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A16659	The English gentlevvoman, drawne out to the full body expressing, what habilliments doe best attire her, what ornaments doe best adorne her, what complements doe best accomplish her. By Richard Brathvvait Esq.	Brathwaite, Richard, 1588?-1673.; Marshall, William, fl. 1617-1650, engraver.	1631 (1631)	STC 3565; ESTC S122488	147,901	276

can walke safely that walkes not religiously ibid. A reflection upon the constancy and resolution of Heathens re●●mmended to the imitation of Christian women pag. 120. Vertue cannot exercise her owne strength nor expresse her owne worth without an Opposite pag. 121. An instance in a noble Lady ibid. A direction in the cloze pag. 122. How Estimation may be irreparably lost ibid. The * Ili●es hederae agiles horae con●●ciunt Ivie while it is winding decayes the plant with which it is wreathing ibid. An instance of a Citie-Virago pag. 123. An use of this instance pag. 124. The absolute end whereunto Estimation aspires and wherein it cheerefully rests Pag. 125. This confirmed by sundry examples and one most remarkeable of our owne Pag. 125 126. 127. An application to these Ladies of our owne pag. 127. 128. FANCY Observat. 6. FAncy is to be with deliberation grounded pag. 129. The Eye is Fancies harbinger but the heart is her harbour ibid. Directions for setling and disposing our affection pag. 130. Loves purity is to be discussed before it be entertained pag. 131. Not the rinde but the minde is Discretions Adamant Pag. 132. The misery of jealousie deblazoned and exemplified ibid. Singular resolves for a Coniugall State Pag. 133 134. Fancy is to be with constancy retained Page 135. Two memorable Mottoes recommmended ibid. The waywardnesse of some women iustly reproved and how that humour may be rectified pag. 136. The admirable puritie and efficacie of Love pag. 137. Memorable examples of Coniugall Constancy and Continency ibid. An exhortation tending to the imitation of such famous Presidents ibid. Wanton Fancy is a wandring Frenzy pag. 138. Wanton Love seldome or never promiseth good successe ibid. The incendiaries or foments of this inordinate passion to ●●xe particulars reduced all which are in one distich included pag. 139 The Odious and inhumane effects in all ages derived from the violence of this Wanton fancie or Wandring frenzie Pag. 140. 141. Soveraigne receipts to cure this desperate maladie ibid. What kind of affection deserves a Gentlewomans election pag. 142. How Fancy may be checked if too wilde confirmed by a Philosophicall demonstration or Physicall experiments ibid. A pleasant and pithy expostulation with fancy ibid. A disswasion from too much credulity to the light protests of deceiving fancy confirmed by a moderne example Pag. 143. A Gentlewoman may with more safety suspect than too rashly affect ibid. A discreet resolution upon tearmes of affection seconded with the promise of an assured blessing pag. 144. The secret impression and passionate expression of an unfortunate Lady in the relation of her misery pag. 144. 145. It is not so hard to give comfortable counsell to the sorrowfull as to finde a fit season when to give it ibid. Consideration a necessarie guide to affection ibid. Repentance comes too late at Marriage●night How Fancy may be cheered if too cold pag. 146. The incomparable honour of a Virgin-condition ibid. The hate of Incest with brute Beasts pag. 147. The Bird of Love the Embleme of a Lovers heart pag. 149. Moneyes are inferiour pictures to true Lovers ibid. The absolute end of a co●i●gall State pag. 150 An attemperament of both th●se indisposed Fancies before mentioned ibid. The difference betwixt a wise and wilde Love consists in this the one ever deliberates before it love the other loves before it deliberate Pag. 151. Necessarie Cautions for all kind-hearted Gentlewomen pag. 152. The like for all coy or coole-affected Gentlewomen pag. 153. A sweet attemperament of both these humours with an apt Emblem explained and properly applyed to such as are with either of these humours distempered pag. 154. 155. GENTILITY Observat. 7. GEntility is derived from our Ancestors to us but soone blanched if not revived by us pag. 157. A perswasion to the imitation of our Ancestors vertues pag. 158. There was nothing mortall about them but their bodies and those were too fraile Cabonets for such rich eminences to lodge in whereas there is nothing but frailties about ours for loose and licentious love to lie in ibid. Those Odours deserve highest honours that beautifie us living and preserve our memory dying ibid. To see a light Lady descending from a noble Family is a Spectacle of more spreading infamy than any Subiect of inferiour quality pag. 159. Gentility is not to be measured by antiquity of time but precedency in worth pag. 160. The reason why generous descents become so much corrupted and vertuous Parents by vitious Children so frequently disparaged ibid. 161 Mothers the naturallest Nurses confirmed by precept custome and example pag. ibid. * Supra pag. 108. 109. An effectuall perswasion to that duty ibid. pag. 162. Vertue the best Coat pag. ibid. Heraldry proves vertues Coat to bee the best because deblazoned with least charge ibid. Vertue is no admiring lover of ought that is below her pag. 162. 