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joh._n 13.17_o the_o second_o duty_n that_o both_o man_n and_o wife_n do_v owe_v unto_o their_o child_n and_o servant_n be_v to_o pray_v with_o they_o and_o for_o they_o you_o have_v see_v but_o now_o that_o parent_n must_v take_v pain_n to_o teach_v and_o instruct_v their_o child_n and_o servant_n in_o the_o knowledge_n of_o god_n but_o what_o success_n can_v there_o be_v expect_v as_o the_o bless_a fruit_n of_o such_o a_o duty_n without_o prayer_n with_o and_o for_o they_o paul_n may_v plant_v and_o apollo_n may_v water_v but_o god_n give_v the_o increase_n 1_o cor._n 3.6_o but_o this_o increase_n must_v be_v humble_o seek_v of_o god_n by_o prayer_n there_o be_v a_o spirit_n of_o indotionablenesse_n in_o all_o by_o nature_n but_o it_o do_v abound_v many_o time_n in_o some_o child_n and_o servant_n i_o will_v instruct_v and_o teach_v thou_o say_v david_n in_o the_o way_n thou_o shall_v go_v i_o will_v guide_v thou_o with_o my_o eye_n psal_n 32.8_o then_o instant_o add_v in_o the_o very_a next_o verse_n be_v you_o not_o as_o the_o horse_n or_o mule_n which_o have_v no_o understanding_n etc._n etc._n there_o be_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o ignorance_n and_o blockish_a stupidity_n in_o all_o sort_n of_o person_n and_o therefore_o in_o child_n and_o servant_n which_o none_o but_o god_n can_v take_v away_o it_o be_v god_n that_o open_v the_o heart_n of_o lydia_n that_o she_o attend_v to_o the_o thing_n that_o be_v speak_v of_o paul_n act_v 16.14_o therefore_o there_o be_v great_a need_n to_o pray_v unto_o god_n to_o take_v away_o all_o obstacle_n that_o may_v obstruct_v the_o edification_n of_o thy_o family_n in_o save_v knowledge_n and_o grace_n or_o else_o thou_o may_v have_v small_a hope_n of_o do_v they_o any_o good_a by_o all_o thy_o other_o pain_n in_o the_o discharge_n thy_o duty_n mind_v the_o imprecation_n of_o jeremy_n pour_v out_o thy_o wrath_n say_v he_o upon_o the_o heathen_a and_o upon_o the_o family_n that_o call_v not_o on_o thy_o name_n jer._n 10.25_o 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their_o exorbitant_a lust_n to_o make_v they_o more_o sit_v to_o glorify_v god_n and_o perform_v service_n unto_o man_n these_o and_o such_o like_a aught_o to_o be_v pure_o your_o aim_n and_o last_o you_o must_v administer_v this_o ordinance_n in_o a_o a_o right_a manner_n that_o be_v with_o lift_v up_o your_o heart_n to_o god_n desire_v he_o with_o the_o correction_n to_o vouchsafe_v to_o they_o instruction_n to_o sanctify_v it_o to_o they_o so_o that_o it_o may_v prove_v effectual_a for_o their_o reformation_n to_o make_v they_o obedient_a to_o god_n in_o word_n and_o deed_n and_o faithtull_n in_o the_o discharge_n of_o all_o the_o duty_n they_o owe_v unto_o you_o now_o when_o your_o carriage_n be_v true_o thus_o in_o your_o correct_a child_n or_o servant_n you_o may_v by_o the_o blessing_n of_o god_n expect_v some_o gracious_a effect_n of_o it_o except_o the_o lord_n have_v a_o controversy_n with_o and_o against_o they_o to_o harden_v their_o heart_n by_o this_o and_o other_o mean_n to_o their_o own_o perdition_n thus_o we_o have_v do_v with_o the_o four_o general_a duty_n which_o both_o husband_n and_o wife_n owe_v unto_o both_o child_n and_o servant_n as_o first_o to_o instruct_v they_o in_o the_o way_n of_o god_n second_o to_o pray_v with_o they_o and_o for_o they_o three_o to_o walk_v before_o they_o in_o good_a example_n four_o and_o last_o to_o seek_v to_o reclaim_v they_o from_o bad_a way_n now_o because_o the_o neglect_n of_o these_o duty_n be_v a_o prime_a cause_n of_o infinite_a dishonour_n to_o god_n the_o mean_n of_o many_o soul_n perish_v to_o all_o eternity_n and_o the_o breed_n of_o multitude_n of_o rot_a and_o vile_a member_n in_o church_n and_o state_n we_o shall_v endeavour_v with_o the_o lord_n assistance_n to_o proceed_v to_o some_o reason_n enforce_v the_o performance_n of_o these_o duty_n by_o all_o godly_a governor_n and_o then_o come_v to_o make_v some_o application_n thereof_o reas_n 1_o the_o first_o reason_n be_v take_v from_o the_o 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do_v you_o matth._n 5.47_o for_o so_o it_o be_v render_v in_o the_o old_a translation_n what_o be_v the_o theory_n of_o religion_n if_o the_o practic_a part_n be_v want_v now_o as_o you_o will_v approve_v yourselves_o to_o be_v the_o child_n of_o god_n you_o must_v obey_v he_o in_o all_o thing_n for_o his_o servant_n you_o be_v who_o you_o obey_v rom._n 6.16_o the_o second_o reason_n infore_v from_o you_o the_o reas_n 2_o performance_n of_o these_o duty_n before_o mention_v for_o the_o good_a of_o your_o child_n and_o servant_n be_v take_v from_o those_o bowel_n of_o compassion_n that_o shall_v be_v in_o you_o relate_v to_o the_o good_a of_o their_o soul_n for_o by_o thy_o neglect_n of_o teach_v they_o the_o knowledge_n of_o god_n and_o pray_v for_o they_o and_o with_o they_o and_o walk_v before_o they_o in_o good_a example_n and_o labour_v to_o reclaim_v they_o from_o sin_n they_o may_v perish_v in_o hell_n for_o evermore_o he_o say_v james_n that_o convert_v a_o sinner_n from_o the_o 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as_o for_o thy_o poor_a child_n thy_o own_o loin_n have_v be_v the_o conduit-pipe_n to_o convey_v into_o their_o heart_n and_o soul_n from_o adam_n the_o fountain_n all_o that_o corruption_n of_o nature_n which_o be_v in_o they_o and_o all_o that_o propensity_n to_o sin_n which_o be_v in_o their_o will_n true_o it_o be_v not_o only_o against_o a_o gracious_a principle_n but_o against_o a_o humane_a and_o moral_a one_o too_o that_o thou_o shall_v thrust_v thy_o poor_a child_n into_o a_o dangerous_a quagmire_n and_o then_o deny_v he_o thy_o hand_n to_o help_v pluck_v he_o back_o again_o and_o that_o