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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A09219	Iosuahs godly resolution in conference with Caleb, touching houshold gouernement for well ordering a familie With a twofold catechisme for instruction of youth; the first short, for the weaker sort, set forth in sixe principall points; the latter large for other of greater growth, and followeth the order of the common authorized catechisme, and is an explanation thereof: both set forth for the benefit of his Christian friends and wel-willers. by Richard Bernard preacher of Gods word, at Woorksoppe in Nottingam-shire.	Bernard, Richard, 1568-1641.; Bernard, Richard, 1568-1641. Large catechisme.; Bernard, Richard, 1568-1641. Double catechisme.	1612 (1612)	STC 1953; ESTC S113310	37,811	96

3. things at your hands both for mine owne and the peoples instruction herein I. How a family Three questions may bee at the first religiously planted II. How a family irreligious may be reformed III. How it may be so kept and preserued Ios Three necessary questions propounded and worthy to be answered To satisfie you in the first To plant a family in religious Answer to the first How a family may be religiously planted feare of God I. Parents must bring vp such children well with which they will build vp a house acquaint them with the Lords will with duties of a husband and wife of a father and mother and so marry in iudgement before they marry and not in carnall lust Without knowledge of the former christian duties mens mariages are but Turkish and to marry in the latter only is sensual brutish II. Parents must see that the parties to be maried be fitted that their be no dislike in affection nor iarre in religion but that the marriage be made in loue and setled in Gods feare both beleeuers both imbracing one the same truth as neere as may be Abraham doth fetch a Rebecca for Isaac from his fathers house there is religion when Iehosaphat taking an Athalia for his sonne bringeth into his house idolatry and superstition To plant religion wee must bring in religion into a family by education and by a holy coniunction of them togither in the feare of God III. and lastly Parents must care that the religious persons religiously married bee religiously serued And therfore that such as become seruants to them bee of the same holy profession with them and of like conuersation And thus may a family be planted religiously Cal. What direction giue you for the second viz. to reforme a disordered family Ios The gouernour must do as in making Answer to the second question How a family may be reformed a new house where an olde stood hee must remooue the old wholly as far forth as it is vnprofitable and make the rest all new The man and the wife must be sound they bee the two side posts so their children who are as the beames laid ouerthwart if they be rotten though all the rest be new at the length the worke will fall Cal. How must they be made sound if they be rotten Ios By repenting of all former sin and negligence past and by vndertaking this work sincerely with a cōstant durablenes Cal. What timber is so rotten as wil neuer serue to be put in the new building Ios Euery one that persists in euill and will not be reformed Cal. But what if there be some such whom the master of the family cannot cast out Ios Let such so be in the house as they beare no rule in it neither any sound part depend or stay vpon them so shall there be neither breach nor ruine thereby Cal. What other meanes is there to reforme by Ios Secondly the gouernour must bring all his houshold in subiection to Gods word to heare and attend vnto the publike ministerie thereof as the ordinarie meanes to reclame men It is the power of Rom. 1. 18. Heb 4. 12. Psal 1●9 9. Pro. 2. 11. 12. 16. The benefit of religious exercises in houses God to saluation it is mighty in operation it cleanseth our waies and keepeth vs from all euill Thirdly he must set vp within his house religious exercises these make publike meanes more profitable more highly to be esteemed and the iudgement better to be setled euill hereby is preuented yea thrust out from the family bad persons hereby are tried and found out the well disposed made more religious and God not a litle glorified Cal. What are the holy exercises which you here speake of Ios Reading of the holy Scriptures the voice of God Catechising telling some short storie of some notable example in the word making vse thereof singing of psalmes and when the publike sermon hath bin heard to repeate therof as much as is remembred Cal. This say some will make seruants wearie and none will come to them Ios It were better to be without seruants then haue such as hate goodnesse but this same which is obiected and so much feared may be answered easily and the feare taken away The master to hold vp such good exercises and not to wearie his houshold must I. be towards all his seruants mercifull in giuing them a time to rest not to dogge them day and night to their labour as beasts II. He must performe al things seasnably not late in the night after toylsome labour whē wearines time it selfe doe inforce the body to sleepe III. He must not haue the same exercises held long at one time but auoid tedious prayers least one be speaking whilst the rest be sleeping as it falleth out sometime by the weaknesse of one the zealous indiscretion of an other IV. He must regard much a religious seruant reward him well and pray to God for such he shall not want godly seruants and be well rid of the lewd and prophane Caleb If seruants be encouraged godly discretion be vsed honest libertie graunted competent wages allowed tollerable labour onely vrged difference made and the best answerably rewarded there is no doubt either of getting or retaining seruants but how may a family reformed so be preserued Ios I. The chiefe must themselues keep good orders established their neglect Answer to the third question How to keepe in order a family reformed breeds in other carelesnes their omission occasioneth in other transgression II. They must make knowne their ful resolution to all in matters of religion that they will walke vprightly in the midst of the house that they will allow no order to be broken III. They must see to offences Psal 101. against God and religion more narrowly then iniuries done to themselues and rebuke and correct the one more then the other so doe they shew greater regard of God then respect of themselues IV. They must shew fauour to th● towardly pardō easily the first or second offence but not be remisse in punishing duly where and when the fault and partie offending iustly deserues correction this is so to be courteous in loue and compassion as an awefull hand may be kept ouer the family with godly discretion V. They must cast out the vile persons wilfull and Psal 101. obstinate mocking Ismaels may not remaine with Isaacs a little leauen leaueneth 1. Cor. 5. the whole lumpe one lewde person may doe much hurt VI. They may not receiue in any knowne wicked person for feare of infection VII They must will one to exhort another to a mutual emulation of grace louingly to admonish one an other and to pray one for another VIII They must keepe all frō idlenes the nurse or rather mother of all wickednesse as of pride in apparell wastfull expences vaine pastimes and other sinnes of the flesh to be abhorred among Christians IX

