Swearers Debaucht persons that have proved a great dishonour to God scandal to Religion grief to Godly and Heart-breaking to their Parents yea have so prejudiced the Spirits of wicked men that they say this Religion is but a fancy praying so much is needless and what 's become of the Covenant you so much boast of Nay have we not seen some Children of Godly Parents live and dye visibly graceless under tokens of Gods Wrath yea hastning their death by intemperance and overmuch wickedness How is this consistent with all that you have spoken How is God true to his Covenant This is a sad truth and cannot be denied and an awful consideration and possibly hath staggered the Faith of some and strengthened the hands of some wicked against the power of Godliness and is too palpable an observation to be denied But yet I hope to clear this tremendous providence from the holy Scriptures by propounding these seven considerations 1. Some of the Children of Gods People can set their seal to Gods faithfulness in the Covenant made to their Parents and their Seed this clears Gods truth and the goodness of Religion I doubt not but some Children of the Covenant can speak the language of Solomon in 1 Kin. 8.23 24. Lord God of Israel there is no God like unto thee who keepest Covenant and Mercy with thy Servants that walk before thee with all their heart who hast kept with thy Servant David my Father that thou promisedst him thou spakest also with thy mouth and hast fulfill'd it with thine hand as it is this day will not some stand forth and say I bless God for Godly Parents my Soul hath found the benefit of their Prayers and fruit of Gods Promise I prefer this charter to all earthly priviledges let others say their pleasure I will for ever adore Free-grace that brought me forth under so good a Covenant it 's better to me than to be born of a Royal Race and being Heir to a Crown he is my God Exod. 15.2 and I will prepare him an habitation my Fathers God and I will exalt him and cannot some Parents say 2 Sam. 7.19 God hath spoken well of his servants house for a great while to come behold I see the buds of Grace in this or that Child and a saving growing work in another blessed be Free-grace I can hold forth this token for good against all the
the habitations of thy throne Psal 97.2 7. Yet for all this Religion must be owned and vindicated God is good to the Soul that seeks him Isa 45.9 to the Soul that waits for him He never said to the seed of Jacob seek ye me in vain Lam. 3.25 If God never shew mercy to any of my seed yet I will never justifie the wicked by saying It 's in vain to serve God Mal. 3.14 No God forbid Il wil never say that prayerless Families are as good as praying Families my own experience and thousands more besides the infallible verity of the faithful God Psal 19.11 will contradict that Atheistical Maxim in the keeping Gods commandments I have found great reward Yea I have found that the miscarriage of my Child which is the greatest cross that ever I met with hath been blessed for the good of my Soul as the good Woman said bearing my Children and my crosses have cost me dear but I could not be without either it 's not fit I should chuse my affliction and what God lays on is welcome and I will like Christ no worse for his Cross for I find these bitter Waters most medicinal and the sweetest fruit grows on this bitter Tree the badness of my Child hath helpt to make me better this heart-breaking hath proved an heart melting it 's true wicked men are hardened by seeing the Children of the Covenant thus miscarry even as divisions Mat. 10.34 35. 2 Cor. 2.14 and offences amongst Gods people are occasions of their ruine yea the Gospel-preaching is the savour of Death to some but as God is just therein to them so my Soul hath cause to bless the Physitian of Souls that so tempers this poison as to make it wholesome Physick to my poor Soul my crosses are better than their comforts I will commend Religion though I mourn over my irreligious Child Godliness is gain though I gain not Grace for my Child by it CHAP. VII An Vse of Conviction and Humiliation ALL the improvement I shall make of this point shall be 1. Of Conviction 2. Exhortation 1. Of Conviction if this be true that notwithstanding the sins and sufferings in a godly mans family which occasion much grief to his Spirit yet he is comforted and satisfied in Gods gracious Gospel-covenant Then it follows by the rule of contraries that those Families that have no right to this Gospel-covenant are in a woful state have no grounds of comfort satisfaction no hopes of Salvation so remaining they are not under a blessing but under a curse Prov. 3.33 The curse of the Lord is