thou_o shall_v give_v he_o many_o a_o deadly_a and_o mortal_a wound_n and_o refuse_v to_o apply_v a_o plaster_n for_o his_o cure_n these_o similitude_n be_v infinite_o too_o short_a to_o set_v forth_o this_o case_n full_o now_o when_o thou_o do_v neglect_v these_o mean_n beforesaid_a thou_o do_v show_v thyself_o to_o be_v a_o cruel_a and_o bloody_a man_n a_o most_o savage_a beast_n there_o 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lord_n leave_v and_o assistance_n to_o come_v to_o take_v a_o view_n of_o the_o duty_n which_o marry_a person_n be_v oblige_v to_o perform_v wherein_o we_o shall_v consider_v the_o duty_n the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n and_o the_o rather_o shall_v we_o do_v this_o in_o the_o first_o place_n to_o draw_v on_o the_o wife_n to_o a_o cheerful_a performance_n of_o she_o likewise_o to_o her_o husband_n the_o first_o duty_n the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v conjugal_a affection_n wife_n the_o first_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n or_o matrimonial_a and_o special_a love_n the_o great_a part_n of_o a_o woman_n outward_a comfort_n in_o marriage_n stand_v in_o the_o entire_a love_n and_o hearty_a affection_n of_o her_o husband_n towards_o she_o and_o if_o she_o miss_v of_o this_o from_o her_o husband_n she_o may_v fear_v his_o fall_a short_a in_o all_o the_o rest_n for_o the_o love_n of_o a_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n be_v as_o the_o foundation_n stone_n of_o all_o his_o other_o duty_n it_o be_v as_o the_o chief_a wheel_n in_o the_o clock_n which_o give_v a_o dexterous_a motion_n to_o all_o the_o other_o wheel_n thy_o cordial_a love_n to_o thy_o wife_n will_v sweeten_v her_o condition_n in_o this_o life_n in_o her_o worst_a outward_a cross_n in_o want_n of_o health_n wealth_n the_o society_n of_o good_a neighbour_n pleasure_n and_o what_o not_o nay_o let_v her_o life_n be_v fill_v with_o the_o affluence_n and_o confluence_n of_o all_o the_o comfort_n under_o the_o sun_n yet_o the_o bare_a want_n of_o the_o apprehension_n of_o her_o husband_n affection_n towards_o she_o will_v make_v she_o dip_v all_o her_o morsel_n in_o vinegar_n and_o gall_n and_o make_v she_o complain_v that_o she_o do_v not_o see_v one_o good_a day_n now_o that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n appear_v eph._n 5.25_o husband_n say_v the_o apostle_n love_v your_o wife_n as_o christ_n love_v his_o church_n that_o be_v for_o kind_n not_o for_o measure_n for_o the_o measure_n of_o the_o love_n of_o christ_n to_o his_o church_n no_o dimension_n can_v demonstrate_v for_o to_o know_v the_o love_n of_o christ_n the_o apostle_n say_v it_o pass_v knowledge_n eph._n 2.19_o and_o in_o col._n 3.19_o the_o apostle_n bid_v husband_n to_o love_v their_o wife_n and_o not_o be_v bitter_a unto_o they_o the_o woman_n be_v make_v of_o a_o rib_n take_v out_o of_o the_o side_n of_o man_n and_o therefore_o adam_n say_v she_o be_v bone_n of_o his_o bone_n and_o flesh_n of_o his_o flesh_n gen._n 2.23_o nay_o by_o god_n ordinance_n they_o be_v no_o more_o twain_o but_o one_o flesh_n and_o from_o hence_o paul_n take_v a_o argument_n to_o persuade_v the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n because_o no_o man_n yet_o do_v ever_o hate_v his_o own_o flesh_n eph._n 5.28_o 29._o you_o may_v remember_v that_o upon_o another_o occasion_n we_o do_v observe_v that_o jacob_n esteem_v rachel_n his_o wife_n as_o his_o right_a hand_n he_o call_v his_o son_n name_n of_o who_o she_o die_v benjamin_n or_o the_o son_n of_o his_o right_a hand_n gen._n 35.18_o god_n call_v the_o wife_n of_o ezekiel_n the_o desire_n of_o his_o eye_n son_n of_o man_n i_o take_v from_o thou_o the_o desire_n of_o thy_o eye_n with_o a_o stroke_n ezek._n 24.16_o 18._o the_o prophet_n nathan_n tell_v david_n in_o a_o parable_n that_o bathsheba_n the_o wife_n of_o uriah_n lie_v in_o his_o bosom_n that_o be_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o her_o husband_n affection_n 2_o sam._n 12.3_o you_o plain_o see_v then_o that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n now_o that_o there_o be_v scripture_n incitation_n for_o it_o and_o scripture_n precedent_n for_o it_o too_o you_o must_v know_v you_o sin_n against_o god_n if_o you_o perform_v it_o not_o and_o if_o you_o do_v it_o not_o then_o as_o you_o have_v hear_v you_o bring_v affliction_n and_o grief_n on_o your_o wife_n so_o likewise_o you_o bring_v much_o prejudice_n on_o your_o own_o self_n for_o you_o discourage_v she_o from_o draw_v in_o the_o same_o yoke_n with_o you_o you_o disable_v she_o to_o be_v a_o meet_a helper_n you_o make_v she_o to_o be_v uncheerfull_a in_o all_o the_o duty_n of_o her_o general_a and_o particular_a call_n and_o which_o be_v worse_o you_o expose_v yourself_o to_o the_o strength_n of_o many_o noisome_a lust_n as_o elsewhere_o have_v be_v mention_v be_v thou_o so_o convince_v that_o it_o be_v a_o special_a duty_n that_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v to_o his_o wife_n even_o to_o love_v she_o with_o conjugal_a and_o entire_a love_n as_o that_o thou_o set_v thyself_o to_o the_o practice_n of_o it_o wherein_o stand_v thy_o own_o and_o her_o comfort_n the_o second_o duty_n which_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v cohabitation_n wife_n the_o seconâ—_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n or_o to_o live_v together_o in_o one_o family_n mutual_o to_o enjoy_v intimate_a society_n both_o in_o bed_n and_o at_o board_n for_o where_o this_o be_v not_o there_o no_o duty_n which_o a_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n can_v be_v perform_v nay_o the_o very_a end_n of_o marriage_n be_v hereby_o null_a and_o frustrate_a the_o apostle_n peter_n lay_v a_o command_n on_o husband_n to_o dwell_v with_o their_o wife_n you_o husband_n dwell_v with_o your_o wife_n etc._n etc._n 1_o pet._n 3.7_o can_v a_o man_n have_v any_o true_a comfort_n in_o his_o wife_n or_o she_o in_o he_o if_o they_o do_v not_o dwell_v together_o true_o it_o be_v not_o only_o against_o grace_n but_o against_o nature_n too_o for_o they_o to_o do_v otherwise_o for_o the_o husband_n be_v the_o head_n of_o his_o wife_n and_o of_o his_o family_n when_o