They must performe mutuall duties one to another masters to seruants and these to their masters but chiefly the husband and wife must loue each other if wrongs bee betweene them let themselues between thēselues or with the good liking of a faithfull secret friend to both be ended They must beware that the houshold become not partners in the matter for seruants by slander flattery and whisperings will kindle the contention and make a prey of them The contending of man and wife must neuer want loue but if any smite either by the tongue both must ioine in one against the smiter But to preuent this let none faile to performe what is due to be done Complaints arise first vpon neglect of duty the performance whereof is the touchstone of profession where the husband is louing the wife learnes obedience where the wife is obedient the husband is mooued to bee kinde by their well liuing the house is preserued in peace and where they two do as they ought to themselues their family the children seruants learn to walk in subiection and do in an awefull loue discharge their duties and hereby do they prouoke one another vnto piety continue loue and vnity in the spirit and keep vp holy exercises with prayer Lastly they must vpholde the publike ministery and preaching of the word without which by reason of the loosenesse of al other neighbours who do not voluntarily take a godly course priuately they can neuer continue long in good order Cal. It remaines only now to giue some reasons why the seuerall sorts in a family and so that all therein should be religious as first why the father master husband which are all one person in the house should be religious Why the husband should be religious Deut. 6. Exod. 20. Ephes 6. 4. Ios I. Because he is specially charged with instruction of the housholde and to see to thē Secondly because the family hath frō him chiefly the name Thirdly because he is the head Fourthly for a speciall exāple as most forcible to draw other on Fiftly because of the exāples of good gouernors of families as Abraham Cornelius other Sixtly for that he shall answer for his houshold as the minister for his flock Seuenthly to bring a blessing vppn his children Exod. 20. Cal. Why should the wife mother mistresse of the family be religious Ios First because she is the husbands shadow Why the wife should be religious or rather picture to represēt him in al good things and as the moone doth from the sunne so she is to receiue her light from him which she also is to let shine out to other Secōdly because she is to be an help to her husband now she can be in nothing more a helpe then in being with him religious to further his instructions taught to his houshold Thirdly for that the husbād is often from home shee is to supply his place to see the houshold kept in good order Fourthly for mutuall peace sake if she bee not religious shee will oppose him as a mocking Michol or as an idolatrus Iesabel cause him to forsake the worshippe of the tru God Fiftly because godly wiues are cōmēded for religion in scripuure which are to be followed Sixtly because shee is the first that instructs the child as being most with it causing it to vnderstand that which she doth please to teach it Seuenthly for that she beeing fraile by nature and apt without grace to goe astray herselfe may sooner as vsually it commeth to passe corrupt the child then the father by being so continually with it Cal. Why ought childrē to be religious Ios First for their godly parents sake Why children should be religious Secondly because they bee the second linke in a family and so in the middle betweene the highest and lowest they therefore next Parents must be religious that seruants by them grow not vicious Thirdly for their fathers ioy whose true sure comfort is not that their children can hunt so could prophane Esau nor that they be faire so was Absolom beautifull came to anill end nor that they be in Honour so was Saul a cast-way nor great Church-men so were Elies sonnes who perished in their sinnes but euen because they be religious for the grace of God endureth euer Fourthly for a blessing vnto themselues as God hath promised to all that feare him Fiftly for encouragement vnto their Parents beholding grace in them which will cause them to continue gracious lest their children lose grace Sixtly because they preserue the good name vpon their Parents get them honour and are a crowne of glory to them euen after death Cal. Why ought seruants to be religious Ios 1. For their masters praise 2. For Why seruants ought to be godly their owne comfort 3. Because good seruants are recorded in Scripture for imitation sake 4. Because whilest they be mens seruants they may bee the Lords free men by religion 5. To doe their seruice honestly as looking for reward from God 6. For childrens good whome leud seruants may easily misleade Cal. So then all ought to be religious that the master with his whole family may be said to serue the Lord as thou hast most noble Iosua promised this day for thy selfe and thy housholde Ios So it is and great is that blessing where all become the Lords true seruants religion their practise the holy word their guide there man and wife are brother and sister parents children of spirituall kindred and haue one father masters and seruants mutuall members co-heires with Christ Iesus there haue they one voice in prayer with deuotion one care to abandon superstition All performe mutuall duties one seeketh to please another to hold loue to keepe peace and to preserue a holy communion in charitie with pietie One distrusteth not another one wrongeth not another there is a godly striuing together who shall doe the best to please God They beare with weaknesses they ioy in each others goodnesse here they desire peace of conscience the fellowship of the godly Gods glorie they doe ayme at the world they liue in but euer with desire of heauen which God hath promised to all that walke righteously before him and serue him which grace the Lord vouchsafe vs now and euer Cal. Amen Amen But yet Sir before we end I beseech you commend to my meditation some speciall Scriptures to stir me vp vnto deuotion Ios If it please you for the godly mans blessednesse reade Psal 1. for his comfort Psal 37. Heb. 12. for his holy desires to Gods word and his obedience Psal 119. for his religious practise Iob. 31. Rom. 12. Heb. 13. for his faith Heb. 11. for his loue 1. Cor. 13. and for the effectuall markes of his vocation and eternall saluation Rom. 8. Cal. I thanke you humbly and blesse God for you whome I beseech to prosper these things to our comfort and that they may further vs to a