in the house of the wicked the Plague is in that house set a cross on that door and say Lord have mercy upon it wicked families read your doom and train of curses in Deut. 28.15 16 17 18 19. you make great reckoning of your estates alas there 's no Covenant blessing in any thing you have they are in themselves great blessings of God but to you they are cursed Mat. 2.2 If you will not hear and if ye will not lay it to heart to give glory to my name saith the Lord of Hosts I will even send a curse upon you and will curse your blessings yea I have cursed them already because ye do not lay it to heart it 's a dreadful flaming text against impenitent inconsiderate sinners not only their persons but all their domestick concerns are under a curse your meat money houses wives children garments imployments injoyments all that you do all that you have shall be accursed this is an heavy case a grounded curse by man lyes long and lights sadly upon Successors Noah pronounced a curse on Cham's off-spring Gen. 9.25 which never left them till it rooted out the Canaanites by Shem's Posterity The subject is large and astonishing I shall say something 1. To Irreligious Parents 2. To Irreligious Children 1. There are some Parents within the bounds of the visible Church that 1. Understand not this Covenant never set themselves to consider it they bring their Infants to be baptized in a custom because others do so and it would be a shame not to have them Christened Neighbours would cry out against them but they neither know the meaning of Baptism nor Covenant nor have they any mind to know them 2. Take no pains to get their own Souls interested in this Covenant Eph. 2.12 but are strangers from the Covenants of Promise and so have no hope for themselves or seed we find great fault with prodigal Parents that imbezel and alienate their Ancestors Inheritance that should have descended to their Children but it 's a thousand times worse for Parents to cut off this blessed entail of the Gospel-covenant 3. Most are negligent in doing their duty to Children alas how few will take pains to instruct them in the principles of Religion the nature use ends of the Seals of the Covenant in praying for them as if there were no such text in the Bible or they had never made such a promise Eph. 6.4 to bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord Ah! wretched Father Mother out of your own mouth are you condemned that promise what you never intend to perform how notoriously do you falsifie your promise betray your trust 4. There are too too many Parents that are scandalous prophane atheistical and teach their young ones to lye swear be drunk unclean by the evil example they set before them A Child brought up with Plato coming home hearing his father in a furious passion could say I never saw or heard the like in Plato Alas sirs you lessen your esteem with your Children by sinful courses you bring guilt upon your family yea you do your endeavour to root out your family The seed of the wicked shall be cut off Psal 37.28 The whole Psalm and daily experience testifies the same Hab. 2.10 Ah sinner thou hast consulted shame to thy house and some generations hence may reap the fruits of thy folly The text saith he will visit the iniquity of the Fathers upon the Children to the third and fourth generation of them that hate him Exod. 20.5 There are some hereditary sins and some hereditary punishments bequeathed as an heritage to their Children Divines vindicate Gods Justice in proving that God may righteously punish sins of Relations in their correlates Filij sunt res Parentum for Children say some are portions of Parents as people are the riches and good of Princes yea they have in them aliquid parentis something of the Parent they are pieces of them So David was punished in his Childs death But I shall not spend more time in this point because somuch is said by many others How can you see your Children damned in Hell through your default How can you hear their cries and see their torments in that Infernal Lake gnashing their Teeth and roaring with Flames about their Ears saying