of_o thy_o future_a tranquillity_n glory_n and_o bliss_n at_o the_o right_a hand_n of_o thy_o dear_a saviour_n in_o heaven_n to_o all_o eternity_n hereafter_o in_o the_o six_o place_n wife_n the_o six_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n to_o bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n we_o that_o be_v strong_a ought_v say_v the_o apostle_n to_o bear_v the_o infirmity_n of_o the_o weak_a rom._n 15.1_o and_o peter_n in_o 1_o pet._n 3.7_o say_v the_o woman_n be_v the_o weak_a vessel_n ergo_fw-la a_o man_n ought_v to_o bear_v with_o the_o infirmity_n of_o his_o wife_n but_o the_o question_n be_v what_o fault_n may_v be_v say_v to_o be_v infirmity_n to_o be_v bear_v with_o in_o any_o in_o general_a and_o in_o the_o woman_n in_o particular_a i_o answer_v these_o and_o such_o like_a as_o forgetfulness_n of_o some_o material_a business_n some_o unusual_a neglect_n of_o duty_n to_o the_o husband_n child_n or_o servant_n some_o 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conceive_v then_o be_v elevate_v in_o herself_o and_o cast_v off_o due_a honour_n from_o her_o mistress_n which_o she_o discern_v be_v present_o full_a of_o passion_n and_o vent_v it_o very_o uncivil_o into_o the_o bosom_n of_o her_o husband_n and_o speak_v thus_o that_o be_v my_o wrong_n be_v upon_o thou_o i_o give_v thou_o my_o maid_n into_o thy_o bosom_n and_o when_o she_o see_v that_o she_o have_v conceive_v i_o be_v despise_v in_o her_o eye_n thâ—_n lord_n judge_n between_o i_o and_o thou_o well_o saraâ—_n what_o be_v the_o matter_n here_o be_v a_o great_a complaint_n out_o who_o have_v do_v thou_o the_o wrong_n what_o abram_n no_o he_o poor_a man_n be_v innocent_a in_o comparison_n of_o thyself_o what_o a_o false_a charge_n iâ—_n here_o draw_v up_o against_o abram_n what_o clamour_n upon_o it_o what_o appeal_v to_o god_n about_o it_o but_o how_o do_v abram_n demean_v himself_o in_o the_o condition_n true_o singular_o well_o he_o beat_v wiâ—_n this_o infirmity_n in_o his_o wife_n he_o know_v this_o wâ—_n not_o the_o frame_n and_o temper_n of_o her_o spirit_n anâ—_n therefore_o answer_v very_o mild_o and_o say_v to_o be_v behold_v thy_o maid_n be_v in_o thy_o hand_n do_v to_o she_o at_o please_v thou_o the_o second_o sad_a precedent_n as_o beforesaid_a be_v that_o of_o the_o carraige_a of_o zipporah_n to_o her_o husband_n moses_n ex._n 4.19_o 20_o 21_o 25_o 26_o moses_n be_v command_v by_o god_n to_o leave_v the_o land_n of_o midian_a and_o to_o return_v into_o egypt_n about_o the_o deliver_n of_o the_o child_n of_o israel_n out_o of_o bondage_n he_o take_v his_o wife_n and_o son_n and_o the_o rod_n of_o god_n in_o his_o hand_n and_o begin_v his_o journey_n but_o be_v have_v neglect_v the_o observation_n of_o a_o special_a ordinance_n of_o god_n viz._n the_o circumcise_n of_o his_o son_n god_n say_v the_o text_n meet_v he_o in_o the_o inn_n and_o seek_v to_o kill_v he_o where_o note_n by_o the_o way_n that_o it_o be_v a_o dangerous_a thing_n for_o a_o man_n to_o take_v a_o journey_n though_o upon_o as_o lawful_a a_o occasion_n as_o can_v be_v with_o the_o neglect_n of_o a_o duty_n or_o the_o guilt_n of_o any_o sin_n lie_v on_o the_o conscience_n unrepented_a of_o moses_n you_o see_v be_v in_o great_a danger_n of_o death_n and_o his_o wife_n know_v the_o cause_n of_o it_o take_v a_o sharp_a stone_n and_o cut_v off_o the_o foreskin_n of_o her_o son_n and_o throw_v it_o at_o his_o foot_n with_o these_o word_n sure_o a_o bloody_a husband_n be_v thou_o unto_o i_o which_o be_v a_o very_a contemptible_a contumelious_a uncivil_a and_o unmannerly_a behaviour_n in_o she_o yet_o he_o be_v silent_a bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n and_o no_o doubt_n but_o he_o do_v consider_v there_o lay_v a_o sad_a temptation_n on_o her_o spirit_n and_o withal_o be_v conscientious_a of_o his_o own_o sin_n against_o god_n and_o so_o sweet_o pass_v by_o his_o wife_n weakness_n now_o these_o infirmity_n which_o a_o husband_n out_o of_o duty_n to_o his_o wife_n must_v bear_v with_o must_v not_o be_v public_a nor_o give_v scandal_n and_o offence_n to_o other_o nay_o whatever_o they_o be_v he_o must_v take_v a_o fit_a opportunity_n to_o give_v she_o a_o sweet_a reproof_n for_o such_o a_o husband_n as_o be_v in_o a_o passion_n for_o his_o wife_n infirmity_n will_v make_v such_o a_o smoke_n in_o his_o house_n as_o shall_v disturb_v all_o in_o or_o near_o it_o the_o discretion_n of_o a_o man_n defer_v his_o anger_n and_o it_o be_v his_o glory_n to_o pass_v by_o a_o transgression_n prov._n 19.11_o wife_n the_o seven_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n the_o seven_o duty_n the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v due_a maintenance_n in_o all_o thing_n both_o inward_a and_o outward_a for_o her_o comfortable_a bodily_a subsistence_n here_o both_o in_o life_n and_o livelihood_n for_o supportation_n of_o health_n while_o it_o be_v enjoy_v and_o for_o restoration_n of_o it_o when_o decay_a and_o this_o to_o be_v perform_v with_o as_o much_o dearness_n of_o affection_n and_o tenderness_n of_o heart_n as_o to_o himself_o which_o duty_n the_o apostle_n clear_o require_v husband_n to_o perform_v to_o their_o wife_n eph_n 5.28_o 29._o so_o ought_v man_n to_o love_v their_o wife_n as_o their_o own_o body_n be_v that_o love_v his_o wife_n love_v himself_o for_o no_o man_n ever_o yet_o hate_v his_o own_o flesh_n but_o