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A75032	The whole duty of man epitomiz'd for the benefit of the poor. With select prayers suited to every partition. By Edm. Stacy, a minister of the Church of England.; Whole duty of man. Abridgments	Allestree, Richard, 1619-1681.; Stacy, Edmund, b. 1657 or 8.	1700 (1700)	Wing A1193A; ESTC R223863	44,918	146

third Qualification is that of Relation Duties in respect to Relation and of this there are divers sorts as First that of a Debtor to a Creditor and of an oblig'd Person to his Benefactor and in both these Particulars we are bound by the strictest ties of Justice and Gratitude Not to pay our just Gratitude to Benefactors the contrary too common Debts when we are able is a Vice almost unpardonable and 〈◊〉 be ungrateful to a Benefactor however common it may be in this unthankful Age is an Act the most sordidly base and disingenieus PARTITION XIV Of Duty to Magistrates Pastors Of the Duty of Parents to Children c. Of Childrens Duty to Parents I Come now to the Duty to Parents nearest kind of Relations and in the first Rank of those I place our Duty to Parents whether Civil Spiritual or Natural The Civil Parent is To the Supream Magistrate Honour he who by a just right possesses the Throne and to him we owe Honour and Reverence we are to look upon him as a Person upon whom God has stamp'd a great deal of his own Power and Authority and upon no Account to speak evil of him or revile him Next we owe him our Tribute which we are to pay him with the utmost both of Justice and Freedom Thirdly Tribute Prayers and Obedience We are to Pray for him that God would direct and assist him in all his Undertakings And Fourthly We owe him a solemn and strict Obedience which both the Laws of God and Nature have commanded us to observe wi●● the most awful and religious Submission The second sorts of Parents a●● the Spiritual viz. th● Ministers of God● Duties to our Pastors Word and such a● are entrusted with the Salvation of Souls to them we owe the highest Love and Kindness we are oblig'd to esteem and value them as our best and truest Friends we are likewise to contribute to their Maintenance Love Esteem Maintenance Obedience and Prayer and witha● to look upon them a● Gods Messengers and upon that Account t● behave our selves 〈◊〉 them with a great deal of distance and respect and to put up our earnest Prayers to God for them that he would grant them the assistance of his Spirit to enable them rightly to discharge their Holy Calling The third sort of Parent is the Natural Duties to our Natural Parent by which is meant the Fathers of our ●lesh Towards these ●e are to demean our Reverence Love c. ●●lves with Reverence and Humility and ●pon no Account to contemn or ●●spise them either in our outward ●ehaviour or in our Hearts we we them our most ardent Love and ●nderest Affection and ought to ●●hor every thing that can give them the least Cause of Grief or ●isquiet We owe likewise Obedience ●r Obedience to all ●e Commands of our Parents that ●●e not opposite to the Laws of ●od and cannot violate them ●●thout exposing our selves to the Punishments he has so often denounc'd in Scripture against disobedient Children Children are not to Marry without the Children not to Marry without the Consent of their Parents Consent of their Parents every Child is so much the Right and Possession of his Parent that he mu●● be guilty of Theft to dispose 〈◊〉 himself without his Consent We are likewise bound according to 〈◊〉 Abilities to supp●● their Wants and 〈◊〉 To provide for their Wants Duties to the worst of Parents administer to them 〈◊〉 any kind of Extremity and all this is 〈◊〉 be done even to th● worst of Parents But as there a●● many things due fro● Duties of Parents to Children the Child to the ●●rent so there are so●● from the Parent 〈◊〉 the Child The Parent is oblig● to nourish and sustain the Chi●● till he comes of Age to do it himself he is likewise to take Care for his Soul by bringing him early to the To bring them to Baptism to educate them Sacrament of Baptism and by having him timely instructed in the Principles of Religion and educated in the true Faith and Fear of God and as a Means to improve his Education too he is Means towards their Education to encourage and correct him and to use all wise and gentle Means in order to impress upon him a timely Sence of Vertue and good Morals Thirdly The Parent The Parent to watch over the Childs Soul is to watch over the Soul of his Child after he comes to years of Maturity and as often as he finds occasion to exhort encourage and reprove him he is likewise to take Care of his outward To provide for their Sustenance State by providing him with a suitable Condition of Life but above all he is to lay before him a good Example To give them good Example and to make his own