oh cursed Parents that by your Soul-damning negligence have brought your selves and me into this lamentable state that would not speak a word to me nor plead the Covenant for me to prevent these Eternal Torments that saw me go on in sin and would not stop my course betimes by faithful admonition and sound correction nay that set me a bad Example and were content that I should perish with you cursed be the day that ever I should know such wretched Parents well had it been for me that I had never been born or had been brought forth a Beast without a rational Soul that I might have died like a Beast yea I had been comparatively happy if you my Parents had put me to death or as the Heathen Thracians lamenting my Birth buried me betimes and rejoyced at my death because of the miseries of humane life but Oh I am brought forth and fed up for the murderer the murderer of Souls I had but gone as a condemned person out of a dark prison to the place of Execution but now having lived thus long in the World I have fought against God and sunk my Soul deeper in Hell Oh wo is me that I lived under such cruel Tyrants and as the dying person said I am going to Hell and my wicked Mother must follow after And Oh the woful resentment of fellow damned Parents upon the hideous outcries of the fruit of their own bodies and bowels here neighbours fare is not good fare but the rich mans torments are aggravated by his fine brethrens coming into the same condemnation Every Screek of the Child will tear the heart of the self-condemning Father how easily might I have prevented these despairing groans by a faithful discharge of duty What if I had followed my wandring Child with sighs and tears to God and him while there was hope but now all too late all too late the guilt of my Childs blood is now required at my hands Had I whipt him so as to fetch blood at every lash it had not been so dreadful as the lashes of divine vengeance had I disinherited him for his faults it had not been so confounding as my own being banisht with him from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his power Oh! what is temporary punishment to Eternal torments Oh that God would strike the hearts of poor carnal Parents with bowels of pity towards their poor perishing off-spring 2. Graceless irreligious Children grown up 't is no excuse for you to be bad because your Parents are bad are you so wildly sociable as to go to Hell for company This is like the miserable Indians that leap into their Parents graves to be buried with them Or like that Italian visiting his Fathers Sepulcher washing all the parts of the Monument with lamentable tears Progenies viperarum nominat potius quam viperas ut toti ordini exprobret virulentam malitiam totum corpus damnare voluit Calv. in Harm Evan. in Mat. 3.7 1 Pet. 1.18 Jer. 6.16 fell down dead God may say who requires this at your hands But still it 's worse to follow their pernicious examples as too many Children do You may reverence your Ancestors yet examine their dictates by the word of truth and not be as the young Novice entring into a Monastery was advised tu et Asinus unum estote to be like an Ass swallow down all that comes No no you are redeemed from your vain Conversation received by tradition from your Fathers and therefore must enquire not simply for the old way but which is the good way It 's too much what Cicero the Heathen Orator thinks a commendable piece of Religion to live and die in the Religion of our Ancestors It rather becomes Children to take warning by their Fathers falls and faults to avoid them and the bad Consequences thereof Ezek. 18 14-18 So God saith If the Father beget a Son who seeth all his Fathers sins considereth turneth he shall not die for his Fathers Iniquity But if you follow their sinful courses you justifie them condemn Gods ways and damn your own Souls Yea you bring upon your selves the guilt of your Fathers sins besides your own wicked Parents are set before you as Sea-marks to avoid not as Land-marks to guide you The Heathen Orator said Parents are 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 as household Gods their words should be as Oracles but alas they are but men and may mistake and miscarry but God in his word is an unerring guide Follow the Lord and you cannot miss or miscarry but you may miscarry by following the best men you will certainly miscarry if you follow bad men The Woman of Samaria erroneously pleads the place of her Ancestors worship John 4.20 And Jeremiah confutes the foolish Jews fond plea from their Fathers practises Jer. 44.17 21. But I shall rather hint a few words of conviction to the irreligious Children of godly Parents Who degenerate from their Ancestors that it may be said as in Isa 63.16 Abraham is ignorant of us and Israel acknowledgeth us not i. e. as some take it if our godly Ancestors Abraham and Jacob were now alive or raised up from the dead they would not own us for their legitimate off-spring we are so unlike them I fear this is too true of the Children of godly Predecessors got to rest that tread not in their Fathers steps but take a contrary course their Fathers prayed in their families but Children have left off that trade Fathers frequent Religious Societies Children frequent Alehouses