cherish_v and_o nourish_v it_o even_o as_o christ_n do_v his_o church_n now_o we_o know_v all_o man_n will_v nourish_v their_o own_o body_n with_o such_o meat_n and_o drink_v and_o physic_n with_o such_o preservative_n and_o restorative_n of_o health_n as_o be_v necessary_a and_o they_o will_v cherish_v their_o own_o body_n with_o such_o apparel_n as_o may_v not_o only_o keep_v they_o warm_v in_o their_o body_n but_o be_v some_o delight_n unto_o their_o mind_n the_o same_o for_o kind_n and_o measure_n for_o quality_n and_o quantity_n they_o must_v allow_v unto_o their_o wife_n if_o it_o be_v of_o necessity_n or_o necessary_a for_o they_o which_o i_o dare_v presume_v it_o be_v almost_o always_o yet_o this_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o a_o man_n must_v not_o maintain_v himself_o in_o any_o thing_n either_o for_o food_n or_o raiment_n above_o his_o ability_n or_o unbecoming_a his_o place_n and_o call_v neither_o must_v he_o allow_v it_o his_o wife_n and_o doubtless_o no_o discreet_a wife_n will_v desire_v the_o same_o belove_a you_o have_v hear_v at_o large_a that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n to_o tender_v the_o good_a of_o her_o soul_n and_o can_v any_o man_n think_v that_o the_o good_a of_o her_o body_n be_v to_o be_v neglect_v true_o it_o be_v absurd_a for_o any_o to_o conceit_v any_o such_o thing_n god_n will_v not_o have_v the_o mouth_n of_o the_o ox_n to_o be_v muzzle_v when_o he_o tread_v out_o the_o corn_n 25.4_o deut._n 25.4_o and_o will_v he_o have_v the_o mouth_n of_o she_o muzzle_v that_o do_v draw_v with_o thou_o in_o the_o same_o yoke_n sure_o no_o the_o apostle_n say_v that_o he_o be_v worse_a than_o a_o infidel_n that_o do_v not_o provide_v for_o his_o own_o family_n 1_o tim._n 5.8_o now_o if_o the_o whole_a family_n must_v be_v provide_v for_o as_o none_o dare_v deny_v then_o much_o more_o she_o who_o in_o thy_o absence_n be_v the_o head_n of_o the_o family_n and_o in_o thy_o own_o presence_n thy_o right-hand_a mate_n what_o encouragement_n can_v thy_o wife_n have_v to_o seek_v thy_o good_a when_o thou_o shall_v in_o whole_a or_o in_o part_n neglect_v she_o beside_o when_o thou_o shall_v especial_o with_o cheerfulness_n allow_v thy_o wife_n all_o due_a and_o necessary_a maintenance_n for_o her_o comfort_n and_o encouragement_n in_o this_o life_n if_o she_o
of_o livelihood_n &_o sometime_o to_o enjoy_v society_n of_o choice_n friend_n there_o be_v none_o of_o these_o but_o may_v give_v a_o man_n a_o clear_a call_v sometime_o to_o remove_v his_o habitation_n &_o he_o must_v if_o he_o be_v a_o christian_a obey_v god_n herein_o now_o take_v this_o for_o a_o most_o undeniable_a truth_n that_o whatever_o passage_n of_o divine_a providence_n will_v warrant_v the_o lawfulness_n of_o the_o husband_n change_n of_o place_n of_o dwell_v will_v also_o warrant_v the_o wife_n call_v to_o travel_v with_o her_o husband_n and_o to_o live_v with_o he_o wheresoever_o he_o pitch_v his_o tent._n mark_v the_o apostle_n phrase_n 1_o cor._n 9.5_o have_v we_o not_o power_n to_o lead_v about_o a_o sister_n a_o wife_n as_o well_o as_o other_o apostle_n and_o as_o the_o brethren_n of_o the_o lord_n and_o as_o cephas_n where_o you_o may_v note_v that_o the_o apostle_n the_o brethren_n of_o the_o lord_n and_o cephas_n do_v lead_v about_o their_o wife_n which_o they_o can_v not_o have_v do_v against_o their_o will_n and_o paul_n do_v challenge_v the_o same_o privilege_n as_o due_a to_o he_o as_o well_o as_o to_o the_o other_o but_o to_o add_v a_o clear_a demonstration_n to_o this_o truth_n yet_o further_o by_o join_v precedent_n to_o privilege_n consider_v the_o practice_n of_o sarah_n when_o god_n call_v abraham_n to_o leave_v his_o country_n and_o go_v into_o that_o which_o he_o will_v show_v he_o she_o go_v with_o he_o gen._n 12.5_o when_o god_n call_v he_o the_o second_o time_n to_o remove_v that_o be_v to_o go_v into_o egypt_n because_o of_o the_o famine_n in_o the_o land_n where_o he_o do_v live_v you_o shall_v find_v his_o wife_n do_v go_v with_o he_o ver_fw-la 10_o 11._o who_o do_v also_o return_v with_o he_o chap._n 13.1_o again_o when_o god_n call_v isaac_n to_o go_v to_o gerar_n to_o sojourn_v there_o for_o a_o time_n and_o that_o by_o reason_n of_o famine_n too_o rebekah_n his_o wife_n go_v with_o he_o gen._n 26.1_o 7._o but_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n mind_n the_o practice_n of_o leah_n and_o rachel_n they_o be_v willing_a to_o leave_v their_o father_n house_n and_o kindred_n not_o be_v enforce_v by_o famine_n to_o enjoy_v society_n with_o jacob_n their_o husband_n gen._n 31.4_o to_o the_o end_n of_o ver_fw-la 18._o as_o ruth_n say_v to_o naomi_n her_o mother_n in_o law_n where_o thou_o go_v i_o will_v go_v and_o where_o thou_o lodge_v i_o will_v lodge_v and_o where_o thou_o die_v i_o will_v die_v and_o there_o will_v i_o be_v bury_v the_o lord_n do_v so_o to_o i_o and_o more_o also_o if_o aught_o but_o death_n part_v thou_o and_o i_o ruth_n 1.16_o 17._o so_o must_v every_o christian_a wife_n say_v to_o her_o husband_n where_o thou_o live_v i_o will_v live_v and_o where_o thou_o die_v i_o will_v die_v and_o there_o will_v i_o be_v bury_v for_o nought_o but_o death_n shall_v part_v thou_o and_o i_o by_o all_o which_o it_o do_v or_o may_v appear_v that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o her_o husband_n to_o cohabit_v with_o he_o in_o what_o place_n soever_o god_n shall_v call_v he_o and_o if_o she_o perform_v not_o this_o duty_n she_o disable_v herself_o to_o the_o observation_n of_o other_o but_o in_o case_n first_o that_o the_o husband_n will_v live_v in_o a_o popish_a country_n out_o of_o either_o a_o superstitious_a or_o fantastical_a end_n or_o humour_n the_o wife_n be_v not_o bind_v to_o follow_v he_o for_o she_o must_v look_v more_o after_o