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A27012	Mr. Baxters rules & directions for family duties shewing how every one ought to behave himself in a Christian behaviour, suitable to that relation in which God hath placed him : wherein is set forth the duty of parents (required of God) towards their children, likewise childrens duty to their parents, husbands to their wives, and wives to their husbands, masters to their servants, and servants duty to their masters ...	Baxter, Richard, 1615-1691.	1681 (1681)	Wing B1379; ESTC R6732	4,972	3

all unseemly and immodest carriage with any other which may stir up jealousie and yet to avoid jealousie which is unjust 6ly To help each other to bear their burthens and not by Impatience to make them greater in poverty crosses sickness and dangers to comfort and to support each other and to be delightful Companions in Holy Love and Heavenly hopes and duties when all other outward comforts faile The more special duties of Husbands are to exercise Love and Authority together never seperated to his Wife 2ly To be chief teacher and governour of the Family and provider for its maintainance to excell the Wife in Knowledge and Patience and to be her Teacher and guide in the matters of God and to keep up the Wives Authority Honour in the Family over inferiors The special duties of Wives are to excell in Love and 2ly Be obedient to their Husbands and examples therein to the rest of the Family submissively to learn of their Husbands that can teach them and not to be self conceited talktive or imperious to subdue their passions not to tempt their Husband to satisfie their vain desire in Pride Excess Revenge or any evil not to rob God and the poor by a proud wastfull humour 5ly To govern their Tongues that their words be few and grave and sober 6ly To be contented in every condition to avoid the Childish vanity of gaudy Apparel and following of vain fashions of the prouder sort 7ly To help on the maintainance of the family by frugality not to dispose of her Husbands Estate without his consent 8ly Above all to be constant helpers for the Holy Education of their Children for this is the most eminent Service that women can do in the world she must daily Catechise them and teach them to know God and mind them of the world to come and teach them to pray The duty of Children to Parents IS to love them dearly and to be thankfull for all that love care which they can never requite 2ly to learn of them submisively especially the Doctrine of salvation 3ly To obey them diligently in all lawful things in obedience to God 4ly To honour them in thought words and actions and to avoid all appearance of slighting dishonour and contempt 5ly To be contented with their Parents Allowance and Provisions and willing and ready to such labour or imployment as they command them 6ly To take patiently the reprooffs and corrections of their Parents and to confess their faults with humble penitence and to amend 7ly To use such company as their Parents command them and not to run into the company of vain and tempting persons 8ly To be content with such a Calling as their Parents choose for them 9ly To marry by their Parents choice or consent only 10ly To relieve their Parents if they need Gen. 9. ch 22. Prov. 30 ch 17. 13. 24. Prov. 6 ch 20 ver Col. 3 ch 20 ver A short prayer for Children LEt thy blessing O Lord be upon my Parents and Governours cause them to instruct and Educate me in thy fear cause mee with thankfulness to receive their instruction and to love honour and obey them in obedience to thee keep mee from the snares of evil Company Temptations and yotuhful pleasures and let mee be a companion of those that fear God let my daily delight be to meditate on thy Law and let me never have the mark of the ungodly to be a Lover of Pleasure more than of God furnish my Youth with those Treasures of Wisdom and Holiness which may be daily increased and used to thy Glory All this I beg and hope for on the account and merits of Jesus Christ my Saviour saying as he hath taught me Our Father which art in Heaven hallowed be thy Name c. The duty of Masters towards their Servants IS to rule them with that gentleness as becometh fellow Christians and yet with such Authority as that they be not encouraged to contempt 2ly To restrain them from sinning against God 3ly To instruct them in the Doctrine of Salvation and pray with them and go before them by the example of a sober life 4ly To keep them from evil company and temptations and opportunity 〈◊〉 sinning 5ly To set them upon meet labours to keep no idle Serving men nor yet to over-labour them to the injury of their Health nor command them any unlawfull thing 6ly To provide them such Food and Lodging as is wholesome and meet for them and to pay them what Wages is due to them by promise or desert 7ly To bear patiently with their daily infirmities and such frailties as must be expected in mankind Eph. 6 ch 9. 