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government_n will_v allow_v her_o child_n and_o servant_n to_o be_v loud_a and_o brawl_a before_o she_o and_o shall_v she_o before_o her_o husband_n be_v so_o herself_o what_o be_v become_v of_o inferiority_n then_o yea_o her_o reverence_n do_v enjoin_v her_o silence_n when_o she_o stand_v by_o i_o mean_v not_o utter_a abstinence_n from_o speech_n but_o use_v few_o word_n and_o those_o low_a and_o mild_a not_o eager_a 2.11_o 2_o tim_n 2.11_o not_o loud_a paul_n command_v the_o woman_n to_o learn_v in_o silence_n the_o word_n be_v in_o quietness_n wherein_o be_v not_o alone_o injoine_v a_o public_a but_o even_o a_o general_a silence_n to_o hold_v in_o the_o house_n and_o other_o like_o meeting_n for_o why_o shall_v that_o be_v restrain_v without_o any_o need_n which_o do_v well_o receive_v a_o large_a extent_n the_o reason_n of_o which_o duty_n be_v ground_v even_o upon_o the_o consideration_n of_o the_o two_o sex_n for_o even_o as_o youth_n be_v inferior_a to_o age_n and_o the_o 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not_o call_v he_o by_o light_a name_n nor_o talk_v of_o he_o with_o any_o kind_n of_o carelessness_n and_o slightness_n of_o speech_n much_o less_o with_o despiteful_a and_o reproachful_a term_n herein_o the_o godly_a fact_n of_o sarah_n commend_v to_o our_o imitation_n must_v be_v follow_v in_o practice_n when_o she_o think_v of_o her_o husband_n in_o the_o absence_n of_o all_o company_n she_o entitle_v he_o by_o the_o name_n of_o my_o lord_n if_o in_o her_o private_a conceit_n she_o give_v he_o so_o good_a and_o honourable_a title_n what_o will_v she_o have_v do_v in_o company_n what_o in_o his_o own_o presence_n what_o unto_o himself_o so_o the_o woman_n must_v inure_v themselves_o to_o submissivenesse_n of_o thought_n and_o speech_n in_o their_o husband_n absence_n that_o they_o may_v the_o better_o practice_v the_o same_o in_o their_o presence_n for_o custom_n in_o this_o thing_n have_v great_a force_n who_o will_v brook_v a_o child_n speak_v disgraceful_o and_o murmur_v of_o his_o father_n behind_o his_o back_n and_o shall_v it_o be_v suffer_v in_o a_o wife_n by_o how_o much_o here_o be_v more_o certain_a trial_n of_o she_o her_o inward_a affection_n &_o disposition_n by_o so_o much_o must_v she_o be_v more_o attentive_a to_o her_o word_n in_o such_o case_n very_o dread_n may_v make_v a_o woman_n give_v good_a word_n before_o her_o husband_n face_n because_o she_o dare_v do_v no_o other_o and_o he_o will_v brook_v none_o other_o but_o this_o show_v a_o conscionable_a subjection_n when_o she_o will_v not_o think_v nor_o speak_v of_o he_o though_o he_o be_v far_o from_o hear_v without_o some_o note_n of_o good_a regard_n that_o those_o which_o hear_v may_v perceive_v she_o do_v account_n of_o he_o as_o her_o governor_n and_o she_o better_o he_o that_o allow_v not_o a_o evil_a thought_n of_o the_o prince_n will_v not_o allow_v evil_a speech_n of_o the_o husband_n in_o private_a talk_n between_o neighbour_n for_o he_o be_v the_o household_n prince_n the_o 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it_o be_v in_o the_o lord_n in_o whatsoever_o thing_n obey_v of_o he_o do_v not_o disobey_v god_n she_o must_v obey_v and_o if_o not_o in_o all_o thing_n it_o be_v as_o good_a in_o nothing_o it_o be_v a_o thankless_a service_n if_o not_o general_a to_o yield_v alone_o in_o thing_n that_o please_v herself_o be_v not_o to_o obey_v he_o but_o her_o own_o affection_n the_o trial_n of_o obedience_n