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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	child_n	husband_n	wife_n	7,705	5	7.0226	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A12203	The spirituall-mans aime guiding a Christian in his affections and actions, through the sundry passages of this life, so that Gods glory, and his owne salvation may be the maine end of all / by the faithfull and reverend divine, R. Sibbes ... ; published by T.G. and P.N.	Sibbes, Richard, 1577-1635.	1637 (1637)	STC 22513; ESTC S1655	25,951	96

that way Was not Adam led away by his wife and how many men perish by being too Vxorious by being too flexible in that kinde If they had remembred the Apostles precept to marry as if they had not they would not have been so drawne away Therefore there is a danger and a restraint upon that danger Let those that have wives be as though they had none What to use them as if they had none to care for them as if they had none No that is not the meaning but to be as if they had none That is Let them be as resolute for Gods Truth as if they had no wives to hinder them Let them bee as willing to suffer crosses if God call them as if they had none Let them bee as readie to good Duties if it fall within their Calling as if they had none Let them avoyde distracting Cares and worldly Incumbrances as if they had none Let them not pretend their Marriage to their basenesse and worldlinesse and for avoyding of Crosses and aflictions when God is pleased to call them unto them Let them not pretend Marriage for their doubling in Religion and dissembling I shall undoe my wife and children Let them bee as if they had none for Christ hath given us direction to hate all in respect of Christ. A man is not worthy of Christ and of Religion that undervalues not wife and children and all for the Gospell If things stand in question whether he shall stick to them or to Christ his chiefe husband then we must sticke to him The reason is the bond of Religion is above all bonds And the bond that bindes us to Christ it abides when all bonds cease for all bonds betweene husband and wife betweene father and children they end in death but the bond of Christ is eternall And therefore every bond must serve the maine bond and therefore we must not pretend this and that to wrong Christ and Religion which is the maine bond Wee must so labour to please others that we displease not our chiefe husband For the time will bee when wee shall neither marry nor give in Marriage but we shall bee as the Angells and that time shall be without bounds and limites for Eternitie and wee must looke to that And therefore those that marrie Let them be as if they were not married You know how it fared with him in the Gospell that pretended this for his not coming to Christ hee that was married saith I cannot come he could not his excuse was more peremptory then the rest he couldnot Could this excuse him And will pretending this excuse men when they are called to duties There is that disproportion so much between Christ our chiefe Husband and any other though it be the wife of our bosome or the children of our loines the one having redeemed us and is our best husband a husband for Eternitie in heaven that no excuse will serve the turne for a man to wrong the bond of Religion for any bond whatsoever And therefore you know the peremptorie answer to him that pretended that excuse You shall never taste of my feast But I have beene too long in this point intending other matters And those that weepe as though they wept not It is lawfull to weepe not onely for sinne that should be the main but likewise to weep for the miseries of the time and state we live in There is a libertie here Oh! that my head were a fountaine of teares saith Ieremiah he thought he could not weepe enough and therefore he wisheth that his head were a Fountaine hee thought his teares would soone be dry Oh! that my head were a fountaine so that there is a liberty to weepe Nay men are bound to weepe There are teares of sympathy for the miserie of the State and time we live in And so for familie-losses and crosses wee are flesh and not spirit and God hath made us men and hath given us sensible apprehensions of griefe and it is a cursed temper to bee without Naturall affection Wee may weep and we may grieve nay we ought to grieve Now griefe is as it were the cloud from whence the showre of teares comes and weeping is but a distillation of that vapour Now if wee may grieve and ought to grieve for the times and it is a stupid temper not to apprehend the miseries of the state times we live in if we may grieve we may weep that is put for the Spring whence weeping comes For griefe it selfe there is a liberty no question of that wee may weepe but we must weepe as if wee wept not For there is a danger in weeping over much for any crosses Here is a danger for wee may flatter our griefe too much for wives or children God takes it ill he takes it unkindely that when Christ himselfe is a perpetuall husband and God is an Everlasting Father that we should weepe and grieve too much for the losse of father or of wife or of childe For is not God worth all So there is a danger that naturally we are prone to over grieve when wee doe grieve as we are to over-joy when we doe joy for our Nature can hardly keepe bounds and God takes it unkindely when we doe so when wee over-grieve for it is a signe wee fetch not that comfort from him that is the Spring and Fountaine that wee should doe And therefore let those that weepe be as if they wept not That is not over-much For the time is short doest thou loose any friend or any thing The time is short we shall meet againe There is but a little time betweene this and the latter Judgement And the fashion of this world passeth away There will be a new World a new heaven and a new earth And then wee shall live for ever with the Lord. And then my Brethren Why Brethren should not be without hope of the Resurrection as the Gentiles are They may weepe that never thinke to see one another againe But a Christian a brother that hath hope of meeting againe let not him weepe as without hope so let us weepe as if wee wept not So hee layes a restraint upon that nay though our weeping bee for sinne there must be a moderation in that for wee may over-grieve for wee are bound to Ioy in the Lord and alway to reioyce And therefore wee must weepe for sinne so as wee must remember to Ioy. Wee must with one eye looke upon our sinnes to humble us and to worke upon our hearts to grieve but with the other Eye wee must looke upon Gods mercie in Christ to comfort us againe The best griefe of all must bee moderate much more griefe for any earthly thing Now when we are tempted to over-grieve for any earthly thing the best way is diversion Doe I grieve for these I but is my soule as it should be Let me weepe over my dead soule as Christ wept