Life a fit Pattern for him from whence he may transcribe the true Rules of Vertue Honour Honesty and Godliness and then he is to Bless him and Pray To Bless them and to give them no unreasonable Commands for him and to recommend him often to God's Care and Protection And besides all this too he must be extreamly careful that all the Commands he laies upon him are just and reasonable and in all respects utterly distant from all sorts of harshness or severity PARTITION XV. Of Duties to our Brethren and Relations Husband Wife Friends Masters Servants THE second sort Duties to Brethren Natural Love of Relation is that of a Brother which we may take in a double Sence either Natural or Spiritual I begin with the First the Duties between Natural Brethren I mean such that are of the same immediate Parents And the Duty of these is to have united Hearts and Affections to love one another with great Tenderness and Sincerity and to do their utmost to promote their mutual Good and Happiness This is a Duty so necessary in all The necessity of Love among Brethren Points that without ●t no Family where there is any number of Brothers and Sisters can propose any tolerable Ease or Satisfaction The second sort are Spiritual Brethren Spiritual Brethren under which Notion are comprehended all those that are baptiz'd in the same Faith and Church with our selves and to all these our Compassion is to be the most melting and affectionate with these we are to profess and defend the Faith of Christ Crucify'd and to communicate with 'em in Our Duty to hold Communion with them To bear their Infirmities to restore them after falls and to sympathize with them all Holy Offices we are to bear with their Infirmities and in a friendly manner to admonish and reprove 'em and by fair and gentle Methods to endeavour to bring them to Repentance after they are fall'n We are to sympathize with them in all their Agonies and Distresses whether of Soul Mind or Body The third Relation is that between Husband The

it Let all my Recreations be moderate and inoffensive and us'd with the strictest Caution with regard to Thee my Neighbour and my Self give me Grace and Prudence to avoid all Gaiety in my Apparel and to prefer the inward Ornaments of my Soul to all useless Trappins and all gaudy and insignificant Shews and Formalities For the Tenth INstruct me O Eternal Father of all Truth and Equity in the Duties I owe to my Neighbour grant I beseech Thee that I may direct my Life by the constant Rules of Justice both Negative and Positive Prevent me O Crucify'd Saviour from that crying Sin of Murder let the hainousness the Punishments and the strange Discoveries thou hast been pleas'd to make of it be always in my View to deter me from it even in the most minute Particulars For the Eleventh GIve me Grace O Blessed Redeemer that after thy Example I may observe a strict and Positive Justice to my Neighbour in all his Possessions Stamp deep upon my Mind I intreat Thee O my God a tender regard for him in his Wife and in all his worldly Goods Lord I beseech Thee defend me from the Sins of Oppression and Theft and give me Grace to acquit my Self justly in all my Dealings and to behave my self as becomes an honest Man in all manner of Bargains and Commerce For the Twelfth LET thy merciful Ears O Lord be open to my Prayers for the sake of thy own Eternal Equity errace utterly out of my Mind all unjust Notions and let no Temptations to any sort of Robbery at any time get the Dominion over me improve my Mind I beseech Thee with such a determinate hatred against all kind of Deceit that I may immediately resolve upon that great Duty of a Christian Restitution And this I beg of Thee with the highest Ardency for thy own sake O merciful Jesus For the Thirteenth O Eternal God of Truth guide me I beseech Thee by thy blessed Spirit that I may be exactly careful how I Believe or Report any thing to the Prejudice of my Neighbour keep me from the dangerous Sins of Perjury and Slandering from all base and malicious Whisperings and from all fly and injurious Insinuations O God of Righteousness let the tenderness and regard I owe to my Fellow Christian sink so deep into my Soul that I may neither Scoff at his Calamities or Infirmities nor deride his very Sins Give me O King of Justice such a Positive Vprightness and Integrity that I may abhor all sorts of Lying Envy and Detraction and that I may preserve an humble and intire Gratitude and Thankfulness towards my Friends and Benefactors but especially towards Thee O bountiful Jesus For the Fourteenth O God of all Order and Power who in thy Wisdom hast appointed several Ranks and Degrees of Men among us give me an awful Sence of that profound Obedience and Respect I owe to all the Magistrates Pastors and Governours in their respective Stations teach me O my God! as a Child