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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	child_n	marriage_n	parent_n	2,707	5	9.3519	5	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A36898	The Dublin scuffle being a challenge sent by John Dunton, citizen of London, to Patrick Campbel, bookseller in Dublin : together with small skirmishes of bills and advertisements : to which is added the billet doux sent him by a citizens wife in Dublin, tempting him to lewdness, with his answers to her : also some account of his conversation in Ireland, intermixt with particular characters of the most eminent persons he convers'd with in that kingdom ... : in several letters to the spectators of this scuffle, with a poem on the whole encounter.	Dunton, John, 1659-1733.	1699 (1699)	Wing D2622; ESTC R171864	245,842	426

despise him as they do his Message but at the last Hour you will change your Mind and wish to die the Death of the Righteous though you never car'd to imitate their Life Break off then from your Sins in Tim● by a true Repentance and cordial Reformation learn to entertain pure and chaste Flames of Devotion in your Soul and they will quickly extinguish those bruitish Lusts that hurry you head-long to Pordition which if the Almighty grant you Grace to do you will be sensible that you were not mistaken in making Application to me as your Friend though you were very much out in the Method and as much disappointed in the Manner I adde no more but that I do as earnestly wish your Conversion as I hate your Vice and if this may be any way conducive towards it I shall think my self Happy in a good Improvement of the first Billet Do●x that ever was put into my Hand and that though you were Wicked that you were not unhappy in sending it Farewel Dorinda Remarks on J. D's Second Letter to the Citizens-Wife SIR I Have perused your second Letter to the Irish Dorinda and am of Opinion she never met with such returns to her Courtship before It 's not probable that she will trouble Philaret any more with her Billet Douxes and it were to be wished she never troubled any Body else with them You have done your Part to cure her Distemper but that Disease in the Soul is too often like the Gout in the Body Opprobrium Medicorum You have however discharged your Duty be the Event what it will I cannot well tell what you could have said more for you have touch'd on most of the Ordinary Topicks if what you have said do but reach a Conviction she will not grudge to read the Treatises you have recommended to Her to which I wish you had added Mr. Carr's Antidote against Lust 't is also a Book of your own Printing and will further inform her Judgment and convince her of the vileness of her Practise I am glad that you have left behind you in Dublin such Proofs of your fair way of dealing and of your Iustice to the Marriage Bed had all who have gone hence shew'd the Irish such good Example it would have rendred the English Conquest of that Countrey more Universal and Effectual than ever our Arms have yet done I have nothing else to say but that perhaps when this Billet Doux comes to see the Publick the Reality of it may be Questioned not that your Person and Purse might not have been as tempting as those of others who have frequent Adventures of this sort but because of ill natur'd Suspicion amongst those of your own Trade and the too frequent Abuses of that Kind which some few of 'em have put upon the Publick and indeed had I not seen the Original and been satisfied from the probability of the Circumstances as the Place to which 't was directed the credible Witnesses who saw you send your Answer and your own Affirmation I should have suspected the Truth of it my self Your Design of putting it in Print I cannot disapprove it shews your Innocence and will not only prevent those wanton Ladies from making you any more their Confident but may deter others from the like Practises lest they should have the same Fate and it must needs be a Picquant Rebuke to the loose Dorinda to see her Billet Doux expos'd to Publick View For though she Lives under Covert it may happen some way or other to point her out as it 's but Just it should I am SIR Your very Humble Servant The Thirteenth Letter SIR HAving troubled you with Dorinda's Billet Doux and my former two Letters to Her and receiv'd your Remarks upon them which were very much to my Satisfaction I give you the Trouble of one more which you will oblige me to peruse and to give me your Thoughts upon it with your usual Freedom The Letter is as follows viz. Dorinda IN my first