10 ver Col. 4. ch 12. 3. ver The duty of Servants to their Masters FIrst to honour and reverence them and obey them in all lawful things belonging to their places to command and to avoid all words and carriage which savour of dishonour contempt or disobedience 2ly To perform all labour willingly which they undertake and is required of them and that without grudging and to be as faithful behind their Masters backs as before their faces 3ly To be trusty in word and deed and abhor lying and deceit not to wrong their Masters in buying or selling or by stealing any thing that is theirs no not meat nor drink against their Will but being as thrifty and carefull for their Masters profit as if it were their own not to murmer at the means of ●ood that is wholesome nor to desire a life of fulness ease and idleness 5ly To be more careful to do their duty to their Masters then how their Masters shall use them because ●in is worse than suffering 6ly Not to reveale the Secrets of the Family abroad to Strangers or Neighbours 7ly Thankfully to receive Instructions and to learn God's word and to observe the Lords day and seriously joyn in publick and private worshipping of God 8ly To bear patiently reprooff and due correction and to confess faults and to amend 9ly To pray daily for a blessing on the Family on their labours and themselves 10ly To do all this in true obedience to God expecting their reward from him 1 Pet. 2. ch 18. Tit. 2 ch 9. ver 1 Tim. 6 chap. 12 ver Col. 3 ch 22. 2● Eph. 6 ch 5 ver Matt. 10 ch 24 ver The Servants Prayer O Lord as thou hast made mee a Servant make mee co●sionable and faithful in my place trusty and carefull 〈◊〉 my Masters Goods and business as I would be if it 〈◊〉 my own make me submissive and obedient to my govern●● 〈◊〉 keep mee from Self-will and Pride from murmuring and 〈◊〉 iterant speeches from falshood sloathfulness all deceit that 〈◊〉 be not an Eye Servant pleasing my Lust fleshly Appetite 〈◊〉 may chearfully and willingly do my duty as believing that 〈◊〉 art the revenger of all unfaithfulness and may 〈…〉 not only as unto man but as unto the Lord expecting from 〈◊〉 my chief reward All this I beg on the account of the 〈◊〉 of my dear Saviour Jesus Christ concluding in the 〈…〉 hath taught us Our father which art in Heaven c. Printed by 〈◊〉 for J. Conyers in Duck lane 〈…〉 There is lately Printed a most exellent sheet called Si●●s Groans or The distressed State of the 〈◊〉 Church

Mr. BAXTERS Rules Directions for Family Duties Shewing how every one ought to behave himself in a Christian behaviour suitable to that Relation in which God hath placed him Wherein is set forth the duty of Parents required of God towards their Children likewise Childrens duty to their Parents Husbands to their Wives and Wives to their Husbands Masters to Servants and Servants duty to their Masters A work of great use the serious practise thereof would establish peace and prosperity in all Families and promote the power of godliness throughout the Nation And necessary to be set up in every House Josh 24. chap. 15. ver As for mee and my House we will serve the Lord Psal 50. 23. To him that ordereth his Conversation aright will I shew the Salvation of the Lord. The Obligations and duty of Parents required of God towards their Children in their Educating of them in godliness BE sure in the first place that you do your part in entring them at first into the Baptismal Covenant 1. See that you be true to your Covenant your self for the promise is made to the true Christians and their Seed Eph. 2 Ch. 13. Gen. 17 Ch. 4. 13. 14. 2ly Do not think that his Bare being the Child of godly Parents is his full condition of Right to the benefits of the Covenant that is but the Fundamental part but you must Actually dedicate him to God in Baptism Deut. 29. ch 11. 12. ver Rom. 11 ch 16 John 3. ch 2. 