the_o true_a worship_n of_o god_n and_o the_o salvation_n of_o her_o own_o soul_n than_o after_o any_o outward_a comfortable_a condition_n in_o the_o world_n or_o second_o if_o the_o husband_n be_v a_o unbeliever_n and_o do_v not_o like_a to_o live_v with_o a_o believe_a wife_n than_o such_o a_o wife_n be_v at_o liberty_n if_o i_o mistake_v not_o the_o apostle_n to_o live_v from_o he_o 1_o cor._n 7.13_o 15._o but_o last_o in_o case_n the_o husband_n do_v violate_v the_o covenant_n of_o marriage_n by_o adultery_n fornication_n etc._n etc._n then_o if_o the_o wife_n please_v she_o may_v forsake_v he_o which_o by_o necessary_a consequence_n may_v appear_v from_o the_o word_n of_o christ_n mat._n 5.32_o chap._n 19_o 9_o for_o if_o the_o husband_n may_v put_v his_o wife_n away_o for_o such_o breach_n of_o marriage-contract_n why_o not_o the_o wife_n put_v away_o her_o husband_n on_o the_o like_a occasion_n but_o if_o upon_o ordinary_a occasion_n the_o wife_n shall_v refuse_v the_o performance_n of_o this_o duty_n to_o her_o husband_n she_o do_v make_v void_a and_o null_a one_o special_a end_n of_o marriage_n and_o so_o sin_n against_o god_n the_o ordainer_n of_o that_o happy_a estate_n also_o against_o her_o husband_n in_o deprive_v he_o of_o his_o due_a comfort_n and_o last_o against_o her_o soul_n and_o conscience_n as_o contract_a sin_n and_o guilt_n and_o against_o her_o body_n in_o a_o violent_a cut_v the_o thread_n of_o her_o chief_a external_a felicity_n so_o much_o for_o this_o particular_a duty_n from_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n in_o the_o three_o place_n husband_n the_o three_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n the_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o her_o husband_n be_v to_o improve_v her_o spiritual_a ability_n to_o be_v helpful_a to_o he_o in_o the_o best_a thing_n for_o the_o good_a of_o his_o soul_n to_o stir_v he_o up_o to_o good_a duty_n when_o she_o take_v notice_n of_o any_o remissness_n and_o carnal_a security_n in_o he_o by_o sweet_a exhortation_n and_o holy_a conference_n she_o must_v labour_v to_o quicken_v he_o against_o a_o spiritual_a lethargy_n which_o if_o it_o seize_v on_o he_o will_v so_o becloud_v and_o benight_v his_o sense_n that_o he_o shall_v have_v neither_o head_n nor_o heart_n with_o any_o cheerfulness_n of_o spirit_n to_o walk_v with_o his_o god_n which_o if_o his_o wife_n discern_v he_o incline_v to_o but_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n captivate_v under_o she_o have_v need_n to_o bestir_v herself_o to_o salute_v he_o often_o with_o such_o text_n of_o scripture_n as_o these_o viz._n luk._n 9.62_o 1_o cor._n 9_o the_o late_a part_n of_o for_o 24._o phil._n 3.13_o 14._o rev._n 2.4_o and_o the_o begin_n of_o ver_fw-la 5._o rev._n 3.15_o 16._o luk._n 17.32_o ezek._n 18.24_o 26._o she_o must_v labour_v to_o stir_v he_o up_o to_o love_n and_o good_a work_n and_o therein_o follow_v the_o example_n of_o the_o shunamite_n 2_o king_n 4_o 9_o 10._o thou_o that_o be_v a_o wife_n read_v the_o place_n and_o follow_v the_o precept_n she_o must_v labour_v to_o strengthen_v her_o husband_n faith_n when_o he_o show_v most_o weakness_n after_o manoah_n have_v offer_v a_o sacrifice_n to_o god_n the_o angel_n of_o the_o lord_n do_v wonderful_o in_o the_o presence_n of_o he_o and_o his_o wife_n the_o good_a man_n faith_n begin_v to_o fail_v we_o shall_v die_v say_v he_o because_o we_o have_v see_v god_n want_n of_o faith_n be_v like_a to_o kill_v the_o poor_a man_n now_o his_o wife_n step_v in_o very_o opportune_o and_o labour_n to_o strengthen_v his_o faith_n if_o say_v she_o the_o lord_n will_v have_v kill_v we_o he_o will_v not_o have_v tell_v we_o these_o thing_n nor_o accept_v a_o sacrifice_n at_o our_o hand_n judg._n 13.20_o 22_o 23._o so_o she_o make_v good_a that_o place_n in_o eccl._n 4.9_o 10._o two_o be_v good_o than_o one_o for_o if_o one_o fall_v the_o other_o will_v lift_v up_o his_o fellow_n but_o woe_n be_v to_o he_o that_o be_v alone_o for_o he_o have_v not_o another_o to_o help_v he_o up_o true_o there_o be_v a_o marvellous_a sympathy_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n in_o all_o condition_n i_o mean_v when_o they_o live_v and_o love_v together_o as_o man_n and_o wife_n one_o will_n labour_n to_o support_v another_o and_o one_o thing_n let_v i_o put_v thou_o on_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n that_o be_v be_v sure_a as_o thou_o do_v desire_v to_o improve_v thy_o gift_n and_o part_n for_o the_o good_a of_o thy_o husband_n soul_n that_o thou_o do_v never_o neglect_v to_o pray_v for_o he_o as_o aaron_n do_v bear_v the_o name_n of_o the_o child_n of_o israel_n before_o the_o lord_n on_o his_o two_o shoulder_n for_o a_o memorial_n exod._n 28.9_o 12._o so_o be_v thou_o sure_a to_o bear_v the_o remembrance_n of_o thy_o husband_n poor_a soul_n upon_o thy_o heart_n when_o thou_o be_v to_o appear_v before_o the_o lord_n in_o thy_o closet-worship_n that_o thou_o may_v prevail_v with_o god_n for_o a_o blessing_n for_o he_o that_o he_o may_v be_v heavenly_a and_o spiritual_a in_o all_o his_o deportment_n towards_o god_n and_o towards_o manâ—_n that_o in_o the_o strength_n of_o god_n grace_n he_o may_v be_v a_o selfe-denying_a and_o a_o selfe-mortifying_a christian_a that_o he_o may_v be_v furnish_v with_o