163. The misery of this age in sumptuousnesse of attire pag. ibid The honour of Humility pag. 174. A glorious reproovall of modest Matrons pag. 175. Sinnes prevention is to prevent the Occasion Pag. 176. Gentlewomen are to reflect more on their inward worth than on their outward weare Pag. 176. It will not redound much to a Gentlewomans honour to have observed the fashions of the time but with a discreet Contempt or civill neglect of fashion to have redeemed her time pag. 177. Living actions of true Gentility happy Precursors to the State of Glory ibid. There are native seeds of goodnesse sowne in generous bloods by lineall succession variously instanced pag. ibid. 178. 179. Those who are with the choycest vertues endowed become oft times most traduced ibid. 180. There is no one vertue which makes a Gentlewoman more gracious in the eye of her beholder than Modesty the greatest advancer of many ancient family ibid. To be high borne and basely minded is to ingraft bastard slippes in a Noble stocke ibid. High and Heroicke vertues become great Houses confirmed by the resolution of a noble Lady in reiecting the powerfull solicitancy of a Sensuall Suiter ibid. and 181. Emulation of goodnesse in great Persons is honourable ibid. How these native seeds of goodnesse may bee ripened by instruction pag. 182. No Tutresses fitter to perfect this excellent worke in Gentlewomen than those who were the secundarie instruments of their beeing strengthened by example and reason pag. 183. A select Choice and recommendation of sundry bookes of instruction to the perusall of our English Gentlewoman ibid. A briefe enumeration serious discussion and iudicious election of sundry ancient Fathers with other morall Authors pag. 184. English translations the lights of Ladies but Dampes of Schollers pag. 187. Private Nurseries houshold Academies ibid. The first instruction takes the deepest Impression with an usefull application to every condition pag. 188. Necessarie directions highly conducing to the good report and repute of Maides and Matrons ibid. The most precious things have ever the most pernitious Keepers Nothing more precious than a Virgins

Gentlewomen whose generous birth should bee adorned with v●rtuous worth and so make you mouing Obiects of imitation both in life and death Are you nobly descended Ennoble that descent with true desert Doe not thinke that the priuilege of greatnesse can bee any subterfuge to guiltinesse Your more ascending honour requires more than a Common lustre In places of publike resort you challenge precedency and it is granted you Shall the highest place haue the least inward grace No let not a word fall from you that may vnbeseeme you Others are silent when you discourse let it be worth their attention lest a presumption of your owne worth draw you into some friuolous excursion There is not an accent which you vtter a sentence you deliuer any motion in your carriage or gesture which others eye not and eying assume not Your Retinue is great your family gracious your actions should be the life of the one and line of direction to the other To see a light Lady descending from a noble Family is a Spectacle of more spreading infamy than any subiect of inferiour quality I cannot approue of this Apish kinde of formality which many of our better sort vse it detracts from their descent to make affectation their Tutresse They were free-borne nothing then that is seruile can become them It is nothing to retaine the fauour or feature of your Ancestors and to estrange you from that which truly dignifi'd your Ancestors Vertues haue more liuing Colours and are seconded with more lasting honours than any outward beauties You deceiue your selues if you thinke that honour receiued her first life from descent no It was demerit that made descent capable of honour A Pedigree argues your Gentility but had not some deseruing action beene you had neuer attained to any noble Pedigree For Gentility is not to be measured by antiquity of time but precedency in worth If brackish or troubled water seldome come from a pure Spring wild and vnsauory fruit from a good tree whence is it that noble Predecessors whose pure blood was neuer corrupted with any odious staine should bring forth such degenerating scienes Surely this generally proceeds from the too much liberty that is granted to our youth whose inclinations though otherwise good and equally disposed are vsually by Custome which becomes a Second nature miserably depraued Society they affect and this infects them repaire to publike places they admit and this corrupts them Those eminent examples which their Noble Progenitors left them become buried with them They comply with the time Vertue they say can hardly subsist where Vice is in highest request What though Plato aduise them to make choyce of the best way of liuing which may be easily effected by assiduate vse and daily custome they haue learned to inuert his rule by affecting that custome most which tends to the practice of vertue least Besides there is another reason which may be probably alleaged why generous descents become so much corrupted and vertuous Parents by vitious Children so frequently seconded Our Nobler women though