and naughty company Fathers walked closely with God Childern run away from God and his Institutions Wo Wo be to such Children 1. They are perjured faedifragous and forsworn wretches who in their Baptism ingaged to be the Lords Servants Subjects Souldiers and to fight under Christ's Banner against the World Flesh and the Devil and took Press-money but now have turned their backs on Christ and fight the Devils battles against Christ Wo be to such perfidious wretches what 's the doom of such as outrun their Colours but to be shot to Death Covenant breakers are ranked amonst the worst of Sinners Heathens Rom. 1.31 And such as make hard times in the later days 2 Tim. 3.3 If it were but a mans Covenant it 's a grand crime to disannul it much more this Gal. 3.15 Prov. 2.17 the Covenant of Marriage is in some sense the Covenant of God this more immediately and he will avenge the quarrel of his Covenant Lev. 26.25 Oh Sirs how dare you look God in the face whose Covenant ye have broken What have you to do to take his Covenant in your mouths Psal 50.16 when Conscience flies in your face 2. You have lost the benefit of your Infant-Priviledges Your Infant membership was but calculated for your Infant-State now you are grown up Adult-persons you must stand upon your own bottoms no longer on your Parents now you must live by your own faith
of God! I shall give some Motives and Directions 1. For Motives I beseech you consider Eph. 23. 1. That your Children are Children of wrath as well as others You begot them as Men not as Holy Men for Grace was adventitious Adam begot a Son in his own likeness Gen. 5.3 after his own Image not Gods which he had lost For Grace comes by spiritual regeneration not by natural generation You gave them a sinful and miserable being O study to give them an holy and happy being They are born in sin Travel over them till Christ be formed in them Gal. 4.19 If you cannot make them good yet lament that they are so bad You have done them a dis-kindness Labour to do them this kindness to plant Grace in them 2. Your Children are more inclined to Vice than Vertue they are born like the wild Asses Colt Job 11.12 with a byas Hell-wards and an antipathy in their nature to what is good For the carnal mind is enmity against good Rom. 8.7 Aelian tells of a Whore that boasted she could easily get Scholars away from Socrates but Socrates could get no Schollars from her Wrong is always before right naturally the left hand before the right Children need not be taught what is bad they learn that fast enough but you 'll find much ado to beat into them what is good 3 Yet they must learn Divine Truths and their Duty or never be happy One thing is needfull If they die as they are born Luke 10.4 with their backs on God they are undone for ever they are become like the beasts that perish But it 's better be a beast Eccl. 3.2 than to be a rational man like a beast The one goeth upwards to be judged by God and condemned to eternal torments but the Sensitive spirit of a beast goeth downwards to the Earth And however some think the Beast shall not lose its individuation yet it is not capable of Moral Evil and so of the Punishment of Hell as a rational but a graceless soul is Would you not have them far worse than Beasts Oh! take pains to work grace in them else no salvation Mat. 18.3 4. They are capable of Instruction For this end was the Book of Proverbs written Prov. 14. To give subtilty to the simple to the young man knowledg and discretion Aristotle indeed saith That a young man is not a fit hearer of Moral Philosophy or of Ethicks but he speaks of what is De facto non de eo quod fieri debet what is usually not what ought to be Children can learn Trades Toys why not Scriptures Catichisms It 's not enough to tell the capacity of many Children were they Idiots or Natural Fools destitute of Common Reason it were a lamentable judgment of God and a sore affliction to Parents But they have members of Body use of Reason Oh! do what you can to add Grace You are taken with their outward Feature wit Parts these qualifie them not for Heaven till Gods Image be super-induced 5. Parents have great advantage in beginning with their Children whilst young Now they are young and tender soonest reduced Like young twigs quickly bended or a young Horse easily broken or a young Hawk soonest brought to the lure Take them betimes before they be hardened in sin and you may most likely prevail but if they be let alone awhile they 'll be past dealing with Custom in sin makes them like the Aethiopian in his skin Jer. 13.23 or the Leopard spots Besides teach them betimes and they will more likely retain it It is an usual saying Liquidae sunt