Letter I checkt your Impudence for contriving to C d Argus In my second Letter I sent you Rules for Chastity and having receiv'd no Answer to either of these Letters I conclude you are asham'd of your Billet Doux and are willing to be Reform'd If these Conjectures are Right 't will be proper in the next place to say what I can to set Argus and you a Loving again and here I shall Write nothing but my own Experience to which I 'll adde Rules for Dorinda and Argus to live by which may if Dorinda's a true Penitent maked●em yet a ●appy Pair I shall begin these Rules with telling Dorinda Wo are taught from Scripture that Marriage is honourable in all Men so is not a single Life in some it is a Snare and a Trouble in the Flesh a Prison of unruly Desires which is attempted daily to be broken A single Life● is never commanded but in some Cases Marriage is for he that like Dorinda cannot contain must Marry and he that can contain is not tyed to a single Life but may Marry very lawfully Marriage was ordain'd by God instituted in Paradice was the relief of a natural Necessity and the first Blessing from God himself He gave to Man not a Friend but a Wife that is a Friend and a Wife too It is the Seininary of the Church and daily bring forth Sons and Daughters unto God Our Blessed Lord tho' he was born of a Maiden yet she was Vailed under the cover of Marriage and she was Married to A WIDDOWER for Ioseph the supposed Father of our Lord had Children by a former Wife The first Miracle that ever Jesus did was to do Honour to a Wedding Marriage was in the World before Sin and has been in all Ages of the World the greatest Antidote against it and although Sin hath sowr'd Marriage and stuck the Man's Head with Cares and the Womans Bed with Sorrow in the Production of Children yet these are but throws of Life and Glory and she shall be saved in Child-bearing if she be found in Faith and Righteousness So that Marriage is the proper Scene of Piety and Patience of the Duty of Parents and the Charity of Relatives here Kindness is expanded and Love is united and made firm as a Center Marriage is the Nursery of Heaven the Virgin sends Prayers to God but she carries but one Soul to him but the state of Marriage fills up the Numbers of the Elect and hath in it the Labour of Love the Delicacies of Friendship the Blessing of Society and the Union of Hands and Hearts And as Marriage is the Nursery of Heaven so 't is the Mother of the World it preserves Kingdoms fills Cities Churches and Heaven it self Thus Dorinda have I shewn that the state you are enter'd into is Divine in its Institution Sacred in its Union Holy in the Mystery Honourable in its Appellative Religious in its Imployments It is Advantage to the Societies

sense of my bounden Duty towards God so also from a consideration of the Example of a Person of Honour I mean the late Lord Delamere who has left it upon Record to his Children That whenever he hapned which was very seldom to omit his Duty in this Kind tho upon never so urgent an occasion he always found some cross Interruptions and disappointments in 〈◊〉 business of that day Being now Madam to Sally out into the City under a n●cessity of making my self more particularly known in respect to the affairs I went about I will presume to suppose you might be inquisitive to understand what sort of Fig●re 〈◊〉 proper for me to make As to my Cloaths I confess I was never over-curious affecting always to appear more plain and cleanly than gay and fini●al The first Suit of Apparel that ever mortal man wore came neither from the Mercer's Shop nor the Merchant's Warehouse and yet Adam's Bill would have been sooner taken than a Knight's Bond now The Silk●Worms had something else to do in those days than to set up Looms to become Free of the Weavers Our old Grandsire's Breeches were not worth near the Value of K. Stephen's Hose that cost but a poor Noble Adams Holy-day Suit being made of no better Stuff than plain Fig-leaves sowed together and Ev●● best Gown of the same piece However it was both necessary and convenient I should rather appear above than below my Quality and as such I adventured to visit my Auction-Room In the various Emergencies of each day I send up Ejaculatory Prayers to the God of all my Mercies for his Direction Blessing and Conduct as the matter does require and as God has Commanded who has bid me in all my Ways acknowledge him and has gra●iously promis'd to direct my Paths In the Summer-time I rose early in the Morning and walk'd abroad into the Fields finding those occasional Meditations that such a walk