in other respects truly imitable and for their vertuous Conuersation admirable come short in one peculiar duty which euen Nature exacts of them and which being duely perform'd would doubtlesly no lesse enable and ennoble them who are descended from them than any particular were it neuer so powerfull that could informe them These which are mothers by generation are seldome their Nurcing-mothers by education No maruell then if they degenerate when they partake of the natures of other women Though their owne mothers blood streame through their veines a strangers milke must feed them which makes them participate of their nature as they are fed with their substance Wheresoeuer the Nurses milke is receiued the Nurses manners are likewise retained Whence it was that Chrysippus expresly commanded that the very best and wisest Nurses should be made choice of that what good blood had infused might not by ill milke be infected It was the ioynt aduice both of Plutarch and Pha●orine that a mother should bee her childrens Nurse because commonly with the milke of the Nurse they sucke the quality or condition of her life Yea according to ancient Decree women were bound to nurse their owne children and not to ha●e any other women vnlesse necessity enforc'd them to nurse them Let this then bee rectifi'd yee whose Noble descents haue made you eminent in the eye of the world and whom Gods blessing hath made fruitfull Mothers to bring forth a faire and hopefull increase vnto the world nurse them with your owne milke this will expresse in you a motherly care● to them beget in them a greater measure of child-like loue to you Your care the more it is parentall will exact of them a loue more faithfull and filiall Nurse them I say with the milke of your owne brests to feed them with the milke of your owne liues to informe them So shall their actions proue them to bee your Successours when they shall not onely deriue their blood from you but on this Theatre of humane frailty shall publish themselues to be true representers of you For in vaine is your blood to them deriued if your memory by their vertues be not reuiued Giue them then that which may make them yours Goodnesse may bee blamed but her succeeding memory can neuer be blanch●d Thus shall you not onely shew your selues worthy of that house from whence you came but after your period on earth bee receiu'd into a more glorious house in time to come IT is not the Nobility of descent but of vertues that makes any one a gracefull and acceptable Seruitour in the Court of heauen Houses are distinguished by Coats and C●●sts but these are dignifi'd by something ●●se In Heraldry those are euer held to be the best Coats that are deblazon●● with least charge Vertue the best Coat Consequently then must vertue needs be the best Coat Shee requires the least charge in her attire shee is not sumptuous in her fare delicious nor in her retinue the more is the pitty numerous She confines her desires vpon earth within a strait Circumference a very small portion of that mettall will content her She sees none so great in the Court as may deserue her enuy none so rich in the City as may beget in her an earthly desire none so repos'd in the Countrey as to induce her to change her state Shee is infinitely happy in that shee aymes at no other happinesse than where it is to bee found Ambition may display her Pie-colour'd flagge but shee will neuer get vertue to be her follower Her desires are pitcht vpon a farre more transcendent honour than these State-corriuals on earth can ere afford her or by their competition take from her Pleasure may cast out her Lure but vertue is so high a flyer as shee scornes to stoupe to ought vnworthy of her it pleaseth her to contemplate that on earth which she is to enioy in heauen

mee towards him that Coniugall duty mixt with all affability may winne him Againe is he old His age shall beget in mee more reuerence his words shall be as so many aged and time-improued precepts to informe me his actions as so many directions to guide me his rebukes as so many friendly admonitions to reclaime mee his bed I will honour no vnchaste though● shall defile it his Counsell I will keepe no forraine brest shall partake it I will bee a staffe to him in his age to support him an eye to direct him an hand to help him his Substance I will not scatter on a youthfull Louer but serue him still whom I haue vow'd to honour Againe is he rich Much good may it doe him this shall not make me proud my desire shall be he may imploy it for his best aduantage I will moue him to communicate vnto the needy that his riches may make him truly happy It is a miserable state that starues the owner I will perswade him to enioy his owne and so auoyd basenesse to reserue a prouident care for his owne and shunne profusenesse Againe is hee poore His pouerty shall make me rich there is no want where there wants no content This I shall enioy in him and with him which the world could not afford mee liu'd I without him It hath beene an old Maxime that as pouerty goes in at one doore loue goes out at the other but this rule shall neuer direct my thoughts should pouerty enthrall me it shall neuer appall me my affection shall counterpoize all affliction No aduersity can d●uide