that Love and Reverence I owe to my Parents and as a Parent that Care and Duty I owe to my Children that in both Capacities I may discharge my Trust after the Direction of thy most Holy Precepts O King of Righteousness For the Fifteenth TEach me O merciful God and Saviour that I may acquit my self to all my Brethren whether Spiritual or Temporal and to all my Relations as becomes a Member of the Christian Profession in the several Capacities of a Husband Friend Master and Servant teach me O merciful God to behave my self as becomes a Member of thy most Holy Religion O blessed Jesus For the Sixteenth INstruct me I beseech Thee O Almighty Lord in all the Branches of my Duty to my Neighbour After thy own Example O unchangeable Goodness Direct my Charity towards him with respect to his Soul his Body his Goods and his Credit give me such a Spirit of Positive Justice that I may value him upon all Accounts equal to my self and be always ready to do the very best I can to propagate his Interest in both Worlds I beg this of Thee with the utmost Ardency of my Soul O Jesus merciful Jesus For the Seventeenth O Merciful God who hast mark'd out my Compassion to my Fellow Creature as the Standard by which thou intendest to measure Thine to me Give me I beseech Thee an intire and universal Charity Open my Bowels that I may be ready to help and further him in all his Extremities Grant O my God for the sake of thy own Love that I may be always prepar'd to vindicate my Neighbours good Name upon all occasions that I may judge the best and speak well of him and conceal or excuse his Infirmities that I may be impatient to hear slow to believe and unwilling to propagate evil Reports lodge him in my Heart in the very next Place to my Self that I may constantly Study his Peace and value it equal to my own keep me from all Litigious Suits and Controversies let an even and regular Charity run through my whole Life and Actions and extend it self even to my very Enemies I beg this and every thing else thou in thy Wisdom knows useful for me for Jesus Christ his Sake Amen Amen FINIS Books Printed for John Lawrence at the Angel in the Poultrey CAtholicism without Popery An Essay to render the Church of England a Means and a Pattern of Union to the Christian World ●ctavo The Mourners Companion Or Funeral Discourses on several Texts ●n Two Parts By Mr. John Shower Octavo The Dying Mans Assistant Or Short Instructions for those who are concerned in the preparing of Sick Persons for Death Being no ●ess worthy the Consideration of all good Christians in time of Health ●hewing the importance of an Early Preparation for their latter End with regard as well to their Temporal as Eternal State By a Divine of the Church of England Twelves The London Dispensatory reduced to the Practise of the London Physicians wherein are contained the Medicines that are now in use and such as are not in the Latine Copy added with their Vertues and Use By John Pechy of the Colledge of Physicians in London Twelves Price 1 s. 6 d. 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Be careful in nothing but in every thing by Prayer and Supplication with thanksgiving let your Request be made known to God PARTITION II. Of Humility of Submission to God's Will in respect of Obedience of Patience in all sorts of Sufferings and of Honour due to God in several ways in his House Possessions his Day Word Sacraments A Sixth Duty to Humility God is Humility which from an humble sence of our own Meanness and his Excellency should work in us a twofold Submission the first to his Will the second to his Wisdom A Submission to the Will of God consists Submission to God's Will with respect to Obedience chiefly in our Obedience or Patience in the first by urging us to a ready Complaisance to his Commands by melting down our stubborn haughty Minds without which we can never come to know worship or obey him with that profound Distance and Submission which the greatness of his Majesty and the importance of his Commands require To promote our Obedience The great distance between God and Man we should often reflect upon that vast distance that is between God and our Selves that we are but polluted Dust and Ashes wretched Creatures but of a few Hours and that he 's without Beginning or End Immortal and Eternal That our best Works and Performances The unworthiness of our best Works are utterly unworthy of him or at least unworthy of our own Commendation the best we can do when we come to compare it with the Perfection and Purity of Almighty God as the Prophet expresses it Is but as filthy Rags and therefore we ought by no means to boast of our own Works or to attribute any of them to our selves but to give God the Glory and preheminence in all our Actions The Second kind of Submission to Gods Submission with respect of Patience