puerorum memoriae Quo semel est imbuta recens servabit odoremtesta diu Childrens memories are soft and soonest take impression and clear or free from disturbance and so retain it longest Season a New Vessel and it will keep that favour long Let Cloath be died in Wooll and after in Cloath the colour will be most lively and durable The Application is easie 6. Parents are betrusted with their Childrens Souls as well as Bodies Ezek. 18.4 All Souls are mine saith God and he concredits them to the tuition of Parents as a precious Talent or depositum saying as Pharoah's Daughter to Moses Mother Exod. 2.9 take this child away and nurse it for me and I will give thee thy Wages so saith God when the Child is Born and Baptized to Parents I devolve the charge of this child on thee look to it Ezek. 3.17 if it miscarry through thy default its blood will I require at thy hand thou must give an account of its Soul go then to God and say as Manoah concerning his Son Sampson Judges 13.12 how shall we order the Child And how shall we do unto him Fetch your instructions from God and assistance also for your Childrens good consider of a reckoning day 7. By this you will manifest your own sincerity or sinisterity your love to God and your Children or your hatred Remember no man is really good that is not Relatively good When thou art converted strengthen thy Brethren saith our Lord i. e. Luk. 22.32 evidence the sincerity of thy conversion by endeavouring the good of others Grace is like Fire that turns what it toucheth into its own nature if you do not your endeavour to bring others especially your seed into covenant it 's a shrewd sign you are not your selves in Covenant with God then wo be to you Oh cursed Parents of cursed Children Are you so indifferent whether Christs Kingdom be reared and erected in your Family that you 'll scarce put up a prayer or speak a word to promote it Where is your love to Christ that loved Souls so dearly And where is your true love to your natural off-spring if a Beast be fallen in a Pit will you not help him out Hast thou more care of a Swine than the Soul of thy Child 8. Satan lyes at the catch for your Children that Fiend of Hell hunteth daily for the precious Soul of thy dear Child he got possession when thy Child came into the World and he makes it his business to keep possession and will do till Christ that 's stronger than he cast him out Luk. 11.22 and wilt thou see a Dog a Bear the Lion of Hell hurry away thy Child Man and not cry out to Heaven for aid O heard-hearted miscreant doth not nature teach the Hen to fly at the glade that would take her Chickens yea the Sheep to turn upon the Dog that would catch her Lamb And art thou so far degenerated as to cast of all pity to thine own bowels Oh Monster of Mankind hast thou laid aside Humanity as well as Christianity 9. The Church and Commonwealth require this office of love from you to your Children and if you neglect their Education you take a course to corrupt both It 's worth observing that the Heathen Romans sued in their Courts
draw out my heart to thee in vain when a Father bids his Child ask he designs to give thou wilt not let this blessed spirit breathe in vain in my soul Wilt thou inlarge my heart and not grant my request Psal 38.9.15 Lord all my desire is before thee and my groaning is not hid from thee In thee O Lord do I hope thou wilt hear me O Lord my God Thou hast raised my heart in Expectation wilt thou not give me the mercy I expect 8. Lord is not thy Glory concerned in this affair as well as my comfort And yet my comfort is something in thine eye For thou sayst Ps 118.15 The voyce of rejoycing and salvation is in the Tabernacles of the righteous And alas What joy can there be in a family when a foolish Son is heaviness both to Father and Mother Prov. 10.1 and a disturbance to the whole house But oh thy Name is dishonoured by my own flesh wicked men hardened some scandalized by the miscarrying of the Children of the Covenant But on the other hand if Covenant-grace be spread upon my childs heart by Converting-grace many will glorifie God Gal. 1.24 His own Soul will be the actual lively Trumpet of Divine Glory by confessing sin and turning to God thy Omniscience Grace and Omnipotency will be made glorious And who can tell how many may be won to God by his Example 1 Pet. 2 1â— 2 Thes 1 1â— and every Convert Glorifies God in the day of their visitation and at the great Day God will be glorified in his Saints Lord consult thy Glory 9. Lord thou hast given me some incouragement concerning this Child I am praying for When my Child was young he was very hopeful now he is grown up my hopes are dasht He hath now embraced the world