Selected quad for the lemma: duty_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	child_n	father_n	parent_n	9,669	5	9.1242	5	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A52447	Observations and advices oeconomical	North, Dudley North, Baron, 1602-1677.	1669 (1669)	Wing N1286; ESTC R616	31,061	156

is naturally the Milk of her Breasts Unhappy therefore are those Children whose Mother is ravished from them by Death during that time she being so obliged to a careful preservation as their being lost by negligence is a kind of Murder in her And whereas many times after such losse of a true Mother a second marriage brings the Name and not the Nature of the Mother and sometimes there groweth a disaffection to the Children upon a second brood it then concerns the Father to double his care putting on as much of a Mother as is possible for those of his Sex to do X. Male Children when they become disciplinable fall under government of the Father whose duty in the first place is to infuse into them the general Principles of Religion and then as he shall be able to preserve them from the rust of Idleness a certain Bane of Youth In this he cannot be too sedulous for as well the defects as faults of Young persons which are generated by want of good education do justly become imputable rather to their Parents than to themselves The Father must therefore take into Consideration his own Condition which if it be Mechanical may find them employment at home But if he be of the chief Gentry as we treat little of others his Children may be directed unto wayes of a more refined nature and in my opinion Parents of such condition are praise-worthy who cause all their Male Children to undertake some Profession of the more Noble way whereof this Kingdom affordeth good plenty as that of Divinity of the Laws Common and Civil of Soldiery and of Physick Neither is Merchandise to be contemned whereunto in forrain Lands persons of the most Honourable condition do apply themselves And though the care of Daughters do chiefly belong to the Mother yet Parents of Eminency shall do well to place them fitly and seasonably in Marriage which the wise Siracides calls the performance of a weighty matter yet that endeavour is better spared if the Daughter shall be found so much better disposed as to embrace S. Paul's counsel of perpetual Virginity XI Howsoever Daughters are designed either to a Single or Married life there must be a due preparation called Breeding of which a word or two Virginity is a precious thing but most precious when preserved in a Religious consideration It is a perfection that was unknown in the Church of God till Christs Incarnation for the Jews did neither enjoyn nor exercise it but were so averse as if the Learned Selden deliver truth those men who did not apply themselves to the getting of Children except some few men who dedicated themselves to study of the Jewish Law were esteemed as bad as homicides being very great offenders against the first general Commandment Encrease and multiply But with us Christians perpetual Chastity is most commendable but to oblige themselves to it is onely proper for those who have the gift of Continence which is not every person for otherwise our blessed Saviour having said that some have made themselves Eunuchs for the Kingdom of Heavens sake would not have added Qui capere potest capiat Let him receive it who can Therefore it may be mischievous to enjoyn it which deserves the Consideration of Roman Catholicks who are said sometimes to oblige their Children to such a Vow though indisposed to it For these different Courses of life there are different wayes of breeding but in each there must be a training up to Vertue and Piety A Single life is the better part giving a capability of beginning the heavenly joyes here on Earth by an uninterrupted Contemplation of the Divine Excellencies These young Women cannot be too little inur'd to vanity since the true businesse of their life is a pursuance of their dedication and worldly businesses are but accidental But the other sort which in this faece Romuli or corrupted race of People are thousands for one may be permitted as S. Paul saith to care for the things of this World that they may please their Husbands and therefore it seems that in their breeding such strictnesse is not required as in educating the others neither is vanity so much to be declined From this it followeth that these may assume some liberty to dresse and adorn their persons as also to exercise themselves in Musick and other Courtly entertainments If excesse be avoided and if their only end of such their employment be to give contentment to a Husband Yet such trifles must not be used to destroy the learning of more necessary things as the wayes of Domestical thrift with the well governing of a Family much lesse may they take up so much time as not to leave sufficient for the performance of Religious duties XII Enough hath been said to shew that Children are a blessing to the Parents yet they may be unprofitable for the same Siracides gives it as a Precept not to desire a multitude of unprofitable Children nay sometimes they prove dangerous as it was with our second Henry who had many Sons and most of them Rebellious so as before his death he bitterly Cursed two of them who survived him and never would be perswaded by his Bishops to revoke the Curse And David was no lesse unhappy in his Sons I except Solomon though he made but ill use of his Wisdom and this seemeth to have befallen him by his own default of too much indulgence to them for in Scripture there is such a Note set upon him in the case of Adonijah and the same may be observed in Eli whose negligence of reproof deprived his Family of that great Dignity of the Priesthood Solomon therefore had good reason to say He who spareth the Rod hateth his Son XIII Having spoken of Children I shall take the freedom to say something by way of Comparison between our English Law and the Civil or Imperial as they relate to Succession for Inheritance By the Civil Law every man is capable of having legal issue as well as natural and may adopt whom he will though he have posterity otherwise These adopted Children are as Capable of Inheritance as the natural so as not onely the Childlesse person may provide himself of an Heir but any other man use his judgment in choosing one educated and of inclination according to his mind Why this is wholly rejected in our Law is left to conjecture Our Lawyers have this saying that God onely makes Heirs and we know that he can make better choyce then we our selves Sure I am it may well become us to submit to his determination To this it may be added that there is not so much need of Adoption with Northern people as with Southern for we are more fruitful and generative than they And by Adoption there is a total change of Blood and a change more certain then if the Succession were Spurious or of Bastards by the Fathers side This is very injurious to Progenitors