be_v when_o it_o cross_v her_o desire_n to_o do_v that_o which_o he_o bid_v when_o she_o will_v have_v do_v without_o his_o bid_n what_o praise_n be_v it_o but_o this_o declare_v conscionable_a submission_n when_o she_o choose_v to_o do_v what_o herself_o will_v not_o because_o her_o husband_n will_n it_o and_o see_v she_o require_v the_o like_a largeness_n of_o duty_n in_o his_o name_n from_o the_o servant_n herself_o shall_v be_v judge_n against_o herself_o if_o she_o give_v not_o what_o she_o look_v to_o receive_v but_o if_o suffice_v not_o that_o her_o obedience_n reach_v to_o all_o thing_n 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husband_n there_o he_o tell_v he_o home_o of_o his_o duty_n it_o be_v not_o long_o since_o he_o show_v himself_o neither_o wise_a nor_o gentle_a i_o will_v he_o will_v see_v to_o amend_v unwise_a man_n unwise_a woman_n why_o have_v thou_o not_o most_o care_n of_o thy_o own_o soul_n can_v thou_o mark_v what_o be_v good_a for_o another_o disease_n not_o what_o for_o thy_o own_o will_v thou_o grow_v skilful_a in_o his_o way_n and_o not_o know_v one_o foot_n of_o that_o wherein_o thyself_o must_v travel_v brethren_n sister_n let_v this_o be_v alter_v in_o us._n if_o thou_o be_v a_o christian_a husband_n have_v more_o care_n to_o know_v that_o and_o be_v more_o frequent_a in_o consider_v that_o for_o which_o thy_o own_o soul_n must_v answer_v than_o what_o lie_n to_o the_o account_n of_o another_o so_o do_v thou_o that_o be_v a_o christian_a wife_n and_o that_o man_n or_o woman_n that_o see_v not_o more_o fault_n and_o fail_n in_o he_o or_o herself_o then_o the_o yoke-fellow_n bewray_v 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not_o what_o they_o owe._n i_o doubt_v not_o but_o experience_n will_v back_o my_o speech_n if_o i_o pronounce_v that_o they_o be_v not_o the_o best_a husband_n &_o wife_n which_o be_v hear_v to_o complain_v much_o of_o their_o yoke-fellowe_n defect_n in_o duty_n little_a of_o their_o own_o and_o yet_o be_v not_o this_o ordinary_a every_o man_n will_v be_v a_o good_a husband_n if_o his_o wife_n be_v not_o so_o bad_a &_o she_o a_o good_a wife_n be_v not_o he_o so_o excessive_o faulty_a all_o the_o accusation_n all_o the_o judging_n be_v dat_v at_o each_o other_o what_o folly_n be_v this_o understand_v idle_a man_n and_o woman_n it_o be_v not_o the_o require_v or_o receive_v of_o duty_n from_o other_o but_o the_o know_v &_o perform_v of_o what_o pertain_v to_o thyself_o that_o will_v prove_v thou_o a_o christian_n comfort_v thou_o in_o temptation_n rejoice_v thou_o in_o death_n and_o stand_v for_o thou_o in_o judgement_n and_o yet_o be_v thou_o soloud_n and_o much_o in_o call_v for_o duty_n so_o mute_a and_o dumb_a and_o ignorant_a in_o yield_v it_o to_o conclude_v therefore_o know_v thy_o own_o duty_n best_o mark_v most_o thy_o own_o transgressing_n of_o duty_n then_o shall_v thou_o be_v free_a from_o brawl_n with_o thy_o yoke-fellow_n if_o thou_o be_v take_v up_o with_o pain_n about_o thyself_o and_o there_o be_v no_o better_a mean_n of_o peace_n in_o family_n than_o that_o every_o one_o shall_v learn_v and_o ply_v his_o own_o work_n see_v and_o labour_n to_o mend_v his_o own_o fault_n have_v you_o then_o be_v both_o or_o either_o unchaste_a unloving_a unfaithful_a repent_v both_o and_o strain_v not_o courtesy_n who_o shall_v begin_v but_o let_v either_o set_v other_o a_o copy_n of_o goodness_n and_o if_o you_o will_v needs_o strive_v let_v it_o be_v which_o shall_v be_v the_o best_a which_o mend_v