have_v say_v be_v sure_o let_v the_o wife_n take_v diligent_a care_n of_o this_o and_o mind_n it_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n that_o she_o omit_v it_o not_o by_o any_o mean_n to_o reverence_v her_o husband_n eph._n 5.33_o but_o if_o it_o be_v demand_v how_o this_o reverence_n shall_v be_v perform_v i_o answer_v two_o way_n in_o her_o word_n and_o in_o her_o gesture_n first_o in_o her_o word_n and_o that_o two_o way_n first_o when_o she_o speak_v to_o he_o second_o when_o she_o speak_v of_o he_o first_o when_o she_o speak_v to_o he_o by_o avoid_v clamour_n and_o high_a language_n second_o by_o avoid_v of_o unnecessary_a repetition_n and_o tautology_n especial_o if_o her_o husband_n be_v a_o judicious_a and_o prudent_a man_n for_o take_v this_o for_o a_o undeniable_a truth_n that_o a_o man_n of_o part_n can_v endure_v a_o multitude_n of_o word_n and_o large_a preamble_n three_o when_o she_o make_v her_o desire_n know_v to_o he_o rather_o by_o request_n than_o by_o peremptory_a demand_n yet_o this_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o a_o woman_n may_v speak_v to_o her_o husband_n in_o a_o way_n of_o intimate_a familiarity_n last_o when_o she_o take_v a_o fit_a time_n and_o place_n to_o fasten_v some_o christian_a reproof_n on_o he_o and_o then_o to_o do_v it_o with_o much_o meekness_n and_o tender_a love_n second_o a_o woman_n must_v reverence_v her_o husband_n in_o her_o word_n when_o she_o speak_v of_o he_o to_o other_o first_o by_z giving_z he_o on_o all_o occasion_n that_o be_v just_a due_a praise_n and_o commendation_n and_o second_o by_o be_v ready_a to_o vindicate_v his_o reputation_n against_o all_o unjust_a aspersion_n &_o calumniation_n that_o do_v impeach_v his_o credit_n and_o obstruct_v his_o well-deserved_n estimation_n in_o the_o heart_n of_o such_o as_o be_v wise_a and_o godly_a whereby_o she_o shall_v not_o only_o reverence_v he_o herself_o but_o cause_v other_o to_o do_v the_o same_o second_o the_o wife_n must_v reverence_v her_o husband_n in_o her_o gesture_n and_o action_n first_o by_o give_v he_o due_a respect_n before_o other_o abroad_o and_o before_o child_n and_o servant_n at_o home_n not_o behave_v herself_o in_o a_o rude_a and_o uncivil_a way_n towards_o he_o as_o slight_v his_o presence_n second_o in_o leave_v to_o he_o the_o wise_a and_o orderly_a government_n of_o the_o family_n and_o all_o domestic_a discipline_n without_o contradiction_n last_o and_o in_o special_a in_o observe_v his_o good_a counsel_n and_o in_o follow_v his_o religious_a and_o godly_a example_n i_o may_v here_o take_v occasion_n to_o fasten_v a_o just_a reproof_n upon_o many_o woman_n that_o be_v so_o far_o from_o reverence_v their_o husband_n that_o on_o the_o contrary_n they_o be_v instrument_n but_o curse_v once_o of_o much_o disrespect_n disgrace_n and_o dishonour_n to_o be_v call_v upon_o their_o husband_n by_o their_o contumelious_a word_n to_o they_o their_o scandalous_a and_o contemptible_a word_n behind_o their_o back_n and_o in_o their_o 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of_o parent_n in_o seasonable_a time_n to_o labour_n to_o provide_v marriage_n for_o their_o child_n now_o there_o be_v some_o symptom_n of_o this_o seasonable_a time_n whereof_o i_o shall_v name_v and_o only_o name_v four_o first_o fullness_n and_o maturity_n of_o body_n second_o solidity_n of_o understanding_n three_o their_o constitution_n and_o last_o the_o seem_a delight_n they_o take_v in_o keep_v company_n with_o the_o contrary_a sex_n this_o shall_v suffice_v for_o this_o three_o duty_n of_o parent_n to_o their_o child_n the_o four_o and_o last_o duty_n parent_n owe_v unto_o their_o child_n in_o relation_n to_o their_o outward_a condition_n be_v to_o provide_v for_o they_o respect_n the_o four_o duty_n of_o parent_n to_o their_o child_n in_o outward_a respect_n and_o to_o bestow_v on_o they_o competent_a maintenance_n if_o not_o more_o jacob_n will_v travail_v for_o his_o own_o house_n gen._n 30.30_o prov._n 13.22_o a_o good_a man_n leave_v a_o inheritance_n to_o his_o child_n but_o the_o elder_a son_n must_v have_v the_o double_a portion_n deut._n 21.16_o 17._o unless_o he_o disinherit_v himself_o by_o any_o profaneness_n as_o esau_n heb._n 12.16_o and_o this_o maintenance_n must_v be_v bestow_v on_o they_o in_o seasonable_a time_n not_o too_o soon_o as_o the_o father_n of_o the_o prodigal_a son_n do_v luke_n 15.12_o but_o when_o they_o have_v necessary_a occasion_n to_o use_v it_o as_o when_o with_o their_o parent_n consent_n they_o shall_v begin_v to_o look_v out_o for_o themselves_o in_o worthy_a employment_n though_o before_o marriage_n but_o especial_o at_o the_o time_n of_o marriage_n such_o be_v sordid_a parent_n that_o will_v part_v with_o nothing_o till_o death_n they_o do_v much_o discourage_v their_o child_n and_o provoke_v they_o to_o wrath_n against_o the_o apostle_n injunction_n ephes_n 6.4_o these_o be_v person_n without_o natural_a affection_n and_o to_o be_v hiss_v at_o as_o they_o go_v here_o than_o you_o see_v parent_n must_v perform_v 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body_n or_o limb_n and_o thereby_o to_o abate_v strength_n and_o vigour_n of_o body_n and_o spirit_n than_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o their_o master_n and_o dame_n to_o look_v out_o in_o the_o use_n of_o mean_n for_o their_o recovery_n to_o make_v use_n both_o of_o physician_n and_o physic_n and_o all_o help_v providence_n may_v provide_v for_o comfort_n under_o affliction_n and_o restoration_n to_o health_n again_o naaman_n a_o servant_n to_o the_o king_n of_o syria_n be_v afflict_v by_o the_o plague_n of_o leprosy_n his_o master_n write_v a_o letter_n in_o his_o behalf_n to_o the_o king_n of_o israel_n and_o send_v it_o by_o the_o hand_n of_o naaman_n in_o order_n to_o the_o recovery_n of_o his_o health_n again_o 2_o king_n 5.5_o the_o good_a centurion_n we_o read_v of_o in_o matth._n 8.6_o 8._o when_o his_o servant_n be_v sick_a of_o