mee from him to whom my vowed faith hath indiuidually ti'd me In a word is hee wise He shall be my Thales Is he follish I will by all meanes couer his weakenesse as I am now made one with him so will I haue mine equall share in any aspersion that shall be throwne on him Thus if you expostulate your Christian constant resolues shall make you truly fortunate Your Fancy is on deliberation grounded which promiseth such success● as your Marriage-dayes shall neuer feare the bitter encounter of vntimely repentance nor the curelesse anguish of an afflicted Conscience THe selfe-same rule which Augustus was said to obserue in his choice and constant retention of friends Fancy is to be with constancy retained are you Gentlewomen to apply to your selues in the choice of your second-selues He was slow in entertaining but most constant in retaining Fauorites are not to be worne like fauours now in your hat or about your wrist and presently out of request Which to preuent entertaine none to lodge neere your heart that may harbor in his brest ought worthy your hate Those two Motto's I would haue you incessantly to remember for the vsefull application of them may highly conduce to your honour The one is that of Caia Tranquilla which she euer vsed to her royall Spouse Caius Tarquinius Priscus Where th●● art Caius I am Caia The other that of Ruth vnto Naomi Whither thou goest I will goe and where thou dwellest I will dwell There is no greater argument of lightnesse then to affect the acquaintance of strangers and to entertaine variety of Suiters These as they distract the eye so they infect the heart Constant you cannot be where you professe so long as you affect change Vowes deliberately aduised and religiously grounded are not to be dispenc'd with But say you neuer vowed haue you made outward professions of loue and entertained a good opinion of that obiect in your heart Againe are you resolued that his affection is reall towards you That his protests though deliuered by his mouth are engrauen in his heart Let not so much good loue be lost insult not ouer him whom vnfained affection hath vow'd your seruan Let Wolues and beasts be cruell in their kindes But Women meeke and haue relenting mindes It were too much incredulity in you to distrust where you neuer found iust cause of distaste Yea but you will againe obiect we are already by your owne Obseruations sn●ficiently instructed that Fancy is to be with ●eliberation grounded that loue lightly laid on lasts not long Should we then affect before we finde ground of respect Should wee entertaine a Rhetoricall Louer whose protests are formal Complements and whose promises are gilded pills which couer much bitternesse No I would not haue you so credulous lest your Nuptiall day become ominous Make true triall and experiment of his Constancy who tenders his seruice to you Sift him if you can finde any branne in him Taske him before you take him Yet let these be sweetly tempred with lenity Let them not be Taskes of insuperable difficulty This were to tyrannize where you should loue This was Ompha●es fault to make her faithfull seruant a seruile slaue Alas shall hee fare the worse because hee loues you This would induce others who take notice of your cruelty to loath you And make your discarded louer surprized with an amorous distemper to reply as Absal●m to Hushai Is this thy kindnesse to thy friend My counsell is that as it will be vsefull for you to deliberate before you take so much as the least Notions of an affectionate Seruant yea and to second that deliberation with some probable proofe or triall that hee is truly constant so it will be a gratefull office in you to retaine him in your fauour with a gracious respect to countenance the improuement of his constancy with a cheerefull and amiable aspect to banish all clowds of seeming discontent and to giue him some modest expressions of the increase of your good Conceit towards him Let this be done till Hymen make you indiuidually one Then and neuer till then may Loue enioy her full freedome She stands priuiledg'd by a sacred rite to taste that fruit which before was forbidden Mutuall respects like so many diametrall lines pointing all to one Centre are then directed to one exquisite obiect the purity of loue which produceth this admirable effect it makes one soule rule two hearts and one heart dwell in two bodies Now I would haue you when your desires are drawne to this period to become so taken with the loue of your choyce as to interpret whatsoeuer hee shall doe euer to the best sense It were little enough that you retained a good opinion of him who stands in so many seuerall ingagements obliged for you Should your riot bring him into debt his restraint must make you free D●rance must be his suit while better stuffe makes you a Coate Yea what Conscience is there in it but hee should receiue an affable and amiable respect from you seeing if your Consci●nce be no Conformalist he must pay for you These respects should perpetually tye you to honour him who becomes so legally ty'd for you Requite these then with constancy and retaine this ensuing Example euer in your memory Theogena wife to Agathocles shew'd admirable constancy in her husbands greatest misery shewing her selfe most his