first_o have_v thou_o be_v a_o foolish_a passionate_a unjust_a husband_n full_a of_o bitter_a word_n perhaps_o also_o which_o be_v monstrous_a of_o blow_n in_o anger_n seek_v and_o serve_v thyself_o alone_a and_o not_o regard_v thy_o wife_n good_a so_o thou_o may_v go_v away_o with_o thy_o own_o will_n dive_v not_o into_o her_o fault_n cry_v not_o out_o she_o have_v be_v thus_o and_o thus_o to_o i_o but_o repent_v of_o thy_o bitterness_n unthriftines_n folly_n of_o all_o sort_n confess_v it_o to_o god_n beseech_v he_o to_o make_v thou_o a_o better_a husband_n that_o thy_o wife_n may_v be_v better_o have_v thou_o be_v a_o disdainful_a contemptuous_a brawl_a impatient_a discontent_a and_o disobedient_a wife_n ask_v thou_o hear_v before_o god_n and_o dissemble_v nor_o if_o yea_o clamour_v not_o against_o thy_o husband_n folly_n exclaim_v not_o of_o his_o rashness_n and_o hardness_n but_o condemn_v thyself_o before_o and_o call_v upon_o god_n to_o make_v thou_o fear_v and_o obey_v thy_o husband_n as_o a_o commander_n under_o he_o entreat_v he_o of_o mercy_n to_o make_v thou_o better_o that_o thy_o husband_n also_o may_v be_v better_o follow_v the_o proverb_n and_o let_v every_o of_o you_o mend_v one_o i_o mean_v himself_o and_o contention_n will_v cease_v pray_v for_o each_o one_o self_n first_o then_o for_o each_o other_o where_o you_o have_v offend_v labour_v to_o see_v it_o confess_v bewail_v it_o and_o call_v for_o power_n to_o reform_v and_o be_v not_o skilful_a to_o cast_v the_o fault_n upon_o another_o but_o to_o cast_v it_o out_o of_o thyself_o so_o shall_v your_o love_n be_v sure_a your_o heart_n comfortable_a your_o example_n commendable_a your_o house_n peaceable_a yourselves_o joyful_a your_o life_n cheerful_a your_o death_n bless_v and_o your_o memory_n happy_a for_o ever_o 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d finis_fw-la ¶_o the_o duty_n of_o the_o marry_a people_n be_v either_o 1._o principal_a the_o breach_n of_o which_o annihilate_v the_o former_a covenant_n by_o they_o make_v which_o be_v 1._o the_o chaste_a keep_n of_o their_o body_n for_o each_o other_o to_o which_o be_v oppose_v adultery_n sect_n 3._o 2._o cohabitation_n or_o dwell_v together_o to_o which_o be_v oppose_v desertion_n sect_n 4._o 2._o less_o principal_a the_o breach_n whereof_o notwithstanding_o the_o comnant_n be_v firm_a and_o these_o be_v of_o two_o sort_n 1._o such_o as_o concern_v their_o ordinary_a society_n of_o life_n which_o be_v either_o 1._o mutual_a such_o as_o both_o must_v mutual_o perform_v which_o do_v respect_n either_o 1._o their_o person_n and_o these_o be_v 1._o love_n sect_n 7._o 2._o faithfulness_n &_o helpfulnes_n conjoin_v sect_n 11._o 2._o their_o family_n as_o concern_v their_o 1._o maintenance_n sect_n 13._o 2._o govern_v sect_n 14._o 2._o special_a pertain_v to_o either_o separately_z 1._o the_o husband_n who_o duty_n be_v 1._o to_o keep_v his_o authority_n sect_n 15._o 2._o to_o use_v his_o authority_n of_o which_o i_o show_v 1._o the_o end_n sect_n 16._o 2._o the_o manner_n with_o three_o virtue_n 1._o wisdom_n sect_n 18._o 2._o meekness_n sect_n 21._o 3._o justice_n sect_n 26._o 2._o the_o wife_n who_o duty_n be_v 1._o to_o confess_v her_o inferiority_n sect_n 27._o 2._o to_o carry_v herself_o as_o inferior_a 1._o in_o reverence_n sect_n 29._o 2._o obedience_n sect_n 34._o 2._o such_o as_o concern_v their_o society_n in_o the_o marriagebed_n that_o it_o be_v 1._o love_v sect_n 35._o 2._o sanctify_a sect_n 35._o 3._o seasonable_a sect_n 35._o