the_o palsy_n and_o grievous_o torment_v he_o go_v in_o person_n to_o jesus_n christ_n who_o be_v a_o physician_n both_o for_o body_n and_o soul_n and_o humble_o beseech_v he_o for_o his_o servant_n cure_v and_o through_o the_o free_a grace_n of_o christ_n obtain_v it_o its_o good_a to_o go_v to_o god_n in_o the_o first_o place_n for_o supply_n of_o all_o the_o want_n of_o ourselves_o and_o our_o relation_n he_o that_o be_v in_o misery_n ought_v to_o be_v comfort_v of_o his_o neighbour_n as_o it_o be_v in_o the_o geneva_n translation_n job_n 6.14_o now_o if_o neighbour_n must_v put_v forth_o themselves_o to_o comfort_v or_o relieve_v and_o help_v such_o as_o be_v in_o any_o misery_n how_o much_o more_o must_v governor_n of_o family_n labour_v to_o perform_v this_o duty_n to_o their_o sick_a and_o distemper_a servant_n the_o inference_n be_v undeniable_a a_o good_a man_n be_v merciful_a to_o his_o beast_n say_v one_o translation_n and_o another_o say_v a_o righteous_a man_n regard_v the_o life_n of_o his_o beast_n proverb_n 12.10_o and_o how_o much_o better_a be_v a_o man_n than_o a_o sheep_n mat._n 12.12_o but_o it_o be_v much_o to_o be_v bewail_v that_o many_o servant_n who_o have_v in_o their_o health_n and_o strength_n well_o discharge_v their_o duty_n to_o their_o master_n yet_o find_v small_a comfort_n and_o regard_n from_o they_o when_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n be_v fall_v upon_o they_o for_o they_o be_v then_o either_o send_v home_o to_o their_o poor_a and_o indigent_a parent_n to_o take_v care_n after_o or_o else_o mew_v up_o in_o a_o hole_n and_o small_a attendance_n and_o less_o allowance_n of_o mean_n for_o their_o good_a provide_v for_o they_o such_o governor_n of_o family_n be_v curse_v and_o hard-hearted_a person_n and_o pity_v it_o be_v that_o ever_o good_a servant_n shall_v step_v over_o their_o threshold_n to_o serve_v they_o for_o such_o have_v neither_o mercy_n nor_o justice_n in_o they_o neither_o grace_n nor_o good_a nature_n and_o yet_o of_o this_o stamp_n and_o hell-bred_a crew_n there_o be_v great_a swarm_n but_o let_v they_o take_v heed_n god_n be_v just_a their_o own_o child_n be_v not_o so_o serve_v when_o they_o be_v servant_n to_o other_o but_o i_o wish_v they_o better_o speed_n we_o may_v here_o add_v a_o word_n concern_v seasonable_a recreation_n to_o be_v allow_v to_o servant_n for_o they_o may_v stand_v in_o great_a need_n of_o they_o sometime_o after_o long_a and_o sore_a labour_n to_o quicken_v their_o spirit_n and_o to_o enliven_v they_o with_o all_o alacrity_n to_o return_v to_o their_o employment_n we_o say_v whetstone_n be_v no_o let_n and_o without_o doubt_n if_o master_n will_v grant_v it_o they_o they_o will_v be_v rather_o gainer_n by_o in_o the_o quick_a and_o wel-managing_a their_o business_n than_o loser_n but_o when_o master_n grant_v this_o liberty_n as_o before_o say_v i_o will_v advise_v they_o to_o take_v much_o care_n that_o the_o recreation_n allow_v be_v lawful_a the_o time_n seasonable_a and_o their_o servant_n company_n civil_a or_o else_o both_o master_n and_o servant_n may_v repent_v the_o one_o that_o they_o give_v the_o liberty_n and_o the_o other_o that_o they_o so_o ill_o improve_v the_o same_o in_o the_o second_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o master_n etc._n etc._n servant_n the_o second_o outward_a duty_n that_o master_n owe_v to_o their_o servant_n to_o allow_v their_o servant_n sufficient_a wage_n for_o their_o labour_n and_o to_o pay_v it_o to_o they_o when_o it_o be_v due_a if_o they_o have_v not_o sufficient_a wage_n they_o can_v maintain_v themselves_o for_o the_o preservation_n of_o health_n and_o decency_n both_o which_o must_v be_v allow_v nay_o and_o more_o too_o if_o their_o desert_n challenge_v the_o same_o servant_n may_v spend_v thought_n of_o change_v their_o estate_n we_o say_v service_n be_v no_o heritage_n and_o must_v they_o make_v no_o preparation_n in_o order_n thereunto_o that_o be_v absurd_a to_o think_v will_v you_o that_o be_v master_n have_v your_o servant_n bare_o live_v you_o will_v not_o like_v that_o if_o you_o will_v be_v please_v to_o put_v yourselves_o in_o their_o condition_n but_o in_o the_o second_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o master_n to_o pay_v their_o servant_n their_o wage_n in_o due_a time_n and_o that_o be_v when_o it_o be_v due_a by_o the_o condition_n of_o the_o contract_n between_o you_o and_o they_o mal._n 3.5_o god_n threaten_v to_o be_v a_o swift_a witness_n against_o this_o particular_a sin_n of_o oppress_v the_o hireling_n in_o his_o wage_n among_o other_o sin_n now_o a_o man_n may_v be_v guilty_a of_o this_o sin_n as_o well_o in_o detain_v due_a wage_n in_o relation_n to_o time_n of_o payment_n of_o it_o as_o in_o overreach_v a_o servant_n in_o contract_n for_o it_o turn_v to_o that_o place_n deut._n 24.14_o 15._o thou_o shall_v not_o oppress_v a_o hire_a servant_n at_o his_o day_n thou_o shall_v give_v he_o his_o hire_n neither_o shall_v the_o sun_n go_v down_o upon_o it_o the_o labourer_n be_v worthy_a of_o his_o hire_n luk._n 10.7_o master_n give_v unto_o your_o servant_n that_o which_o be_v just_a and_o equal_a col._n 4.1_o james_n tell_v you_o that_o the_o detain_v wage_n from_o labourer_n cry_v and_o the_o cry_n of_o they_o be_v enter_v into_o the_o care_n of_o the_o lord_n of_o sabbath_n james_n 5.4_o and_o sure_o when_o ever_o the_o lord_n give_v a_o ear_n to_o cry_n whether_o the_o cry_n of_o innocent_a blood_n as_o that_o of_o abel_n gen._n 4.10_o or_o any_o other_o occasion_n some_o fearful_a vengeance_n do_v fall_v upon_o the_o head_n of_o such_o as_o cause_v they_o to_o ascend_v and_o therefore_o the_o apostle_n james_n bid_v those_o worldling_n howl_v for_o those_o misery_n that_o shall_v come_v upon_o they_o now_o you_o that_o be_v master_n etc._n etc._n as_o you_o will_v keep_v off_o the_o curse_n prevent_v the_o cry_n servant_n the_o three_o duty_n of_o master_n to_o their_o servant_n in_o the_o three_o and_o last_o place_n the_o duty_n of_o master_n etc._n etc._n to_o their_o servant_n be_v to_o be_v liberal_a to_o they_o at_o time_n