presented me with Subjects for proper to raise my Devotion to a greater Fervour the Beauty of the Creation leading me by insensible steps to the Adoration of the Great Creator the Source and Fountain of all Excellencies My walking along the Strand a Mile from Dublin gave me a pleasant prospect of the Sea whose rowling Waves put me in mind of the Power of Omnipotence who commands both the Winds and the Sea saying hitherto shalt thou come but no further Leaving the Strand I walk'd up a Hill into the Fields by the side of Ballibaugh-lane which I thought one of the best Prospects about Dublin having Heaven Earth and Sea in view at the same Moment it represented to my thoughts the exceeding swiftness of spiritual Bodies which though far from Infinite yet have a motion quicker than the Eye and swifter than our Thoughts Thus by the things I have seen I have been led into the Contemplation of unseen things After about an hours Meditations in this Nature my usual way was to return to my Chamber unless a previous Appointment to meet any one about Business hinder'd me For though I had given the Conduct of my Auctions to Mr. Wilde who faithfully discharg'd the Trust I repos'd in him yet was I not so freed from Business my self as not to have Applications made to me both by the Binders and other Persons After some time being in my Chamber and having taken some Refreshment I went to Dick's in Skinner-Row where after calling for a Dish of Coffee my Questions were Where 's Darby he 's Dick's Servant but as honest a Lad as lives in Dublin● Is there a Packet come from England And that which prompted me to that Enquiry was That I then had hopes of hearing from my Wife distance and absence having so endear'd her to me that I was never well but when I was writing to her or hearing from her But if a Packet came and there was no Letter for me it struck me into such a Melancholly for fear Valeria was ill that I could hardly reconcile my self to a good Humor all that day Madam perhaps this will make you ask how long I have been absent from her Why Madam not above a Month but am fallen already to telling the Minutes and can scarce live at this cruel distance Methinks Madam I cou'd pass through an Army of Beauties untoucht for one Glimpse of the Dear Valeria for so I design to call her 'T is she I Love for why should n't I above Beauty Wealth and those Gaudy Trifles that dazzle the Eyes of others Neither can S nor the worst of her Enemies lessen my Opinion of her Might I talk of her Piety for she 's too modest to hear it mention'd I 'd affirm she 's so great a Scripturist that her Memory is a sort of Concordance and the only one I have occasion for And for the rest of her Life 't is nothing else but Devotion And which yet inhances her Value she puts me not off with a common Friendship 'T is true an indifferent Love wou'd ha'e been good enough for the Man that wou'd Court her with the blaze of Gold to the Fop that has nothing but Honour or Beauty that very Iest when found in a Man to plead for him I loved her for better Reasons and therefore ask for a nearer Intimacy a more lasting Happiness Sence is enough where Sences only Wooe But Reasoning Lovers must have Reason too No wonder if the Body quickly cloy But Minds are infinit● and like themselves enjoy A Woman of Sence and such I find Val●ria is a noble Prize had she nothing but the Treasure of her Mind All the World is pictur'd in a Soul I am sure 't is so and that she acts new Charms in every thing Then Madam if you ever Marry and wou'd be happy in Wedlock Marry for pure Love for Valeria and I shall then be upon the square with ye for we can love more in one day than others do in all their Lives She that marries a Husband on this Foundation will be still finding new Charms either in his Words or Looks for my own share I do assert whilst dignified sparks seek Diversion from their Misses and devote their Lives to the idle pursuit of a Hound or a Hawk I thank God my Fancy is not so rambling but I can confine it to One Dear Charmer to whom if she loves like me I 'll prove the most kind and tender thing in the World In a word I bend all the Faculties and Powers of my Body and Mind to please and serve her all I have or can command shall lye at her Feet neither do I love at so cold a rate as to desire any of the Goods of Fortune but for her sake and this loving Humor as Iris found in the like case will not only last for a day or a year but to the end of her Life then what shall I do for a sight of Valeria but it can't be had so that I am now constrain'd to have recourse to Philosophy