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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	child_n	command_v	parent_n	3,363	5	9.0411	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A81235	Correction, instruction or, a treatise of afflictions: first conceived by way of private meditations: afterward digested into certain sermons, preach'd at Aldermanbury. And now published for the help and comfort of humble suffering Christians. By Tho. Case, M.A. sometimes student of Ch. Ch. Oxon. now preacher of the Gospel in London.	Case, Thomas, 1598-1682.	1652 (1652)	Wing C824; Thomason E1329_1; ESTC R209098	113,561	301

have layd the foundation of their own forrows their childrens ruine and the desolation of the Nation in the looseness and delicacy of their education and yet are not sensible of it to this day We have not corrected our children and therefore God is correcting us in our children We * God makes our children our rods because we have withheld the rod from them We gave them too much rest and therefore they give us none Pro. 29 17 Levit. 26 have not cross'd them in their wills and therefore God doth cross us in our wills We have walked even in this point exceedingly contrary to God and to his Discipline and therefore God is walking contrary to us and is punishing us seven times more for this iniquity And therefore Oh that Parents would at length awaken themselves to follow both the pattern and precept of their heavenly Father who as he correcteth whom he loveth so he commands them to correct Melius est perire in virga patris quam in blandimentis perire praedonis if they love their children Withhold not correction from the child for if thou correct him with the Rod he shall not dye If the Rod draw blood should need be it is ad salutem it is as the Physician deals with them to prevent a feaver a feaver of boyling passions here and of boyling fire and brimstone hereafter it is to cure not to kill yea thou killest if thou dost not wound and therfore again I say withhold it not Give the rod unto thy childe and he will one day give thee thanks for it Yea it is worth observation that the same word in the original 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 which is translated withhold signifieth also to forbid meeting with another distemper in Parents who as they will not correct their children themselves so also they forbid others to correct them under whose tuition they put them As if they were afraid their children would not have sin enough here nor hell enough hereafter they lay in Caveats against the means which God hath sanctified for their reclaiming What tears of blood are sufficient to bewail this folly You that are godly-wise and wisely-loving take heed of it and when you commit your children to others hands do not in the mean while hold their hands if thou judgest them not wise why dost thou chuse them if thou chuse them why dost thou not trust them Well then if the rod be in thine own hand withhold it not if in thy friends hand forbid it not Certainly there is great need of this duty which the Spirit of God doth frequently inculcate all along the Proverbs I will conclude this branch of the Exhortation with inverting the Counsel of our Saviour In this sence be ye not merciful that you may be the children of your heavenly Father Mat. 5.44 45 for whom he loveth he correcteth and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth Go thou and do likewise and this shall be your mercy and love to your children He that spareth the rod hateth his son Pro. 13.24 but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes Secondly 2 Exhort Add Instruction to Correction You that are Parents or in stead of Parents If you would have your children happy Add Instruction to correction imitate God in this part of patternal Discipline also let Chastisement and Instruction go together It is that which the Holy Ghost urgeth upon you Bring them up in the NURTURE and ADMONITION of the Lord Eph. 6.4 There be two words relating to both these Parental duties 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 in * Qua Pater erudit filium Bez. castigatione in the Chastisement or Correction and it is added of the Lord that is either in the Chastisement wherewith the Lord exerciseth his children or in the Chastisement which the Lord commandeth earthly Parents to exercise towards their children this is the first duty of which already And then there is another word which holdeth forth the end and design of Parental Correction and that is 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Monitis ex verbo Dei petitis sive sanctis Deo acceptis Bez. in the Admonition and Instruction of the Lord i. e. in Counsels and Instructions taken out of the Word of God or such as are approved of by God The sum is this That while we chasten the flesh Proprie fignificat admonitionem non simpliciter sed talem qualem in mentem pueri ponas ingerasquae sunt illi ad salutem necessaria Zanch. in loc we should labor to inform and form the minde and spirit by infusing right principles pressing and urging upon their tender hearts counsel reproof and instruction as the matter requireth This is the duty of Parents to imitate God to let Instruction expound Correction and with a rod in the hand and a word in the mouth to train up their children to life eternal A dumb rod is but a brutish Discipline and will leave the child as brutish as it found him Chastisement without teaching may sooner break the bones then the heart it