of_o part_v in_o case_n they_o have_v be_v servant_n a_o considerable_a time_n and_o have_v be_v diligent_a and_o faithful_a and_o so_o a_o blessing_n to_o they_o deut._n 15.12_o 13_o 14._o so_o prov._n 17.2_o there_o be_v many_o master_n who_o be_v stranger_n to_o this_o duty_n even_o in_o the_o knowledge_n of_o it_o and_o more_o in_o the_o practice_n thereof_o yet_o some_o i_o dare_v not_o say_v in_o conscience_n to_o the_o performance_n of_o this_o duty_n but_o rather_o from_o the_o freeness_n of_o their_o nature_n do_v upon_o the_o matter_n that_o which_o be_v equivalent_a hereunto_o namely_o those_o that_o if_o their_o servant_n part_v from_o they_o by_o marriage_n will_v give_v they_o beneficial_a wedding_n dinner_n and_o sometime_o divers_a piece_n of_o necessary_a householdstuff_n which_o be_v a_o great_a advantage_n to_o they_o and_o this_o be_v so_o laudable_a a_o thing_n that_o i_o can_v wish_v all_o will_v more_o practise_v the_o same_o provide_v they_o prevent_v all_o abusivenesse_n of_o the_o creature_n by_o luxury_n and_o excess_n and_o disorder_n of_o every_o kind_n at_o such_o meeting_n thus_o you_o see_v that_o governor_n of_o family_n do_v owe_v three_o duty_n to_o their_o servant_n in_o relation_n to_o their_o outward_a condition_n first_o to_o allow_v unthem_n meat_n drink_n and_o all_o other_o necessary_n for_o their_o comfortable_a subsistence_n second_o to_o yield_v they_o sufficient_a wage_n and_o last_o to_o be_v liberal_a to_o they_o at_o time_n of_o part_v and_o thus_o by_o the_o gracious_a assistance_n of_o god_n we_o have_v finish_v all_o that_o be_v propose_v at_o first_o to_o be_v consider_v of_o by_o such_o as_o desire_v to_o enter_v into_o the_o marriage_n estate_n relate_v to_o the_o duty_n which_o each_o person_n in_o that_o condition_n of_o life_n owe_v one_o to_o another_o and_o both_o of_o they_o to_o such_o as_o god_n shall_v set_v under_o they_o viz._n to_o child_n and_o servant_n but_o here_o it_o will_v be_v of_o some_o concernment_n to_o take_v notice_n of_o what_o duty_n child_n and_o servant_n owe_v unto_o parent_n and_o master_n that_o they_o may_v call_v upon_o they_o to_o perform_v the_o same_o where_o we_o shall_v first_o observe_v the_o duty_n child_n owe_v unto_o their_o parent_n and_o then_o the_o duty_n of_o servant_n to_o their_o master_n etc._n etc._n in_o the_o first_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o yield_v unto_o their_o parent_n all_o due_a reverence_n and_o honour_n parent_n the_o first_o duty_n child_n owe_v unto_o their_o parent_n this_o duty_n be_v express_o command_v by_o god_n in_o exod._n 20.12_o honour_n thy_o father_n and_o thy_o mother_n which_o the_o apostle_n eph._n 6.2_o take_v notice_n
of_o to_o be_v the_o first_o commandment_n with_o promise_n mal._n 6.6_o a_o son_n honour_v his_o father_n if_o i_o be_v a_o father_n where_o be_v my_o honour_n but_o how_o shall_v this_o honour_n and_o reverence_n be_v express_v may_v some_o say_v i_o answer_v first_o in_o word_n second_o in_o action_n and_o gesture_n first_o in_o word_n child_n must_v reverence_v their_o parent_n by_o use_v few_o word_n in_o their_o parent_n presence_n or_o hear_n silence_n for_o the_o general_a well_o become_v the_o young_a sort_n before_o the_o elder_a but_o more_o proper_o child_n before_o their_o parent_n and_o when_o they_o speak_v to_o they_o they_o must_v make_v use_n of_o the_o choice_a expression_n that_o may_v be_v to_o hold_v forth_o their_o dutiful_a respect_n by_o and_o for_o their_o action_n too_o they_o must_v be_v full_a of_o humility_n as_o rise_v up_o before_o they_o and_o stand_v in_o their_o presence_n if_o they_o expect_v it_o be_v uncover_v so_o long_o as_o they_o think_v fit_a and_o make_v obeisance_n on_o all_o occasion_n by_o show_v all_o filial_a and_o childlike_a disposition_n to_o they_o by_o harken_v to_o all_o their_o grave_a counsel_n and_o admonition_n with_o diligent_a attention_n prov._n 1.8_o chap._n 5.1_o as_o also_o by_o submit_v and_o subject_v themselves_o to_o all_o their_o godly_a reprehension_n and_o by_o tread_v in_o their_o religious_a step_n and_o imitate_v their_o unblameable_a example_n and_o by_o cover_v all_o their_o imperfection_n and_o weakness_n as_o shem_n and_o japhet_n do_v when_o their_o father_n lie_v drink_v and_o naked_a in_o his_o tent._n solomon_n be_v a_o singular_a example_n of_o honour_v his_o mother_n in_o another_o kind_n 1_o king_n 2.19_o parent_n the_o second_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o their_o parent_n in_o the_o second_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o obey_v their_o parent_n in_o all_o thing_n lawful_a and_o that_o with_o all_o readiness_n child_n obey_v your_o parent_n in_o the_o lord_n eph._n 6.1_o child_n obey_v your_o parent_n in_o all_o thing_n for_o this_o be_v well_o please_v unto_o the_o lord_n col_n 3.20_o now_o this_o must_v be_v a_o cheerful_a obedience_n without_o contend_v isaac_n will_v submit_v to_o his_o father_n though_o it_o be_v in_o matter_n of_o death_n gen._n 22_o 9_o 10._o and_o so_o will_v the_o daughter_n of_o jephtha_n judg._n 11_o 39_o the_o rechabus_n obey_v jonadab_n their_o father_n in_o thing_n that_o require_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o selfe-deniall_n jer._n 35.5_o 6_o 7._o which_o the_o lord_n reward_v they_o for_o in_o ver_fw-la 18_o 19_o a_o bishop_n must_v rule_v his_o own_o house_n well_o and_o have_v his_o child_n in_o subjection_n 1_o tim._n 3.4_o now_o subjection_n of_o all_o child_n to_o parent_n be_v as_o much_o a_o duty_n as_o it_o be_v in_o the_o child_n of_o the_o minister_n of_o the_o gospel_n and_o of_o this_o obedience_n unto_o parent_n we_o have_v a_o example_n beyond_o all_o precedent_n in_o our_o lord_n and_o saviour_n jesus_n 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