Will is Patience which consists in an humble acquiescence to all the Afflictions which HE is pleas'd to lay upon us This will make us easie under all his Dispensations and entitle us to a kind of Repose even in the midst of our Troubles and is indeed the pure effect of that Humility that does so highly recommend us to Almighty God A patient Submission to the Will o● Thankfulness for Gods correction God will give us 〈◊〉 right notion of our Afflictions rather than encline us to murmurs and complaints will convince us that God chastizes us out of Friendship and so consequently that we are oblig'd to thank him for his Correction as indeed we are upon many extraordinary Accounts but especially as they are Marks of his Care and Love Our quiet and Fruitfulness under Afflictions thankfulness under Afflictions is not all neither the Fruit of 'em should be Repentance that 's God's chief Design in laying them upon us that they should force us to call our selves to an account and enquire diligently what it is that has engag'd him to deal with us in so rough a method In all our Sufferings In all sorts of Sufferings and Afflictions we ought to look upon God's permissive Power as the Principle Agent and with Holy Job's Patience let them be deriv'd to us either from God or Man and in his Words bless the Name of the Lord for giving us warning Secondly I told you that Humility contain'd likewise a Submission to God's Submission to Gods Wisdom Wisdom as well as his Will God being infinitely Wise and Just we are to submit to him in all his Commands and Dispensations We are to submit to him in his Commands In his Commands by making our Understanding ●end to his Will and Word how opposite soever it may be to our own carnal Reason or Humours for when we consider that his Wisdom is Infinite and cannot Err we own an Obligation to believe and obey every thing he speaks or commands We are likewise to submit to the Wisdom In his Disposals of God in all his Dealings and Dispensations and tho many Events happen contrary to the ordinary Course of things and are utterly above the reach of our narrow Capacities to comprehend yet being all chosen and determin'd by the unerring Wisdom of God we ought to submit to them with the greatest Satisfaction and Humility The next Duty to God is Honour which Honour consists in the paying him such a respect and Reverence as belongs to the greatness of his Majesty and this may be either inwardly in our Hearts or outwardly in our publick Actions and Behaviour towards him Besides the general there are particular Several ways of honouring God in his House and Possessions Ways of honouring God as First By approaching his House the Church with Reverence and behaving our selves there with Devotion and Attention Secondly In his Possessions by paying our Tithes and Just Dues which God has appointed for the maintenance of his Ministers The Sin of Sacriledge and defrauding the Ministry is a very great and crying Sin 't is the downright robbing of God an● indeed his Vengean●● The great sin of Sacrilege and the Punishment of it is in nothing mo●● discernable then in h●● Punishment of it u● on which account w 〈…〉 should have a ve 〈…〉 strict Care never to medle with 〈…〉 ny thing set a part for God The Third Thin● whereby we are t 〈…〉 The Lords Day and Feasts of the Church to be kept Holy express our reverenc● to God is by keepin● Holy the particula● Times set a part fo● his Service such a 〈…〉 are the Sunday's or Lords-days and other solemn Festivals appoint ed by the Church this he ha● strictly requir'd of us and herei● we must not disappoint him upo● any pretence Days of Fasting an● Humiliation are like wise The Fasts to be solemnl● observ'd that according to the Design of the Church we may mee● together and humble our selve● ●eeply before God and with Prayers and Tears bewail our own and ●he Sins of the Nation Fourthly We are ●o express our Honour God's word the Holy Scriptures to God by pay●ng an awful Reve●ence and respect to ●is Word by frequent reading the Holy Scriptures and by collecting ●he measures of a good Life from those lively Oracles by attending upon the Duties of Religion and ●y being present as often as we may at the publick Catechizings and Sermons Catechizing in the Of Catechizing first Place is the Foundation upon which the whole Christian Practice must be built 't is therefore the Duty of every Parent to have his Children early instructed in the Church Catechism and for this end they are to call in the help of their respective Ministers and for those that have been so unhappy to want these Instructions in their Youth it concerns 'em as nearly as their Sou● to have their minds Principl'd wi●● the Conditions of their Salvati●● as soon as they can which neith●● the Consideration of their Age 〈◊〉 any other pretence should perswa●● them to