may mortifie the flesh but not corruption extinguish nature but never beget grace But the Rod and REPROOF give wisdom Pro. 29.15 Instruction added to Correction as it makes excellent Christians so it makes good Children There be Parents that are severe and curst enough to their children they spare for no blows in stead of breaking them of their wills by a wise and moderate correction they are ready to break their bones and their necks too sometimes in their moods and passions But they never minde the other branch of Paternal Discipline sc Instruction and Admonition of such Parents I suppose the Apostle speaketh Heb. 12.9 10. We have had Fathers of our flesh who corrected and chastened us after THEIR OVVN PLEASURE He speaketh not of all Parents but his meaning is there be such men and women in the world who are most unlike to God and in smiting their children rather please themselves then profit their children He for our profit but they after their own pleasure to give vent to their passion and satisfie their vindictive rage and fury and when is that truly when the Rod and Reproof do not go together it is an argument there is more passion then judgment more lust then love in such chastisements Such Parents do rather betray their own folly then take a course to make their children wise Schola Crucis Schola Lucis The Rod and Reproof give wisdom neither alone will do it the Rod without Reproof will harden the heart and teach the children sooner to hate the Parent then to hate sin Absque afflictione nulli utilia discunt and Reproof without the Rod will leave no impression Reproofs of instruction are the way of life Pro 6.23 or Corrections of instruction a lesson set on with a whiping is best remembred It is divine truth that must be the instrument of working saving grace

in the heart Ioh. 17.17 Sanctifie them with thy truth thy Word is truth It is the commendation of Timothy his Mother that from his very infancy she instructeed him in the Scriptures 2 Tim. 3.15 cum cap. 2.5 Hierom. Chrysost Theoph. docent ex hoc loco Parentes etiam de Scripturis dehere instituere liberos suos That Parents ought to instruct their children in the holy Scriptures 2. Tim. 4.3 which were able to make him wise to Salvation When there is a divine sentence in the mouth of the Rod it brings wisdom and life with it And therefore O that Parents would imitate the Father of spirits in this blessed art of Paternal Discipline joyn the Word of Instruction to the Rod of Correction teach as well as chastise Reprove rebuke exhort with all long-suffering and doctrine It is true it is enjoyned Timothy as a Pastoral duty but it is as true that every Parent is a King a Prophet and a Priest A King to govern and chastise a Prophet to teach and instruct and a Priest to offer up spiritual sacrifice to God Prayer and Praise with and for the Family O that every childe might have cause to give their Parents that commendation Illa magis satagebat ut tu mihi pater esses quoniam sempiternam salutem charius parturiebat Confess l. 1. c. 11 which once Augustin gave his Mother in reference to his Baptism My mother saith he made it her business to make God my Father because she travelled with my everlasting salvation with more tenderness and sorrow then ever she did with my first birth O that natural Parents could bespeak the fruit of their loyns as S. Paul bespeaks his Galatians My little children Gal. 4.19 of whom I travel in birth again until Christ be formed in you that so they might rejoyce in the second more then ever they did in the first birth Why this is done by the Word and the Rod. Pro. 29.17 Correct thy son and he shall give thee rest yea he shall give delight unto thy Soul Correct how the 15 verse answers The Rod and Reproof give wisdom Thus give your Children correction and they shall give you rest and delight Though correction for the present do not give them rest for no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous but grievous yet it will make them give you rest and though correction doth not delight them yet it shall make them give delight to you 3 John 4 What greater delight then to see your children walking in the Truth and to think thus with your selves Quot dedit familia● juvenes totred●idit curiae consulares not as Cassiodor expresseth it that so many sons so many Counsellors to to the State but that so many children God hath given you so many children you have brought up for God and so many heirs for the Kingdom of Heaven Well Chastise and teach them out of the Law of God and thy Children shall be Blessed Which that they may indeed take one short CAUTION more and that is Add Prayer to Instruction Last Cautios Add Prayer to Instruction As Teaching should accompany Chastisement so Prayer should accompany Teaching God need use onely the Rod and the Word because the blessing is in his own hand he can command a blessing It is not so with us As Paul may plant and Apollo may water but God must give the increase so the Father may correct the Mother may instruct both may do both but God must give the Blessing and therefore Christian Parents while they add Instruction to correction should add Prayer to Instruction Ora labora Pray and labor Means are ours Success is Gods and therefore let us put the Rod into the hand of Instruction Instruction into the hand of Prayer and all into the hand of God Pray and teach your Children to pray that God would so bless Correction and Instruction that both may make you and your Children BLESSED Amen FINIS