5. The child of a Believer actually offered or dedicated to God is a rightfull Receiver of Baptism and its benefits 3ly Teach them therefore to know what Covenant they have made and then cease not till you have brought them heartily to consent to it at Age themselves and then bring them to the Minister of the Church that he may Solemnly own the Covenant made in his Baptism and so may be Admitted into the Number of Adult Communicating Members in a regular way Teach them the words of the Covenant 2 Tim. 1 ch 13. and also the Creed the Lords Prayer and the Commandements and the Catechism teach them the meaning of them and the way of practising all labour to possess them with the greatest Reverence of God and the Holy Scriptures then shew them the Word of God for all that you would teach them to know or do 2ly Never speak to them of God and Holy things but with the greatest gravity and reverence for if they are used once to slight or jest or play with Holy things they are hardened and undone Use often to take an Account of what they know and what they do both in their open and secret practise leave them not carelesly to themselves but narrowly watch over them 3ly Use all your skill and diligence by word and deed to make a Holy Life appear to them as it is the most honourable profitable safe and pleasant life in the world that it may be their constant delight make good things pleasant to them keep them from feeling Religion as Burthensom or unpleasant or a needless thing First begin with the easiest parts as Scripture Histories and then Church Histories let them read the Lives of Holy Men written by Mr. Samuel Clark and his Martyroligy and the Lives of Mr. Bolton and Mr. Joseph Allir Mr. Janeway Dr. Beards Theatre of Gods Judgments speak much to them of the praise of Ancient and latter Holy men be much in opening to them the Riches of Grace and the joyes of glory exercise them much in Psalms and praising God let your discourse with them be much in the disgrace of Sensuality Pride and wordlyness tell them how Pride is the Devils sin which cast him from Heaven when others tell them of Riches Honours and Preferments do you tell them these are the Devils baites to allure and steal thy Heart from God that they may be damned make them often read Luk 12 ch 16. 18. ver Jam. 14 ch 5. ver Rom. 8 ch 12. ver Matt. 5 ch 21. 6. ver Wisely break them of their own Wills and let them know that they must obey and like Gods Will and yours Let their Apparell be plain and decent not gaudy be sure when they come to years of ripen that you keep them from opportunity nearness or familiarity with tempting Persons of another Sex Be sure you ingage your Children in good Company and keep them as much as possible out of bad wicked Children will infact them before you are aware as to drink to swear to game to talk filthily to lying and to make a mock of godliness and Sobriety Teach them to know the value of precious time and the shortness of this Life and to set death still before their eyes use them to read good Books let your correction of them be wisely used as they need it not too severely as to disaffect them to you nor so little as to leave them in a course of sin and disobedience let it be alwayes in love Pray earnestly for them and commit them by Faith to Christ into whose Covenant you did ingage them Go before them by a holy Life let your practice tell them what you would have them be especially in representing godliness delightful and in living in the joyful hopes of Heaven Choose such Trades for them that have least dangerous temptations and when marriagable provide such for them as are truly Suitable and stay not till Lust and Folly insnate them These are the Counsels which I earnestly recommend to you in this important work for your Childrens Souls are so precious and the difference between the good and bad so great that all this must not seem too much for I take the due Education of Children for the needfullest and excellent work in the world especially for Mothers The duties of Husbands to their Wives and Wives to their Husbands THe Common duty of Husband and Wife is to love each other Eph. 5 ch 25. ver Husbands love your Wives even as Christ loved his Church and therefore choose one that is truly lovely and proceed in your choice with great deliberation and avoid all things as tend to quench Love 2ly Dwell together and enjoy each other 1 Cor. 7 ch 29. ver and faithfully joyn together in the Education of your Children the government of your Family and the management of your worldly business 3ly Especially to be helpers of each others salvation to stir up each other to Faith Love and Obedience and good works to warn and help each other against sin and all temptations to joyn in Gods worship in the Family and in private to prepare each other for the approach of Death and comfort each other in the hopes of life eternal 4ly To avoid all dissentions and to bear with those Infirmities in each other which you cannot cure to asswage and not to provoke unruly passions and in lawful things to please each other 5ly To keep continual Chastity and fidelity and to avoid