or is fallen into bad company and courses the less are my hopes now because he is a woful Apostate and sins against more light than others and this daunts and damps my spirit however I will pray and wait still for what is a daunting to me Gen. 22.14 is rather an advantage to thee In the mount of the Lord it is seen When the knife is at Isaac's throat Hos 2.14 the valley of Achor is a door of hope When men say our bones are dryed our hope is lost Ezeck 37.11 12. we are cut off for our parts then the graves are opened and there 's life from the dead The case is mine I am saying as Jonah I am cast out of his sight yet will I look again toward thy holy Temple The other look may fetch the mercy There 's a may be in the case Can a Child of so many Prayers and Fears miscarry This brings to mind a passage in Melchior Adamus De vitis Theol. Germ. pag. 724. It is this The mother of Hunnius being with child of him had a Vision She thought she was in the Church and took up a Reed or a Straw or such a small thing While she held it in her Fingers it so increased that she was almost oppressed with its weight even to death She presently saw it turned into a Pillar of the Temple Then she was eased of her burden This was verified in her Son Hunnius who though religiously educated and hopeful in Childhood yet fell into bad Company and then into horrible Temptations and sad Apprehensions That he had committed the sin against the Holy Ghost but by Grace was recovered and proves an excellent instrument in the Church of God This may be of use to poor afflicted desponding Parents 10. Lord If thou deny my suit and glorifie thy Justice in the rejection and damnation of My child I must and will acquiesce in thy Soveraign righteous Will It 's hard to bring my heart to it but I will say Thy Will be done Rom. 11.33 Oh the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledg of God! How unsearchable are thy judgments and thy ways past finding out I my self deserve to be forsaken and cast into Hell I have many a time told thee I must for ever justifie God with flames about mine ears if thy justice be glorified in my destruction for all my abominations And if thou deal thus with my beloved Off spring I will say The Lord is righteous in all his wayes and holy in all his works Dan. 9.7 Righteousness belongeth unto thee but unto me and mine confusion of faces I submit my all to thee and thank thee for grace in my own soul and hopes of Glory and if my wilful child may not bring a revenue of Glory to free Grace I will be content with thy raising up a revenue of Glory to thy Justice in his just condemnation Obj. But what tender-hearted Parent can be contented to see his Child damned Answ You must distinguish betwixt Nature and Grace Nature loves its own and cannot bear to see part of it self in misery Yea grace cannot but desire cannot but earnestly breathe after the spiritual and eternal good of our Children And 't is not only lawfull but duty to desire it Yet if God deny it Grace brings man's Will to a due submission to the Divine disposal for the more a Christian is like to God the more is his Will melted into God's Will and therefore will a Child of God rejoyce in the execution of Gods justice upon dearest carnal Relations at the great Day As sanctified Levi in the cause of God Deut. 33.9 said to his Father and his Mother I have not seen neither did he acknowledg his Brethren nor knew his own Children Nature will be in a sort swallowed by grace in Gods good pleasure That was a remarkable passage of a gracious Gentlewoman that had a vicious Son who fell into many debaucheries and into one hainous Act which sunk her tender spirit But recovering her self she said to him with some warmth Ah! my sinful Son thou hast cost me many a Tear Groan and bitter hour but a day is coming when I shall triumph in seeing the just vengeance of God excecuted upon thee this did so appall the young Gentleman that he laid it to heart repented and became a new man to the joy of his Godly Mother But 2. You must distinguish about Damnation and look on it as under a double notion 1. as a state of compleat Sinning Blaspheming and hating God to the utmost God calls you not to be content with this which is so directly contrary to the Grace of God in the Christian nor yet may you be content to have your Child separated from God the cheifest good which is the worst part of hell But 2. Hell may be considered as a place or state of torment and misery to the Rational Creature and upon this account you must not be contented simply to have your Child tormented which is abhorent to nature but your Souls must be so overr-uled with the Divine pleasure as where his will is